The Millennial Playbook: Unpacking Limiting Beliefs

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Today we start a new series with the
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author of the Millennial Playbook Ms
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Erica L Pierce. Arica is going to be
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starting off our discussion today
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unpacking how limiting beliefs can
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destroy your self-confidence.
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Welcome Arica, Thank you so much for being on the show.
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I’m not happy to be here. I am
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going to enjoy our conversation. I am at
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The mother of a Millennial, so
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thank you so much for sending me a copy
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of your book. It is an awesome book and I
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plan to share it when I’m done with it.
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Yeah you’re welcome
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for the younger generation. I remember
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I had this app. She said mom you know
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About Vimeo? I said yes because I am cool!
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and I know in your book
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All right well let me tell you a little
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bit more of my guest today Miss Arica
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Pierce is a generational strategist and
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Attorney, author, a millennial coach
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and speaker and again I’m learning
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because she introduced me to this new
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Term, Xennial. Of course you
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know Arica is going to expand on that term
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but Arica has a unique perspective and
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has developed strategies and techniques
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to bridge Millennials to generations
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before and after them. So welcome again
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Arica. I normally start off the show
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by asking my guests to tell me their
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journey from you know to where they are
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today you know and yours is I’m very
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curious because you have different genres. you are an
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Attorney, Generational Strategist which
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to me is a coach and an Author.
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So, tell me how did you come about to
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embark on this journey, and how did you
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get to where you are today.

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Thank you so much for having me on, I’m
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really excited about our discussion
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today and yes I mean it has been a
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journey but you know I think really my
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my path professionally and awesome
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personally has been a testament of just
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something I believe in which is to
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always evolve and to be to be
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comfortable with being uncomfortable so
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I you know sort of dipped my toe in a
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couple of different areas and I just see
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where it goes so in terms of how I went
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from being an Attorney to now focused on
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bridging generations and coaching
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Millennials. Really it goes back to the
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term that you use before Xenial.
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Which it’s a real term, I didn’t make it
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Up. I get asked that all the time.
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It’s you know if you read certain
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articles and as such even in places like
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New York Times they use the term Xennial. That means is that I am
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the micro generation between Generation
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X and millennial. I was born in March 1980
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and Millennials you know the years vary
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a little bit in terms of the source the
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source that’s defining Millennials but
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usually they’re born between 1981 and
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1996; and so I’m sort of in this
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in-between place where I remember life
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without you know technology being in
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your hands and having the internet you
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Know. I remember way before any apps and
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it’s such but also I you know I’m still
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on the younger side enough
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where I now live a life where I am very
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dependent on apps. I mean
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I download apps from the from the app
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store on a weekly basis. I have everything
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Delivered. I don’t know why anyone would
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even go to the grocery store or
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mall anymore.
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Yeah, you are a user. Okay so, you
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understand both sides of the perspective
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and I think that naturally just
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made me a bridge. Also in my
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professional life. I mean even when I
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worked as an Attorney and in
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other sort of consulting work,
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I was the one that was always trying to
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help that younger generation even though
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I wasn’t much older but still coaching them
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through some of the things that I had
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learned through my journey and that I
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had learned from all the generations
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that they didn’t necessarily
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want to hear. So I just
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naturally became that that bridge and I
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started to do some informal coaching and some informal speaking
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about the bridge of generations.
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How we can work together and better
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understand each other and that sort of
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Things. This new career focus has
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has brought me in terms of really
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focusing on strategizing so
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that the four generations that are now
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working together in the workplace can
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can really get along.
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To be quite honest as well as making
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sure the millennial generation is better
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understood that they’re more successful
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and they don’t
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necessarily live up to the bad rap that
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they get in the
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media and from other folks so helping
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them to sort of break out of that
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millennial negative brand.
That is awesome. We’re off
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to a great start. You’re doing good
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work because each generation has
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their little quirks and the things that
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they do and bridging them is really
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Good. You ended up saying
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that four generations are in the
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workplace and yeah I’m pretty sure that
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management can they can benefit
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from reading some of the information in
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your book, so that they can know how to
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talk to at least one of their
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Generations! All right, so what do
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you feel are some of the limiting
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mindsets that Millennials have?
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I’d like to turn to your book on
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page 15, you say that Millennials are
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described as Entitled, Impatient, Tech
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Obsessed, Pampered, Self-absorbed and Lazy.
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So, that’s how people feel about them but
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how do they feel about themselves?
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According to your research how
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does that affect some of the
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limiting mindsets that they have?
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I think it’s a great
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question that I wish more people would
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Ask, because I feel like there’s
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lots of people that are talking about
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what they think Millennials are like and
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not as many people asking
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what do Millennials know. How do they
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view themselves? I’ll say this
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I think that Millennials
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don’t view themselves as any of
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these of these adjectives that you just
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Listed. Certainly none of these are very
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Positive; but I do think that
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they have a mindset that backed by
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parts of their upbringing. So, for example
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Millennials are definitely part of that
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everyone gets a trophy generation, so because of
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that they definitely have a mindset
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where everyone is equal. I think
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in many ways that can be limiting
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especially as they transition to
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adults and transition into their careers
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and into the workplace. The reason
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why I say this is because I think
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Millennials oftentimes again they
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Feel they’re entitled.
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They feel that on their
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first day of work they could be the boss.
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Even though they have
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zero work experience, they still feel that everyone is
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equal and so they should have all the
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same access and an
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ability to share their mind and speak
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their views. As much as someone who’s
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been doing the job for a much longer
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period of time that they have.

Millennials communicate and the level of
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transparency that they’re they’ve grown
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accustomed to again I think you know for
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Millennials the mindset is that
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communication should be quick, it should
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be easy, you don’t necessarily have to
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think too much about it, you could just
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send someone over a text message.
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I think that can be limiting especially as you transition
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to work. Sometimes we need
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to be more thoughtful with our
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approaches especially at work and
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in professional capacities. I mean
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sometimes you need to think through what you say, and how you say it, who
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you’re saying it to.

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So this is good wisdom and that is
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absolutely a trait of the Millennials
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nobody thinks about
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anything and I like the fact that you
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said that they want to access they think
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that they can come into
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a job and they don’t care that
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somebody’s been there 30 years that they
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feel they’re entitled
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to the same to the same access but you
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know on the flip side of that again as
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you were talking about everyone
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gets the trophy and everyone is equal.
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I’m seeing that in relationships and I
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guess at some point in our show, I don’t
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know if you touch on this in
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your book; but we should look at how
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Millennials deal with
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Relationships. It’s obviously equal since there’s so much
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interracial marriages.
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The next question I have is how do
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you feel that these limiting
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mindsets erode self-confidence.
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Self-confidence sure I mean I I think
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honestly that the everyone gets a
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trophy I think that can have
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definite have a negative
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impact on your self-confidence. So, for
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example if I have been raised in a way
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where I believe that I’m
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entitled to justice, when I am faced with
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Rejection, that certainly will impact my
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self-confidence. so even though you may you
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believe that you are equal, when
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you first get that rude awakening that you’re not, that
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Starts to happen sometimes in your early
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Twenties, especially when you’re in
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College; but definitely once you
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enter into the workplace. I think that
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that’s when you know you really see that
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there are going to be people who will
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quickly rise to the top and they’re
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going to be people who will
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stay at the bottom and that’s why it’s
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important to make sure you’re doing
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everything you can to make
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yourself stand out in a positive way
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from your peers. I do believe that
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you know that’s where self-confidence is
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really important because if you don’t
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have that confidence even when
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you start to become more competitive
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with others that’s when a
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lack of self-confidence can start to
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to take over. I also think again going
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back to technology that
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definitely impacts self-confidence and
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and that just the reliance on technology
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because of social media to be honest
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with you, we live in a world now
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where there’s so much competition on
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social media to live your best
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Life.
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Millennials are the first generation
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where they honestly are living two lives. I mean
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they have their real life in love and they have this social
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media life. They have to deal with
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as well and I know a lot of times non
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Millennials don’t take that seriously
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they’ll say well that’s just silly that
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you know someone is so concerned with
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social media that they was that would
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impact their self-confidence or how they
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feel about themselves but that’s real
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Life. We have to acknowledge
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that and we have to help
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Millennials to work through those
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types of those issues.

