How to Fuel Your Personal Growth as a Millennial

Are you a Millennial or parent of a Millennial? In today’s show we talk, personal growth, with the author of the Millennial’s Playbook to Adulting, Ms Arika Pierce

Are you a Millennial or parent of a Millennial? In today’s show we talk, personal growth, with the author of the Millennial’s Playbook to Adulting, Ms Arika Pierce

Show Transcript:

Today what we want to focus on is giving Millennial’s some clarity on, personal growth, and development. We both know that learning should not stop when you leave school.

What advice would you give Millennials to keep growing? Millennials are in the growth stage of life, what advice would you give them? I know in your book you touch on quite a few, let me count them one two three four you know you’ve got a bit of a ten tips. We don’t have time to talk about all the ten, but pick some of the top ones and share how you would advise Millennials to keep growing.

I think especially after you get out of school and Millennials, are sort of over trying to learn from textbooks, people are just exhausted from that textbook and learning from your professors and things like that; but I do encourage Millennials to become students of life. By that I mean opening your eyes to all the things that you can learn from different people, new experiences just being open to continuing to stretch your horizon and to be multifaceted and to be just a well-rounded person. In my book, for example, I suggest things such as reading biographies about people that you’re curious about or maybe who you want to know. Learn more about their path. I also believe that you should do things like watch documentaries on Netflix about different types of topics that you might be interested in or just want to know more about. I also think listening to podcast that’s huge for me and so that’s why I love your podcast. I listen to podcast really throughout my day on various types of topics, it could be something around expanding your mindset, it could be something around the news, it could be anything. There’s so much out there that you can really stretch your mind and learn. Going to different types of events. I always tell people if you get invited, go to something and especially if it’s something that you probably would be interested in doing. Go to the Opera, go to a hockey game even though you don’t know what’s going on, go to a book talk, go to a wine tasting, whatever it is just expand your horizon. Learning does not stop once you walk across the stage. You should always every day be learning more about yourself, about life, about other people, just always be curious and be a student of the world and of life.

Awesome, that’s some good advice I love the podcast one because that’s a big one. I actually showed my mom just yesterday how to put podcasts on her phone.

That’s the space that we’re in right now. I will tell you I started listening to podcast just to learn what some of the successful podcasters are doing. If there’s something you want to learn, you go to an event, you go to book signing. That’s why people write books. You can take ten years to learn something or you can take ten minutes to read how someone else did it in a book, and that’s the purpose of books. Because I want to learn how to be better at what I do, I start listening to podcast, you would not believe how my mind has been expanded. I subscribe to TuneIn radio, so that I can research how that works and what Hot Talk radio was all about. I happened to come across the Hay House World Summit podcast and you would not believe what I’ve been learning. I listen to podcasts every morning when I walk. I walk for an hour every day so I that’s my learning time and I my eyes are wide open because this podcast have guest speakers all the top people in the spirituality and consciousness and health space.

I try to bring good content on this show so that people can plug in and hear something inspiring and mindset shifting. This podcast is not all about shooting the breeze. I went through your book and I made a note of some of the things that you mentioned and I’ll mention a couple of them because it’s very important you talked about:
• Keeping your mind healthy. You start off by talking about depression. Depression is very big right now. I don’t know where it’s coming from, but a lot of people are depressed, even the ones that you think should be happy, that has a lot of money. Still trouble with depression. You start out by saying, keep your mind healthy and that’s very important when you talk about staying motivated.
• Find a healthy outlet. Journaling, painting, baking, etc and stuff like that that keeps your mind healthy. I talked about journaling, I think it’s great but it’s not for everybody. I think you know it’s not something some people can do it every single day, some people just do it on a periodic basis. I believe don’t be hard on yourself about doing it, but if sometimes you need a place to get your thoughts get your feelings out thinking on paper can honestly be a great way to do that.
• Getting into healthy routines. I just wrote a blog that’s coming out next week about a morning routine. I think establishing a morning routine can help you set the intention and tone for the rest of your day and so actually think sitting down and thinking about what you want your routine to be and doing it that could be transformative. I’ve just recently sort of created a new morning routine and it really has changed my mindset for the whole day. Just making sure there are these five or six things that I do before I start my day.

That’s awesome, you know again as you talk my mind goes to certain things and I was just listening to a podcast where Barbara Corrigan was speaking and we all know her from Shark Tank. She has done a lot for herself, she said something that I did as a little variation for what you just said. She said write down the things that you like to do and write down the things you don’t like to do and instead of trying to do the things you don’t like to do, and then find an assistant or an intern and delegate the things you don’t like to do.

If you’re still trying to just figure out what direction you want to go in life, I think that’s a great time to get it to get a coach. Honestly I think the hardest part is just identifying what exactly you need the coach for, sometimes you want the coach to help you with your professional development, in terms of where you want to take your career. Sometimes it could be helping you balance your work versus your personal life. You might need a coach just in terms of helping you get to the next level of your dreams. There’s all different types of ways you can leverage and use a coach. I really think that it’s never too soon to do that. Today, there’s lots of coaches who focus on the millennial generation, which I think is great. I think those people really understand what the generation is going through and can really help them work through all of those challenges. I wasn’t focused on the millennial generation until I recognized that my daughter being a millennial and her struggles and the things that she needs help with and then I put them two and two together; but I thought what there’s lots of people in that bucket that could do maybe good guidance and direction. Yeah so you’re right, I haven’t come across a lot of millennial coaches; but I know that Millennials are the generation that’s moving the bucket in a lot of areas. That’s because they’re a large group, they’re the movers and the shakers.

So as we continue our discussion on, personal growth, as a millennial, I want to ask this question. In your book Arika, you give advice on how to care for your body so how can we incorporate caring for your body with, personal growth, and development?

I believe that when you work on your mind, when you strengthen your mind, a lot of that has to also be your body and soul, they’re all connected. When you are taking care of yourself when you’re eating right, when you’re exercising, I believe your mind is just in a different place. You feel those endorphins, everything is flowing. I had a workout this morning where I came up with three different things while I was working out that I wanted to incorporate. When you feel good you just can really, transform your mindset, in a very positive way. I believe that when you are you believe that you’re invincible, and start taking care of yourself, eating right, making sure you’re drinking enough water, making sure that you know you’re working out on a regular basis, making sure you’re meditating, when all of those are aligned I believe that your life in terms of what you want to do, in terms of having the energy to do them, all falls into place. But you can’t take your body for granted, because we actually only get one and you know if your body isn’t right usually everything else isn’t right either.

That’s awesome, I was listening I was listening to Louise Hay, she was talking about something that she calls the mirror work. She says is that women especially should go in front of the
mirror every day when they wake up, when they look their worst and they should say to themselves, “ I love you, you are so awesome.” I have no problem with self-love, I love myself, but I still do it every morning. I look myself in the eye and I say “I love you you’re awesome.” What she’s trying to do with that little exercise is bring exactly what you’re talking about the mind-body connection. When you love the body that you’re in, when you love you, then it transcends into every area of your life, it transcends into your confidence, it transcends into what you put in your body, how you treat it, how you let people treat you. There’s definitely a correlation with exercise into listening and connecting to your higher self. I wrote my entire first book and it was called ironically “Becoming Conscious, my Awakening” I would go for run in the morning and all the words would come to me and I would go to the car right after and start writing. I will tell you if I tried if I tried to circumvent and write at night or something it wouldn’t go as smooth, because then I’ll be trying to force it, but when it just comes to me it came to me when I was running, the words just flowed. Like when you were exercising this morning. So the mind-body connection is very important, and that’s why I decided to include it in our topic today, because a lot of people do not care for their body and especially when they’re young and they don’t have any aches and pains, they kind of ignore it.

I was listening to another podcast just yesterday again on the Hay House World Summit and listened to Ocean Robbins, I love his name, I told my daughter she has to name my grandchild Ocean. He is actually is the grandson of Baskin Robbins and he had an incredible story about how his grandfather ate ice cream all day long, he had at least 21 flavors in his fridge at all times. He ate ice cream for breakfast and lunch! When he got to 70 years old, he had all these health problems because of the diet that he had all his life. He had heart problems but his story ended well, because started eating well, he started doing certain things, eating well, including cutting out ice cream and he was still able to turn it around. That’s not an encouragement for anybody listening to wait until they’re in their 70’s and in poor health to get started on a healthy lifestyle, but yeah you can still do it.

