The Millennial Playbook: Unpacking Limiting Beliefs

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Today we start a new series with the
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author of the Millennial Playbook Ms
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Erica L Pierce. Arica is going to be
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starting off our discussion today
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unpacking how limiting beliefs can
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destroy your self-confidence.
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Welcome Arica, Thank you so much for being on the show.
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I’m not happy to be here. I am
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going to enjoy our conversation. I am at
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The mother of a Millennial, so
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thank you so much for sending me a copy
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of your book. It is an awesome book and I
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plan to share it when I’m done with it.
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Yeah you’re welcome
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for the younger generation. I remember
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I had this app. She said mom you know
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About Vimeo? I said yes because I am cool!
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and I know in your book
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All right well let me tell you a little
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bit more of my guest today Miss Arica
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Pierce is a generational strategist and
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Attorney, author, a millennial coach
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and speaker and again I’m learning
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because she introduced me to this new
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Term, Xennial. Of course you
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know Arica is going to expand on that term
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but Arica has a unique perspective and
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has developed strategies and techniques
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to bridge Millennials to generations
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before and after them. So welcome again
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Arica. I normally start off the show
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by asking my guests to tell me their
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journey from you know to where they are
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today you know and yours is I’m very
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curious because you have different genres. you are an
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Attorney, Generational Strategist which
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to me is a coach and an Author.
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So, tell me how did you come about to
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embark on this journey, and how did you
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get to where you are today.

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Thank you so much for having me on, I’m
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really excited about our discussion
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today and yes I mean it has been a
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journey but you know I think really my
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my path professionally and awesome
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personally has been a testament of just
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something I believe in which is to
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always evolve and to be to be
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comfortable with being uncomfortable so
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I you know sort of dipped my toe in a
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couple of different areas and I just see
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where it goes so in terms of how I went
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from being an Attorney to now focused on
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bridging generations and coaching
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Millennials. Really it goes back to the
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term that you use before Xenial.
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Which it’s a real term, I didn’t make it
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Up. I get asked that all the time.
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It’s you know if you read certain
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articles and as such even in places like
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New York Times they use the term Xennial. That means is that I am
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the micro generation between Generation
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X and millennial. I was born in March 1980
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and Millennials you know the years vary
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a little bit in terms of the source the
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source that’s defining Millennials but
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usually they’re born between 1981 and
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1996; and so I’m sort of in this
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in-between place where I remember life
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without you know technology being in
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your hands and having the internet you
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Know. I remember way before any apps and
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it’s such but also I you know I’m still
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on the younger side enough
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where I now live a life where I am very
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dependent on apps. I mean
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I download apps from the from the app
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store on a weekly basis. I have everything
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Delivered. I don’t know why anyone would
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even go to the grocery store or
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mall anymore.
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Yeah, you are a user. Okay so, you
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understand both sides of the perspective
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and I think that naturally just
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made me a bridge. Also in my
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professional life. I mean even when I
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worked as an Attorney and in
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other sort of consulting work,
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I was the one that was always trying to
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help that younger generation even though
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I wasn’t much older but still coaching them
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through some of the things that I had
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learned through my journey and that I
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had learned from all the generations
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that they didn’t necessarily
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want to hear. So I just
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naturally became that that bridge and I
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started to do some informal coaching and some informal speaking
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about the bridge of generations.
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How we can work together and better
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understand each other and that sort of
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Things. This new career focus has
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has brought me in terms of really
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focusing on strategizing so
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that the four generations that are now
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working together in the workplace can
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can really get along.
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To be quite honest as well as making
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sure the millennial generation is better
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understood that they’re more successful
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and they don’t
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necessarily live up to the bad rap that
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they get in the
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media and from other folks so helping
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them to sort of break out of that
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millennial negative brand.
That is awesome. We’re off
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to a great start. You’re doing good
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work because each generation has
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their little quirks and the things that
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they do and bridging them is really
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Good. You ended up saying
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that four generations are in the
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workplace and yeah I’m pretty sure that
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management can they can benefit
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from reading some of the information in
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your book, so that they can know how to
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talk to at least one of their
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Generations! All right, so what do
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you feel are some of the limiting
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mindsets that Millennials have?
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I’d like to turn to your book on
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page 15, you say that Millennials are
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described as Entitled, Impatient, Tech
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Obsessed, Pampered, Self-absorbed and Lazy.
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So, that’s how people feel about them but
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how do they feel about themselves?
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According to your research how
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does that affect some of the
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limiting mindsets that they have?
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I think it’s a great
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question that I wish more people would
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Ask, because I feel like there’s
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lots of people that are talking about
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what they think Millennials are like and
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not as many people asking
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what do Millennials know. How do they
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view themselves? I’ll say this
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I think that Millennials
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don’t view themselves as any of
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these of these adjectives that you just
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Listed. Certainly none of these are very
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Positive; but I do think that
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they have a mindset that backed by
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parts of their upbringing. So, for example
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Millennials are definitely part of that
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everyone gets a trophy generation, so because of
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that they definitely have a mindset
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where everyone is equal. I think
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in many ways that can be limiting
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especially as they transition to
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adults and transition into their careers
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and into the workplace. The reason
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why I say this is because I think
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Millennials oftentimes again they
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Feel they’re entitled.
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They feel that on their
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first day of work they could be the boss.
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Even though they have
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zero work experience, they still feel that everyone is
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equal and so they should have all the
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same access and an
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ability to share their mind and speak
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their views. As much as someone who’s
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been doing the job for a much longer
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period of time that they have.

Millennials communicate and the level of
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transparency that they’re they’ve grown
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accustomed to again I think you know for
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Millennials the mindset is that
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communication should be quick, it should
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be easy, you don’t necessarily have to
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think too much about it, you could just
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send someone over a text message.
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I think that can be limiting especially as you transition
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to work. Sometimes we need
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to be more thoughtful with our
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approaches especially at work and
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in professional capacities. I mean
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sometimes you need to think through what you say, and how you say it, who
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you’re saying it to.

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So this is good wisdom and that is
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absolutely a trait of the Millennials
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nobody thinks about
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anything and I like the fact that you
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said that they want to access they think
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that they can come into
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a job and they don’t care that
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somebody’s been there 30 years that they
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feel they’re entitled
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to the same to the same access but you
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know on the flip side of that again as
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you were talking about everyone
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gets the trophy and everyone is equal.
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I’m seeing that in relationships and I
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guess at some point in our show, I don’t
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know if you touch on this in
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your book; but we should look at how
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Millennials deal with
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Relationships. It’s obviously equal since there’s so much
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interracial marriages.
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The next question I have is how do
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you feel that these limiting
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mindsets erode self-confidence.
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Self-confidence sure I mean I I think
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honestly that the everyone gets a
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trophy I think that can have
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definite have a negative
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impact on your self-confidence. So, for
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example if I have been raised in a way
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where I believe that I’m
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entitled to justice, when I am faced with
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Rejection, that certainly will impact my
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self-confidence. so even though you may you
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believe that you are equal, when
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you first get that rude awakening that you’re not, that
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Starts to happen sometimes in your early
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Twenties, especially when you’re in
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College; but definitely once you
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enter into the workplace. I think that
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that’s when you know you really see that
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there are going to be people who will
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quickly rise to the top and they’re
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going to be people who will
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stay at the bottom and that’s why it’s
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important to make sure you’re doing
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everything you can to make
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yourself stand out in a positive way
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from your peers. I do believe that
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you know that’s where self-confidence is
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really important because if you don’t
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have that confidence even when
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you start to become more competitive
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with others that’s when a
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lack of self-confidence can start to
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to take over. I also think again going
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back to technology that
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definitely impacts self-confidence and
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and that just the reliance on technology
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because of social media to be honest
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with you, we live in a world now
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where there’s so much competition on
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social media to live your best
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Life.
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Millennials are the first generation
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where they honestly are living two lives. I mean
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they have their real life in love and they have this social
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media life. They have to deal with
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as well and I know a lot of times non
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Millennials don’t take that seriously
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they’ll say well that’s just silly that
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you know someone is so concerned with
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social media that they was that would
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impact their self-confidence or how they
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feel about themselves but that’s real
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Life. We have to acknowledge
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that and we have to help
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Millennials to work through those
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types of those issues.