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I want to talk to Arica on the topic of Adulting, that she
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talks a lot about in her book.
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I actually heard it somewhere else on social media.
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It’s just a beautiful word and I loved
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it and that is adulting.
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Can you explain it what
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exactly is adulting and how does that
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relate to our topic on mindset today?

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Adulting just means that you’re doing the duties and the
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responsibilities of a fully developed adult.
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Millennials use it a lot you know to be
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Funny; but I do think that there
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is that the term does make a
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lot of sense I mean I think it could be
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used as both like a verb and all
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different types of ways; but I do think
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for Millennials specifically the
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transition to adulting has been a
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little bit tougher than previous
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Generations. So that’s why there’s so
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much emphasis on adulting.
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I see with a lot of Millennials that I
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Coach, there is a reluctance to sort of let go from
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Childhood.

I know you talk about branding and you talk
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about looking for a job and becoming a
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fully developed adult. What are some of
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the plays that you talked about in your
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book to help Millennials?

What I try to do in the book is give very
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actionable advice. It’d be
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really easy to write a book and say go
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out and be a successful adult and you
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Know, make good decisions and you know
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Exercise, drink water, and keep a job and
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save money right? I mean that those are I
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would say a lot of us don’t create goals
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but the specifics are not there; so I
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really use every chapter to give very
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clear or actionable advice on
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how you can do specific things. For
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Example, when I talk about how
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to look for a job I go through the
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Specifics. Why it’s important
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to have things like a LinkedIn profile,
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when you’re applying for jobs
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that you’re doing it in the right way.
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How to make sure that you are
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presenting your best
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self on interview day what to do in
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terms of following up after an interview.
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Once you have the job, how to keep the
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job and again I go very specific. I say
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things like on your first day
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set three goals of the things that you
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want to accomplish at that job and it’s
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not just you know I want to do I want to
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do well here. It’s what are three things
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you want to do? Do you want to work on a
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certain project? Do you want to get promoted
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within six months? Things like
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That. I go again very detailed to make sure you get to work on
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Time. Getting to work on time, being at
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your desk ready to work as soon as you
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know you’re supposed to be there. Etc. It’s
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very specific you know in
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terms of those types of things.
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Networking when you go to a networking
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event make sure you speak with three people and stay 30
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minutes after. All of those types of things make you
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a successful adult. That’s why I called it a
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playbook that was in a usable format
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easy to read I tell stories of based
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upon my own adulting experiences.

I like what you say about your brand is
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that you are the CEO of ME Incorporated,
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the chief marketing officer for the
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brand to call you.
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As a coach that’s what I teach my clients, that you
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are you are the lid.

That goes back to being the CEO of ME
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Inc. It’s up to you to make sure that
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you’re running your own brand and you
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are really developing those
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qualities about yourself that will set
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you apart in a very positive way and it
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makes everyone have a very positive sort
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of brand experience from you the same
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way that we expect out of the
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brands that we use like Target and Apple
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and you know Chipotle

As we close Arica how you readers pick up a copy of your book?
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Arica will be back for several more
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episodes and we will dive in deeper into
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some of the other things and traits that
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Millennials can use some help with in
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order to succeed and to Live their Best
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Lives Now. Not when you’re 80,
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not when you’re 50 not when they’re 40
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But right now.
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All of the things that come with
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Adulting, one of the things that I always
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suggest to some of the Millennials that
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I coach is taking one hour a week to
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think and to strategize about what you
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want to happen in your life.
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if you think about it one hour a
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week is not that it’s not that much but
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you’d be surprised if you just
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take that time turn off your phone turn
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off technology and just think about I
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like to put mine in a notebook and think
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about what are your goals for the week
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it might be for the month for the year
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but just spend that time thinking that
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can really help you I believe with your
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self-confidence because it will give it
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will give you an opportunity to start to
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put some order and what you want to do
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which I think can you know what helps us
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make better decisions and also helps us
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feel better about ourselves when we
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really feel like we are going down a
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circuit path instead of just sort of
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living by the you know the seat of our
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pants so that would be my advice is take
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time to think and if it can’t be an hour
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make it half hour make it 10 minutes but
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then some time or just strategizing on
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your life right now as a millennial and
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that will really help you draw out your
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past going forward awesome. Yes I agree
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I meditate every morning and
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I will tell you that it really affects
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everything it just not only affects your
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mood affect your vibration.
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but yeah it’s you know you can’t go
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anywhere if you don’t have a goal you
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know like one of my favorite sayings
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yeah one of my favorite things in
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something that Millennials can understand
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which is Alice in Wonderland is that
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If you don’t know where
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you’re going then it doesn’t matter
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where you end up! So you got to strategize
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and you have to have a plan.
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Without a plan it stays a dream.
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06:51 In our last episode we talked about “How to Prevent the EBB in long term relationships because you know hat there’s always Ebb and Flow; but we want it to flow.


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07:40
All right so let’s get on with the show! Let’s dive right in as I
mentioned before our topic today is going to be “How to Flow with your Desire”
Another way of saying that is

“How to keep what you now have”

07:58 What you have in your hands need some work, you just don’t
get it and then you don’t have to do anything else.
Relationships require work, and most people have a false sense of entitlement.
They feel that it is enough that they are just there in the relationship and
all they have to do is show up or come home every night and they feel that
they’re doing something. People think that you should love them as they are
and they don’t need any work or they don’t need to make any changes.

08:37 I remember one of my ex-husband’s actually saying this to me.
A few months after we were married I asked him to take more care with his
Appearance and hygiene because he was walking around looking like he was homeless and this was his response and I quote “This is what you bought and you can’t send it back” A lot of people feel that hey you picked me, you bought me, you got into a relationship with me, so you must be okay with how I am, and you know you gotta put up or shut up. But that does not lead to a healthy relationship.

09:22 Some ask why do I have to do all this work? I have heard people say it’s either a fit or it’s or it’s not. Why try to force a square peg in a round hole? Good question. It’s true, that there are some square pegs that definitely do not need to be forced into a round hole because it’s never gonna fit right; but we’re not talking about the obvious misfits. We’re talking about couples have some synergy. They have love but they just got to do a little bit of work.