Most Millennials are in school, I think a lot of Millennials go on to higher education. They’re working on feeding their mind as far as you know as far as education and career and things like that. The reason I talked about, personal growth, because as I coach, I know that there’s a difference. I would like to hear your spin on the difference between studying for a career and actually, personal growth.

When we think about professional growth as you just said that that’s very connected to what you are focused on career-wise, your job. I think when you start to think about what you want to personally achieve for yourself, that may or may not be connected to your professional life, because there definitely is some overlap between the two. I think really people just have to always think about looking inside and how do they define themselves, outside of their career.
Millennials you’re thinking about how you want to define yourself as a person and defining yourself as a person is not just what your career is and so it’s very easy to get into a life pattern where you’re only focus and your own the only thing that you know to that you gravitate to in terms of your growth, in terms of your brand.

When you ask “What is your, personal growth, plan” which is now something I heard from Brian Tracy he talks about you know spending all his money when he was a youngster to purchase something that called a, personal growth, plan. If I was to ask a Millennial, they might answer in terms of there career trajectory. But that is not a, personal growth plan because it’s only it is only touching on one area of a multi-faceted spiritual being. Deepak Chopra is one of the people that I follow and I love, he talks about asking “who are you?” who is the person that’s doing the listening right now? You ask yourself these questions “Who am I?” “What am I here to do?” You just ask God that question and even let God answer. Your personal growth plan links up to your purpose.

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How Can Millennial’s Find Their Purpose

Adulting and Purpose

As Millennial’s deal with adulting, they ask themselves, What is my purpose? What is the reason for my existence?

Today on the “Transform your Mind with Coach Myrna Podcast”, I interview the Author of “The Millenial’s Playbook to Adulting”, Arika L. Pierce
The first step is to find your passion. This is where you find that

you can be in it all day long and you don’t feel tired and you don’t feel

bored and you’re just illuminated and just joyful and and it’s a great way

to live your life. You know when you live

a passionless life just because you’re making money does not mean that you are living with passion.

Let me share a personal story. My daughter always felt that she was supposed to be a

Psychologist, getting her degree and everything. Along that journey

she read Nelson’s Mandela’s book “A long walk to freedom” and decided that

she needed to become a political advocate and she just switched right

away. She applied and got into American University,

the top political science university with no background in politics.

Today she’s working for a company right next door

to the White House, and doing some great great work at Common Cause.

I didn’t even think about that until right now and that’s what I like about

the Holy Spirit or of my Higher Self

things pop into my head. It is also an example of leaning your ladder up against the wrong

building! My next question is a follow-up to the first and it is do you agree that

we’re all meant to do a certain thing on this earth? And what is your advice

to Millennial’s to find out their purpose? How Can Millennial’s Find Their Purpose?

Let’s say using my daughter story that she didn’t know what

her purpose was. She went to school and maybe felt

psychology is a job that can make her money that’s where a lot of Millennial’s

Park right, so what advice do you give them?

To answer your first question in terms of do I think we’re

all here to do something, yes I definitely believe that we individually

are all here to bring some value or offer something back to the

world. I believe some of us it takes longer than others

but; I do believe we are all here to accomplish something and I think we

probably give different weight to what we accomplish. Just because what you believe it is something small it can be

transformational to somebody else. In terms of what I believe Millennial’s can

do in terms of finding their purpose, I actually think it starts with a very

simple concept and that is honestly taking time to think and to plan and I

think when we sit back and you when you look at your life if you plan it with

the level of detail that you plan for example a vacation you’d be surprised

about you know how much how differently you might view things.

I recommend taking one hour a week to evaluate where you are and where you want to go.

The timeline might be where I want to go this week, it might be where I want to go

in the next year, in the next two years or five years from now. Whatever time

period I feel I need to think about it and plan for at that time for example if you’re thinking

I hate my job, it’s not fulfilling this is

not my purpose. Then you know think about what would make you feel more

purposeful? What are the types of positions or jobs that you would like to

be in? And then what are the steps that you need to take to get there. Do you

need to you know go back to school? Do you need to join a networking group?

My daughter came to me one day and said that she wants to become a politician

and I look at her this sweet innocent person that had no politician skills or

natural talents and I said to her

“How do you get there how do you get from where you are today to where you want to be tomorrow?”

As her coach we planned it Toastmasters and learn how to speak in front of people,

school for political science, volunteer so she can get

some political experience and things like that so yeah and you got to make a

plan and the beautiful thing about it you know is that it might feel

far-fetched but you never know if it’s really your purpose the universe, God

will step in and help you get there. That’s why when my daughter

applied to American University she said she only had a 30% chance of being accepted. She said I’ll apply there’s no hope

that I’m gonna get in and guess what she got in because she’s on purpose

because God helps you if you are on purpose.!

Don’t ever think that anything is too big for God.

Les Brown says reach for the the stars, you might fallback on the moon!

I agree. One of my favorite quotes is

If your dreams don’scare you, they’re not big enough.

You have to become comfortable with being uncomfortable and that’s

really I think when you accept that, it will help you in finding your purpose.

Especially if you’re not currently living what you believe to be your

purpose. I like that one I mean you you talked

about it before you must really live by that and it’s very true you know when my

daughter went to Washington she was incredibly uncomfortable, she was in

a city that she didn’t know anyone, she was going into something that she didn’t

know anything about and it was uncomfortable and that’s only way you

grow.

Alright so and this is coming from your book, you’ve got a

chapter in your book about your giving advice and strategies and how

Millennial’s can achieve their goals in the workplace; but I like the word hustle

that you used to describe this. You advise to hustle to get what you want in this world. I think when

you hustle you have to you have to be hungry you have to really want

it. You have to be motivated and so I think to your point earlier, when

it’s something that you truly want and you feel passionate about or you really

wanted to achieve the hustle actually comes fairly easy at least in the

beginning because you know you most likely will accept that challenge and want to go

after it. Where it becomes a challenging I would say is consistently

hustling, always having that thirst, that hunger to push yourself further and

that sometimes can be where we tend to fall off. That’s human

nature, you have to learn to hold yourself accountable and to make sure that you are you’re hitting

your own personal benchmarks and hitting your own personal

goals. And so a good way to keep the hustle mentality I would say is to make

sure that you have measurable things that you want to do and so that way

you’ve got a way to check yourself. I’ll give you an example and

this is a personal example. I want to be in better shape, which i think is a

goal that everyone has, most people have I should say. It’d be easy to say

I want to I want to work out more; but instead I tell myself, I want to go to the gym 170 times this year and that is a very measurable

thing for me because you know in the beginning I started this in January

I was on target, I was hitting it and so then February sort of started to

fall off, in March a little bit more and so in the past month I went and did the math

and I counted how many times I had gone however these days were left of the year

and so that was real data that said okay I got a hustle cause I only have so many

days of the year left. I can quickly

do sort of a check-in to see what I need to do to continue to get there something

like that can be applied to so many areas of your life. So

professionally you know when someone says I want to work in a different

industry I would say okay, why don’t you make a list of ten people that work

in that industry and give yourself a period of time to contact them and to

meet with them. And so again that’s measurable the in that very moment you

might say oh yeah let me reach out to all ten of them and then two weeks, two

months later you realize that you didn’t follow through and you didn’t end up

meeting with them or or you only met with two.

Something like that, so I think the best way to keep the

hustle is to hold yourself accountable and to really have some some specific

objectives that you have to check in, to make sure you’re going to

meet whatever is your at your end goal.

That’s awesome, very powerful analogy. I love the personal one that you did because

everybody knows and that is why they push gym memberships; because people have short term goals

and when those goals are accomplished, they abandon their goals. I

mean this is turning out to be an episode about my daughter but; all of a sudden recently

she has been going to kickboxing, she’s been working out at a

gym, and the first thing I said to her because I know her, what exactly is

your motivation? It turns out she’s going to Spain and she wants to look good in her bathing suit!

She’s hustling because she’s got a short-term goal. What I like about your analogy is that you’ve pushed it out for a year.

