The Alchemy of Desire Episode 5- The long term relationship dance

The relationship dance

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Today on Mindset Transformation Radio and podcast, we are continuing with our series on the The Alchemy of Desire Episode 5- The Long Term Relationship Dance.

My co -host for this series is my girl pal the fabulous Ms Margo Blake. Margo is a One Taste Intimacy Coach and, I am a Mindset Coach. Together we want to share our knowledge on this Topic “The Alchemy of Desire and Intimacy”

What is Desire – Desire can be called the feminine face of God! Desire is what God places in your spirit to lead you to your purpose. It is the key that unlocks what God placed you on this earth to do.

We all Desire to be in loving fulfilling relationships with our Partners, our children, our friends and co-workers. We desire to have successful careers, some of us desire to procreate and have children, we desire to be emotionally and physically healthy, we desire to be wealthy, and today we are going to touch on the desire for flow in our relationships and not ebb.

This is Intimacy

The Dance of Intimacy
Anyone in a long-term relationship knows the relationship dance well. It took me a while to understand this dance. I walked out of my first marriage at age 21 declaring boldly “I am no longer in love with my husband and I refuse to live in a loveless marriage at age 21.” After 4 marriages I now know that relationships EBB and FLOW. Erotic love turns into Agape love. Passion and desire EBB and FLOW.

In all my relationships fighting and then having make up sex was usually the shock than rejuvenated the relationship.

In the beginning of anything there is more energy just as electrify is more powerful at the source, feelings are more powerful when they are new.

As feelings change and familiarity sets in, the intimacy dance begins. Just as you have to practice the waltz on the dance floor, in a similar way you must practice your dance in the bedroom.

It is important to understand why you and your partner connected in the first place and why you disconnected.

Since all relationships begin within, the scenery out there is the scenery in here.

You can’t give away what you don’t have. So the first step when you become aware of the EBB in your relationship is to take an inventory of the self. Meditation can help.

In our first episode I introduced the book “The Alchemy of Desire.” In this book the lovers were passionate and couldn’t keep their hands off each other, then life happened and intimacy veined.

Every relationship faces this junction. Once relationships become more established, the individuals in the union begin to turn their attention outward again. To the other parts of their lives that matter, such as work, family, and friendships. This is natural and healthy but; if a long-term relationship is to last, turning towards one another recurrently, with the same curiosity, attention, and nurturance of earlier times, is essential.

In a busy and demanding world full of obligations and opportunities, we sometimes lose track of our primary relationships, thinking they will tend to themselves. We may have the best intentions when we think about how nice it would be to surprise our partner with a gift or establish a weekly date night. Yet somehow, life gets in the way. We may think that our love is strong enough to survive without attention. Yet even mature trees need water and sunlight if they are to thrive.

We water our relationships by showing interest in our partners. We shine light on our relationships by smiling and being genuinely happy to see our partners.

I was at a stand-up comedy show with >Mike Epps a few years back and he made a joke about how his wife would meet him at the door with a beer and loving embrace when they were first married, and now she shrugs and says oh it’s you!

I am genuinely happy to see my husband walk through the door and when he calls me during the day. I let him know this

The marriage dance relationship
Show Notes:

Question 1: Margo what is your take on the relationship dance? Personally you have mentioned several times that your relationships end after 10 years. What does the dance look like to you?

Question 2: Looking back can you see the point when the relationship ebb resulted in a break? How can anyone listening turn that ebb into a flow?

Question 3: What are some tips to keep Desire flowing instead of ebbing?

Question 4: If our listeners find themselves in an Ebb should they panic or understand that is the flow of life that what goes up must come down.

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How does Infidelity Affect Intimacy and Desire for Our Partner

How does infidelity affect intimacy

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Today on WDJY 99.1 FM straight talk radio our topic is “How does Infidelity affect Intimacy and Desire for our Partner ”
We all Desire to be in loving fulfilling relationships with our Partners, our children, our friends and co-workers. We desire to have successful careers, some of us desire to procreate and have children, we desire to be emotionally and physically healthy, we desire to be wealthy, and today we are going to touch on our desire for our partners to be faithful to their commitment to us.

But what happens when they don’t? Statistics show that as much of 70% of men and women cheat on their spouses and committed partners.