10:09 We all know the spouse or a partner that just comes home and turn on the TV and pay his partner no attention. Those are the ones were talking about. Relationship needs work to keep them fresh and healthy.

10:28 When relationships are not fresh and healthy, couples then become roommates and it’s never more evident as when you go to your partner and you say “Hey this is not working out, I think we should we should go our separate ways and they say sure why not. They agree! My gosh that is like a slap in your face or like someone throwing a cold bucket of water on you! That is not the response you want but; that’s what happens when the relationship Ebbs and Ebbs and nobody pays any attention and you’re now just roommates. What has happened is that your partner has emotionally checked out a long time ago and they’re just there for I don’t know, finances, the children or whatever the reason.

11:20 When you break up with someone you want them
to miss you. You want them to chase you. You don’t want them to say.
“Sure, why not!”. That’s not the response that we should get when
we’re trying to terminate a relationship right?

11:48 I remember reading Gabrielle Union’s book we’re going to need more wine and she told the story a very sad story about the night she had a fight with her first husband. She describes this relationship as feeling like you are driving towards a brick wall yet being incapable of mashing on the breaks! Her marriage was going down the tank for a long time but she didn’t want to give up on it. So, she told the story about a night she had a fight with her husband one of their many fights and she ran out the house in the middle of the night, four o’clock in the morning or some ridiculous time like that. She expected her husband to chase her because you know your husband should be worried about you, he’s supposed to be to protect you!
Gabriel ended up sitting by a tree and falling asleep. When she woke up in the morning she was sure that her husband was worried about her and called the cops. She expected to find cops all over her house when she got home. Instead she found her husband fast asleep.
That’s when she realized there was no hope for her marriage.

13:44 So ladies and gentlemen, Ask yourself what do you bring to the table?
You now have the object of your affection, you won. He or she is now yours what are you going to do to keep him or her?
Ladies maybe you were a seductress and got the man interested, now what? What else you got?
One quality will bring someone to the table and even make them fall in love with you but it will not keep them. It will not hold them.
Lots of people love others but can’t live with them.
Lot of couples divorce yet are still in love, that is because you need a pairing of attractive qualities.
A one hat trick is not going to be enough in the long run.
Ladies, You know that there is a long line of seductress waiting around the corner to entice your man.
Men if all you got, is that you are the provider, well all your woman has to do is look to the left or right and find another man with a job and he can replace you.
What is your unique paring?
This information was the reason I went through 4 husbands.
They all had one thing but not the unique pairing I required to hold me.
I will tell you it took me almost 30 years to find it in my current relationship.
My unique paring was ambition and genuine caring. Caring for me and my daughter.
When you get this unique paring you get not only an attraction but you get an addiction.
The “and” is what makes you difficult to replace.
What I would like to do now is play for you an except from one of the relationship experts I interviewed on this show to add some context to our conversation. Ms Inez Bracy is a coach and author of Rejuvenate your life: 21 days to feel like a woman again.

The Alchemy of Desire

18:25 21 Days to feel like a woman again by Inez Bracy

1. Meditation
Your journey begins whenever you say it is.
Now is this moment if you decide this second yeah this makes perfect sense to me. I am going to do something to start changing my life.
If you decide that that’s perfect and you go into silence and into meditation, being still, whatever it is you desire to change will
reveal itself to you. It will come in a way where you are given steps to take.
Now I can tell you this when that comes, it is going to come very quietly, it’s not going to be loud and boisterous, it’s going to tell you perhaps you should do this or that.

2. Celebration
21:14 The next thing that I enjoy is celebrations. Celebrate something every single day and that’s
what my blissful living challenge is all about. So many times we can get caught up in everything that’s going on around us. Almost like a vortex we get just sucked into it; but if you’ve ever been around a baby, small babies or under two years old. Up to that age the baby’s just gurgles and giggles and they are just so happy.
I imagine it now.

21:54 They’re blissful. They have no reason not to be. We lose that along the way from boundaries and everything else that comes along. When we lose that we get to recapture and reclaim it because it is our birthright. Babies come in the world with it. We could to reclaim our birthright and no matter what is going on in our environment, we can still choose bliss.

3. 23:05 Vibration Frequency
The more you start to celebrate, the more you lift your vibrations and The more you sing, the more you dance, the less often you will have to shovel;because your vibrational energy is at a point now where it’s attracting to you those things that are good. This level of vibration is higher so you’re going to be attracting love, you’re going to be attracting Joy, you’re going to be attracting bliss.

23:33 Myrna: Yes, I talk about gratitude like that but; I guess it’s the same word be grateful for what you have regardless of what’s lacking. Don’t concentrate on what you don’t have. Concentrate on what you want. So that you can raise your vibrational frequency and attract good things.

25:09 So, yes celebrating having gratitude very important.

4. 25:17 Vision
Another thing is to visualize. To live in a space of visualization to write out what it is you want. When I’m working with my clients, I say to them I desire you get to write out your vision for your life. Where do you want to live?
How does it look? How does it show up?

25:56 Sit down and see yourself in the theater of your mind. On your own stage and you’re the actor and the producer!
Write out your vision for your life.

5. 32:18 Woulda, Shoulda, Coulda
We can spend our entire lives lamenting Woulda, Shoulda, Coulda and that’s all in the past. All in the past, it’s already happened or didn’t happen. Those words have no value to this present moment. They have no value to your future either.
So you should begin to eliminate woulda coulda shoulda from your vocabulary

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How to Play to Win with the Cards you are Dealt in Life

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Are you a #meToo survivor? Dealt some bad cards in life? Find out “how to play to win” by tuning in to this podcast to learn How to play with the cards you were dealt in life.
We are live on location at the Main Broward Library in Fort Lauderdale. I will be discussing my book “Out of the Snares, a story of hope and encouragement.
You will also hear from a panel of speakers as we discuss the topic “How to play with the Cards you were dealt in Life.”

I wrote this book with the intention of drawing life lessons from various aspects of my Life.
For example the first life event that I introduced in my book
is as a victim of childhood sexual abuse and being born into poverty.
The life lesson I share here is that

You don’t have to be a victim in life; instead become a player.

Just like in the game of blackjack, if the dealer is
showing a picture card and you only have small cards, you don’t chuck your hand in and say there’s no way that I can win.
All you need is the intention to win and guess what, your hand is going to get better.

