Is the Secret to Love, Sex?

Lover is not a 3-letter word

Is the secret to Love, Sex? This week on Mindset Transformation Radio Podcast, I interview Love Coach James Green. James answers the question “Is Sex the most important factor in a relationship? Tune in to find out the answer.

So, let me ask you. What do you think is the most important factor in a relationship? In my research for this interview. I found this article
on the secret to a long marriage. Hint it was not Sex!

Secret to a long Marriage
A couple was celebrating their golden wedding anniversary. Their domestic tranquility had long been the talk of the town. A local newspaper reporter was inquiring as to the secret of their long and happy marriage. “Well, it dates back to our honeymoon,” explained the man. “We visited the Grand Canyon and took a trip down to the bottom on the canyon by pack mule. We hadn’t gone too far when my wife’s mule stumbled. My wife quietly said, ‘That’s once.’ We proceeded a little further and the mule stumbled again. Once more my wife quietly said, ‘That’s twice.’ Hadn’t gone a half- mile when the mule stumbled the third time. My wife quietly removed a revolver from her pocket and shot the mule dead. I started to yell at her for her treatment of the mule when she looked at me and quietly said ‘That’s once.”
Lol. Hope you had a good laugh.

But in all seriousness. We have heard the phrase ” A Happy wife a happy life”
Here is another article about a couple married 79 years.

“Just want you to know that you’re still the one I would choose. Still the one I give my heart to, still the one I love.”

So, what’s their secret?

“To support one another, whatever the problems may be, good or bad. Stick together. That’s about it,” Bertha said.

“You know why this lasted 79 years? She has the last word,” Dan added with a smile.

Let me introduce my guest this week:

James is a certified Love and Emotional Intelligence coach. His mission is to teach people how to love themselves as well as love each other. James specialty is Relationship and Personal Development Coaching.

Show notes:
1. Question 1: Tell us of your journey to become a Love and emotional Intelligence coach. Do you have a personal story that made you specialize in this field?

I was a single parent and realized that when looking for a mate, I had to look for someone who would fit into my lifestyle as a single father. The woman had to accept me and my son as a package deal. That made me look at factors other than Sex.
As far as my journey to becoming a Love and Emotional intelligence coach, I found I had the aptitude to reach people. People opened up to me. I remember once standing in the line at McDonald’s and this man in line started talking to me telling me his story. I decided to get my certification as a Life Coach
2. Question 2: How does emotional intelligence fit into the relationship dynamics?
Emotional Intelligence is the ability to hear what your partner is not saying. It is the ability to realize that when your partner says Fine, I am okay with that. for example. She is not fine with that, from her tonality or her body language.
Another facet of emotional intelligence is the ability to keep your cool and not fly off the handle at the slightest provocation.

3. Question 3: What problems do find are the most common and how do you coach your clients to solve them?
I find Trust, Communication and the inability to seek out coaching until after they start experiencing problems.

Couples tend to think that coaching is not needed until there is a huge problem in their relationship and when I hear that I ask them do you also see a doctor AFTER you have Cancer?

4. Question 4: If you had a magic wand to solve common relationship problems, what would you solve?

If I had a magic wand to solve relationship problems, I would solve trust. Lack of trust is one of the most destructive elements in a relationship.

5. Question 5: When you say that relationship is not a 3-letter word, what do you mean?
The topic of our show today “Is the secret to love, Sex?”
Couples would have us believe that great sex keeps the relationship going or strong.
While sex is very important in a relationship it is not the most important factor.
I believe that communication is the most important factor.
Click the podcast link to hear from James directly as he answers this question.

6. Question 6: Why would you say that couples do not proactively seek relationship coaching and wait until there is a problem to get counselling?
Culture, conditioning. Women go to get an annual checkup every year. They get a PAP test to proactively check for any cervical problems. But this same woman would not think of going to a relationship coach to proactively check to see if her relationship is in danger of abnormal growth!

For the men I use the analogy of the oil change because men hate going to the doctor for an annual check up. But they do change their oil every 3 to 5 months. ( I had a laugh at this one. I asked James if he was suggesting men change their wifes, as often as they change the oil in their cars?)
He assured me he was not saying that but letting the men know that just like the car engine their relationships need regular maintenance.

Tony Robbins also has lots of empowerment advice for couples.
Click the link below to understand how to create better relationships from Tony Robbins


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How to Become an Open Communicator

Are you an Open or Closed Communicator

This week on Mindset Transformation radio and podcast with Coach Myrna Young, I interview Leadership Coach and Trainer, Gail Green.
Gail teaches us How to Become an Open Communicator. Gail is the founder of GoGreen Learning.
To receive her Free Gift of 3 Go Cards send her an email from her web site www.gogreenlearning.com


Here is a brief Biography of my guest Gail Green.
• Gail is a leadership coach and trainer and her topic today is “How to find out if you are an open or closed communicator” in your business environment. Gail is a leader who connects individuals and teams to their truth, helping them to discover their full expression of courage, joy and fulfillment. Gail works with all sizes of companies, as well as individually with leaders, and do life coaching with individuals from all walks of life.
• Gail’s primary work is in leadership development, teambuilding, stress management and all forms of communication skills.