My co -host for this episode is my girl pal the fabulous Ms Margo Blake. Margo is a One Taste Intimacy Coach and, I am a Mindset Coach. Together we want to share our knowledge on this Topic “How does Infidelity affect Intimacy and Desire for our partner”

What is Desire – Desire can be called the feminine face of God! Desire is what God places in your spirit to lead you to your purpose. It is the key that unlocks what God placed you on this earth to do.

The dictionary calls Alchemy a seemingly magical process of transformation, creation, or combination.

I will tell you from personal experience that there is nothing that transforms an intimate relationship into something magical, like the surety that your partner will not break his vows or commitment to you, that he or she loves you unconditionally and would not look at another.

Not too many of us can walk in that space, being able to swear that our partners would not cheat on us.

This is Intimacy

Let’s recap. In our first episode we talked about how to manifest the desires of your heart. The first step is knowing what you want. The second step is adding emotions to it

In our second episode we talked on how to use the energy of desire to create something magical.

In our 3 episode we Used the Power of Attention to light our desires afire.

If you missed those 3 episodes, please download on then on iTunes, Sticher or TuneIn podcast.

Today we want to turn up the heat another notch as we talk about the controversial subject of Infidelity and how it changes Intimacy.

So, lets dive right in.
Margo is an Intimacy coach with One Taste. So let’s start off our discussion today by having her weigh in on the conversation.

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Show Notes:
1. Question 1: Margo as an intimacy coach, how has your clients dealt with infidelity?
2. How have you dealt with infidelity?
3. What happens when Desire goes looking somewhere else?

History will show that men don’t need a reason to cheat on their partner. But for this discussion we will look at the Lack of Desire for the reason for the infidelity.

What can we do when desire dries up and we no longer feel the spark for our partners?

Men like uncertainty, they like variety. Most men who cheat don’t want to leave home. They love their spouse and like the security of home but they seek adventure.

I was just reading the unauthorized biography of Angelina Jolie. Her father John Voight was tempted by great sex and cheated on her mother who promptly left him when Angelina was 6 months old. John Voight had no interest in leaving his wife and 2 kids but the lure of exciting sex was something he could not pass up. That dalliance had far reaching consequences for his children and himself. He would be seeking a family for decades to come.

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But men don’t have to go outside the home for exciting sex. As women we could bring the excitement and adventure to our bedroom. We could bring the feeling of having an affair to our bedroom.

Whatever you are doing now, we could do something different. If you always make love with all your clothes on, in the bed with the lights out; then start making love on the couch, fully clothed, with all the lights on!

Become the mistress. Meet in a hotel, set up dates, role play and dress up, send sexually explicit text messages.

I remember a friend of mine who divorced her husband because she found a video his mistress sent to him. That is how the women are stealing our men, they excite them.

Okay, enough of the men having unmet needs and looking for excitement in the bedroom. What about our unmet needs?
Women have unmet need as well and are catching up to men as they too are looking outside the home for fulfillment of their desires.

Question 5: Margo, how can women communicate their unmet desires to their partners?

Question 6: How do we as women deal with the betrayal of our spouse or partners?

There are several schools of thought about this topic.
1. If you want things to change, you have to change.
Maybe you are a nag, maybe you don’t like sex, maybe you take no pride in your appearance, maybe you have trust issues, maybe you are boring.
You have to know yourself to grow yourself.

2. Ask yourself what have I invested into this relationship? Are you a taker or do you contribute to the peace and happiness of your man?
I remember Jennifer Gardner saying when asked that it was not Ben Afflec role to make her happy. He cheated on her with the nanny. She was taking stock in what she brought to the table and understood it was not someone’s else role to make her happy. Happiness comes from our true self.
You can’t give away what you don’t have.

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The Alchemy of Desire Episode 3- The Power of Attention

The Alchemy of Desire

The Alchemy of Desire is the magical process of the transformation of your desires to reality. This transformation happens faster if we empower it with Attention. In this episode we are going to teach you how to use the, Power of Attention, to manifest all your dreams and desires.

What is Desire – Desire can be called the feminine face of God! I love this sentence! Desire is what God places in your spirit to lead you to your purpose. It is the key that unlocks what God placed you on this earth to do.
We Desire for our partners physically and spiritually, we desire our careers, we desire to procreate and have children, we desire to be emotionally and physically healthy, we desire to be wealthy but most of all we desire to fulfill our purpose on this earth and leave it a better place then we found it.