And you hold yourself accountable to that hundred and seventy.

You know if you get down to November and you want to be accountable to yourself

because it’s another thing that I you know I coach and I also I hold myself accountable to

because if your mind can’t trust you or your body can’t trust

you or you can’t trust you then it goes downhill from there.Sso if you may have a commitment

to yourself then you got to keep it. That is where coaching comes in because one of the

most powerful reasons to have a coach is to keep you accountable because most

people cannot keep themselves accountable. Me and you

probably can, because we’re coaches that work in that space but; a lot of people

can’t and they would go for five years and make any headway towards their goals.

I’ve coached lots of people that want to lose weight and you know something always

comes up; But as a coach we know there are all excuses.

But when I was talking about hustling I remember people like

jay-z and P-Diddy. Someone else just popped into my mind. I’m getting goosebumps at this one so there’s a powerful one you

know Tiffany Haddish she just won a an Academy Award by Essence Magazine. and she told

her story and she talked about the hustle. She was homeless, she was living

in a car and she told of hustling her manager every day. She would go to her managers office every day

asking what she got for her. Begging her to put me in something put me in

anything! and she hustled she didn’t sit home and wait for the call.

Then you know finally they they put her in something and she was the breakout

star in “Girls Trip” now she’s everywhere she’s got like three movies and a TV show!

One of my favorite I would say just hustlers and it has

nothing to do with even being a fan of his music or art but really it’s Puff

Daddy. I live in Washington DC and Puff gave a speech at Howard University and what

some people may not know is that he really wanted to work in the music industry and he would take the train

or the bus every single day up to New York

and he would wash the car of one of the top music executives Andre Harrell and

so and he would do that, just go back and forth you know I mean it’s a

four-hour train ride back and forth but that’s what he did until he finally got

a job at the record label and so and what’s interesting example yeah yes and

I’m one that I follow him on social media because he’s always trying to motivate

and he’s always hustling me the man has all the money all right he has

that hustle mentality where you know he’s hosting a TV show he’s still making

music he still you know producing people he’s putting his son’s out there I mean

it’s it never stops because it’s who he is. He will always be driven

to continue to take himself to the next level.

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What do you have in your hand? God used the staff Moses had in his hand to help his achieve his purpose.

I use that analogy because when you’re finding

your purpose you mentioned what are your interests and what excites you but

I’m going to add to that what are you good at. What’s your natural ability?

What’s your natural talent? Because that’s what you have in your hand.

Ray Charles was born blind and he just picked up a piano and played. But

but some of us has to do these stepping stones. Let’s you talk about adulting.

In your book, in fact your book is called “the Millennial’s playbook adulting” Can you explain

what you mean by adulting and how that relates to How to Find your Purpose?

Adulting is actually a it’s a millennial term.

Social media usually uses funny hashtags like

I’m doing laundry hashtag #adulting pain pills #adulting. I’m over

#adulting. Adulting is really just the idea of growing up frankly and taking on new

responsibilities and transitioning into an adult. I would say being more

independent and if in terms of how can a dull teen connect to her purpose? I

think that one of the things I you know in my coaching is what did I tell people

and tell the Millennial that I work with is when you are transitioning into an adult

you are now the owner of your life. I actually say you’re the CEO of ME

Incorporated and part of that is determining what you want to do and so it’s no longer what your

parents what you to do or what your teachers or grandparents want you to do.

All of these influencers who have really directed you for the majority of

your life so far this next phase of your life is really about running your own life

like a CEO. A CEO runs her company as she sees fit. and so you know I think often times there

are Millennial’s who are in professions because that’s what their

parents wanted them to do or that’s what was expected of them or that’s what they

said they were going to do and they were embarrassed to change their

minds. Well if you want to change your mind, it is now up to you to do so. That’s

part of being an adult. It’s unlikely that someone is going to come

to you and to say I think that you need to change your

passion or your job. So I would just encourage Millennial’s

especially to think about what they want out of life.

Don’t for others to direct your path, certainly others can help lead

you in the direction that you want to go to, and I am a firm believer of

leveraging a personal board of advisers and your mentors and people

around you to help you and to guide you and to get feedback. But it is

really up to you to do the exercises, to do the work, and to decide where you want

to go next or where you want to take your life professionally.

On the first page of your book you made

the humorous statement and I quote

“Dear Universe I miss the how to be an adult 101 class, send help and my mom and wine”

I thought that was humorous. So my question to you is which adulting class did you

think that you missed and have the most struggle with?

Probably for me it’s the financial class. I

actually spoke to a group of Millennial’s yesterday as part

of a fellowship program and one of the questions they asked was can you tell me about managing my finances?

I admitted to them that managing my finances especially when I was younger

and like 20 was very difficult. I sort of used my debit card like a gift card, just

charge and see how much it is. So and that wasn’t that wasn’t smart

decision making and I think that as I’ve grown up I’ve been forced

to become much more financially literate. I just don’t mean you know okay I

save money now that that’s that’s not being fighting totally financially

literate I mean really understanding you know what’s coming in what’s going out

I’m having that data point and now you know there’s lots of apps that can help

you figure that out as well as understanding what’s the best way to say

it’s my money what are what are you know but ways that I can you know increase

increase my my my salary or my revenue streams besides just my day-to-day

nine-to-five job understanding the stock market understanding you know investments and

things like that especially being an entrepreneur really understanding those

types of things are really important and so I think that I came from a very

traditional family that was you put some money in a saving account you do that

every single week and you will likely not you know that’s the best thing you

won’t go poor that’s how you do it but that but there’s so much more to that

and so that was part of the I would say the adulting class that there I have I

had to say have one that I did not get that I probably you know still learning

but you know came to me much much later in life that I think is very critical

um to proper adult thing yeah that’s actually pretty good you know I helped

my daughter a lot with that but I’m just learning that now in my 50s so I

understand that because you know our parents certainly didn’t sit down and

teach us because they didn’t even know themselves so that was a perfect answer

I love it alright so tell our listeners how they can get in touch her to you if

they want any kind of coaching or to purchase a copy of your book sure you

can go to my website

www.arikapierce.com

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The Millennial Playbook: Unpacking Limiting Beliefs

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thank you so much for sending me a copy
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Millennials and Millennials love apps! I
04:10
think that the word APP was created
04:13
for the younger generation. I remember
04:16
there is this new APP called Vimeo that you
04:20
send money and my daughter was very impressed that
04:25
I had this app. She said mom you know
04:27
About Vimeo? I said yes because I am cool!
04:30
I only knew of this app because I listen to podcast!
04:51
and I know in your book
04:53
Arika you talk about podcasts and you
04:56
actually plug podcasts.
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I was listening to Tony
05:01
Robbins podcast and he brought on the
05:03
founder of Vimeo. I had never
05:06
heard of Vimeo before
05:07
I only knew of PayPal. So yeah you know
05:10
learning is important you learn from all
05:13
different sources.
05:16
All right well let me tell you a little
05:18
bit more of my guest today Miss Arica
05:22
Pierce is a generational strategist and
05:26
Attorney, author, a millennial coach
05:30
and speaker and again I’m learning
05:34
because she introduced me to this new
05:37
Term, Xennial. Of course you
05:43
know Arica is going to expand on that term
05:45
but Arica has a unique perspective and
05:49
has developed strategies and techniques
05:52
to bridge Millennials to generations
05:55
before and after them. So welcome again
05:59
Arica. I normally start off the show
06:03
by asking my guests to tell me their
06:08
journey from you know to where they are
06:11
today you know and yours is I’m very
06:14
curious because you have different genres. you are an
06:21
Attorney, Generational Strategist which
06:24
to me is a coach and an Author.
06:27
So, tell me how did you come about to
06:31
embark on this journey, and how did you
06:34
get to where you are today.