Why is being a closed communicator bad? Because as a closed off person, you become defensive, resistant, bitchy, moody, easy to anger, confrontational, and not open to feedback.
So as a Leader, it is important to be open to your team and employees.
Open people radiate outwards from their heart and is able to touch others.
If you want to impact your employees and your customers, then learn how to be open.
Listen to the podcast as Gail teaches us how to be Open vs Closed with the help of her Go Cards.

Brian Tracy The author of “Eat that Frog” also teaches How to become an Open Leader and achieve new levels of success in sales.
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Are You also Closed Off in your personal relationships And Don’t Even Know It?

How Would you answer the following questions?
Are you emotionally guarded?
Are you willing to take risks?

If you answered yes to these questions, it could mean that you are closed off emotionally.

Sometimes being emotionally guarded gets you into bad situations; but most of the time it gets you nowhere. In every area of life, there is no reward if there is no risk taken. So that could be why you keep finding yourself in relationships that bore you, or in relationship with other emotionally closed off individuals. Because like attracts like. Those relationships aren’t very rewarding, are they? If you don’t take the risk by putting your true self and your true feelings on the table, those are the types of relationships that you will attract. Your emotionally open friends will get those giddy, best-friends-lovers, movie-type romances; you will get the dead-end ones. Maybe you’ve never had your heart broken, and maybe you think that’s a perk. But it’s not. It is said that it is better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all! So, I will ask the question. Are you closed off and don’t even realize it?

Here is an article from Madame Enoire that asks 10 more ways to tell if you are closed off personally.

Here are 10 ways to tell if you closed off personally:
1. Do you feel like first dates are interrogations, and are put off by the line of questioning you receive during them?
2. Does it feel very inappropriate to you whenever someone becomes emotional around you?
3. Do your friends share their romantic stories with you? Or do they feel that you are never happy for them so they don’t share?
4. Do you attract cocky guys?
5. You do a lot of Googling before first dates.
6. You prep your friends to meet a guy.
7. Sex is a competition.
8. You’ve never cried to a partner or shown your venerability.
9. Eye contact makes you very uncomfortable
10. You’re very sarcastic

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Show Notes:
• Topic: Are you an Open or Closed Communicator?
1. Question 1: Tell us your journey towards becoming a Leadership coach
2. Question 2: How did you come to specialize in Open vs closed communication?
3. Question 3: How does a leader know if he or she is open or closed? What determines that?
4. Question 4: If a leader becomes closed off, how can he or she trace the source?
5. Question 5: Why should leaders want to become open? What are the benefits of being open?
6. Question 6: What tools do you offer as a coach to help clients who are closed off to become open?
7 Question 7: You sent me this beautiful set of Go Cards, how does one use these cards to change their state?

How to Assemble Your Power Team to Manifest Your Vision

In this episode of the Mindset Transformation radio show and podcast, coach Myrna interviews Valeri Bocage. Valerie lost everything in hurricane Katrina and used her pain to create her company Powerful Women International. She believes that the greater your pain the greater things that are birthed from this pain.
She believes that whenever you focus on what you have lost, you can never move forward.
Her purpose was to make a difference.
She says to figure out who your audience is. Who are you supposed to make a difference to?

My tip of the week is:

How to Create Positive Core Beliefs
Our guest today shared her story of losing everything in hurricane Katrina and bouncing back to become the CEO of Powerful Women International. To do that she had to have positive self-worth and positive core beliefs.
Beliefs are the truths people hold on to that guide our life. The power of belief can trap you, as in the belief that you deserve only a limited amount of happiness. Or belief can free you, as in the belief that you are safe and protected in the cosmic plan.

When you open your awareness to your strongest beliefs, which are known as core beliefs, two things happen. First, you find out who you are and why you behave in the ways you do. Second, new energies become available when you pursue the core beliefs that are life-supporting, fulfilling, and spiritually transforming.

How to Create Positive Core Beliefs
A powerful core belief is pure and direct. It gives you a clear sense of who you are. It isn’t confused, conflicted, or compromised. Let’s take steps to make this the kind of core belief you are activating. Step one is to bring your core beliefs into awareness. The four key beliefs you want to activate are:

I am loving and lovable.
I am worthy.
I am safe and trusting.
I am fulfilled and whole.

You already have existing core beliefs in these four areas of love, self-worth, security, and fulfillment. Your beliefs can’t be changed simply by throwing out an old one and adopting a new one like changing your wardrobe. The change must come at the level of self-awareness. At the core of your being, where your true self resides, the truth about you is clear and unequivocal: You deserve unconditional love; you are of unique worth in the universe; you can trust Nature to protect and uphold you; and your fulfillment comes from being whole.