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I want to talk to Arica on the topic of Adulting, that she
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talks a lot about in her book.
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I actually heard it somewhere else on social media.
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It’s just a beautiful word and I loved
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it and that is adulting.
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Can you explain it what
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exactly is adulting and how does that
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relate to our topic on mindset today?

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Adulting just means that you’re doing the duties and the
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responsibilities of a fully developed adult.
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Millennials use it a lot you know to be
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Funny; but I do think that there
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is that the term does make a
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lot of sense I mean I think it could be
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used as both like a verb and all
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different types of ways; but I do think
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for Millennials specifically the
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transition to adulting has been a
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little bit tougher than previous
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Generations. So that’s why there’s so
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much emphasis on adulting.
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I see with a lot of Millennials that I
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Coach, there is a reluctance to sort of let go from
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Childhood.

I know you talk about branding and you talk
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about looking for a job and becoming a
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fully developed adult. What are some of
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the plays that you talked about in your
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book to help Millennials?

What I try to do in the book is give very
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actionable advice. It’d be
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really easy to write a book and say go
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out and be a successful adult and you
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Know, make good decisions and you know
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Exercise, drink water, and keep a job and
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save money right? I mean that those are I
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would say a lot of us don’t create goals
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but the specifics are not there; so I
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really use every chapter to give very
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clear or actionable advice on
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how you can do specific things. For
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Example, when I talk about how
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to look for a job I go through the
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Specifics. Why it’s important
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to have things like a LinkedIn profile,
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when you’re applying for jobs
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that you’re doing it in the right way.
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How to make sure that you are
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presenting your best
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self on interview day what to do in
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terms of following up after an interview.
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Once you have the job, how to keep the
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job and again I go very specific. I say
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things like on your first day
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set three goals of the things that you
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want to accomplish at that job and it’s
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not just you know I want to do I want to
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do well here. It’s what are three things
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you want to do? Do you want to work on a
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certain project? Do you want to get promoted
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within six months? Things like
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That. I go again very detailed to make sure you get to work on
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Time. Getting to work on time, being at
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your desk ready to work as soon as you
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know you’re supposed to be there. Etc. It’s
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very specific you know in
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terms of those types of things.
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Networking when you go to a networking
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event make sure you speak with three people and stay 30
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minutes after. All of those types of things make you
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a successful adult. That’s why I called it a
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playbook that was in a usable format
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easy to read I tell stories of based
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upon my own adulting experiences.

I like what you say about your brand is
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that you are the CEO of ME Incorporated,
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the chief marketing officer for the
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brand to call you.
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As a coach that’s what I teach my clients, that you
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are you are the lid.

That goes back to being the CEO of ME
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Inc. It’s up to you to make sure that
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you’re running your own brand and you
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are really developing those
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qualities about yourself that will set
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you apart in a very positive way and it
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makes everyone have a very positive sort
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of brand experience from you the same
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way that we expect out of the
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brands that we use like Target and Apple
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and you know Chipotle

As we close Arica how you readers pick up a copy of your book?
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Arica will be back for several more
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episodes and we will dive in deeper into
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some of the other things and traits that
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Millennials can use some help with in
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order to succeed and to Live their Best
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Lives Now. Not when you’re 80,
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not when you’re 50 not when they’re 40
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But right now.
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All of the things that come with
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Adulting, one of the things that I always
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suggest to some of the Millennials that
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I coach is taking one hour a week to
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think and to strategize about what you
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want to happen in your life.
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if you think about it one hour a
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week is not that it’s not that much but
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you’d be surprised if you just
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take that time turn off your phone turn
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off technology and just think about I
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like to put mine in a notebook and think
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about what are your goals for the week
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it might be for the month for the year
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but just spend that time thinking that
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can really help you I believe with your
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self-confidence because it will give it
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will give you an opportunity to start to
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put some order and what you want to do
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which I think can you know what helps us
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make better decisions and also helps us
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feel better about ourselves when we
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really feel like we are going down a
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circuit path instead of just sort of
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living by the you know the seat of our
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pants so that would be my advice is take
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time to think and if it can’t be an hour
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make it half hour make it 10 minutes but
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then some time or just strategizing on
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your life right now as a millennial and
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that will really help you draw out your
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past going forward awesome. Yes I agree
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I meditate every morning and
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I will tell you that it really affects
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everything it just not only affects your
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mood affect your vibration.
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but yeah it’s you know you can’t go
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anywhere if you don’t have a goal you
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know like one of my favorite sayings
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yeah one of my favorite things in
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something that Millennials can understand
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which is Alice in Wonderland is that
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If you don’t know where
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you’re going then it doesn’t matter
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where you end up! So you got to strategize
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and you have to have a plan.
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Without a plan it stays a dream.
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06:51 In our last episode we talked about “How to Prevent the EBB in long term relationships because you know hat there’s always Ebb and Flow; but we want it to flow.


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07:40
All right so let’s get on with the show! Let’s dive right in as I
mentioned before our topic today is going to be “How to Flow with your Desire”
Another way of saying that is

“How to keep what you now have”

07:58 What you have in your hands need some work, you just don’t
get it and then you don’t have to do anything else.
Relationships require work, and most people have a false sense of entitlement.
They feel that it is enough that they are just there in the relationship and
all they have to do is show up or come home every night and they feel that
they’re doing something. People think that you should love them as they are
and they don’t need any work or they don’t need to make any changes.

08:37 I remember one of my ex-husband’s actually saying this to me.
A few months after we were married I asked him to take more care with his
Appearance and hygiene because he was walking around looking like he was homeless and this was his response and I quote “This is what you bought and you can’t send it back” A lot of people feel that hey you picked me, you bought me, you got into a relationship with me, so you must be okay with how I am, and you know you gotta put up or shut up. But that does not lead to a healthy relationship.

09:22 Some ask why do I have to do all this work? I have heard people say it’s either a fit or it’s or it’s not. Why try to force a square peg in a round hole? Good question. It’s true, that there are some square pegs that definitely do not need to be forced into a round hole because it’s never gonna fit right; but we’re not talking about the obvious misfits. We’re talking about couples have some synergy. They have love but they just got to do a little bit of work.

10:09 We all know the spouse or a partner that just comes home and turn on the TV and pay his partner no attention. Those are the ones were talking about. Relationship needs work to keep them fresh and healthy.

10:28 When relationships are not fresh and healthy, couples then become roommates and it’s never more evident as when you go to your partner and you say “Hey this is not working out, I think we should we should go our separate ways and they say sure why not. They agree! My gosh that is like a slap in your face or like someone throwing a cold bucket of water on you! That is not the response you want but; that’s what happens when the relationship Ebbs and Ebbs and nobody pays any attention and you’re now just roommates. What has happened is that your partner has emotionally checked out a long time ago and they’re just there for I don’t know, finances, the children or whatever the reason.

11:20 When you break up with someone you want them
to miss you. You want them to chase you. You don’t want them to say.
“Sure, why not!”. That’s not the response that we should get when
we’re trying to terminate a relationship right?

11:48 I remember reading Gabrielle Union’s book we’re going to need more wine and she told the story a very sad story about the night she had a fight with her first husband. She describes this relationship as feeling like you are driving towards a brick wall yet being incapable of mashing on the breaks! Her marriage was going down the tank for a long time but she didn’t want to give up on it. So, she told the story about a night she had a fight with her husband one of their many fights and she ran out the house in the middle of the night, four o’clock in the morning or some ridiculous time like that. She expected her husband to chase her because you know your husband should be worried about you, he’s supposed to be to protect you!
Gabriel ended up sitting by a tree and falling asleep. When she woke up in the morning she was sure that her husband was worried about her and called the cops. She expected to find cops all over her house when she got home. Instead she found her husband fast asleep.
That’s when she realized there was no hope for her marriage.