06:36
Thank you so much for having me on, I’m
06:39
really excited about our discussion
06:41
today and yes I mean it has been a
06:44
journey but you know I think really my
06:47
my path professionally and awesome
06:50
personally has been a testament of just
06:53
something I believe in which is to
06:54
always evolve and to be to be
06:57
comfortable with being uncomfortable so
06:59
I you know sort of dipped my toe in a
07:02
couple of different areas and I just see
07:05
where it goes so in terms of how I went
07:10
from being an Attorney to now focused on
07:14
bridging generations and coaching
07:17
Millennials. Really it goes back to the
07:20
term that you use before Xenial.
07:22
Which it’s a real term, I didn’t make it
07:25
Up. I get asked that all the time.
07:27
It’s you know if you read certain
07:29
articles and as such even in places like
07:32
New York Times they use the term Xennial. That means is that I am
07:37
the micro generation between Generation
07:40
X and millennial. I was born in March 1980
07:45
and Millennials you know the years vary
07:49
a little bit in terms of the source the
07:51
source that’s defining Millennials but
07:53
usually they’re born between 1981 and
07:59
1996; and so I’m sort of in this
08:03
in-between place where I remember life
08:05
without you know technology being in
08:08
your hands and having the internet you
08:10
Know. I remember way before any apps and
08:16
it’s such but also I you know I’m still
08:19
on the younger side enough
08:22
where I now live a life where I am very
08:25
dependent on apps. I mean
08:28
I download apps from the from the app
08:31
store on a weekly basis. I have everything
08:40
Delivered. I don’t know why anyone would
08:42
even go to the grocery store or
08:44
mall anymore.
08:46
Yeah, you are a user. Okay so, you
08:51
understand both sides of the perspective
08:53
and I think that naturally just
08:56
made me a bridge. Also in my
09:01
professional life. I mean even when I
09:03
worked as an Attorney and in
09:06
other sort of consulting work,
09:08
I was the one that was always trying to
09:11
help that younger generation even though
09:14
I wasn’t much older but still coaching them
09:17
through some of the things that I had
09:20
learned through my journey and that I
09:22
had learned from all the generations
09:24
that they didn’t necessarily
09:26
want to hear. So I just
09:28
naturally became that that bridge and I
09:31
started to do some informal coaching and some informal speaking
09:37
about the bridge of generations.
09:40
How we can work together and better
09:42
understand each other and that sort of
09:45
Things. This new career focus has
09:49
has brought me in terms of really
09:51
focusing on strategizing so
09:54
that the four generations that are now
09:56
working together in the workplace can
09:58
can really get along.
10:02
To be quite honest as well as making
10:05
sure the millennial generation is better
10:08
understood that they’re more successful
10:10
and they don’t
10:13
necessarily live up to the bad rap that
10:15
they get in the
10:17
media and from other folks so helping
10:19
them to sort of break out of that
10:20
millennial negative brand.
That is awesome. We’re off
12:31
to a great start. You’re doing good
12:33
work because each generation has
12:36
their little quirks and the things that
12:38
they do and bridging them is really
12:42
Good. You ended up saying
12:45
that four generations are in the
12:47
workplace and yeah I’m pretty sure that
12:51
management can they can benefit
12:54
from reading some of the information in
12:57
your book, so that they can know how to
12:58
talk to at least one of their
13:00
Generations! All right, so what do
13:07
you feel are some of the limiting
13:09
mindsets that Millennials have?
13:12
I’d like to turn to your book on
13:15
page 15, you say that Millennials are
13:21
described as Entitled, Impatient, Tech
13:25
Obsessed, Pampered, Self-absorbed and Lazy.
13:30
So, that’s how people feel about them but
13:33
how do they feel about themselves?
13:36
According to your research how
13:40
does that affect some of the
13:44
limiting mindsets that they have?
13:48
I think it’s a great
13:52
question that I wish more people would
13:55
Ask, because I feel like there’s
13:58
lots of people that are talking about
13:59
what they think Millennials are like and
14:03
not as many people asking
14:05
what do Millennials know. How do they
14:07
view themselves? I’ll say this
14:11
I think that Millennials
14:14
don’t view themselves as any of
14:16
these of these adjectives that you just
14:19
Listed. Certainly none of these are very
14:21
Positive; but I do think that
14:25
they have a mindset that backed by
14:29
parts of their upbringing. So, for example
14:32
Millennials are definitely part of that
14:35
everyone gets a trophy generation, so because of
14:39
that they definitely have a mindset
14:42
where everyone is equal. I think
14:46
in many ways that can be limiting
14:48
especially as they transition to
14:51
adults and transition into their careers
14:53
and into the workplace. The reason
14:56
why I say this is because I think
14:58
Millennials oftentimes again they
15:01
Feel they’re entitled.
15:03
They feel that on their
15:05
first day of work they could be the boss.
15:06
Even though they have
15:08
zero work experience, they still feel that everyone is
15:11
equal and so they should have all the
15:13
same access and an
15:18
ability to share their mind and speak
15:20
their views. As much as someone who’s
15:22
been doing the job for a much longer
15:24
period of time that they have.

Millennials communicate and the level of
16:34
transparency that they’re they’ve grown
16:37
accustomed to again I think you know for
16:40
Millennials the mindset is that
16:43
communication should be quick, it should
16:45
be easy, you don’t necessarily have to
16:47
think too much about it, you could just
16:49
send someone over a text message.
16:51
I think that can be limiting especially as you transition
16:58
to work. Sometimes we need
17:07
to be more thoughtful with our
17:09
approaches especially at work and
17:12
in professional capacities. I mean
17:15
sometimes you need to think through what you say, and how you say it, who
17:19
you’re saying it to.

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So this is good wisdom and that is
19:53
absolutely a trait of the Millennials
19:57
nobody thinks about
19:58
anything and I like the fact that you
20:00
said that they want to access they think
20:02
that they can come into
20:06
a job and they don’t care that
20:08
somebody’s been there 30 years that they
20:10
feel they’re entitled
20:12
to the same to the same access but you
20:15
know on the flip side of that again as
20:18
you were talking about everyone
20:21
gets the trophy and everyone is equal.
20:23
I’m seeing that in relationships and I
20:26
guess at some point in our show, I don’t
20:30
know if you touch on this in
20:31
your book; but we should look at how
20:33
Millennials deal with
20:35
Relationships. It’s obviously equal since there’s so much
20:40
interracial marriages.
21:00
The next question I have is how do
21:03
you feel that these limiting
21:07
mindsets erode self-confidence.
21:29
Self-confidence sure I mean I I think
21:33
honestly that the everyone gets a
21:37
trophy I think that can have
21:40
definite have a negative
21:43
impact on your self-confidence. So, for
21:46
example if I have been raised in a way
21:49
where I believe that I’m
21:52
entitled to justice, when I am faced with
21:58
Rejection, that certainly will impact my
22:03
self-confidence. so even though you may you
22:09
believe that you are equal, when
22:13
you first get that rude awakening that you’re not, that
22:17
Starts to happen sometimes in your early
22:26
Twenties, especially when you’re in
22:27
College; but definitely once you
22:30
enter into the workplace. I think that
22:33
that’s when you know you really see that
22:35
there are going to be people who will
22:36
quickly rise to the top and they’re
22:38
going to be people who will
22:41
stay at the bottom and that’s why it’s
22:43
important to make sure you’re doing
22:45
everything you can to make
22:49
yourself stand out in a positive way
22:51
from your peers. I do believe that
22:54
you know that’s where self-confidence is
22:56
really important because if you don’t
22:59
have that confidence even when
23:01
you start to become more competitive
23:03
with others that’s when a
23:06
lack of self-confidence can start to
23:09
to take over. I also think again going
23:12
back to technology that
23:14
definitely impacts self-confidence and
23:18
and that just the reliance on technology
23:20
because of social media to be honest
23:23
with you, we live in a world now
23:26
where there’s so much competition on
23:28
social media to live your best
23:31
Life.
24:17
Millennials are the first generation
24:19
where they honestly are living two lives. I mean
24:22
they have their real life in love and they have this social
24:26
media life. They have to deal with
24:29
as well and I know a lot of times non
24:31
Millennials don’t take that seriously
24:33
they’ll say well that’s just silly that
24:35
you know someone is so concerned with
24:37
social media that they was that would
24:39
impact their self-confidence or how they
24:41
feel about themselves but that’s real
24:43
Life. We have to acknowledge
24:46
that and we have to help
24:49
Millennials to work through those
24:51
types of those issues.