To overhaul your beliefs means that you get closer and closer to your core beliefs, these four inner truths, which are absolute. Right now, there’s a gap between them and what you experience. For most people, the positive and negative side of their core beliefs depend on how good or bad their experiences have been in the past. If you have been deeply hurt in love, for example, it is hard to adopt the core belief that you deserve infinite love.

A Self-Awareness Exercise to Create Your Core Beliefs
Reliving experiences from the past only keeps you stuck in the past. Your core beliefs are activated in the now, every day. They can only be changed in the now! Here’s how:

Look upon what’s happening now as a reflection of your core beliefs.
If the reflection is negative, pause and ask yourself why it fits the storyline your beliefs create. If you experience any kind of abusive treatment, for example, this reflects a victimhood story supported by a core belief that keeps you in the story. If you experience unexpected kindness, on the other hand, this reflects a storyline that includes compassion and reflects a core belief in how much you deserve love.

A core belief that God has plans to prosper you, will take you through any setback.

• Valeri Bocage started Powerful Women International in 2006 after moving to San Francisco, a move that was prompted by the loss of everything during Hurricane Katrina in New Orleans. Valeri lost everything except her indomitable spirit to help others. Initially, Powerful Women International was formed to help women live their dreams and to begin to support each other worldwide to fulfill their utmost dreams and expand themselves as leaders worldwide.

Show notes and questions:

2: How did Valerie overcome losing everything in Hurricane Katrina?
3: How did Valerie build and assemble her teams?
4: How did Valerie use the media to promote her business?
5: How did she overcome obstacles?
6: What inspired Valerie to start PWIC?

All-girl engineer team invents solar-powered tent for the homeless

Daniela Orozcoshe recalls how many homeless people she saw on her way to school when she was a high school freshman.

Just one.

Four years later, the number has multiplied. People live on a main thoroughfare near the school, at a nearby park, and below the off-ramps and bridges in her hometown of San Fernando, which is about 20 miles northwest of downtown Los Angeles. In the San Fernando Valley, homelessness increased 36% to 7,094 people last year, according to the Los Angeles Homeless Services Agency’s annual count. Daniela and her friends wanted to help, but giving money wasn’t an option.

“Because we come from low-income families ourselves, we can’t give them money,” the high school senior says.

“We wanted to offer something besides money,” her classmate, Veronica Gonzalez, chimes in.

That was the starting point for their invention: a solar-powered tent that folds up into a rollaway backpack. The girls and 10 others from their high school had never done any hands-on engineering work before, but with the help of YouTube, Google, and trial-and-error, they got it done.

They hope that one day, their tent will improve the lives of people experiencing homelessness in their community.

Real Estate Investments: Fund, Fix, Flip series – How to Get Started with Wholesaling

How to get started with Real Estate Wholesaling

“A real estate wholesaler contracts with a home seller, markets the home to his potential buyers, and assigns the contract to the buyer. The wholesaler makes a profit, which is the difference between the contracted price with the seller and the amount paid by the buyer.”

Tip of the week: So What Exactly is Wholesaling Real Estate?

Wholesaling is often marketed as a low-to-no cost way of getting into real estate investing and this can be true. A new wholesaler can certainly profit with a much lower initial cash outlay than an investor who has to buy a property and rehab it. However, the successful wholesaler has to have a firm grasp of what makes for an attractive deal – once you understand this process of wholesaling, it becomes much easier and can be broken down into a serious of repeatable steps.

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My co-host today on this podcast is Trevor Evans.
Trevor is a Professional Speaker, Real Estate Investor, Retail Store Owner.
Speaker/Trainer for Rich Dad Education and Founder of Personal Awakening brand “Being Normal Sucks.”
Trevor has also been married for 19 years and have 2 beautiful daughters ages 22 and 18.

Bio: Coach Myrna Young –
Certified Professional Spiritual, Life and Executive Leadership
Coach, Motivational Speaker, Published Author, Realtor and Real Estate Investor
Past president and CEO of A Royal Livery Limousine Service, and Entrepreneur of the year, Myrna is now the President and CEO of MyHelps Consulting LLC. I am also married and the mother of 5 children. Myrna currently lives in South Florida.

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Show Notes:

• Topic: How to get started with real estate wholesaling
1. Question 1: Tell us of your path to becoming a Speaker/Trainer for Rich Dad Education.
2. Question 2, What do you feel is a step by step plan to becoming a Real Estate Wholesaler?

Step 1: Create a Database of buyers:
Contact local Rehabbers and Contractors and ask them what kind of properties they are looking for to rehab.
You can find them at your local Chamber of Commerce or your local REIA

Ask them these questions.
1. What kind of properties are they currently rehabbing?
2. Type of properties they like to work with Eg. Single family or multi family?
3. What are they certified to work on? Eg. Are they certified to work on burn down or water damaged properties?