13:44 So ladies and gentlemen, Ask yourself what do you bring to the table?
You now have the object of your affection, you won. He or she is now yours what are you going to do to keep him or her?
Ladies maybe you were a seductress and got the man interested, now what? What else you got?
One quality will bring someone to the table and even make them fall in love with you but it will not keep them. It will not hold them.
Lots of people love others but can’t live with them.
Lot of couples divorce yet are still in love, that is because you need a pairing of attractive qualities.
A one hat trick is not going to be enough in the long run.
Ladies, You know that there is a long line of seductress waiting around the corner to entice your man.
Men if all you got, is that you are the provider, well all your woman has to do is look to the left or right and find another man with a job and he can replace you.
What is your unique paring?
This information was the reason I went through 4 husbands.
They all had one thing but not the unique pairing I required to hold me.
I will tell you it took me almost 30 years to find it in my current relationship.
My unique paring was ambition and genuine caring. Caring for me and my daughter.
When you get this unique paring you get not only an attraction but you get an addiction.
The “and” is what makes you difficult to replace.
What I would like to do now is play for you an except from one of the relationship experts I interviewed on this show to add some context to our conversation. Ms Inez Bracy is a coach and author of Rejuvenate your life: 21 days to feel like a woman again.

The Alchemy of Desire

18:25 21 Days to feel like a woman again by Inez Bracy

1. Meditation
Your journey begins whenever you say it is.
Now is this moment if you decide this second yeah this makes perfect sense to me. I am going to do something to start changing my life.
If you decide that that’s perfect and you go into silence and into meditation, being still, whatever it is you desire to change will
reveal itself to you. It will come in a way where you are given steps to take.
Now I can tell you this when that comes, it is going to come very quietly, it’s not going to be loud and boisterous, it’s going to tell you perhaps you should do this or that.

2. Celebration
21:14 The next thing that I enjoy is celebrations. Celebrate something every single day and that’s
what my blissful living challenge is all about. So many times we can get caught up in everything that’s going on around us. Almost like a vortex we get just sucked into it; but if you’ve ever been around a baby, small babies or under two years old. Up to that age the baby’s just gurgles and giggles and they are just so happy.
I imagine it now.

21:54 They’re blissful. They have no reason not to be. We lose that along the way from boundaries and everything else that comes along. When we lose that we get to recapture and reclaim it because it is our birthright. Babies come in the world with it. We could to reclaim our birthright and no matter what is going on in our environment, we can still choose bliss.

3. 23:05 Vibration Frequency
The more you start to celebrate, the more you lift your vibrations and The more you sing, the more you dance, the less often you will have to shovel;because your vibrational energy is at a point now where it’s attracting to you those things that are good. This level of vibration is higher so you’re going to be attracting love, you’re going to be attracting Joy, you’re going to be attracting bliss.

23:33 Myrna: Yes, I talk about gratitude like that but; I guess it’s the same word be grateful for what you have regardless of what’s lacking. Don’t concentrate on what you don’t have. Concentrate on what you want. So that you can raise your vibrational frequency and attract good things.

25:09 So, yes celebrating having gratitude very important.

4. 25:17 Vision
Another thing is to visualize. To live in a space of visualization to write out what it is you want. When I’m working with my clients, I say to them I desire you get to write out your vision for your life. Where do you want to live?
How does it look? How does it show up?

25:56 Sit down and see yourself in the theater of your mind. On your own stage and you’re the actor and the producer!
Write out your vision for your life.

5. 32:18 Woulda, Shoulda, Coulda
We can spend our entire lives lamenting Woulda, Shoulda, Coulda and that’s all in the past. All in the past, it’s already happened or didn’t happen. Those words have no value to this present moment. They have no value to your future either.
So you should begin to eliminate woulda coulda shoulda from your vocabulary

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How to Play to Win with the Cards you are Dealt in Life

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Are you a #meToo survivor? Dealt some bad cards in life? Find out “how to play to win” by tuning in to this podcast to learn How to play with the cards you were dealt in life.
We are live on location at the Main Broward Library in Fort Lauderdale. I will be discussing my book “Out of the Snares, a story of hope and encouragement.
You will also hear from a panel of speakers as we discuss the topic “How to play with the Cards you were dealt in Life.”

I wrote this book with the intention of drawing life lessons from various aspects of my Life.
For example the first life event that I introduced in my book
is as a victim of childhood sexual abuse and being born into poverty.
The life lesson I share here is that

You don’t have to be a victim in life; instead become a player.

Just like in the game of blackjack, if the dealer is
showing a picture card and you only have small cards, you don’t chuck your hand in and say there’s no way that I can win.
All you need is the intention to win and guess what, your hand is going to get better.

Quitters Never Win and Winners Never Quit

On this podcast my panel of speakers are:
Genese Vertus
Coach Dan Willms
And Coach Jenny Wang

Here is a short excerpt from my book:

Out of the Snares

I was born into a family with nothing, my mother and
grandmother were both domestic servants. My dad was in Teachers College and did not know his real father. He lived with his mom and stepfather who was an alcoholic.
In 1959 Guyana was a British colony of England.
Just like England colonized India and took all the wealth out of India, in a similar way England took all of Guyana’s
resources out of the country.
Most of the Blacks and Indians were living in poverty. My mom and grandmother worked for white English folk.
As a child I was always fed and had clothes and shoes to wear.
My mom and grandmother both made our clothes.
So, it was understandable that I would be drawn to my godfather, who was a
wealthy man with several houses, several cars and a corner shop filled with
snacks and chocolate bars. Mr. Clark as I will call him took a liking to me beyond that of a Godfather and treated me like his grandchild.
I spent a lot of time at his house. He took me out with
his family every weekend and really showered me with things.
He gave me food, gold chains and gold bracelets, he was also a goldsmith.
I ended up sleeping over at his house several times per week and playing with his grandchildren. He used to like to bounce me on his knee with his legs massaging my private parts.
One day my memory recalls, I was about five
years old, he braced me up against the wall and caressed my body.
As I got older the touching became more intimate.
He would rub my legs whenever I was close.
His favorite was the feeling me up in the front seat of his car while driving me to school.
His hand would be under my skirt fingering my private parts.
I was sure that people in other cars could see him doing this to me;
but he said they could not.
This continued for several years and then one day he took me
behind his shop and took my virginity with his fingers.
I didn’t tell anyone I’m not sure why. I do remember thinking that I
loved him so much and wanted to die before he did.
Mr. Clark started getting a reputation
for liking little girls and my dad asked
me if Mr. Clark ever touch me, I lied and said he had not.

I’m going to skip a couple of paragraphs, I don’t want to get
into the nitty-gritty details here.
I’m going to read to you now my conclusion of this chapter.

How did I play to win? Looking back, if I were to collapse my consciousness
and become the observer in this experience, I would say that at some
subconscious level I knew what we were doing was wrong.
I’m not sure why I chose to keep it a secret.
Research shows that children never tell, they become ashamed and feel that
they are to blame. I know I have always felt shamed. It took me a very, very, long time to share my story. Writing this book was my way of coming into the light and putting the devil on notice that I will no longer let guilt and shame be a part of my life.

That was my introduction to my book.
Pick up a copy to read the full story.

Out of the Snares

I have played with the sexual abuse card, and poverty by concentrating
on CANI. Constant and Never Ending Improvement.
They say that the secret to happiness is always moving
towards a goal and that is how I played the game.

It is wonderful that we’re meeting today in a library because I have always been a reader.
Reading books is how you play to win!