In our first blog on this topic, we talked about how to manifest the Desires of your Heart. The first step is knowing what you want. The second step is adding emotions to it.

In our second blog post on the Alchemy of Desire, we talked on how to use the, Energy of Desire, to create something magical. If you missed those 2 episodes, please listen to then my iTunes podcast.

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Today we want to turn up the heat and talk about the “Power of Attention”
• Now that we know what we want.
• We know how to use the energy of emotion to engage the laws of attraction.
• Now, we want to light our desire afire with the “Power of Attention.”

You remember as a kid you would hold a magnet over a piece of paper and have the Attention of the sun light the paper afire, that is what the, Power of Attention, can do to your Desires.

So, lets dive right in.
My co-host on this episode Margo Blake, an Intimacy coach with One Taste.

Tune in to Sticher to listen to Margo tell her personal story of using, The Power of Attention, after her divorce to attract her now soulmate.

The word desire does not only belong with, sexual desires. As a Mindset Coach, today I want to show you how the energy or, Power of Attention, can transform your Desires into something magical as promised by the Alchemy of Desire.

The power of Attention
Attention is your power source. Rarely does a quality life just show up by chance. What you give your attention to expands.
If you want your dream to come through, you have to do more than dream. You must focus your attention and activate the power of Attention.
The power source for having an Intention that comes through is Attention. What you pay Attention to will grow.

If your intention comes from the level of your true self, it can attract anything. Attention activates the energy of Attraction.
Every wish or desire is like a tiny seed that contains the blueprint for the tree that manifests from the seed. The seed of Desire which is also the seed of any Intention needs nourishment to grow.

If you want your desire to manifest here are some important ways to put the right attention on it:

1. Have a clear intention or goal; don’t muddy it with doubt and fear regarding why it won’t come true.

2. Have positive emotions around your desire, feel how good it will be to fulfill it.

3. Believe that what you want is beneficial to you without any negative consequences to those around you.

4. Be prepared for any response the Universe brings and be flexible to where you go from there.

5. Feel confident that hidden sources will come to your aide once your desires are released to the universe.

6. Find time to meditate on your desires. At the level of the soul, the energy of attraction is most powerful.

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Margo, how can someone use the Power of Attention to change someone’s feelings about them?

I have known lot of men who are able to woo women by paying them attention. I have been on the receiving end of attention that changed my feelings for a partner a few times in my life. My Pastor once said that women are responders, I agree.

Tune in to Google Play to listen to Margo’s answer to this question.

In our last 2 episodes we talked about 4 of the ways renowned sexologist Jaiya believes that we are wired. We discussed the Energetic, the Sensual, the Sexual and the Kinky. Jaiya is the author of Red Hot Touch? Today I though we could look at the Shape Shifter who can be all those energies.

Here are the 5 Sexual Blueprints.

6. Energetic: Turned on by space, tease and anticipation.
7. Sensual: Turned on by comfort, relaxation and all the senses ignited.
8. Sexual: Turned on by nudity and flat out sexual intercourse.
9. Kinky: Turned on by the taboo and power play.
10. Shapeshifter: Turned on by all of the above.

So, Margo, since today we are looking at The Power of Attention, how can a woman who is a Shape Shifter use the Power of Attention to create something magical in the bedroom?

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Today we talked about, The Power of Attention, and to use this energy to create transformation in your lives.

I want to leave you with this thought. When all three legs of the tripod are in place – Focused Attention, Flexible consciousness and pure awareness; the path is open. You become the conscious master, the Energy of Attraction, is activated.

There are certain things that hinder the manifestation of Desire. Severe obstacles such as depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, substance abuse and toxic relationships block the manifestation of your desires. It gets tangled up in personal problems.
So be sure to meditate on your desires and rid yourself of toxicity either from substance abuse or toxic relationships.

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The Alchemy of Desire

The Alchemy of Desire

What is the Alchemy of Desire? – Desire can be called the feminine face of God! Desire is what God places in our spirit to lead us to our purpose. It is the key that unlocks what God placed you on this earth to do.
We have Desire for our partners physically and spiritually, we desire our careers, we desire to procreate and have children, we desire to be emotionally and physically healthy, we desire to be wealthy.

So why the topic the Alchemy of Desire you ask again?

My co-host today is Margo Blake, a One Taste coach. One Taste has a coaching workshop called the Alchemy of Desire. This workshop focuses on sexual desire; and I wanted to expand that Alchemy of sexual desire to encompass all desires.