Step 2: Put an AD on Craigslist
Ask the following questions when you get responses to your AD
1. Is the property listed with a Realtor?
2. Are you speaking with the owner of the property?
3. Is the property in Foreclosure, probate, bank owned, or free and clear
4. Does the property need rehab? If so what is the estimated cost of repair.

Step 3: Put together your power team which includes your Title and Escrow Agent.
If you structure your deals properly, you could use one escrow deposit for 10 properties!

Question 3. In our first episode you talk about process. You said that setting up a process prevents failure.
What is the process for the real estate Wholesaler?

Wholesaler Website: do you need one

My friends at Connected Investors wrote this article on Getting started with real estate Wholesaling.

Wholesaling is often touted as the easiest entry point into the world of investing in real estate. And financially speaking the barriers to entry are generally a lot lower, especially when compared to fix and flipping or buy and hold investing. Many experienced, professional investors have door-knocked and bandit-signed their way up the REI ladder without having more than a cell phone, gas money, and the will to WIN. read more …
http://connectedinvestors.com/blog/find-it/wholesaler-website/

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Free eBook: Wholesale Plan of Action Cheat Sheet

This cheat sheet was created by Trevor Evans and Myself and goes into further detail on the Wholesaling steps.

How to Find Beauty in Your Now!

How to find beauty in your Now!

Finding beauty in your Now is the point of all power that unlocks healing, growth, strength, peace, desires, success, and happiness says my guest this week on the Mindset Transformation radio show and podcast.

This week I interview Aireka Harvell, aspiring motivational speaker who focuses on transforming the minds and lives of women with her blog “Be That Woman.” She is also the Founder of Nodat Place Advertising LLC. where she encourages and promotes female entrepreneurship and offers daily motivation and support through her social media platforms.

Today our topic is “How to find Beauty in your Now”
Aireka has a powerful story of overhearing a mother telling her son that she was ugly and that she would treat him better when she was just 9 years old. That tag stayed with her throughout her life and gave birth to low self esteem, becoming a Pleaser and allowing her husband to mentally and physically abuse her. Aireka lived in darkness for most of her life, until one day she heard the voice of God telling her to Help other women “Be That Woman” he made them to be.

Today she has a huge following on Instagram and on her blog and offers Hope and Encouragement with her daily posts.

Listen to find out How to control your mind and bring it under subjection when thoughts of fear and hopelessness threaten to stomp out your joy.

Learn that there is opportunity to learn and grow from every situation.

The tip of the week from Coach Myrna is an except from the book The University of Success by Og Mandino

A Conversation with our manufacturer (God)
God: Tell me “what is your purpose down there on earth”

Man: Well you know “I want to work hard and not hurt anyone, and I want to get along with folks and stay out of trouble”
God: “But what about your talents”

Man: Well what talents I have and there are not much, I take good care of. I kind of pace myself, you know.
No, No,No God shouted, your answers are all wrong. Don’t you remember the story of the talents?

Man: Yes I think so … You gave each of three men a different set of talents. To one man, you gave five talents. To another man, you gave two talents. And to the third, you gave but one talent.

“That’s right says God: and some years later I checked up on each of these three men. I was pleased to find that the man with five talents had multiplied his talents by working hard, and applying each one. The man whom I gave two talents had also labored hard and multiplied them. But when I checked with the man I had only given one talent, I became very angry. For that man had buried his talent in the name of protecting it. To which I cursed him saying “thou wicked and slothful servant” how dare you not use the gifts I gave you. You Knew that I reap where I have not sown and gather where I scattered no seed.
Do you not get the point of this parable?

Man: Yes I think so. I am to use the talents you gave me and multiply them to help others.

God: Let me ask you another question
“Who is in charge of your life?”

Man: I am responsible for my life – but with a few exceptions. I mean sometimes you just don’t get the breaks, you know. Sometimes things just don’t go my way, but that is the way the ball bounces or the way the cookie crumbles”

God jumped to his feet “No, No, No, he shouted. “When will you learn, you are totally responsible for your life, no exceptions. You are totally responsible for the results you obtain. Not your mother, not your father, not your boss. It’s not the breaks, that control your life, it’s you. Don’t ever say that is the way the ball bounces, that it is the way the cookie crumbles. You must bounce your own ball!

Man: Okay, okay I think I see. The fact is that I have been put on earth to succeed, I have an obligation, a responsibility, to use my abilities to the fullest. I must control my life, for I wasn’t designed to be led. I prefer excellence to mediocrity. I won’t prevent my own success, for all success requires is that I am here, and that I use my talents to the world and not wait for the world to come to me. And I will act now, no matter how convenient waiting may seem, no matter how imperfect might be the results I obtain.
Tears welled up in God’s eyes, a smile creased his face.