Tony Robbins is now a billionaire because he made himself read 700 books per year and those books taught him everything he knows.
Pat Riley of the Miami Heat said

“If you’re not growing, you are dying”

The second way I have played to win with the cards I have been dealt was to become conscious of my vibrational frequency.
I learned that later in life before I wrote my first book
“Becoming Conscious, my awakening”
I started understanding my vibrations. You see whenever somebody does
something to us, we feel bad and what happens when we feel bad?
We attract more of the same. We always say bad things comes in three’s, that is because you are attracting them to you.
So when you’re in a funk you have to find some way to make
yourself feel better, and one of the ways I do that is to always live in gratitude.
Because regardless of what’s going on in your life, there’s always something that you can
be grateful for. Breath, sight, food in your fridge, etc.
So, find some gratitude and feel that energy release a positive force that reverses all the bad in your life!

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Now let’s get on with the show!
My first guest is Genese Vertus

Gene Vertus

Show notes:
16:14 In 2009 at the age of 33 Genese became
CEO and founder of Passion Rescue Mission and reopened the Genecoit Vertus School of Excellence in Francois, Haiti providing tuition free education and serving over 225 students.
17:29 Genese How Have you played with the cards you were dealt in Life?
18:01 Winning has to less with the cards you have in your hand and more to do with how you play the game.

You have to play to win.

18:38 How did I play to win? I was born in one of the poorest countries in the Western Hemisphere, which is Haiti.
20:28 The goal is to win no matter what seven piece of dominoes or cards you have in your hand.
21:56 Kenny Rogers sings a song that says

“You have to know when to Hold and when to Fold”

22:27 Three simple things helped me play with my cards.
1. My faith in God
2. Pursuit of an education
3. A strong support system

30:10 I was fortunate enough to come to this great country to get an education and in
2009 I returned back to Haiti and reopened a school that my father built. We started with 189
students at that time currently we have 225 students getting a
tuition-free education in one of the poorest, mountainous, villages in Haiti,
which is Francois Haiti. We provide meals, we provide school supplies
we provide uniforms and we have 12 teachers that are employed.
I have a waiting list of over 300 students wanting to get into that school right now; so it’s not enough
To win at your game, we must give back. Once you get to where you need to be, you need to
reach back and help your people.
31:16 If you need information on making a donation
Please visit www.passionrescuemission.org Dan Willms

34:39 Introduction of our next guest Coach Dan Willms
Dan Willms is a facilitator for the leadership challenge, a writer and an
international speaker. He’s also the creator of the Positive Change Workshop
and facilitates his workshops in Portuguese, English, and Spanish.
Dan has facilitated more than 145 Positive Change Workshops.

36:49 I believe that even though it is hard to be born poor, it’s not about being born poor
or rich. I’m coming to a conclusion it’s not about the money it’s not about where you
were born it’s what you do with all that.

37:25 I remember the first big tragedy I saw in my life. I was 11 years old. it
was my last day in school. I was ironing a shirt and my father hanged himself in
front of his 11 kids. I was the baby and none of us knew what to do.
So we just watched the body for over an hour until the paramedics came.
But I think even more devastating that watching my father hang himself was the feeling I had as a child
that other people were more special than me.
I would look at the other families where there wasn’t alcohol abuse, there was no
Drugs, there was no fighting, and I would think wow, why are they more special
than I am in the eyes of God.

39:03 I grew up feeling inferior, wondering do black people when they are
kids they look at white people and think wow why are they more special than I am?

39:36 Then I got to thinking, do Gay people wonder why Straight people are more special than they are?
39:53 because I was poor, because we did not have a lot of food, because my father was
an alcoholic, my brothers were drug addicts then I would look at my
neighbors and think why are they more special than I am.

40:39 Now I teach happiness. I teach positive psychology and I teach the
Science of Happiness. I have helped thousands of people to change their
Lives. Thousands of couples who come to me, some can’t they can’t even look
at each other. Parents who cannot have a conversation with their kids. Kids who
cannot stand their parents, but somehow they have to live under the same roof,
so they come to me asking for help.

41:10 I learned from my mom that you will not go far in life if you
don’t make peace with your past. It doesn’t matter where you came from,
if you’re Black, White, Gay or Straight, if you’re bisexual, you have to make
peace with your past.

44:33 I was doing missionary work and was a model missionary. I
found out I was also Gay, but since I be couldn’t be Gay and be a missionary, I had to
pick one and I wasn’t quite sure which one. I chose to be Gay and be myself.
I mean for God’s sakes, God is my father he made me just like this.
And I go around thinking I am broken. How many times we think we are sick we think we are
Disgusting, we think we are not good enough for anyone or anybody. That’s how
I felt most of my life. it is horrible when you look in the mirror and you feel very sick.
You think you’re going to burn in hell.

46:14 You are not building for today you are building for tomorrow. You are building with the tools and resources
you’ve got in the past, so if you don’t make peace with your past, it’s not going to work.

Jenny Wang

51:12 Jenny Wang Introduction
51:15 Jenny is passionate about helping people improve
Performance through holistic learning. She is a Professional Certified Coach and a
Senior Learning and Program Manager at Nutranext, which is the healthiest employer in the US.
Jenny is also a Certified Health Coach and co-author of Bringing Mindfulness to Your
Workplace. Jenny and I worked together at Office Depot. She was my mentor at
Toastmasters, then she became my Coachee as she worked on finding her purpose. I’m
Sure she has found her purpose. Let’s give a warm welcome to Ms Jenny Wang

52:22 I have had some good cards. But there are some cards we cannot choose.
We cannot chose our Father we cannot choose our Mother or our relatives.
I was born and raised in China in a very traditional family. I don’t have trauma
in my life, my parents are very lovely and educated; but there’s one thing that
we never agreed on. When I got married I never thought I wanted children.
I don’t know how many of you are natural parents; but I was not one of them.
When I was at 34 years old my father called me from China had a big
argument with me. He wanted to have a grandchild.
So, How did I play to win? I chose to honor my father’s request because family is important to me.
Now eight years later, people ask me what was the best decision I’ve ever made in my life?
And I say “To have a child”
My son has brought me so much joy, so much wonderful
things to my life that I have never ever thought that I would have.

The second card everyone has, but they also cannot chose is
Passion and purpose.

The 3rd card we are dealt is a Health.
The most important thing for everybody is good health. I decided to take
the journey of being a Yoga Instructor and a Health Coach.

59:01 I learned we can become happy by changing how we move our bodies.
Yoga encourages us to think about our health.
No matter how busy you are, no matter how much outside achievement you have,
by the end of the day you have to take time for yourself.

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9 Steps to Effective Advocacy

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Can Advocacy build successful bridges? It sure can. My guest today shares 9 Steps to Effective Advocacy.
Latisha Atkins is the founder of Building Bridges to Success, Inc.

Show notes:
Tell me about yourself. How did you create your company Building Bridges to Success and become an Advocate?
1. What is Advocacy?: What it is and why it is important?
2. What are some of the ways people can get involved locally and nationally with Advocacy.
3. What are some pointers you can give our audience on how to advocate.
4. How do people and communities move from problem-solving in their personal lives to advocacy?
5. What are some barriers to getting involved with advocacy?
6. How does BRIDGES advocate for your community?
7. What are some examples of advocacy?
8. Is there a difference between advocacy and lobbying?
9. How can BRIDGES help others become advocates for their communities?
10. Does advocacy lead to real change?
11. Can anyone be an advocate?

9 Steps to Effective Advocacy

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As America and the world fight for gun control. Advocacy will be the tool used to change those laws.
Here is an article about Advocacy Groups Call For Firearm Rights In Britain Following Several Terror Attacks

FOLLOWING NUMEROUS DEADLY TERROR ATTACKS THIS YEAR, PRO-GUN GROUPS IN BRITAIN ARE INCREASINGLY CALLING FOR CITIZENS TO RECEIVE THE RIGHT TO BEAR ARMS.
An initiative called Carry Now is growing in England and demanding that the government “allow law-abiding, reliable and trained citizens to carry CCW for self-defence in Europe.”