Let me share with you the meaning of Alchemy.
The dictionary calls Alchemy a seemingly magical process of transformation, creation, or combination. That includes.
“finding the person who’s right for you requires a very subtle alchemy”

The book the Alchemy of Desire was made famous by
by Tarun J. Tejpal

In his book Mr Tajpal tells the story of a young couple, penniless but gloriously in love. Obsessed with each other, they move from a small town to the big city, where the man, who dreams of being a writer, works feverishly on a novel, stopping only to feed his ceaseless desire for his beautiful wife.

A chance occurrence allows the lovers to abandon the city for a mist-shrouded spur of the lower Himalayas and move into a sprawling old house, which they hope will embody their love. At first they pursue their deep physical need with a reckless intensity. But during renovations of the house, a set of diaries written by the original inhabitant—a glamorous American adventuress—is unearthed, and the narrator finds himself irresistibly drawn away from his wife and thrust into another world and time, into the hole of history. As his life and love fall apart, he slowly begins to uncover the dark secrets at the heart of her story, until the shocking truth is laid bare and all certainties are overturned.
It also offers, in searing, lucid prose, a deeply sensual and moving meditation on the nature of desire, history, truth, and art.

The word desire does not only belong with sexual desires. As a mindset coach I created a work shop to help me and my clients manifest the desires of our hearts. As mentioned in the definition of the word Alchemy. Alchemy is the magical process of transformation and creation.

• We must identify the desires we most want to have and then breathe life into them with the power of our emotions.
• To bring the quantum possibility into particle existence emotions is the key.
• Emotions is the only way to give power to our thoughts and animate them.
• When we focus conscious energy towards what is desired and give it life through emotion, what we desire will always show up.
• I teach my clients to create a list of all the attributes they desire.
• Its Like going into a restaurant and ordering your desire. What do you want to eat?
• You don’t just go into the restaurant and order whatever they are serving; so you shouldn’t do that with your life either.
• Be clear on what you want to create. It is important to live life from that vantage point. Imagine your most important desire is already yours, imagine that it is already happening.

To do this Ask yourself the following questions:
• 1. What is life like now that I have the thing I want the most?
• 2. How is life different than it was before when I didn’t have the thing that I want the most?
• 3. How is my time spent differently?
• 4. How does it feel when I wake up in the morning?
• 5. What does my new day look like?
• 6. Where do I lay my head at night?
• 7. Who is with me?
• 8. What type of new experiences am I having?

Feel the emotions. Emotions is what activates the Law of Attraction.

Thought – located in the upper region of the body. Encompasses the throat, third eye and crown Chakra. This area of the body is responsible for creation. All your desires are created here. Your third eye is in the middle of your forehead between your eyes and your crown Chakra is the top of your head.

Feeling – when thoughts and emotions are combined, they meet at the Heart Chakra. Feelings come into play when the mind interprets emotions.
• When you change the attached emotions to your thoughts, it will creates different feelings.
• We must marry thought and emotion to give us the ability to have the things we want. That is how we create the Alchemy of Desire.


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I was listening to a Tony Robbins podcast last week and the host was interviewing renowned sexologist Jaiya. Jaiya is the author of Red Hot Touch ? Jaiya told a personal story in which she said she is wired as an Energetic. Energetics according to Jaiya are able to achieve sexual fulfillment by tapping into the energy in the bedroom.
• The energetic is turned on by arousal, tease, anticipation and space. They’re very turned on by light touch, slow touch, and feeling very safe.

Her partner on the other hand was wired as a Sensual.
According to Jaiya, the sensual is turned on by all of their senses being ignited. Tastes, smells, beauty, they really want beauty and they bring beauty into a sensual sexual space. They also love candles, romance, music, bathtub time, massage, full body touch.

So, Jaiya says that for 3 years she would get into bed and initiate sex and her partner would turn his back and say he was tired and not in the mood. She said she would cry herself to sleep because she felt that her partner did not love her any more and was no longer sexually attracted to her.

Her partner on the other hand said he was tormented because he felt like a looser because he could not satisfy his woman. This went on like I said for 3 years until finally they figured out that he needed the sensual to get aroused and was not turned on by her chop chop let’s do this attitude.

How do you coach your clients to bridge incompatibilities in the bedroom?

Tune in to listen how Margo coaches her couples to communicate in the bedroom.