God: “Thou wonderful and faithful servant, take all the love and energy and talent that you have and share it. Share it with all you meet, until it seems you have no more to give, there will always be more and more in reserve. Your potential extends beyond your wildest imaginings. The only limitations you will ever face will be those you place on yourself”

Johanna Sevier Robb says in her blog post on How to find the Beauty in Everyday Present Moments:

There is so much beauty in the world—and because this crazy, gorgeous life is so fleeting, I want to focus on the beauty.

No, I won’t turn my eyes away from the horrors of the world. But I also won’t become so consumed by these horrors that I no longer notice the wind dancing on the water. Or the tender grasp of my lover. Or the plant on the windowsill stretching toward the sunlight.

I’m not trying to downplay the crap. But I don’t want to crumple into a small, powerless mess each and every time I read the news.

Negativity sells. Sensationalism sells. But this is not reality.

Sure, man’s inhumanity to man is real. But generosity, kindness, humility and love is also real. And I still believe in humanity. Only a tiny bit of the present world can be summed up by violence and acts of terror. Only a tiny bit of human history can be summed up by wars and acts of cruelty.
read more …..https://www.elephantjournal.com/2016/08/how-to-find-the-beauty-in-everyday-present-moments/

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Investing in Real Estate: What is the number one mistake people make trying to flip houses?

What is the Number one mistake people make when Flipping houses

The number one mistake people make when investing in real estate is investing before understanding the rules. Listen to learn the rules to win the game of investing in real estate.

A few weeks ago I interviewed my co host Trevor Evans on the topic “The path to Financial Freedom” We received such an overwhelming response to that topic that I decided to have a spin off series on Real Estate Investing. Trevor Evans is a Speaker/Trainer for Legacy Education Alliance and Rich Dad Education. Entrepreneur, Real Estate Investor. Banker and Founder of Personal Awakening Brand “Being Normal Sucks.”

We will start off our series teaching on one of the most popular investment strategies in Real Estate Investing “Funding, Fixing and Flipping.

Flip or Flop

Doing my research for this topic, I found that there is a plethora of mistakes beginning investors make when working with rehab properties. Many of them because of watching shows life MTV’s Flip or Flop where they always end up making the right choices and thus make thousands of dollars in profit!

My co host and I both agree, since we are both Abraham Hicks students, there is nothing wrong with looking for contrast around you and choosing what you want to bring into your vortex.
We are setting the intention that all you would be investors or current investors will gleam from our knowledge and make fewer mistakes with your real estate investments. So if you do fail, you would fail forward!

One of those investment vehicles is to Fund, Fix and Flip houses. It is by far the most popular vehicle because of the opportunity to make a lot of money quickly.

So, make sure you tune in to this podcast twice per month for our series or subscribe to my podcast so as not to miss anything!

In keeping with the format of the show, I want to leave you with my tip of the week.

This week’s tip of the week: Winter is the best time to purchase Real Estate”
From the book “Your money and how to keep it” by Brian Costello

“While economic development can make a difference when it comes to purchasing a house, there is no question that winter is by far the best time to buy.
Think about it for a minute, the weather is freezing cold, the winds are gusting, everything is covered with snow, everybody wants to stay inside where it is warm – and those few who do go outside to see houses that look unattractive because they are knee-deep in snow are serious buyers. Could there be a worst time to be out braving the elements looking for a house? No.
And that’s exactly what happens. Everybody sits tight. No one even thinks about buying a house in the winter months. They are all waiting for the grass to turn green and the flowers to start to bloom.
In the meantime, houses are being put up for sale. The biggest reasons for selling a house still affect the marketplace, no matter what the weather. They include family breakups, company transfers, deaths, and financial hardships.
When a family splits, it’s not uncommon for the house to go up for sale right away as neither spouse has enough money to pay for it outright. If your boss decides to transfer you to another city, you generally have no choice but to move. As a result, your house might be on the market right away, no matter what the market is like. Most of us can’t afford to pay the cost of accommodations in two different locations.

Death, financial hardship, and divorce happens throughout the year; summer and winter. But to have them happen when there are fewer buyers interested in another house always works in the favor of the buyer. It is the old law of supply and demand. And that is what you see in the winter months. There is more supply than there are buyers, so the buyer is in a much better position to demand a lower price, better financing terms or a combination of both.
Winter is also a good time to check that the thermostat is working correctly by looking for heat loss. If the prospective house has less snow on the roof than the other houses, it could indicate that insulation is lacking. When you get inside the house you can listen to the furnace. If it goes on and off while you are there, you know that the house has drafts or furnace problems.
These are some of the reasons why winter is the very best time to get a bargain.”

That is my tip of the week. I hope that you received some nuggets about house hunting for bargains.