The initiative is backed by Firearms United, a group in Europe advocating for similar pro-gun initiatives all across the continent.

“These tragedies may have been the eye opener to just how ineffective our laws are,” Firearms-UK representative Dave Ewing reportedly told Voactive following last Saturday’s terror attack in London.

Common Cause is an organization in Washington, DC that is leading the Advocacy charge to modernize elections, making them more fair, secure, and accessible with automatic voter registration laws and same-day registration at polling places on Election Day. We are ensuring security and fairness at the ballot box by demanding paper back-ups and post-election risk-limiting audits to detect foul play early.

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How to Fly like an Eagle above the Storms of Life

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Did you suffer from Childhood sexual abuse or sexual harassment as an adult? Today on Mindset Transformation radio and podcast, I share my journey from being sexually abused as a child and how I used that experience to elevate my life. I teach how you too can use the winds from the storms of life to elevate your life to greater heights.

In this episode, we will study the Eagle and how the Eagle looks forward to the storm because the eagle knows that only by using the winds of the storm can she elevate to greater heights. Without the storm, she can never fly above the clouds. Familiarly, in life we need challenges, hurts and disappointments to get us out of our comfort zones and stretch us. Without the storms of life we would become complacent.

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Here are some characteristics of the Eagle:

Eagles fly’s above the storms

The crow that picks and picks at the ground, can’t rise to the heights of the eagle or is not conditioned to rise about the ground. It’s mindset is to stay on the ground and peck for food.

The Eagle does not escape the storm. It simply uses the storm to lift it higher. It rises on the winds that bring the storm.

When the storms of life come upon us — and all of us will experience them — we can rise above them by setting our minds and our belief toward God or we can be like the crow and peck and peck on the ground.

The storms do not have to overcome us. We can allow God’s power to lift us above them. God enables us to ride the winds of the storm that bring sickness, tragedy, failure and disappointment in our lives. We can soar above the storm.

We can learn how to do this from the Eagle.

1. Eagles fly alone at high altitude and not with sparrows or with other small birds. No other bird can go to the height of the Eagle.
2. Eagles have strong vision. They have the ability to focus on something up to five kilometers away. When an Eagle sites his prey, he narrows his focus on it and sets out to get it. No matter the obstacle, the Eagle will not move his focus from the prey until he grabs it.
3. Eagles love the storm. When clouds gather, the Eagle get excited. The Eagle uses the storm’s winds to lift it higher. Once it finds the wind of the storm, the Eagle uses the raging storm to lift him above the clouds. This gives the Eagle an opportunity to glide and rest its wings. In the meantime, all the other birds hide in the leaves and branches of the trees. We can use the storms of life to rise to greater heights. Achievers relish challenges and use them profitably.

I meditated on the reason for the hurricanes that caused so much destruction to homes and property in the Caribbean islands, Houston, TX and Florida. I believe that God does not make mistakes that everything in the Universe has a purpose. So, I asked myself what is the purpose of Hurricanes?

My initial response from the Universe was that storms are created with the purpose to blow down the old and make room for the new because everything is recycled on this earth. But I felt there was more so that is why I decided to study the Eagle. As mentioned before. The Eagle uses the storm to elevate him higher. He can’t fly to great heights without the winds of the storm.

What if God created the storm to do the same for his people?
The storm does not only blow down old trees, it blows down old houses as well, it blows down old power posts and power lines. So, in actuality we should be like the eagle and anxiously await the storm to see what old thing will be renewed.

It works for old relationships as well. There is something immensely intimate about riding out the storm with your loved one. Just you and your close family members. All the attention is on each other. No television, no lights just the personal connection and candle light!

I have always loved storms. I remember the first storm that me and my husband rode out together. We were only dating for about 3 months. I loved the rain on the roof, the sounds of the winds rustling the roof, the sight of the palm trees blowing in the winds and being wrapped up in his arms. I think we came out of that experience closer than we went in. That is a time to really talk and share! Get to know each other.

The other thing the storm brings is new things to replace the old. If you had an old roof and the wind blew if off, guess what FEMA will give you a new one. If your pool screens were old and the wind just ripped them apart more then guess what you get new screens at no cost to you. If your old car was on its last leg, then you could park it under a tree and pray the tree falls on it! You get my point. How you experience anything depends on how you interpret it. Change your mindset that the storm comes to take from you and replace it with the winds of the storm brings change. Changing out the old for the new.

But I still think there is more!
The bible teaches us to keep our eyes on Jesus when we are in the storm.
There was a time when Jesus had sent his disciples to go on before him while he stayed in the mountain to pray (Matthew 14:23).
While they were in the boat there came a storm “and the boat was already a considerable distance from land, buffeted by the waves because the wind was against it.”- Matthew 14:24

Seeing the distress his disciples were in Jesus went to them, walking on water. When Peter saw Jesus he asked him to allow him to come to him, by walking on the water. Peter started to walk on with his faith, however, when Peter reached at a certain distance he got distracted, and when he got distracted by the boisterous wind he became afraid and started to sink.

“But when [Peter] saw the wind, he was afraid and, beginning to sink, cried out, ‘Lord, save me!’” (Matthew 14:30 NIV)

Many of us are like Peter, we started our journey with the Lord and even though the trials of life come, our faith allows us to overcome these trials, you could say to ‘walk on water’. But along the way we get distracted especially when we think the situation has gone on for too long, or we come upon big storm. I am using the storm here as a metaphor for trouble. It was easy to trust God when our trials were little, but what happens when the situations seem bigger than we are able to handle? What happens when we have a category 4 storm? Do we let fear in? Or do we anticipate it with the mindset that it will elevate us to new heights?
Focusing on what’s happening around us will cause us to be afraid; afraid of losing our family, losing our jobs, our homes, or being broke and not having enough to take care of our needs. We start worrying about what is going to happen next and very soon we start to sink.

The storms also bring with it floods. The water could be more dangerous than the winds.
With Irma, I was going to ride out the storm in my home because my house is built to withstand the winds but as soon as they started talking about 10-15 ft. storm surges. I called my husband and said we are leaving now! I was afraid of my car being under water and I pictured me on the roof waiting to be rescued. So, I understand fear!
Joel Osteen had a message about flood waters he used the analogy of your water breaking during childbirth. That flood there signals new birth as is regarded with excitement. He also reminded us that we never know when that flood is going come. His wife Victoria water broke when she was in an elevator going somewhere that was not the hospital! It is all about perception. Ask yourself what is the good that can come out of the house and car being flooded? You get new ones of course ! Usually the insurance pays!

Sometimes you just have to Eat That Frog!
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Here are five things God wants you to do if you feel like you’re sinking in a storm.

1. Keep your eyes on Jesus and stay focus.
The moment you take your eyes off the Lord, you will go under. When you focus on the wind and the waves — your circumstances — you’re going to sink, just like Peter. There will be many things happening in the world to get you distracted. Economies going under, crime and violence on the rise, people losing their jobs, accidents on the rise and so forth. These things will get you distress. Jesus tells us that when we see these things happening, that is not the time to get sidetracked, but it is the time to look up (Luke 21:28.

2. Do not be fearful, Jesus is with you in the storm.
When you’re in a storm, it is very easy to become fearful, fearful that you will not get rid of a sickness, fearful that your #marriage will end, fearful that your child will die, fearful that you will not be able to pay off your debts or bills and still have enough money to survive. But when fear comes, and it will come, take authority over it and stand on the promises of God that he will always be with you. Fear comes with torment and that’s why Jesus gives us peace (John 14:27). Peace that will help you to ride out your storms.

3. Don’t let go of faith.
Faith is like our heavenly currency that we use to draw what we need from the spiritual realm. When you maintain your faith you will receive strength to weather the storms of life.