Adulting

I want to talk to Arica on the topic of Adulting, that she
28:45
talks a lot about in her book.
28:46
I actually heard it somewhere else on social media.
28:48
It’s just a beautiful word and I loved
28:55
it and that is adulting.
29:00
Can you explain it what
29:04
exactly is adulting and how does that
29:08
relate to our topic on mindset today?

29:40
Adulting just means that you’re doing the duties and the
29:57
responsibilities of a fully developed adult.
30:08
Millennials use it a lot you know to be
30:10
Funny; but I do think that there
30:13
is that the term does make a
30:16
lot of sense I mean I think it could be
30:18
used as both like a verb and all
30:23
different types of ways; but I do think
30:26
for Millennials specifically the
30:29
transition to adulting has been a
30:32
little bit tougher than previous
30:34
Generations. So that’s why there’s so
30:36
much emphasis on adulting.
30:40
I see with a lot of Millennials that I
30:41
Coach, there is a reluctance to sort of let go from
30:48
Childhood.

I know you talk about branding and you talk
32:00
about looking for a job and becoming a
32:11
fully developed adult. What are some of
32:14
the plays that you talked about in your
32:16
book to help Millennials?

What I try to do in the book is give very
32:23
actionable advice. It’d be
32:26
really easy to write a book and say go
32:28
out and be a successful adult and you
32:31
Know, make good decisions and you know
32:33
Exercise, drink water, and keep a job and
32:36
save money right? I mean that those are I
32:39
would say a lot of us don’t create goals
32:40
but the specifics are not there; so I
32:44
really use every chapter to give very
32:47
clear or actionable advice on
32:51
how you can do specific things. For
32:54
Example, when I talk about how
32:57
to look for a job I go through the
32:58
Specifics. Why it’s important
33:01
to have things like a LinkedIn profile,
33:03
when you’re applying for jobs
33:14
that you’re doing it in the right way.
33:15
How to make sure that you are
33:17
presenting your best
33:20
self on interview day what to do in
33:23
terms of following up after an interview.
33:25
Once you have the job, how to keep the
33:28
job and again I go very specific. I say
33:31
things like on your first day
33:33
set three goals of the things that you
33:36
want to accomplish at that job and it’s
33:38
not just you know I want to do I want to
33:40
do well here. It’s what are three things
33:42
you want to do? Do you want to work on a
33:43
certain project? Do you want to get promoted
33:45
within six months? Things like
33:48
That. I go again very detailed to make sure you get to work on
33:55
Time. Getting to work on time, being at
33:57
your desk ready to work as soon as you
34:04
know you’re supposed to be there. Etc. It’s
34:07
very specific you know in
34:10
terms of those types of things.
34:12
Networking when you go to a networking
34:14
event make sure you speak with three people and stay 30
34:17
minutes after. All of those types of things make you
34:25
a successful adult. That’s why I called it a
34:29
playbook that was in a usable format
34:32
easy to read I tell stories of based
34:36
upon my own adulting experiences.

I like what you say about your brand is
35:14
that you are the CEO of ME Incorporated,
35:17
the chief marketing officer for the
35:20
brand to call you.
35:21
As a coach that’s what I teach my clients, that you
35:27
are you are the lid.

That goes back to being the CEO of ME
37:00
Inc. It’s up to you to make sure that
37:03
you’re running your own brand and you
37:05
are really developing those
37:08
qualities about yourself that will set
37:11
you apart in a very positive way and it
37:14
makes everyone have a very positive sort
37:16
of brand experience from you the same
37:19
way that we expect out of the
37:20
brands that we use like Target and Apple
37:23
and you know Chipotle

As we close Arica how you readers pick up a copy of your book?
44:33
Arica will be back for several more
44:46
episodes and we will dive in deeper into
44:50
some of the other things and traits that
44:54
Millennials can use some help with in
44:58
order to succeed and to Live their Best
45:01
Lives Now. Not when you’re 80,
45:04
not when you’re 50 not when they’re 40
45:06
But right now.
45:38
All of the things that come with
45:40
Adulting, one of the things that I always
45:43
suggest to some of the Millennials that
45:45
I coach is taking one hour a week to
45:49
think and to strategize about what you
45:52
want to happen in your life.
45:55
if you think about it one hour a
45:57
week is not that it’s not that much but
46:01
you’d be surprised if you just
46:03
take that time turn off your phone turn
46:05
off technology and just think about I
46:08
like to put mine in a notebook and think
46:10
about what are your goals for the week
46:12
it might be for the month for the year
46:14
but just spend that time thinking that
46:18
can really help you I believe with your
46:20
self-confidence because it will give it
46:22
will give you an opportunity to start to
46:24
put some order and what you want to do
46:28
which I think can you know what helps us
46:30
make better decisions and also helps us
46:32
feel better about ourselves when we
46:34
really feel like we are going down a
46:36
circuit path instead of just sort of
46:39
living by the you know the seat of our
46:41
pants so that would be my advice is take
46:45
time to think and if it can’t be an hour
46:47
make it half hour make it 10 minutes but
46:50
then some time or just strategizing on
46:52
your life right now as a millennial and
46:55
that will really help you draw out your
46:58
past going forward awesome. Yes I agree
47:04
I meditate every morning and
47:07
I will tell you that it really affects
47:10
everything it just not only affects your
47:12
mood affect your vibration.
47:15
but yeah it’s you know you can’t go
47:19
anywhere if you don’t have a goal you
47:21
know like one of my favorite sayings
47:23
yeah one of my favorite things in
47:25
something that Millennials can understand
47:27
which is Alice in Wonderland is that
47:30
If you don’t know where
47:32
you’re going then it doesn’t matter
47:33
where you end up! So you got to strategize
47:37
and you have to have a plan.
47:42
Without a plan it stays a dream.
48:16

To purchase a copy of my book “ The Millennial’s Playbook to Adulting” you can visit Arika on the web @

www.arikapierce.com

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9 Steps to Effective Advocacy

Common Cause

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Can Advocacy build successful bridges? It sure can. My guest today shares 9 Steps to Effective Advocacy.
Latisha Atkins is the founder of Building Bridges to Success, Inc.

Show notes:
Tell me about yourself. How did you create your company Building Bridges to Success and become an Advocate?
1. What is Advocacy?: What it is and why it is important?
2. What are some of the ways people can get involved locally and nationally with Advocacy.
3. What are some pointers you can give our audience on how to advocate.
4. How do people and communities move from problem-solving in their personal lives to advocacy?
5. What are some barriers to getting involved with advocacy?
6. How does BRIDGES advocate for your community?
7. What are some examples of advocacy?
8. Is there a difference between advocacy and lobbying?
9. How can BRIDGES help others become advocates for their communities?
10. Does advocacy lead to real change?
11. Can anyone be an advocate?

9 Steps to Effective Advocacy

Check out more on Adcocacy and How it can build bridges to success @ Bridges2yoursuccess.com

As America and the world fight for gun control. Advocacy will be the tool used to change those laws.
Here is an article about Advocacy Groups Call For Firearm Rights In Britain Following Several Terror Attacks

FOLLOWING NUMEROUS DEADLY TERROR ATTACKS THIS YEAR, PRO-GUN GROUPS IN BRITAIN ARE INCREASINGLY CALLING FOR CITIZENS TO RECEIVE THE RIGHT TO BEAR ARMS.
An initiative called Carry Now is growing in England and demanding that the government “allow law-abiding, reliable and trained citizens to carry CCW for self-defence in Europe.”

The initiative is backed by Firearms United, a group in Europe advocating for similar pro-gun initiatives all across the continent.

“These tragedies may have been the eye opener to just how ineffective our laws are,” Firearms-UK representative Dave Ewing reportedly told Voactive following last Saturday’s terror attack in London.

Common Cause is an organization in Washington, DC that is leading the Advocacy charge to modernize elections, making them more fair, secure, and accessible with automatic voter registration laws and same-day registration at polling places on Election Day. We are ensuring security and fairness at the ballot box by demanding paper back-ups and post-election risk-limiting audits to detect foul play early.

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How to Heal your Body Holistically

How to Heal your Body Holistically

In today’s episode of the Transform your Mind with coach Myrna, I interview Ms Taeneka Brooks, founder of Hands of Sage Inc
Taeneka will teach us How to Heal your body Holistically with the use of special blends of teas.