Here are some show notes from our expert Trevor Evans:

Words do not make you an expert, experience does. I practice what I teach.

Trevor feels that he is an expert because he is not only a teacher but he is putting in work in the field.

Question: “What is the catalyst to your success as an investor?”
Answer: “Understanding the rules.”

Reasons for failure as an Investor

Most people play the game of investing in real estate with enthusiasm and talent.
Talent could be their investment funds or just understanding money.
But in any game, You should play to win!
In order to win, like in any sport, you must understand the rules.

If you don’t understand the rules, your talent and your enthusiasm will run out before you can win!

But if you combine your Talent and Enthusiasm with Competence, then you could win the championship or make lots of money!

So let’s answer the question:

The Number One Mistake People Make – Getting into the Rehab Game?

Watching TV shows like the Flip or Flop people think that they can just buy a house, throw some money into it and then flip it and make lots of money.
They do not see the underlying problems that happen to first time investors who do not know the rules of the game.
The flip or Flop investors are doing great now; but I am sure it took them a number of years of failure by trial and error to understand the rules to win the game.

Investing is not easy but it is simple, if you follow the rules

Over your head

It is a process that is done through setting up a system or a set of principles.

Principles do not create success, they prevents failure.

3 Reasons for Failure:
1. They get emotionally involved
2. They pay retail
3. They become intimidated

Listen in to learn how to overcome these reasons for failure.

5 Keys to a Successful Mission Driven Life or Business

Leadership is about using the most effective strategies to conquer obstacles while taking consistent steps to move forward when tackling your vision; whether that vision is within the workplace, as a leader of a business or personal leadership.

5 Keys to a Mission Driven Life and Business

Today on the Mindset Transformation radio show and podcast, we focus on Leadership; Keys to a successful mission driven life or business.

Success in life depends on what kind of a leader you are. You may say I am not a leader, I am not a manager or a CEO, true but self leadership is more important than how many people you lead in your home or place of work.

#coachMyrna Tip of the Week

Here are 5 Essential Disciplines for Self Leadership to Lead a Mission Driven Life:

Discipline #1 Accountability
You must learn to take full responsibility for everything on your watch. This means that the fish stinks from the head down!

Discipline # 2 Focus
As a Leader, you will wear many hats. Success comes from knowing where to focus your attention. Everything is important.
Acquiring the skill of discrimination allows the leader to discern what is most important and least important.

Discipline # 3 Organization
Organization is the skill through which chaos is turned into order.

Discipline # 4 Innovation
As a leader you will begin to consciously focus your attention and discriminate where the maximum leverage is.
You will recognize the need for continual improvement and for innovation in your processes.

Discipline # 5 Communication
The skill of communication is evident in how well you communicate your passion, vision, mission to your employees, customers and self

This week on the Mindset Transformation radio and podcast, I interview Business coach, Daphne Lynn Valcin
Daphne’s talks to us about the keys to a successful mission driven life or business.
Since 90% of startup businesses fail, Daphne believes that the quality of life and business leadership is at the root of success or failure.
She believes that leadership is about using the most effective strategies to conquer obstacles while taking consistent steps to move forward when tackling your vision, whether that vision is within the workplace, as a leader of a business or personal leadership.

Show notes:
. Daphne explains what is true leadership.
. What sets successful startup businesses apart from those that fail.
. How a business coach helps clients.
. What does a thriving business look like.
. What are some of the biggest mistakes companies do with their sales and marketing efforts.
. What are some of the characteristics of successful leaders.

Here are 11 strategies for effective leadership from Young Entrepreneur Council:

Leadership advice from Dale Carnegie

When managing my team, I use a tactic from Dale Carnegie: Think in terms of the other person’s wants. The goal is to align a team member’s natural talents and preferences with the company’s goals. What do they want? What motivates them? What do they like to do? Then manage them to reinforce what they want and how they can achieve those things through their work.

How to Program Yourself for Positive Change

How to Program Yourself for Positive Change

This week on Mindset Transformation radio, Coach Myrna interviews coach Dan Willms, Positive Change MBA professor. Out topic today is “How to Program yourself for positive change.

Before I introduce coach Dan Willms, Here is my tip of the week.

From the book Switch: How to change things when change is hard
by Chip Heath and Dan Heath

Here are the facts:

Change is a process

1: Change is usually a situation problem, and not a personal problem.
2: For anything to change, someone must behave differently.
3: To change someone behavior, you must change someone’s situation.
4: For change to stick you must influence the person’s heart and mind.

Here is the story of Arthur that I found on line to illustrate the above points.
Arthur was an airborne paratrooper. Jumping out of airplanes killed his knees, his back, his legs. When he got out of the army he walked with a cane and couldn’t do anything so he gained a lot of weight. He could not support his weight, so he couldn’t do traditional exercise. His health rapidly declined. The doctor at the VA clinic told him to accept his faith, that he would never walk normal again.