4. Don’t doubt.
You don’t need great faith to make it through the storm in your life. You just need faith in the right person, that is Jesus. Peter started to sink when he started to doubt.

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5. Praise God.
Praise is a weapon, a very powerful one. It confuses the enemy as he cannot understand how you able facing your storms but will have a praise. When Jehoshaphat was facing a large army, he did not use swords to fight his battle, he just praised God and his enemies were totally destroyed. Even in the storm, even when you feel like you’re sinking, even when you’re scared to death — praise him all the time.

How to Become an Open Communicator

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Are you an Open or Closed Communicator

This week on Mindset Transformation radio and podcast with Coach Myrna Young, I interview Leadership Coach and Trainer, Gail Green.
Gail teaches us How to Become an Open Communicator. Gail is the founder of GoGreen Learning.
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Here is a brief Biography of my guest Gail Green.
• Gail is a leadership coach and trainer and her topic today is “How to find out if you are an open or closed communicator” in your business environment. Gail is a leader who connects individuals and teams to their truth, helping them to discover their full expression of courage, joy and fulfillment. Gail works with all sizes of companies, as well as individually with leaders, and do life coaching with individuals from all walks of life.
• Gail’s primary work is in leadership development, teambuilding, stress management and all forms of communication skills.

Why is being a closed communicator bad? Because as a closed off person, you become defensive, resistant, bitchy, moody, easy to anger, confrontational, and not open to feedback.
So as a Leader, it is important to be open to your team and employees.
Open people radiate outwards from their heart and is able to touch others.
If you want to impact your employees and your customers, then learn how to be open.
Listen to the podcast as Gail teaches us how to be Open vs Closed with the help of her Go Cards.

Brian Tracy The author of “Eat that Frog” also teaches How to become an Open Leader and achieve new levels of success in sales.
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Are You also Closed Off in your personal relationships And Don’t Even Know It?

How Would you answer the following questions?
Are you emotionally guarded?
Are you willing to take risks?

If you answered yes to these questions, it could mean that you are closed off emotionally.

Sometimes being emotionally guarded gets you into bad situations; but most of the time it gets you nowhere. In every area of life, there is no reward if there is no risk taken. So that could be why you keep finding yourself in relationships that bore you, or in relationship with other emotionally closed off individuals. Because like attracts like. Those relationships aren’t very rewarding, are they? If you don’t take the risk by putting your true self and your true feelings on the table, those are the types of relationships that you will attract. Your emotionally open friends will get those giddy, best-friends-lovers, movie-type romances; you will get the dead-end ones. Maybe you’ve never had your heart broken, and maybe you think that’s a perk. But it’s not. It is said that it is better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all! So, I will ask the question. Are you closed off and don’t even realize it?

Here is an article from Madame Enoire that asks 10 more ways to tell if you are closed off personally.

Here are 10 ways to tell if you closed off personally:
1. Do you feel like first dates are interrogations, and are put off by the line of questioning you receive during them?
2. Does it feel very inappropriate to you whenever someone becomes emotional around you?
3. Do your friends share their romantic stories with you? Or do they feel that you are never happy for them so they don’t share?
4. Do you attract cocky guys?
5. You do a lot of Googling before first dates.
6. You prep your friends to meet a guy.
7. Sex is a competition.
8. You’ve never cried to a partner or shown your venerability.
9. Eye contact makes you very uncomfortable
10. You’re very sarcastic

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Show Notes:
• Topic: Are you an Open or Closed Communicator?
1. Question 1: Tell us your journey towards becoming a Leadership coach
2. Question 2: How did you come to specialize in Open vs closed communication?
3. Question 3: How does a leader know if he or she is open or closed? What determines that?
4. Question 4: If a leader becomes closed off, how can he or she trace the source?
5. Question 5: Why should leaders want to become open? What are the benefits of being open?
6. Question 6: What tools do you offer as a coach to help clients who are closed off to become open?
7 Question 7: You sent me this beautiful set of Go Cards, how does one use these cards to change their state?

How to Raise your Self-esteem by Erasing Self Doubt

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How to Erase Self Doubt

In this week’s segment of the Mindset Transformation radio show and podcast with Coach Myrna, I teach on the topic how to Raise your Self Esteem by Erasing Self Doubt.

Self confidence and self esteem is the belief that you can accomplish any task or any goal.

Self doubt is the negative narrative that plays in your head. It is like PAC man. It is there to eat up your confidence

I was listening to a Ted talk YouTube video last week and the speaker was telling his story.
He said for 10 years he smoked crack when he woke up and before he went to bed. Hoping to numb the pain of living. He was a disappointment to his mother, his wife and his children. He felt worthless!
On his second trip to prison, he spent a total of 8 years in prison, his adopted mother had a heart attack and he was told she was not going to make it. He felt pretty low that this woman who he adopted him and loved his as her own and tried to give him a better life was now in the hospital, in a cold dark room and he was not there to offer her comfort. This was the first spark of change in him. Maybe he should do something with his life other than being a mess up.
When he got out of prison this time he decided to go to college. He was now a middle aged black man and he was in college with 20 year old white students. Never the less he did good and now looked forward for the accolades his teachers gave him because he was performing better than expected. He said that praise was now his new drug. He lived for his teachers praises. One day one of his teachers put an application for a job on his desk. He couldn’t believe it. His teacher had confidence in him, his teacher had confidence in his ability to do the job. The self confidence seedling inside him got water and grew a little. As his self confidence grew, his life changed. No longer was he a non contributing member to society, he was making a contribution. He now had a new family and 7 years after he was released from prison, he received his PHD in Physiology!

Self confidence doesn’t always come naturally. Sometimes you have to practice and practice until you build it. Sometimes it comes from your teachers or your parents.

So today I will share some tools to help you build up your self confidence and self esteem while starving the negative self talk. The negative talk that tells you, you are not good enough. You can never make it, you are not smart enough, pretty enough, thin enough.

But before we can get to the solution of anything or before we can get to anywhere on the map, we have to know how we got to where we are right now and pinpoint where we are.

For example. If you are at the mall and you are wanting to go to Macy’s department store you look at the map and it shows “You are here” if you want to get to Macy’s than you know you have to walk right or left.
It is the same way in life.

Statics show that we can shed a lot of light on how we got here on the map by looking at our childhood. You see parenting does not come
with a manual and some parents get it right; but most get it wrong.

Understanding your inner child is very important to unlocking the door of where you are on the map today.
You see when you came into the world you were totally dependent on someone else to care for you. Not just to feed you, bathe you, and to keep you warm but to love you, protect you and nurture you.
If whenever you cried your mother or caregiver came and picked you up and smiled at you and comforted you then you transformed that into the feeling of you are important.
If however when you cried you were ignored, then you formed the feeling that you are unwanted.
Even though you have no memory of being a baby, your heart and your internal computers have a record of everything. A hypnotist can go back and pull it out. That is the root of low self esteem and self doubt that is now an oak tree!

If today you are listening to me and you are experiencing low self esteem and self doubt or you don’t understand why you are not getting the results you want. Why you are here on the map and you can never get over there. I challenge you to do the work find out why.

I was watching Oprah Super Soul Sunday a few months ago and she had a guest who talked about going back to your childhood home in your mind and looking out the window. What do you see?

I did this exercise.
I grew up with a single mother and my grandmother in Guyana. Guyana is in South America. Our neighbors are Venezuela and Brazil.
We were very poor. Both my mother and grand mother were domestic servants.
I was the eldest of 4 children and we all lived in a room in a big house.
When I looked through the window of that room. I saw that even though I was poor, I had hope. I had love, I had friends, I was happy.
I saw that I had self confidence because I believed I was attractive. My dad told me so and I believed him.
I had self confidence because I believed I was intelligent. I did well in school. I was a B+ student.
I had self confidence because I knew I would get a good job when I left school. And I did. When I graduated from school, I got a job at the Ministry of Health. I was a payroll clerk paying all the doctors at Georgetown hospital.
I never lost my self confidence. If someone wanted to hurt me by calling me ugly, did nothing to me because I knew I was attractive.
If someone called me stupid, it did nothing to me because I knew I was intelligent.
That is why we have to have an internal lotus of control. You can’t let people steal your self confidence by telling you, “you are not good enough.” You are wonderfully made. As Joel Osteen says “We are all made like a fully loaded top of the line sports car” everything we need to be successful in life is preloaded at the factory. All we have to do is to read the manual!