Taeneka always wanted to help people and when her son was diagnosed with Asthma, she decided she wanted to learn how to heal him holistically instead of using prescription drugs. With her holistic approach, her son is now cured of asthma.

Hands of Sage most popular product is called the Sage Moon Box:
The Sage moon Box is the holistic approach of healing women both mentally and physically on their monthly menstrual cycle.
It includes:
Organic natural bathsalts
Sage Moon Tea to boosted fertility
Tampons/pads
Wipes
Tea Infuser

Her holistic teas also help with bloating or cramps

Her detox teas help cleanse the full body, increase metabolism and burn fat
Some of her teas cleanse all the way down to the cellular level.

Taeneka also educates her clients on how to live Holistically
Check out Taeneka on her web site www.handsofsage.bigcartel.com

Holistic healing can also be used for any of the other women problems.
Here is an article on how someone used Holistic Healing to help with uterine fibrods

Holistic Healing

http://www.xonecole.com/no-surgery-no-drugs-healed-uterine-fibroids-holistic-way/

My 7-Step Holistic Regimen

1. Drastically limit your consumption of simple carbohydrates, refined sugar, and processed foods.
2. Incorporate organic foods as much as possible. Food packed with hormones, specifically meat, feed the fibroid.
3. Juice beets, spinach, kale, ginger, and turmeric daily to detox the liver.
Also add fresh turmeric to your juice and tea.
Likewise, you can take 3 or more turmeric capsule 3x daily.
This will decrease inflammation and stop excessive bleeding and pain. I add raw turmeric to my dandelion root tea every day.
4. Take an active dose of systemic enzymes 3x daily. My dosage consists of 12 pills daily (6 in the morning and 6 at night). This has aided tremendously in dissolving my fibroids.
5. Exercise a minimum of 30 mins daily four to five times a week.
6. Avoid consuming anything packaged in plastic. Bottled water is the major culprit of estrogen imbalance.

THE MOST EFFECTIVE TREATMENT: Do castor oil packs every other day. I use Jamaican black castor oil by Island Tropic. Click here for more information on what castor oil can do for your fibroids.

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The Alchemy of Desire Episode 5- The long term relationship dance

The relationship dance

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Today on Mindset Transformation Radio and podcast, we are continuing with our series on the The Alchemy of Desire Episode 5- The Long Term Relationship Dance.

My co -host for this series is my girl pal the fabulous Ms Margo Blake. Margo is a One Taste Intimacy Coach and, I am a Mindset Coach. Together we want to share our knowledge on this Topic “The Alchemy of Desire and Intimacy”

What is Desire – Desire can be called the feminine face of God! Desire is what God places in your spirit to lead you to your purpose. It is the key that unlocks what God placed you on this earth to do.

We all Desire to be in loving fulfilling relationships with our Partners, our children, our friends and co-workers. We desire to have successful careers, some of us desire to procreate and have children, we desire to be emotionally and physically healthy, we desire to be wealthy, and today we are going to touch on the desire for flow in our relationships and not ebb.

This is Intimacy

The Dance of Intimacy
Anyone in a long-term relationship knows the relationship dance well. It took me a while to understand this dance. I walked out of my first marriage at age 21 declaring boldly “I am no longer in love with my husband and I refuse to live in a loveless marriage at age 21.” After 4 marriages I now know that relationships EBB and FLOW. Erotic love turns into Agape love. Passion and desire EBB and FLOW.

In all my relationships fighting and then having make up sex was usually the shock than rejuvenated the relationship.

In the beginning of anything there is more energy just as electrify is more powerful at the source, feelings are more powerful when they are new.

As feelings change and familiarity sets in, the intimacy dance begins. Just as you have to practice the waltz on the dance floor, in a similar way you must practice your dance in the bedroom.

It is important to understand why you and your partner connected in the first place and why you disconnected.

Since all relationships begin within, the scenery out there is the scenery in here.

You can’t give away what you don’t have. So the first step when you become aware of the EBB in your relationship is to take an inventory of the self. Meditation can help.

In our first episode I introduced the book “The Alchemy of Desire.” In this book the lovers were passionate and couldn’t keep their hands off each other, then life happened and intimacy veined.

Every relationship faces this junction. Once relationships become more established, the individuals in the union begin to turn their attention outward again. To the other parts of their lives that matter, such as work, family, and friendships. This is natural and healthy but; if a long-term relationship is to last, turning towards one another recurrently, with the same curiosity, attention, and nurturance of earlier times, is essential.

In a busy and demanding world full of obligations and opportunities, we sometimes lose track of our primary relationships, thinking they will tend to themselves. We may have the best intentions when we think about how nice it would be to surprise our partner with a gift or establish a weekly date night. Yet somehow, life gets in the way. We may think that our love is strong enough to survive without attention. Yet even mature trees need water and sunlight if they are to thrive.

We water our relationships by showing interest in our partners. We shine light on our relationships by smiling and being genuinely happy to see our partners.

I was at a stand-up comedy show with >Mike Epps a few years back and he made a joke about how his wife would meet him at the door with a beer and loving embrace when they were first married, and now she shrugs and says oh it’s you!

I am genuinely happy to see my husband walk through the door and when he calls me during the day. I let him know this

The marriage dance relationship
Show Notes:

Question 1: Margo what is your take on the relationship dance? Personally you have mentioned several times that your relationships end after 10 years. What does the dance look like to you?

Question 2: Looking back can you see the point when the relationship ebb resulted in a break? How can anyone listening turn that ebb into a flow?

Question 3: What are some tips to keep Desire flowing instead of ebbing?

Question 4: If our listeners find themselves in an Ebb should they panic or understand that is the flow of life that what goes up must come down.

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How does Infidelity Affect Intimacy and Desire for Our Partner

How does infidelity affect intimacy

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Today on WDJY 99.1 FM straight talk radio our topic is “How does Infidelity affect Intimacy and Desire for our Partner ”
We all Desire to be in loving fulfilling relationships with our Partners, our children, our friends and co-workers. We desire to have successful careers, some of us desire to procreate and have children, we desire to be emotionally and physically healthy, we desire to be wealthy, and today we are going to touch on our desire for our partners to be faithful to their commitment to us.

But what happens when they don’t? Statistics show that as much of 70% of men and women cheat on their spouses and committed partners.

My co -host for this episode is my girl pal the fabulous Ms Margo Blake. Margo is a One Taste Intimacy Coach and, I am a Mindset Coach. Together we want to share our knowledge on this Topic “How does Infidelity affect Intimacy and Desire for our partner”

What is Desire – Desire can be called the feminine face of God! Desire is what God places in your spirit to lead you to your purpose. It is the key that unlocks what God placed you on this earth to do.

The dictionary calls Alchemy a seemingly magical process of transformation, creation, or combination.

I will tell you from personal experience that there is nothing that transforms an intimate relationship into something magical, like the surety that your partner will not break his vows or commitment to you, that he or she loves you unconditionally and would not look at another.

Not too many of us can walk in that space, being able to swear that our partners would not cheat on us.

This is Intimacy

Let’s recap. In our first episode we talked about how to manifest the desires of your heart. The first step is knowing what you want. The second step is adding emotions to it

In our second episode we talked on how to use the energy of desire to create something magical.

In our 3 episode we Used the Power of Attention to light our desires afire.

If you missed those 3 episodes, please download on then on iTunes, Sticher or TuneIn podcast.

Today we want to turn up the heat another notch as we talk about the controversial subject of Infidelity and how it changes Intimacy.

So, lets dive right in.
Margo is an Intimacy coach with One Taste. So let’s start off our discussion today by having her weigh in on the conversation.

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Show Notes:
1. Question 1: Margo as an intimacy coach, how has your clients dealt with infidelity?
2. How have you dealt with infidelity?
3. What happens when Desire goes looking somewhere else?

History will show that men don’t need a reason to cheat on their partner. But for this discussion we will look at the Lack of Desire for the reason for the infidelity.

What can we do when desire dries up and we no longer feel the spark for our partners?

Men like uncertainty, they like variety. Most men who cheat don’t want to leave home. They love their spouse and like the security of home but they seek adventure.