One day while surfing the internet, he came across Diamond Dallas Page doing yoga. He said to himself, I could do this. So He bought the DVD! He figured he could use his arm to support his weight and get a cardio workout. Arthur was 297 lbs when he started doing yoga.
When he started his yoga exercises, he kept falling down and falling down, but he kept getting back up again and again!
Every day he got better and better in 10 months he had lost over 100 lbs and could not only walk without a cane but he could run!!

Change is usually situational. Arthur had a situational problem.

Arthur taught himself to do yoga because he decided to take control of his life. He got his heart and mind in the game and changed the situation!

Change is a process.
To lead a process requires persistence. Arthur kept getting back up and trying again to do his exercises.

When a change starts, it builds on itself.
The better Arthur got at yoga, the more he was motivated to keep going.
Small changes can snowball.
Change rarely works unless it is motivated by feeling. Arthur wanted to feel better about himself so he made the hard choices.

That’s my tip of the week from coach. How to change when change is hard.
There can be nothing harder than trying to loose 100 lbs when you can’t use your legs but Arthur found a way and so can you.

Our guest today is coach Dan Willms and he is a positive change guru. This is his space.

Dan Willms is a Life & Business Coach, an MBA Professor, a facilitator for The Leadership Challenge, a writer and an International Speaker – he is also the creator of the Positive Change Workshop and facilitates his workshops in Portuguese, English & Spanish. He has facilitated more than 118 Positive Change Workshops. He loves helping people and organizations to achieve their fullest potential. He is the co-author of the book Strategic Leadership (Liderança Estratégica) and the author of the upcoming book “Positive Change – One life @ a time”.

Dan is also my partner, we do a video blog on YouTube every week called “You asked for it” where we answer questions sent in from our social media network. Like us on Facebook to become part of our community. Myrna Young Lifecoach and Dan Willms.

Show notes:
Question 1. Tell us about your journey to becoming a Life coach and an ambassador for positive change.
Question 2: What is The Positive Change?
Question 3: Tell me about your happiness labs, how does it work?
Question 4: : What were your findings on these labs from your sample size of 400 people?
Question 5: So, based on your labs, what would you say is the secret to happiness?
Question 6: Why do you think is there so much unhappiness in the world?

Coach Myrna and coach Dan, Why we repeat the past

How To Transform Behavior in the Workplace

How to Transform Behavior in the Workplace
How to Transform Behavior in the Workplace

Today on the Mindset Transformation radio show and podcast, I interview Gena Yuvette Davis, a board certified executive coach, corporate trainer and organizational development consultant. Gena is going to talk to us today on the topic “How to Transform Behavior in the Workplace”

In keeping with my custom, I would like to share with you my tip of the week from coach Myrna.
Since Gena is going to talk today on How to Transform Behavior in the workplace, I want to share “How to remove old conditioning in your personal life”.
How to Remove old conditioning:

The physical component of the mind body connection, is the brain.
The mind is the software and the physical brain is the hardware.
If your brain, the hardware, is stuck in old patterns, even with the best of intentions, the software, the mind, won’t work.
If you let your brain keep you repeating the same patterns, you become like a biological robot.
Your words thoughts and actions become totally predictable.
We are all victims of repetitive patterns.

To change the patterns that are not serving you, the solution is awareness.

Here are 5 habits that are usually automatic.

1: Snacking non – stop even when not hungry
2: Spending too much time on the couch watching TV
3: Overspending your way into debt
4: Eating too much fast foods
5: Skipping breakfast
6: Late night snacking
7: Smoking cigarettes

How can you bring awareness to these habits and interrupt your pattern?

Let’s look at.
Snacking non stop
– whenever you feel the need to grab that bag of chips, stop and ask yourself
What am I really needing?
What need is this food really filling?

The moment you take a moment to think about your action, you interrupt your pattern.
You are on your way to breaking that habit. Even if you still eat that bag of chips.
You are on to way to removing old conditioning. Awareness is the key.

Another way to remove old conditioning is to:

– change your state
Let’s say you are sitting on the couch and you reach for the bowl of nachos on the table or the bags of chips from our previous example.
Just as you think the thought to command your hands to reach for the bowl; Change your state!
Get up and walk to the bathroom or to the mailbox. Move your physical body into a different position.

The 3rd way you can remove old conditioning is to:

Create a new habit – rewire the physical component.
Let look at our example of skipping Breakfast.
Make it easy.
– buy a drinkable breakfast and grab it on the way out of the door.
– have your partner make you breakfast.
– prepare a sandwich the night before and eat on the way to work.
– set the alarm 15 mins earlier.

These are a few ways to remove old conditioning and transform behavior in your personal life.

• Guest Biography
• Gena Yuvette Davis is a board certified executive coach, corporate trainer and organizational development consultant who truly believes that the “magic comes from within!”