Quitters Never Win and Winners Never Quit

On this podcast my panel of speakers are:
Genese Vertus
Coach Dan Willms
And Coach Jenny Wang

Here is a short excerpt from my book:

Out of the Snares

I was born into a family with nothing, my mother and
grandmother were both domestic servants. My dad was in Teachers College and did not know his real father. He lived with his mom and stepfather who was an alcoholic.
In 1959 Guyana was a British colony of England.
Just like England colonized India and took all the wealth out of India, in a similar way England took all of Guyana’s
resources out of the country.
Most of the Blacks and Indians were living in poverty. My mom and grandmother worked for white English folk.
As a child I was always fed and had clothes and shoes to wear.
My mom and grandmother both made our clothes.
So, it was understandable that I would be drawn to my godfather, who was a
wealthy man with several houses, several cars and a corner shop filled with
snacks and chocolate bars. Mr. Clark as I will call him took a liking to me beyond that of a Godfather and treated me like his grandchild.
I spent a lot of time at his house. He took me out with
his family every weekend and really showered me with things.
He gave me food, gold chains and gold bracelets, he was also a goldsmith.
I ended up sleeping over at his house several times per week and playing with his grandchildren. He used to like to bounce me on his knee with his legs massaging my private parts.
One day my memory recalls, I was about five
years old, he braced me up against the wall and caressed my body.
As I got older the touching became more intimate.
He would rub my legs whenever I was close.
His favorite was the feeling me up in the front seat of his car while driving me to school.
His hand would be under my skirt fingering my private parts.
I was sure that people in other cars could see him doing this to me;
but he said they could not.
This continued for several years and then one day he took me
behind his shop and took my virginity with his fingers.
I didn’t tell anyone I’m not sure why. I do remember thinking that I
loved him so much and wanted to die before he did.
Mr. Clark started getting a reputation
for liking little girls and my dad asked
me if Mr. Clark ever touch me, I lied and said he had not.

I’m going to skip a couple of paragraphs, I don’t want to get
into the nitty-gritty details here.
I’m going to read to you now my conclusion of this chapter.

How did I play to win? Looking back, if I were to collapse my consciousness
and become the observer in this experience, I would say that at some
subconscious level I knew what we were doing was wrong.
I’m not sure why I chose to keep it a secret.
Research shows that children never tell, they become ashamed and feel that
they are to blame. I know I have always felt shamed. It took me a very, very, long time to share my story. Writing this book was my way of coming into the light and putting the devil on notice that I will no longer let guilt and shame be a part of my life.

That was my introduction to my book.
Pick up a copy to read the full story.

Out of the Snares

I have played with the sexual abuse card, and poverty by concentrating
on CANI. Constant and Never Ending Improvement.
They say that the secret to happiness is always moving
towards a goal and that is how I played the game.

It is wonderful that we’re meeting today in a library because I have always been a reader.
Reading books is how you play to win!

Tony Robbins is now a billionaire because he made himself read 700 books per year and those books taught him everything he knows.
Pat Riley of the Miami Heat said

“If you’re not growing, you are dying”

The second way I have played to win with the cards I have been dealt was to become conscious of my vibrational frequency.
I learned that later in life before I wrote my first book
“Becoming Conscious, my awakening”
I started understanding my vibrations. You see whenever somebody does
something to us, we feel bad and what happens when we feel bad?
We attract more of the same. We always say bad things comes in three’s, that is because you are attracting them to you.
So when you’re in a funk you have to find some way to make
yourself feel better, and one of the ways I do that is to always live in gratitude.
Because regardless of what’s going on in your life, there’s always something that you can
be grateful for. Breath, sight, food in your fridge, etc.
So, find some gratitude and feel that energy release a positive force that reverses all the bad in your life!

Survivors of sexual violence don’t owe anyone our stories. Here’s why I’m telling mine. #MeToo
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http://www.latimes.com/opinion/opinion-la/la-oe-warnke-metoo-sexual-violence-20171016-story.html

Now let’s get on with the show!
My first guest is Genese Vertus

Gene Vertus

Show notes:
16:14 In 2009 at the age of 33 Genese became
CEO and founder of Passion Rescue Mission and reopened the Genecoit Vertus School of Excellence in Francois, Haiti providing tuition free education and serving over 225 students.
17:29 Genese How Have you played with the cards you were dealt in Life?
18:01 Winning has to less with the cards you have in your hand and more to do with how you play the game.

You have to play to win.

18:38 How did I play to win? I was born in one of the poorest countries in the Western Hemisphere, which is Haiti.
20:28 The goal is to win no matter what seven piece of dominoes or cards you have in your hand.
21:56 Kenny Rogers sings a song that says

“You have to know when to Hold and when to Fold”

22:27 Three simple things helped me play with my cards.
1. My faith in God
2. Pursuit of an education
3. A strong support system

30:10 I was fortunate enough to come to this great country to get an education and in
2009 I returned back to Haiti and reopened a school that my father built. We started with 189
students at that time currently we have 225 students getting a
tuition-free education in one of the poorest, mountainous, villages in Haiti,
which is Francois Haiti. We provide meals, we provide school supplies
we provide uniforms and we have 12 teachers that are employed.
I have a waiting list of over 300 students wanting to get into that school right now; so it’s not enough
To win at your game, we must give back. Once you get to where you need to be, you need to
reach back and help your people.
31:16 If you need information on making a donation
Please visit www.passionrescuemission.org Dan Willms

34:39 Introduction of our next guest Coach Dan Willms
Dan Willms is a facilitator for the leadership challenge, a writer and an
international speaker. He’s also the creator of the Positive Change Workshop
and facilitates his workshops in Portuguese, English, and Spanish.
Dan has facilitated more than 145 Positive Change Workshops.

36:49 I believe that even though it is hard to be born poor, it’s not about being born poor
or rich. I’m coming to a conclusion it’s not about the money it’s not about where you
were born it’s what you do with all that.

37:25 I remember the first big tragedy I saw in my life. I was 11 years old. it
was my last day in school. I was ironing a shirt and my father hanged himself in
front of his 11 kids. I was the baby and none of us knew what to do.
So we just watched the body for over an hour until the paramedics came.
But I think even more devastating that watching my father hang himself was the feeling I had as a child
that other people were more special than me.
I would look at the other families where there wasn’t alcohol abuse, there was no
Drugs, there was no fighting, and I would think wow, why are they more special
than I am in the eyes of God.

39:03 I grew up feeling inferior, wondering do black people when they are
kids they look at white people and think wow why are they more special than I am?

39:36 Then I got to thinking, do Gay people wonder why Straight people are more special than they are?
39:53 because I was poor, because we did not have a lot of food, because my father was
an alcoholic, my brothers were drug addicts then I would look at my
neighbors and think why are they more special than I am.

40:39 Now I teach happiness. I teach positive psychology and I teach the
Science of Happiness. I have helped thousands of people to change their
Lives. Thousands of couples who come to me, some can’t they can’t even look
at each other. Parents who cannot have a conversation with their kids. Kids who
cannot stand their parents, but somehow they have to live under the same roof,
so they come to me asking for help.

41:10 I learned from my mom that you will not go far in life if you
don’t make peace with your past. It doesn’t matter where you came from,
if you’re Black, White, Gay or Straight, if you’re bisexual, you have to make
peace with your past.

44:33 I was doing missionary work and was a model missionary. I
found out I was also Gay, but since I be couldn’t be Gay and be a missionary, I had to
pick one and I wasn’t quite sure which one. I chose to be Gay and be myself.
I mean for God’s sakes, God is my father he made me just like this.
And I go around thinking I am broken. How many times we think we are sick we think we are
Disgusting, we think we are not good enough for anyone or anybody. That’s how
I felt most of my life. it is horrible when you look in the mirror and you feel very sick.
You think you’re going to burn in hell.