I was just reading the unauthorized biography of Angelina Jolie. Her father John Voight was tempted by great sex and cheated on her mother who promptly left him when Angelina was 6 months old. John Voight had no interest in leaving his wife and 2 kids but the lure of exciting sex was something he could not pass up. That dalliance had far reaching consequences for his children and himself. He would be seeking a family for decades to come.

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But men don’t have to go outside the home for exciting sex. As women we could bring the excitement and adventure to our bedroom. We could bring the feeling of having an affair to our bedroom.

Whatever you are doing now, we could do something different. If you always make love with all your clothes on, in the bed with the lights out; then start making love on the couch, fully clothed, with all the lights on!

Become the mistress. Meet in a hotel, set up dates, role play and dress up, send sexually explicit text messages.

I remember a friend of mine who divorced her husband because she found a video his mistress sent to him. That is how the women are stealing our men, they excite them.

Okay, enough of the men having unmet needs and looking for excitement in the bedroom. What about our unmet needs?
Women have unmet need as well and are catching up to men as they too are looking outside the home for fulfillment of their desires.

Question 5: Margo, how can women communicate their unmet desires to their partners?

Question 6: How do we as women deal with the betrayal of our spouse or partners?

There are several schools of thought about this topic.
1. If you want things to change, you have to change.
Maybe you are a nag, maybe you don’t like sex, maybe you take no pride in your appearance, maybe you have trust issues, maybe you are boring.
You have to know yourself to grow yourself.

2. Ask yourself what have I invested into this relationship? Are you a taker or do you contribute to the peace and happiness of your man?
I remember Jennifer Gardner saying when asked that it was not Ben Afflec role to make her happy. He cheated on her with the nanny. She was taking stock in what she brought to the table and understood it was not someone’s else role to make her happy. Happiness comes from our true self.
You can’t give away what you don’t have.

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The Alchemy of Desire Episode 3- The Power of Attention

The Alchemy of Desire

The Alchemy of Desire is the magical process of the transformation of your desires to reality. This transformation happens faster if we empower it with Attention. In this episode we are going to teach you how to use the, Power of Attention, to manifest all your dreams and desires.

What is Desire – Desire can be called the feminine face of God! I love this sentence! Desire is what God places in your spirit to lead you to your purpose. It is the key that unlocks what God placed you on this earth to do.
We Desire for our partners physically and spiritually, we desire our careers, we desire to procreate and have children, we desire to be emotionally and physically healthy, we desire to be wealthy but most of all we desire to fulfill our purpose on this earth and leave it a better place then we found it.

In our first blog on this topic, we talked about how to manifest the Desires of your Heart. The first step is knowing what you want. The second step is adding emotions to it.

In our second blog post on the Alchemy of Desire, we talked on how to use the, Energy of Desire, to create something magical. If you missed those 2 episodes, please listen to then my iTunes podcast.

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Today we want to turn up the heat and talk about the “Power of Attention”
• Now that we know what we want.
• We know how to use the energy of emotion to engage the laws of attraction.
• Now, we want to light our desire afire with the “Power of Attention.”

You remember as a kid you would hold a magnet over a piece of paper and have the Attention of the sun light the paper afire, that is what the, Power of Attention, can do to your Desires.

So, lets dive right in.
My co-host on this episode Margo Blake, an Intimacy coach with One Taste.

Tune in to Sticher to listen to Margo tell her personal story of using, The Power of Attention, after her divorce to attract her now soulmate.

The word desire does not only belong with, sexual desires. As a Mindset Coach, today I want to show you how the energy or, Power of Attention, can transform your Desires into something magical as promised by the Alchemy of Desire.

The power of Attention
Attention is your power source. Rarely does a quality life just show up by chance. What you give your attention to expands.
If you want your dream to come through, you have to do more than dream. You must focus your attention and activate the power of Attention.
The power source for having an Intention that comes through is Attention. What you pay Attention to will grow.

If your intention comes from the level of your true self, it can attract anything. Attention activates the energy of Attraction.
Every wish or desire is like a tiny seed that contains the blueprint for the tree that manifests from the seed. The seed of Desire which is also the seed of any Intention needs nourishment to grow.

If you want your desire to manifest here are some important ways to put the right attention on it:

1. Have a clear intention or goal; don’t muddy it with doubt and fear regarding why it won’t come true.

2. Have positive emotions around your desire, feel how good it will be to fulfill it.

3. Believe that what you want is beneficial to you without any negative consequences to those around you.

4. Be prepared for any response the Universe brings and be flexible to where you go from there.

5. Feel confident that hidden sources will come to your aide once your desires are released to the universe.

6. Find time to meditate on your desires. At the level of the soul, the energy of attraction is most powerful.

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Margo, how can someone use the Power of Attention to change someone’s feelings about them?

I have known lot of men who are able to woo women by paying them attention. I have been on the receiving end of attention that changed my feelings for a partner a few times in my life. My Pastor once said that women are responders, I agree.

Tune in to Google Play to listen to Margo’s answer to this question.

In our last 2 episodes we talked about 4 of the ways renowned sexologist Jaiya believes that we are wired. We discussed the Energetic, the Sensual, the Sexual and the Kinky. Jaiya is the author of Red Hot Touch? Today I though we could look at the Shape Shifter who can be all those energies.

Here are the 5 Sexual Blueprints.

6. Energetic: Turned on by space, tease and anticipation.
7. Sensual: Turned on by comfort, relaxation and all the senses ignited.
8. Sexual: Turned on by nudity and flat out sexual intercourse.
9. Kinky: Turned on by the taboo and power play.
10. Shapeshifter: Turned on by all of the above.

So, Margo, since today we are looking at The Power of Attention, how can a woman who is a Shape Shifter use the Power of Attention to create something magical in the bedroom?

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Today we talked about, The Power of Attention, and to use this energy to create transformation in your lives.

I want to leave you with this thought. When all three legs of the tripod are in place – Focused Attention, Flexible consciousness and pure awareness; the path is open. You become the conscious master, the Energy of Attraction, is activated.

There are certain things that hinder the manifestation of Desire. Severe obstacles such as depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, substance abuse and toxic relationships block the manifestation of your desires. It gets tangled up in personal problems.
So be sure to meditate on your desires and rid yourself of toxicity either from substance abuse or toxic relationships.

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How to Use the Energy of Desire to Create Something Magical

The Alchemy of Desire

Today on Mindset Transformation Radio and podcast, we are continuing with our series on the Alchemy of Desire. How to transform the Energy of Desire to Create Something Magical inside and outside of the Bedroom.
My co -host for this series is my girl pal the fabulous Ms Margo Blake. Margo is a One Taste intimacy coach. And of course I am a Mindset coach. Together we want to share our knowledge on this Topic “the Alchemy of Desire”

What is Desire? – Desire can be called the Feminine face of God! I love this sentence! Desire is what God places in your spirit to lead you to your purpose. It is the key that unlocks what God placed you on this earth to do.
We Desire for our partners physically and spiritually, we desire our careers, we desire to procreate and have children, we desire to be emotionally and physically healthy, we desire to be wealthy.

Let me share with you the meaning of Alchemy.
The dictionary calls Alchemy a seemingly magical process of transformation, creation, or combination. That includes.
“finding the person who’s right for you requires a very subtle alchemy”

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The Alchemy of Desire by Tarun J. Tejpal
In his book Mr Tajpal tells the story of a young couple, penniless but gloriously in love. Obsessed with each other, they move from a small town to the big city, where the man, who dreams of being a writer, works feverishly on a novel, stopping only to feed his ceaseless desire for his beautiful wife.

This book offers, in searing, lucid prose, a deeply sensual and moving meditation on the nature of desire, history, truth, and art.

One Taste Coaching program called the Alchemy of Desire teaches Tantra, and how to use erotica to transform your desires into something magical. My co-host Margo Blake is an intimacy coach who works with couples to achieve their desires.

The word desire does not only belong with sexual desires. As a Mindset Coach, I want to coach you on how the Energy of Desire can transform your life. I want to teach you how you can harness desire to create and transform your world. The Alchemy of Desire.