• Authentically committed to empowering and inspiring others to be their best selves, Gena specializes in working with clients from a variety of industries who are on the fast track to taking their careers to next level. She is also a change agent for organizations who wish to transform their companies into diverse, collaborative and thriving workforces. Her drive and energy is infectious as she is able to elevate her clients and help them live to their true potential.

• Gena’s coaching, training and consulting style is intuitive, always full of energy, and with a touch of gentle persistence! Knowing that the answers are already within, Gena’s job is simply to be the way-shower of what is already known to be true – “success attained.” She is dedicated to assisting individuals and organizations to achieve excellence in ways that support integrity and a collaborative spirit. In addition to executive coaching and training in the areas of emotional intelligence, leadership effectiveness, communication skills and reputation management, her work includes a variety of strategic consulting services such as strategic planning, change management, retreat planning and facilitation, employee engagement, team-building, as well as diversity and inclusion initiatives. Her focus is on developing collaborative processes and as a thinking partner to foster learning, dialogue, and innovation.

• Topic Discussion
• Topic: Best Practices to Transform Behavior In the Workplace

• 1) What is “Behavioral Transformation?”
• 2) Why is behavioral transformation so difficult?
• 3) What are the different communication and behavioral styles?
• 4) What are three best practices to behavioral transformation in the workplace
• 5) What can we do to be our own advocates for change?
• 6) Can we really transform our work environment through behavioral transformation? How?

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How to YouTube like a World Class Celebrity

How to become a YouTube Celebrity
How to become a YouTube Celebrity

Welcome to the Mindset Transformation radio show, blog and podcast. Our guest this week is Hero Maker, Nate Woodbury.
Nate is going to teach us “How to YouTube like a World Class Celebrity”

Before I introduce you to Nate, I wanted to give you my marketing tip of the week.

Tip of the week:

I have lived and breathed marketing for over 3 years. I started with daily posts on Linkedin and Linkedin groups, daily posts to twitter, a daily newspaper from Paper-li, daily posts to my personal Facebook page and posts to my fan page, a weekly blog like the one you are reading, a weekly newsletters and now I too have a YouTube Channel! Whew! Marketing is a monster with two or more heads!!

I didn’t even mention creating content for my website www.myrnayounghelps.com ! In fact, I met our guest today Nate Woodbury when he sent me a customized video telling me how he can make my website better.

I had received many sales pitches for creating a nicer website; but no one took the time to do a personalized pitch like Nate. So, I bought his website creation package and today I have a fabulous website that am proud of.

But having a nice website is like having a pretty business card that you keep in your purse! The trick is to get traffic to that site. That is called Digital Marketing!

I just recently attended a webinar and I learned a ton of information about traffic generation so I will share one of them with you today.

Competitive Intelligence

One of the tools to get more traffic to your site is to use a site called Semrush.com to check out what and how your competition is marketing and of course try to copy them. It is not illegal! That is why companies like Semrush exist!
E.G If you are on YouTube check out what the guy who is getting 1,000,000 views is doing and copy what you can.

Here is a guy Casey Neistat who uploads a video every day and has over 3,000,000 subscribers

https://www.youtube.com/user/caseyneistat

When you log on Semrush, put in the URL of your competitor in the search bar and the information on your competitor comes up. The keywords that is working for them, the ADs they are running, what ADs are working for them. You can check our who is linking to their site and contact those sites to link to your site. Links are like votes. The more you have, the better chance you have of winning. But the most valuable information is keyword search because that is how you get traffic, by using the right keywords.

Now that I have wet your appetite for marketing, here is the main course Nate Woodbury.

Here is Nate’s Bio:

• Are you an Expert with a Message the world needs to hear? Are you tired of spending so much time online without seeing a significant return?

What would you do if you had 1,000,000 views on your YouTube Channel this year?
Not just views, but real, organic, engaging views from people who most needed to hear you.

Well That’s what Nate does. He can take an expert like you and me, who is influencing the world for good, and turn you and me into a YouTube celebrity. I’m in!
• Leave out the snootiness and paparazzi, but bring on the tribe of raving fans who admire you and me, crave our advice, and follow our council.

So if any of the following applies to you, then stick around and learn from the Best!
[1] Are you an Expert with a Message the world needs to hear?
[2] Do you want millions of views on your videos?
[3] Do you want people lining up in droves, for the privilege of working with you?

One more important question…
[4] Are you ready to work real hard for a year, and let momentum do the heavy lifting after that?

Show Notes and questions:

1. How did you become passionate about video?

2 There are many social media channels. Why do you like YouTube?

3 How does someone get 1,000,000 views on YouTube? What is the process?

Question 4: What is your advice on crafting the perfect message?

Question 5: You mention that the first year requires heavy lifting and after that the momentum will carry you forward.
What is considered heavy lifting.

Question 6: How do you make a promotional video?

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