46:14 You are not building for today you are building for tomorrow. You are building with the tools and resources
you’ve got in the past, so if you don’t make peace with your past, it’s not going to work.

Jenny Wang

51:12 Jenny Wang Introduction
51:15 Jenny is passionate about helping people improve
Performance through holistic learning. She is a Professional Certified Coach and a
Senior Learning and Program Manager at Nutranext, which is the healthiest employer in the US.
Jenny is also a Certified Health Coach and co-author of Bringing Mindfulness to Your
Workplace. Jenny and I worked together at Office Depot. She was my mentor at
Toastmasters, then she became my Coachee as she worked on finding her purpose. I’m
Sure she has found her purpose. Let’s give a warm welcome to Ms Jenny Wang

52:22 I have had some good cards. But there are some cards we cannot choose.
We cannot chose our Father we cannot choose our Mother or our relatives.
I was born and raised in China in a very traditional family. I don’t have trauma
in my life, my parents are very lovely and educated; but there’s one thing that
we never agreed on. When I got married I never thought I wanted children.
I don’t know how many of you are natural parents; but I was not one of them.
When I was at 34 years old my father called me from China had a big
argument with me. He wanted to have a grandchild.
So, How did I play to win? I chose to honor my father’s request because family is important to me.
Now eight years later, people ask me what was the best decision I’ve ever made in my life?
And I say “To have a child”
My son has brought me so much joy, so much wonderful
things to my life that I have never ever thought that I would have.

The second card everyone has, but they also cannot chose is
Passion and purpose.

The 3rd card we are dealt is a Health.
The most important thing for everybody is good health. I decided to take
the journey of being a Yoga Instructor and a Health Coach.

59:01 I learned we can become happy by changing how we move our bodies.
Yoga encourages us to think about our health.
No matter how busy you are, no matter how much outside achievement you have,
by the end of the day you have to take time for yourself.

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9 Steps to Effective Advocacy

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Can Advocacy build successful bridges? It sure can. My guest today shares 9 Steps to Effective Advocacy.
Latisha Atkins is the founder of Building Bridges to Success, Inc.

Show notes:
Tell me about yourself. How did you create your company Building Bridges to Success and become an Advocate?
1. What is Advocacy?: What it is and why it is important?
2. What are some of the ways people can get involved locally and nationally with Advocacy.
3. What are some pointers you can give our audience on how to advocate.
4. How do people and communities move from problem-solving in their personal lives to advocacy?
5. What are some barriers to getting involved with advocacy?
6. How does BRIDGES advocate for your community?
7. What are some examples of advocacy?
8. Is there a difference between advocacy and lobbying?
9. How can BRIDGES help others become advocates for their communities?
10. Does advocacy lead to real change?
11. Can anyone be an advocate?

9 Steps to Effective Advocacy

Check out more on Adcocacy and How it can build bridges to success @ Bridges2yoursuccess.com

As America and the world fight for gun control. Advocacy will be the tool used to change those laws.
Here is an article about Advocacy Groups Call For Firearm Rights In Britain Following Several Terror Attacks

FOLLOWING NUMEROUS DEADLY TERROR ATTACKS THIS YEAR, PRO-GUN GROUPS IN BRITAIN ARE INCREASINGLY CALLING FOR CITIZENS TO RECEIVE THE RIGHT TO BEAR ARMS.
An initiative called Carry Now is growing in England and demanding that the government “allow law-abiding, reliable and trained citizens to carry CCW for self-defence in Europe.”

The initiative is backed by Firearms United, a group in Europe advocating for similar pro-gun initiatives all across the continent.

“These tragedies may have been the eye opener to just how ineffective our laws are,” Firearms-UK representative Dave Ewing reportedly told Voactive following last Saturday’s terror attack in London.

Common Cause is an organization in Washington, DC that is leading the Advocacy charge to modernize elections, making them more fair, secure, and accessible with automatic voter registration laws and same-day registration at polling places on Election Day. We are ensuring security and fairness at the ballot box by demanding paper back-ups and post-election risk-limiting audits to detect foul play early.

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How to Heal your Body Holistically

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In today’s episode of the Transform your Mind with coach Myrna, I interview Ms Taeneka Brooks, founder of Hands of Sage Inc
Taeneka will teach us How to Heal your body Holistically with the use of special blends of teas.

Taeneka always wanted to help people and when her son was diagnosed with Asthma, she decided she wanted to learn how to heal him holistically instead of using prescription drugs. With her holistic approach, her son is now cured of asthma.

Hands of Sage most popular product is called the Sage Moon Box:
The Sage moon Box is the holistic approach of healing women both mentally and physically on their monthly menstrual cycle.
It includes:
Organic natural bathsalts
Sage Moon Tea to boosted fertility
Tampons/pads
Wipes
Tea Infuser

Her holistic teas also help with bloating or cramps

Her detox teas help cleanse the full body, increase metabolism and burn fat
Some of her teas cleanse all the way down to the cellular level.

Taeneka also educates her clients on how to live Holistically
Check out Taeneka on her web site www.handsofsage.bigcartel.com

Holistic healing can also be used for any of the other women problems.
Here is an article on how someone used Holistic Healing to help with uterine fibrods

Holistic Healing

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My 7-Step Holistic Regimen

1. Drastically limit your consumption of simple carbohydrates, refined sugar, and processed foods.
2. Incorporate organic foods as much as possible. Food packed with hormones, specifically meat, feed the fibroid.
3. Juice beets, spinach, kale, ginger, and turmeric daily to detox the liver.
Also add fresh turmeric to your juice and tea.
Likewise, you can take 3 or more turmeric capsule 3x daily.
This will decrease inflammation and stop excessive bleeding and pain. I add raw turmeric to my dandelion root tea every day.
4. Take an active dose of systemic enzymes 3x daily. My dosage consists of 12 pills daily (6 in the morning and 6 at night). This has aided tremendously in dissolving my fibroids.
5. Exercise a minimum of 30 mins daily four to five times a week.
6. Avoid consuming anything packaged in plastic. Bottled water is the major culprit of estrogen imbalance.

THE MOST EFFECTIVE TREATMENT: Do castor oil packs every other day. I use Jamaican black castor oil by Island Tropic. Click here for more information on what castor oil can do for your fibroids.

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The Alchemy of Desire Episode 5- The long term relationship dance

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Today on Mindset Transformation Radio and podcast, we are continuing with our series on the The Alchemy of Desire Episode 5- The Long Term Relationship Dance.

My co -host for this series is my girl pal the fabulous Ms Margo Blake. Margo is a One Taste Intimacy Coach and, I am a Mindset Coach. Together we want to share our knowledge on this Topic “The Alchemy of Desire and Intimacy”

What is Desire – Desire can be called the feminine face of God! Desire is what God places in your spirit to lead you to your purpose. It is the key that unlocks what God placed you on this earth to do.

We all Desire to be in loving fulfilling relationships with our Partners, our children, our friends and co-workers. We desire to have successful careers, some of us desire to procreate and have children, we desire to be emotionally and physically healthy, we desire to be wealthy, and today we are going to touch on the desire for flow in our relationships and not ebb.