Behind every desire is the need to feel good! On our last episode of the, Mindset Transformation radio show, I asked you to feel your desires and bring them into the present moment with emotion. I am sure that when you think of your desires you feel good, otherwise you would be called a sadist! Everything you desire is because you think it will bring you some form of pleasure. I will also hazard a guess that your desires is for some form of experience.

Here are 7 major positive emotions and Desire heads up the list.
The seven positive emotions are:
1. Desire
2. Faith
3. Love
4. Sex
5. Enthusiasm
6. Romance
7. Hope

Here is the process that starts with desire. You desire something, then you package it with positive emotion. Thoughts are energy travelling at a high rate of vibration. Thoughts that have been modified or stepped up by any of the major positive emotions vibrate at a much higher rate than ordinary thought.

Energy of Desire

Then you auto suggest this desire to your subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is the sending station of the brain in which vibrations of thought are broadcasted. The creative imagination is the receiving center.

Your creative imagination picks this message up and desire is formed. I was watching television documentary a few months back. They were talking about marriage and the difference between men and women as far as their desires for their wedding day. They said that every 7 year old girl has already visualized her wedding day. She has imagined the groom, what she will be wearing, what her bridesmaids will be wearing etc. While the boys only visualize the girl.

So, if we follow this path. The 7 year old desires to be married. She imagines how great she would feel walking down the aisle in her beautiful white gown looking her most beautiful. The man at the alter looks lovingly at her and looks like her idol. She has imagined the entire wedding and her entire life after. The great thing about this desire is that if she continues to dream every day and infuse her desire with positive emotion, her dreams will come true.

We must marry thought and emotion to give us the ability to have the things we want. That is how we create the Alchemy of Desire

Margo, give us an example of how the energy of sexual desire for your partner can transform the relationship and create something special?

What do you Want?

The first thing is that you have to figure out what you want.
Then you have to ask your partner to give you what you want.
Then you must be present to receive it.
After you get what your want and your desires are met then you must be grateful and play it forward.
Now it is your turn to meet the desires of your partner and repeat the cycle.

In our last episode we talked about 2 of the ways renowned sexologist Jaiya believes that we are wired. We discussed the Energetic and the Sensual. Jaiya is the author of Red Hot Touch ? Today I though we could look at the Sexual and the Kinky.

To review, here are the 5 sexual blueprints.
11. Energetic: Turned on by space, tease and anticipation.
12. Sensual: Turned on by comfort, relaxation and all the senses ignited.
13. Sexual: Turned on by nudity and flat out sexual intercourse.
14. Kinky: Turned on by the taboo and power play.
15. Shapeshifter: Turned on by all of the above.

So Margo, since today we are looking at how to transform the energy of desire into creating something magical. How can a sexually wired person maybe transform into a sensual person and incorporate some romance into the bedroom?

How can a Kinky person who feels that her desires are taboo communicate and transform the energy in the bedroom?
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Today we talked about the energy of desire and how you can harness this energy to create transformation in your lives.

I want to leave you with this thought. I want you to remember that your soul records every moment, every conversation, every dream, every desire. Every desire that reaches our brain is recorded in our subconscious. If you are hypnotized, the hypnotist can take you back to the womb.

Last week Margo told us that we can feel a true desire in our body. A desire is true when our bodies communicate it to us and not just our minds. Use that nervous energy or the enthusiasm, or the feelings of love to transform and create something magical!

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The Alchemy of Desire

The Alchemy of Desire

What is the Alchemy of Desire? – Desire can be called the feminine face of God! Desire is what God places in our spirit to lead us to our purpose. It is the key that unlocks what God placed you on this earth to do.
We have Desire for our partners physically and spiritually, we desire our careers, we desire to procreate and have children, we desire to be emotionally and physically healthy, we desire to be wealthy.

So why the topic the Alchemy of Desire you ask again?

My co-host today is Margo Blake, a One Taste coach. One Taste has a coaching workshop called the Alchemy of Desire. This workshop focuses on sexual desire; and I wanted to expand that Alchemy of sexual desire to encompass all desires.

Let me share with you the meaning of Alchemy.
The dictionary calls Alchemy a seemingly magical process of transformation, creation, or combination. That includes.
“finding the person who’s right for you requires a very subtle alchemy”

The book the Alchemy of Desire was made famous by
by Tarun J. Tejpal

In his book Mr Tajpal tells the story of a young couple, penniless but gloriously in love. Obsessed with each other, they move from a small town to the big city, where the man, who dreams of being a writer, works feverishly on a novel, stopping only to feed his ceaseless desire for his beautiful wife.

A chance occurrence allows the lovers to abandon the city for a mist-shrouded spur of the lower Himalayas and move into a sprawling old house, which they hope will embody their love. At first they pursue their deep physical need with a reckless intensity. But during renovations of the house, a set of diaries written by the original inhabitant—a glamorous American adventuress—is unearthed, and the narrator finds himself irresistibly drawn away from his wife and thrust into another world and time, into the hole of history. As his life and love fall apart, he slowly begins to uncover the dark secrets at the heart of her story, until the shocking truth is laid bare and all certainties are overturned.
It also offers, in searing, lucid prose, a deeply sensual and moving meditation on the nature of desire, history, truth, and art.

The word desire does not only belong with sexual desires. As a mindset coach I created a work shop to help me and my clients manifest the desires of our hearts. As mentioned in the definition of the word Alchemy. Alchemy is the magical process of transformation and creation.

• We must identify the desires we most want to have and then breathe life into them with the power of our emotions.
• To bring the quantum possibility into particle existence emotions is the key.
• Emotions is the only way to give power to our thoughts and animate them.
• When we focus conscious energy towards what is desired and give it life through emotion, what we desire will always show up.
• I teach my clients to create a list of all the attributes they desire.
• Its Like going into a restaurant and ordering your desire. What do you want to eat?
• You don’t just go into the restaurant and order whatever they are serving; so you shouldn’t do that with your life either.
• Be clear on what you want to create. It is important to live life from that vantage point. Imagine your most important desire is already yours, imagine that it is already happening.

To do this Ask yourself the following questions:
• 1. What is life like now that I have the thing I want the most?
• 2. How is life different than it was before when I didn’t have the thing that I want the most?
• 3. How is my time spent differently?
• 4. How does it feel when I wake up in the morning?
• 5. What does my new day look like?
• 6. Where do I lay my head at night?
• 7. Who is with me?
• 8. What type of new experiences am I having?

Feel the emotions. Emotions is what activates the Law of Attraction.

Thought – located in the upper region of the body. Encompasses the throat, third eye and crown Chakra. This area of the body is responsible for creation. All your desires are created here. Your third eye is in the middle of your forehead between your eyes and your crown Chakra is the top of your head.

Feeling – when thoughts and emotions are combined, they meet at the Heart Chakra. Feelings come into play when the mind interprets emotions.
• When you change the attached emotions to your thoughts, it will creates different feelings.
• We must marry thought and emotion to give us the ability to have the things we want. That is how we create the Alchemy of Desire.


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I was listening to a Tony Robbins podcast last week and the host was interviewing renowned sexologist Jaiya. Jaiya is the author of Red Hot Touch ? Jaiya told a personal story in which she said she is wired as an Energetic. Energetics according to Jaiya are able to achieve sexual fulfillment by tapping into the energy in the bedroom.
• The energetic is turned on by arousal, tease, anticipation and space. They’re very turned on by light touch, slow touch, and feeling very safe.

Her partner on the other hand was wired as a Sensual.
According to Jaiya, the sensual is turned on by all of their senses being ignited. Tastes, smells, beauty, they really want beauty and they bring beauty into a sensual sexual space. They also love candles, romance, music, bathtub time, massage, full body touch.

So, Jaiya says that for 3 years she would get into bed and initiate sex and her partner would turn his back and say he was tired and not in the mood. She said she would cry herself to sleep because she felt that her partner did not love her any more and was no longer sexually attracted to her.

Her partner on the other hand said he was tormented because he felt like a looser because he could not satisfy his woman. This went on like I said for 3 years until finally they figured out that he needed the sensual to get aroused and was not turned on by her chop chop let’s do this attitude.

How do you coach your clients to bridge incompatibilities in the bedroom?

Tune in to listen how Margo coaches her couples to communicate in the bedroom.