I challenge you to go back to your childhood home in your mind and look through the window.

We lose self esteem because of a variety of reasons
• We were inadequately nurtured as children.
• We could have absorbed negative messages about ourselves and it still resides in the core of our beings.
• Self esteem is what you think and feel about yourself and not what others think and feel about you.
• How we feel about ourselves, is how we view the world.

To grow in self esteem is to expand our capacity for happiness.

The higher our self esteem the more equipped we are to handle life’s adversities.
The higher our self esteem the more ambitious we are not necessary in a career; but in forming healthy relationships and not repeating destructive patterns.
The higher our self esteem the more likely we are to form nourishing bonds with others.

Our external life is an indication of what is going on inside.
The art of raising our self esteem is a process your level of commitment determines how long raising your self esteem will take.

How to raise your self esteem by erasing self doubt

Some of us never got love from our parents; but we are now mothers. It is important to hug your kids often and tell them you love them. It is important to make your kids feel valuable.
But, even if you get no love from your parents, friends, lovers, you must love yourself. You can never give away what you don’t have. If you don’t love yourself you can’t love your children, you can’t love your husband.

How to be self confident

How do you know if you love yourself?

Ask yourself these questions?
• Do I take care of myself?
• Do I make being healthy a priority?
• Am I stretching and challenging myself to be better than I am today?
• Am I living life with passion or am I just passing through?

If you answered No to any of these questions then you need to make some changes in your life before you get to 80 years old and realize that you never lived.

How do you erase self doubt?

By Thinking it, speaking it and doing it!

The weeds that take over the garden of your mind can only flourish if you are a bad gardener!

You have to protect your dreams by plucking up the weeds before they grow. They will come. Self doubt always comes; but you have to pluck them out by speaking of your goals and doing something to get you moving towards the place on the map you want to go.
That is why you have to know where you are so you won’t move in the opposite direction.

First Think it. There is nothing good or bad but thinking makes it so. William Shakespeare.

Rhonda brine of the secret says “What you think about you bring about”

Your thoughts affect your attitude, your self confidence, your mood, and there is a direct relationship to your thoughts and your experiences in life.

Remember when you were a kid and your parents would tell not to hang around Johnny or Jane? They did not know why; but they knew that if you kept company with Jonny or Jane, no good would come of you.
In the same way if you keep replaying negative emotions in your head such as fear, discontent, anger, jealousy, insecurities, blame etc then you will keep attracting more negative energy to your experience.

But if you are wanting that promotion and you see yourself in this new role and you are confident that you will get this promotion then you will. You might not get it at your first try but if you never give up it will be yours eventually; conversely, If you want this promotion; but you place road blocks in your path such as any and all negative thoughts then chances are you will never attract this reality into your experience.

When we think, our thoughts become like magnets and attract, and then attach to like thoughts. That is why it manifests in our life.

Nothing shows up in our life unless we attract it.

We have all seen the power of attraction in motion when if we have something bad happen to us at the beginning of the day, bad things keep on happening for the rest of the day.

So, it is very important to watch what you think.

Now let’s take a look at Speak it.

The spoken word is a powerful tool and by leveraging your voice you expand your dreams from internal thoughts to external possibilities, laying the ground work for divine purpose to manifest. Deepak Chopra

When you take your thoughts, which are formless and speak them into the atmosphere you give them form. This empowers them.

“Talk happiness; talk faith; talk health. Say you are well, and all will be well with you. God shall hear your words and make them true.” Ella Wheeler Wilcox

So, remember to speak it. Tell a friend or your coach of your intentions.

And lastly “just do it.” Nike made this phrase popular but it applies to more than athletics. Just do it. There will never be a better time than the present.

“He who waits to do a great deal of good at once will never do anything.”
― Samuel Johnson

So “just do it.” Think about something you have been thinking of doing for some time. Tell someone about it and then take the first step. It does not have to be a giant step. It could be as simple as doing research or taking that nice red Mercedes out for a test drive; but it will be a step in the right direction.
I hope my presentation was thought provoking. These are the principles I live by and I attract all that I want into my experience; so give it a try.
If you lack self confidence and would like to talk to a coach, I offer a 30 min Free strategy session to help you gain self confidence to achieve your goals.
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Seven Social Media Tools To Grow Your Online Business

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Seven Social Media tools to grow your online business

This week on the Mindset Transformation radio show and podcast with Coach Myrna, I interview Online business coach Jessie Guilford. Jessie is a marketing expert and she will teach us the top “Seven Social Media Tools to Grow your Online Business.”

Tip of the week from coach Myrna: How You Can Use Pinterest To Grow Your Online Business
Pinterest exists for people to come together to gather, collect and share snapshots of their own ideas, memories, and interests.
In the early days of the social networking platform, that was all Pinterest really was. A simple place for people to come together and scrapbook. It was a collectively personal experience that gave the world something nice.
These days, Pinterest is more than just a nice global scrapbook. With 100 million active users (emphasis on the “active”), it’s now being used by some of the biggest companies on the planet to build awareness, drive traffic to their websites, and sell.

Pinterest is popular with users because it allows them to choose how to interact with brands and businesses — not the other way around. Users can navigate based on their own interests so product endorsements aren’t quite as invasive here as in other social media platforms.
Most people on Pinterest are actually looking to make purchases, which means brands are only really guiding their products to the people who need them.

Guest Biography
Jessie grew up on a grain & cattle farm in Manitoba, Canada with a passion for the outdoors, horseback riding, shopping and creating the life she desired. She graduated University with her Bachelor of Business Degree and achieved the Duke of Edinburgh’s Program Gold Award before entering the corporate world. She worked in Research as well as Sales + Marketing while starting and running her own website design business at the age of 22. Realizing that the 9-5, slowly-climb-the-corporate-ladder world was not for her, she soon realized her passion for coaching amazing women from all over the world to help them achieve their business goals and build a life they loved.

Show notes:
1. Question 1: How did your love of website design from the early age of 22 come about?
2. What are 3 things to think about before starting an online business?
3. Can you suggest the top seven social media tools that will help with people’s online marketing and business growth?
4. What are some different ways to market your business online (and offline!)
5. What to say when someone asks “What do you do?” – example your cocktail pitch!
6. How should a successful discovery/strategy/free call with a potential client sound like?
7. How can people get visible and find their target market?
8. How can someone change their mindset to make a certain sales target?

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If you are looking for some more tools or new tools for 2017, take a look at this article from Buffer Social.
The 20 Best New Social media tools

Every so often, a new social media platform emerges to capture our attention (Peach) or become part of our daily lives (Snapchat).
The social media tools landscape can be just as fascinating — and robust!
Every week, people build and launch new social media tools, empowering us marketers in our day-to-day work. To give you a sense of how amazing the landscape is, here’s a graphic of some of the social media tools available: social media management, listening, analyzing, content creation, and more.

As part of our State of Social Media 2016 campaign, we’ve scoured Product Hunt for the latest trending social media tools and created a list of 21 products for marketers and teams to try in 2017.

How to Assemble Your Power Team to Manifest Your Vision

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In this episode of the Mindset Transformation radio show and podcast, coach Myrna interviews Valeri Bocage. Valerie lost everything in hurricane Katrina and used her pain to create her company Powerful Women International. She believes that the greater your pain the greater things that are birthed from this pain.
She believes that whenever you focus on what you have lost, you can never move forward.
Her purpose was to make a difference.
She says to figure out who your audience is. Who are you supposed to make a difference to?