This is Intimacy

The Dance of Intimacy
Anyone in a long-term relationship knows the relationship dance well. It took me a while to understand this dance. I walked out of my first marriage at age 21 declaring boldly “I am no longer in love with my husband and I refuse to live in a loveless marriage at age 21.” After 4 marriages I now know that relationships EBB and FLOW. Erotic love turns into Agape love. Passion and desire EBB and FLOW.

In all my relationships fighting and then having make up sex was usually the shock than rejuvenated the relationship.

In the beginning of anything there is more energy just as electrify is more powerful at the source, feelings are more powerful when they are new.

As feelings change and familiarity sets in, the intimacy dance begins. Just as you have to practice the waltz on the dance floor, in a similar way you must practice your dance in the bedroom.

It is important to understand why you and your partner connected in the first place and why you disconnected.

Since all relationships begin within, the scenery out there is the scenery in here.

You can’t give away what you don’t have. So the first step when you become aware of the EBB in your relationship is to take an inventory of the self. Meditation can help.

In our first episode I introduced the book “The Alchemy of Desire.” In this book the lovers were passionate and couldn’t keep their hands off each other, then life happened and intimacy veined.

Every relationship faces this junction. Once relationships become more established, the individuals in the union begin to turn their attention outward again. To the other parts of their lives that matter, such as work, family, and friendships. This is natural and healthy but; if a long-term relationship is to last, turning towards one another recurrently, with the same curiosity, attention, and nurturance of earlier times, is essential.

In a busy and demanding world full of obligations and opportunities, we sometimes lose track of our primary relationships, thinking they will tend to themselves. We may have the best intentions when we think about how nice it would be to surprise our partner with a gift or establish a weekly date night. Yet somehow, life gets in the way. We may think that our love is strong enough to survive without attention. Yet even mature trees need water and sunlight if they are to thrive.

We water our relationships by showing interest in our partners. We shine light on our relationships by smiling and being genuinely happy to see our partners.

I was at a stand-up comedy show with >Mike Epps a few years back and he made a joke about how his wife would meet him at the door with a beer and loving embrace when they were first married, and now she shrugs and says oh it’s you!

I am genuinely happy to see my husband walk through the door and when he calls me during the day. I let him know this

The marriage dance relationship
Show Notes:

Question 1: Margo what is your take on the relationship dance? Personally you have mentioned several times that your relationships end after 10 years. What does the dance look like to you?

Question 2: Looking back can you see the point when the relationship ebb resulted in a break? How can anyone listening turn that ebb into a flow?

Question 3: What are some tips to keep Desire flowing instead of ebbing?

Question 4: If our listeners find themselves in an Ebb should they panic or understand that is the flow of life that what goes up must come down.

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How does Infidelity Affect Intimacy and Desire for Our Partner

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Today on WDJY 99.1 FM straight talk radio our topic is “How does Infidelity affect Intimacy and Desire for our Partner ”
We all Desire to be in loving fulfilling relationships with our Partners, our children, our friends and co-workers. We desire to have successful careers, some of us desire to procreate and have children, we desire to be emotionally and physically healthy, we desire to be wealthy, and today we are going to touch on our desire for our partners to be faithful to their commitment to us.

But what happens when they don’t? Statistics show that as much of 70% of men and women cheat on their spouses and committed partners.

My co -host for this episode is my girl pal the fabulous Ms Margo Blake. Margo is a One Taste Intimacy Coach and, I am a Mindset Coach. Together we want to share our knowledge on this Topic “How does Infidelity affect Intimacy and Desire for our partner”

What is Desire – Desire can be called the feminine face of God! Desire is what God places in your spirit to lead you to your purpose. It is the key that unlocks what God placed you on this earth to do.

The dictionary calls Alchemy a seemingly magical process of transformation, creation, or combination.

I will tell you from personal experience that there is nothing that transforms an intimate relationship into something magical, like the surety that your partner will not break his vows or commitment to you, that he or she loves you unconditionally and would not look at another.

Not too many of us can walk in that space, being able to swear that our partners would not cheat on us.

This is Intimacy

Let’s recap. In our first episode we talked about how to manifest the desires of your heart. The first step is knowing what you want. The second step is adding emotions to it

In our second episode we talked on how to use the energy of desire to create something magical.

In our 3 episode we Used the Power of Attention to light our desires afire.

If you missed those 3 episodes, please download on then on iTunes, Sticher or TuneIn podcast.

Today we want to turn up the heat another notch as we talk about the controversial subject of Infidelity and how it changes Intimacy.

So, lets dive right in.
Margo is an Intimacy coach with One Taste. So let’s start off our discussion today by having her weigh in on the conversation.

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Show Notes:
1. Question 1: Margo as an intimacy coach, how has your clients dealt with infidelity?
2. How have you dealt with infidelity?
3. What happens when Desire goes looking somewhere else?

History will show that men don’t need a reason to cheat on their partner. But for this discussion we will look at the Lack of Desire for the reason for the infidelity.

What can we do when desire dries up and we no longer feel the spark for our partners?

Men like uncertainty, they like variety. Most men who cheat don’t want to leave home. They love their spouse and like the security of home but they seek adventure.

I was just reading the unauthorized biography of Angelina Jolie. Her father John Voight was tempted by great sex and cheated on her mother who promptly left him when Angelina was 6 months old. John Voight had no interest in leaving his wife and 2 kids but the lure of exciting sex was something he could not pass up. That dalliance had far reaching consequences for his children and himself. He would be seeking a family for decades to come.

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But men don’t have to go outside the home for exciting sex. As women we could bring the excitement and adventure to our bedroom. We could bring the feeling of having an affair to our bedroom.

Whatever you are doing now, we could do something different. If you always make love with all your clothes on, in the bed with the lights out; then start making love on the couch, fully clothed, with all the lights on!

Become the mistress. Meet in a hotel, set up dates, role play and dress up, send sexually explicit text messages.

I remember a friend of mine who divorced her husband because she found a video his mistress sent to him. That is how the women are stealing our men, they excite them.

Okay, enough of the men having unmet needs and looking for excitement in the bedroom. What about our unmet needs?
Women have unmet need as well and are catching up to men as they too are looking outside the home for fulfillment of their desires.

Question 5: Margo, how can women communicate their unmet desires to their partners?

Question 6: How do we as women deal with the betrayal of our spouse or partners?

There are several schools of thought about this topic.
1. If you want things to change, you have to change.
Maybe you are a nag, maybe you don’t like sex, maybe you take no pride in your appearance, maybe you have trust issues, maybe you are boring.
You have to know yourself to grow yourself.

2. Ask yourself what have I invested into this relationship? Are you a taker or do you contribute to the peace and happiness of your man?
I remember Jennifer Gardner saying when asked that it was not Ben Afflec role to make her happy. He cheated on her with the nanny. She was taking stock in what she brought to the table and understood it was not someone’s else role to make her happy. Happiness comes from our true self.
You can’t give away what you don’t have.

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The Alchemy of Desire Episode 3- The Power of Attention

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The Alchemy of Desire is the magical process of the transformation of your desires to reality. This transformation happens faster if we empower it with Attention. In this episode we are going to teach you how to use the, Power of Attention, to manifest all your dreams and desires.

What is Desire – Desire can be called the feminine face of God! I love this sentence! Desire is what God places in your spirit to lead you to your purpose. It is the key that unlocks what God placed you on this earth to do.
We Desire for our partners physically and spiritually, we desire our careers, we desire to procreate and have children, we desire to be emotionally and physically healthy, we desire to be wealthy but most of all we desire to fulfill our purpose on this earth and leave it a better place then we found it.

In our first blog on this topic, we talked about how to manifest the Desires of your Heart. The first step is knowing what you want. The second step is adding emotions to it.

In our second blog post on the Alchemy of Desire, we talked on how to use the, Energy of Desire, to create something magical. If you missed those 2 episodes, please listen to then my iTunes podcast.

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Today we want to turn up the heat and talk about the “Power of Attention”
• Now that we know what we want.
• We know how to use the energy of emotion to engage the laws of attraction.
• Now, we want to light our desire afire with the “Power of Attention.”

You remember as a kid you would hold a magnet over a piece of paper and have the Attention of the sun light the paper afire, that is what the, Power of Attention, can do to your Desires.

So, lets dive right in.
My co-host on this episode Margo Blake, an Intimacy coach with One Taste.

Tune in to Sticher to listen to Margo tell her personal story of using, The Power of Attention, after her divorce to attract her now soulmate.

The word desire does not only belong with, sexual desires. As a Mindset Coach, today I want to show you how the energy or, Power of Attention, can transform your Desires into something magical as promised by the Alchemy of Desire.

The power of Attention
Attention is your power source. Rarely does a quality life just show up by chance. What you give your attention to expands.
If you want your dream to come through, you have to do more than dream. You must focus your attention and activate the power of Attention.
The power source for having an Intention that comes through is Attention. What you pay Attention to will grow.

If your intention comes from the level of your true self, it can attract anything. Attention activates the energy of Attraction.
Every wish or desire is like a tiny seed that contains the blueprint for the tree that manifests from the seed. The seed of Desire which is also the seed of any Intention needs nourishment to grow.

If you want your desire to manifest here are some important ways to put the right attention on it:

1. Have a clear intention or goal; don’t muddy it with doubt and fear regarding why it won’t come true.

2. Have positive emotions around your desire, feel how good it will be to fulfill it.

3. Believe that what you want is beneficial to you without any negative consequences to those around you.

4. Be prepared for any response the Universe brings and be flexible to where you go from there.

5. Feel confident that hidden sources will come to your aide once your desires are released to the universe.

6. Find time to meditate on your desires. At the level of the soul, the energy of attraction is most powerful.

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Margo, how can someone use the Power of Attention to change someone’s feelings about them?

I have known lot of men who are able to woo women by paying them attention. I have been on the receiving end of attention that changed my feelings for a partner a few times in my life. My Pastor once said that women are responders, I agree.

Tune in to Google Play to listen to Margo’s answer to this question.

In our last 2 episodes we talked about 4 of the ways renowned sexologist Jaiya believes that we are wired. We discussed the Energetic, the Sensual, the Sexual and the Kinky. Jaiya is the author of Red Hot Touch? Today I though we could look at the Shape Shifter who can be all those energies.

Here are the 5 Sexual Blueprints.

6. Energetic: Turned on by space, tease and anticipation.
7. Sensual: Turned on by comfort, relaxation and all the senses ignited.
8. Sexual: Turned on by nudity and flat out sexual intercourse.
9. Kinky: Turned on by the taboo and power play.
10. Shapeshifter: Turned on by all of the above.

So, Margo, since today we are looking at The Power of Attention, how can a woman who is a Shape Shifter use the Power of Attention to create something magical in the bedroom?

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Today we talked about, The Power of Attention, and to use this energy to create transformation in your lives.

I want to leave you with this thought. When all three legs of the tripod are in place – Focused Attention, Flexible consciousness and pure awareness; the path is open. You become the conscious master, the Energy of Attraction, is activated.

There are certain things that hinder the manifestation of Desire. Severe obstacles such as depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, substance abuse and toxic relationships block the manifestation of your desires. It gets tangled up in personal problems.
So be sure to meditate on your desires and rid yourself of toxicity either from substance abuse or toxic relationships.

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How to Use the Energy of Desire to Create Something Magical

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Today on Mindset Transformation Radio and podcast, we are continuing with our series on the Alchemy of Desire. How to transform the Energy of Desire to Create Something Magical inside and outside of the Bedroom.
My co -host for this series is my girl pal the fabulous Ms Margo Blake. Margo is a One Taste intimacy coach. And of course I am a Mindset coach. Together we want to share our knowledge on this Topic “the Alchemy of Desire”

What is Desire? – Desire can be called the Feminine face of God! I love this sentence! Desire is what God places in your spirit to lead you to your purpose. It is the key that unlocks what God placed you on this earth to do.
We Desire for our partners physically and spiritually, we desire our careers, we desire to procreate and have children, we desire to be emotionally and physically healthy, we desire to be wealthy.

Let me share with you the meaning of Alchemy.
The dictionary calls Alchemy a seemingly magical process of transformation, creation, or combination. That includes.
“finding the person who’s right for you requires a very subtle alchemy”

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The Alchemy of Desire by Tarun J. Tejpal
In his book Mr Tajpal tells the story of a young couple, penniless but gloriously in love. Obsessed with each other, they move from a small town to the big city, where the man, who dreams of being a writer, works feverishly on a novel, stopping only to feed his ceaseless desire for his beautiful wife.

This book offers, in searing, lucid prose, a deeply sensual and moving meditation on the nature of desire, history, truth, and art.

One Taste Coaching program called the Alchemy of Desire teaches Tantra, and how to use erotica to transform your desires into something magical. My co-host Margo Blake is an intimacy coach who works with couples to achieve their desires.

The word desire does not only belong with sexual desires. As a Mindset Coach, I want to coach you on how the Energy of Desire can transform your life. I want to teach you how you can harness desire to create and transform your world. The Alchemy of Desire.

Behind every desire is the need to feel good! On our last episode of the, Mindset Transformation radio show, I asked you to feel your desires and bring them into the present moment with emotion. I am sure that when you think of your desires you feel good, otherwise you would be called a sadist! Everything you desire is because you think it will bring you some form of pleasure. I will also hazard a guess that your desires is for some form of experience.

Here are 7 major positive emotions and Desire heads up the list.
The seven positive emotions are:
1. Desire
2. Faith
3. Love
4. Sex
5. Enthusiasm
6. Romance
7. Hope

Here is the process that starts with desire. You desire something, then you package it with positive emotion. Thoughts are energy travelling at a high rate of vibration. Thoughts that have been modified or stepped up by any of the major positive emotions vibrate at a much higher rate than ordinary thought.

Energy of Desire

Then you auto suggest this desire to your subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is the sending station of the brain in which vibrations of thought are broadcasted. The creative imagination is the receiving center.

Your creative imagination picks this message up and desire is formed. I was watching television documentary a few months back. They were talking about marriage and the difference between men and women as far as their desires for their wedding day. They said that every 7 year old girl has already visualized her wedding day. She has imagined the groom, what she will be wearing, what her bridesmaids will be wearing etc. While the boys only visualize the girl.