My tip of the week is:

How to Create Positive Core Beliefs
Our guest today shared her story of losing everything in hurricane Katrina and bouncing back to become the CEO of Powerful Women International. To do that she had to have positive self-worth and positive core beliefs.
Beliefs are the truths people hold on to that guide our life. The power of belief can trap you, as in the belief that you deserve only a limited amount of happiness. Or belief can free you, as in the belief that you are safe and protected in the cosmic plan.

When you open your awareness to your strongest beliefs, which are known as core beliefs, two things happen. First, you find out who you are and why you behave in the ways you do. Second, new energies become available when you pursue the core beliefs that are life-supporting, fulfilling, and spiritually transforming.

How to Create Positive Core Beliefs
A powerful core belief is pure and direct. It gives you a clear sense of who you are. It isn’t confused, conflicted, or compromised. Let’s take steps to make this the kind of core belief you are activating. Step one is to bring your core beliefs into awareness. The four key beliefs you want to activate are:

I am loving and lovable.
I am worthy.
I am safe and trusting.
I am fulfilled and whole.

You already have existing core beliefs in these four areas of love, self-worth, security, and fulfillment. Your beliefs can’t be changed simply by throwing out an old one and adopting a new one like changing your wardrobe. The change must come at the level of self-awareness. At the core of your being, where your true self resides, the truth about you is clear and unequivocal: You deserve unconditional love; you are of unique worth in the universe; you can trust Nature to protect and uphold you; and your fulfillment comes from being whole.

To overhaul your beliefs means that you get closer and closer to your core beliefs, these four inner truths, which are absolute. Right now, there’s a gap between them and what you experience. For most people, the positive and negative side of their core beliefs depend on how good or bad their experiences have been in the past. If you have been deeply hurt in love, for example, it is hard to adopt the core belief that you deserve infinite love.

A Self-Awareness Exercise to Create Your Core Beliefs
Reliving experiences from the past only keeps you stuck in the past. Your core beliefs are activated in the now, every day. They can only be changed in the now! Here’s how:

Look upon what’s happening now as a reflection of your core beliefs.
If the reflection is negative, pause and ask yourself why it fits the storyline your beliefs create. If you experience any kind of abusive treatment, for example, this reflects a victimhood story supported by a core belief that keeps you in the story. If you experience unexpected kindness, on the other hand, this reflects a storyline that includes compassion and reflects a core belief in how much you deserve love.

A core belief that God has plans to prosper you, will take you through any setback.

• Valeri Bocage started Powerful Women International in 2006 after moving to San Francisco, a move that was prompted by the loss of everything during Hurricane Katrina in New Orleans. Valeri lost everything except her indomitable spirit to help others. Initially, Powerful Women International was formed to help women live their dreams and to begin to support each other worldwide to fulfill their utmost dreams and expand themselves as leaders worldwide.

Show notes and questions:

2: How did Valerie overcome losing everything in Hurricane Katrina?
3: How did Valerie build and assemble her teams?
4: How did Valerie use the media to promote her business?
5: How did she overcome obstacles?
6: What inspired Valerie to start PWIC?

All-girl engineer team invents solar-powered tent for the homeless

Daniela Orozcoshe recalls how many homeless people she saw on her way to school when she was a high school freshman.

Just one.

Four years later, the number has multiplied. People live on a main thoroughfare near the school, at a nearby park, and below the off-ramps and bridges in her hometown of San Fernando, which is about 20 miles northwest of downtown Los Angeles. In the San Fernando Valley, homelessness increased 36% to 7,094 people last year, according to the Los Angeles Homeless Services Agency’s annual count. Daniela and her friends wanted to help, but giving money wasn’t an option.

“Because we come from low-income families ourselves, we can’t give them money,” the high school senior says.

“We wanted to offer something besides money,” her classmate, Veronica Gonzalez, chimes in.

That was the starting point for their invention: a solar-powered tent that folds up into a rollaway backpack. The girls and 10 others from their high school had never done any hands-on engineering work before, but with the help of YouTube, Google, and trial-and-error, they got it done.

They hope that one day, their tent will improve the lives of people experiencing homelessness in their community.

The Power and Purpose of Journaling

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On this weeks episode of the Mindset Transformation radio show and podcast with Coach Myrna, we discuss the Power and Purpose of Journaling. My guest today is Margaret Elizabeth Hulse, a novelist who uses her fine art and jewelry designs to illustrate her journaling stories. Margaret writes stories with her body, mind, spirit that she says exist in the beauty of Texas, the Caribbean, and New Orleans.

Before opening Mpulse Studio | Charlotte St. Charles, Margaret Elizabeth Hulse graduated with a degree from St. Edward’s University and began her career in the arts apprenticing under metal sculptor, Daryl Colburn. She then served as the director of both Tate Gallery Austin and Urban Roots Gallery before she spent time in non-profit development and coordinating effective programs for various organizations. Margaret Elizabeth opened her fine arts studio, Mpulse Studio, in 2014 and launched both her women’s and men’s jewelry lines, Charlotte St. Charles and Stanley Kemp & Co in 2016. In 2016, Margaret wrote her first novel, Sketches from the Heart of a Texas Artist, based on her short story, The Sketchbook and is working on her second novel in the series, Antoine’s Lament.

Margaret feels that the problems experienced by women that are related to feeling stuck can be inspired to transcend from the monotony of day to day, obligatory tasks and into a life life filled with passion and purpose from the power and purpose of journaling. She says “I write relatable, yet sensual, passionate stories that take my readers on new adventures and create custom jewelry so that the wearer has something unique to set her apart from the typical, ‘go-to’ designs. I evoke an excitement that people feel they haven’t been able to tap into for a while, whether it’s because they’ve been hurt, or have simply lost themselves as they’ve tried to make ends meet.”

Journaling power

She feels that through journaling, she learned how to manifest her dream work through writing her way out of a trauma. Her first published journal simply titled, “Sketchbook,” is an illustrated short story that serves as a preamble to her novel, Sketches from the Heart of a Texas Artist. I write and speak often about the power of healing through creativity and how the more you write about something, the more likely it is to come to fruition.

On a personal note, I have always journaled to download and to write down my goals and dreams. The power and purpose for my journaling for me has been manifested in my life over and over.

There are 3 ways to attract anything into your life. First you think it in your mind, then you speak it into the atmosphere, then you write it down to give it form!

Journaling can also help you out of a bad mood.
You Can Write Your Way Out of an Emotional Funk. Here’s How.
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James Pennebaker, a distinguished professor at the University of Texas, got married right out of college in the early ‘70s. Three years after his marriage, he and his wife started to question their relationship, and Pennebaker, confused and unsettled, sank into a depression. He ate less, drank more, and started smoking. Embarrassed by what he saw as emotional weakness, he became more and more isolated.

One morning about a month into this decline, Pennebaker climbed out of bed and sat down at a typewriter. He stared at the machine for a moment, then started writing freely and frankly about his marriage, his parents, his sexuality, his career, and even death.

As he wrote, and continued to write in the days that followed, something fascinating happened. His depression lifted and he felt liberated. He began to reconnect with his deep love for his wife. But the writing had an even farther-reaching impact. For the first time, he started to see the purpose and possibilities in his life.

Pennebaker’s own experience getting through this rocky period sparked 40 years of research about the links between writing and emotional processing. Over and over again Pennebaker did studies in which he divided people into two groups and asked some to write about emotionally significant experiences, and the others to write about common things: their shoes, or maybe the cars passing on the street. Both groups wrote for the same span—about 20-minutes a day, three days in a row.

In each study, Pennebaker found that the people who wrote about emotionally charged episodes experienced marked improvement in their physical and mental well-being. They were happier, less depressed and less anxious. In the months after the writing sessions, they had lower blood pressure, improved immune function, and fewer visits to the doctor. They also reported better relationships, improved memory, and more success at work.

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