So, if we follow this path. The 7 year old desires to be married. She imagines how great she would feel walking down the aisle in her beautiful white gown looking her most beautiful. The man at the alter looks lovingly at her and looks like her idol. She has imagined the entire wedding and her entire life after. The great thing about this desire is that if she continues to dream every day and infuse her desire with positive emotion, her dreams will come true.

We must marry thought and emotion to give us the ability to have the things we want. That is how we create the Alchemy of Desire

Margo, give us an example of how the energy of sexual desire for your partner can transform the relationship and create something special?

What do you Want?

The first thing is that you have to figure out what you want.
Then you have to ask your partner to give you what you want.
Then you must be present to receive it.
After you get what your want and your desires are met then you must be grateful and play it forward.
Now it is your turn to meet the desires of your partner and repeat the cycle.

In our last episode we talked about 2 of the ways renowned sexologist Jaiya believes that we are wired. We discussed the Energetic and the Sensual. Jaiya is the author of Red Hot Touch ? Today I though we could look at the Sexual and the Kinky.

To review, here are the 5 sexual blueprints.
11. Energetic: Turned on by space, tease and anticipation.
12. Sensual: Turned on by comfort, relaxation and all the senses ignited.
13. Sexual: Turned on by nudity and flat out sexual intercourse.
14. Kinky: Turned on by the taboo and power play.
15. Shapeshifter: Turned on by all of the above.

So Margo, since today we are looking at how to transform the energy of desire into creating something magical. How can a sexually wired person maybe transform into a sensual person and incorporate some romance into the bedroom?

How can a Kinky person who feels that her desires are taboo communicate and transform the energy in the bedroom?
(Tune in to listen to Margo’s answer)

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Today we talked about the energy of desire and how you can harness this energy to create transformation in your lives.

I want to leave you with this thought. I want you to remember that your soul records every moment, every conversation, every dream, every desire. Every desire that reaches our brain is recorded in our subconscious. If you are hypnotized, the hypnotist can take you back to the womb.

Last week Margo told us that we can feel a true desire in our body. A desire is true when our bodies communicate it to us and not just our minds. Use that nervous energy or the enthusiasm, or the feelings of love to transform and create something magical!

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The Alchemy of Desire

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What is the Alchemy of Desire? – Desire can be called the feminine face of God! Desire is what God places in our spirit to lead us to our purpose. It is the key that unlocks what God placed you on this earth to do.
We have Desire for our partners physically and spiritually, we desire our careers, we desire to procreate and have children, we desire to be emotionally and physically healthy, we desire to be wealthy.

So why the topic the Alchemy of Desire you ask again?

My co-host today is Margo Blake, a One Taste coach. One Taste has a coaching workshop called the Alchemy of Desire. This workshop focuses on sexual desire; and I wanted to expand that Alchemy of sexual desire to encompass all desires.

Let me share with you the meaning of Alchemy.
The dictionary calls Alchemy a seemingly magical process of transformation, creation, or combination. That includes.
“finding the person who’s right for you requires a very subtle alchemy”

The book the Alchemy of Desire was made famous by
by Tarun J. Tejpal

In his book Mr Tajpal tells the story of a young couple, penniless but gloriously in love. Obsessed with each other, they move from a small town to the big city, where the man, who dreams of being a writer, works feverishly on a novel, stopping only to feed his ceaseless desire for his beautiful wife.

A chance occurrence allows the lovers to abandon the city for a mist-shrouded spur of the lower Himalayas and move into a sprawling old house, which they hope will embody their love. At first they pursue their deep physical need with a reckless intensity. But during renovations of the house, a set of diaries written by the original inhabitant—a glamorous American adventuress—is unearthed, and the narrator finds himself irresistibly drawn away from his wife and thrust into another world and time, into the hole of history. As his life and love fall apart, he slowly begins to uncover the dark secrets at the heart of her story, until the shocking truth is laid bare and all certainties are overturned.
It also offers, in searing, lucid prose, a deeply sensual and moving meditation on the nature of desire, history, truth, and art.

The word desire does not only belong with sexual desires. As a mindset coach I created a work shop to help me and my clients manifest the desires of our hearts. As mentioned in the definition of the word Alchemy. Alchemy is the magical process of transformation and creation.

• We must identify the desires we most want to have and then breathe life into them with the power of our emotions.
• To bring the quantum possibility into particle existence emotions is the key.
• Emotions is the only way to give power to our thoughts and animate them.
• When we focus conscious energy towards what is desired and give it life through emotion, what we desire will always show up.
• I teach my clients to create a list of all the attributes they desire.
• Its Like going into a restaurant and ordering your desire. What do you want to eat?
• You don’t just go into the restaurant and order whatever they are serving; so you shouldn’t do that with your life either.
• Be clear on what you want to create. It is important to live life from that vantage point. Imagine your most important desire is already yours, imagine that it is already happening.

To do this Ask yourself the following questions:
• 1. What is life like now that I have the thing I want the most?
• 2. How is life different than it was before when I didn’t have the thing that I want the most?
• 3. How is my time spent differently?
• 4. How does it feel when I wake up in the morning?
• 5. What does my new day look like?
• 6. Where do I lay my head at night?
• 7. Who is with me?
• 8. What type of new experiences am I having?

Feel the emotions. Emotions is what activates the Law of Attraction.

Thought – located in the upper region of the body. Encompasses the throat, third eye and crown Chakra. This area of the body is responsible for creation. All your desires are created here. Your third eye is in the middle of your forehead between your eyes and your crown Chakra is the top of your head.

Feeling – when thoughts and emotions are combined, they meet at the Heart Chakra. Feelings come into play when the mind interprets emotions.
• When you change the attached emotions to your thoughts, it will creates different feelings.
• We must marry thought and emotion to give us the ability to have the things we want. That is how we create the Alchemy of Desire.


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I was listening to a Tony Robbins podcast last week and the host was interviewing renowned sexologist Jaiya. Jaiya is the author of Red Hot Touch ? Jaiya told a personal story in which she said she is wired as an Energetic. Energetics according to Jaiya are able to achieve sexual fulfillment by tapping into the energy in the bedroom.
• The energetic is turned on by arousal, tease, anticipation and space. They’re very turned on by light touch, slow touch, and feeling very safe.

Her partner on the other hand was wired as a Sensual.
According to Jaiya, the sensual is turned on by all of their senses being ignited. Tastes, smells, beauty, they really want beauty and they bring beauty into a sensual sexual space. They also love candles, romance, music, bathtub time, massage, full body touch.

So, Jaiya says that for 3 years she would get into bed and initiate sex and her partner would turn his back and say he was tired and not in the mood. She said she would cry herself to sleep because she felt that her partner did not love her any more and was no longer sexually attracted to her.

Her partner on the other hand said he was tormented because he felt like a looser because he could not satisfy his woman. This went on like I said for 3 years until finally they figured out that he needed the sensual to get aroused and was not turned on by her chop chop let’s do this attitude.

How do you coach your clients to bridge incompatibilities in the bedroom?

Tune in to listen how Margo coaches her couples to communicate in the bedroom.