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Unbreakable Bonds: A Mother Daughter Journey Beyond Life

In this blog, I'm sharing a, mother daughter, journey that goes beyond life. into the afterlife.  Susan Young Oskey author of The Scent of Roses talk about the unbreakable bond between her daughter and herself and how this bond transcended death into the afterlife.  Susan's goal is to encourage mothers who lost daughters to know that there is, life after death. She shares thoughts on the afterlife and why the love between a mother and daughter is eternal.

If you're interested in hearing more about Susan's journey, or want to share your own thoughts on life after death, please feel free to leave a comment below!

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Susan Young Oskey had a happy childhood thanks to her loving and nurturing parents spending her teenage years being bullied and battling anxiety and depression. Susan found her calling as a teacher, she  is a retired Elementary School teacher with an M.A degree from Stony Brook University.  She enjoys traveling and spending time with her family.  After marrying Christopher she welcomed her baby girl Brittany and the following years were easily the best years of her life.

However things took took a tragic turn when her beloved daughter was taken from her.  Soon after losing Brittany in a tragic accident, Susan's life would have stopped if she hadn't discovered resources that helped bereaved parents like her find solace.  Since then Susan with the help of her family and friends in some ways to talk to Brittany who loves communicating with her mama, she's thrilled to be sharing her life experience with the Afterlife with those who are grieving over the loss of a loved one.

Myrna:  Susan can it you share your incredible story of a mother-daughter bond that that transcended death.

Susan: Brittany was a joy to us, we were thrilled when she was born because I had a late miscarriage before her and then we struggle to get pregnant again. She had a unique personality from a young age, she never held back what she was feeling.  She was very sassy, and very loving.  In her early teen years that her personality started to change a little bit and that's really where the story begins with her.

She started having, mental health, issues when she was around 12 or 13 years old. I noticed the problems the anxiety,  depression and just the lack of confidence.  Something that she always had when she was young and she didn't have it anymore, her confidence  was just gone.  I immediately got her into therapy and all through high school we worked on that.  It wasn't until a couple of psychiatrists gave her medications for her anxiety that we had we started to have some difficulties.

They kept changing her meds and as she went into the College Years, her anxiety wasn't getting any better, as a matter of fact it was getting worse.  She got into a great University she got into a Stony Brook University and we were just thrilled, but by that time it was her junior year in college she had given up on herself.  She stopped doing her homework, she stopped socializing she was depressed all the time and and the anxiety was through the roof.

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Brittany's tried to relieve her pain with methadone and it killed her

She went to a friend's house one night in February of 2018, she had a lot of pain because she had an infection and she only had antibiotics for the  infection, nothing for pain and her friend told her that she had a bottle of methadone that would help with the pain.  So unknowingly my daughter took it because she just wanted to be relieved of the pain and it turned out to be fatal.

Myrna: Oh my goodness, so that's mixing the drugs. I'm assuming because for those that doesn't know what methadone is, it is the drug that they give you when you're getting off of heroin isn't it?

Susan: Yes,  it used to be used for pain relief as well.

Myrna: I am so sorry. I grieve for your for your pain.  Let's unpack it a little bit. Can you share what Brittany's, mental illness, was diagnosed with?  Was it bipolar, was it just depression?

Susan: It was bipolar depression and anxiety, so they were trying to treat those issues with the medication but she got worse and worse.  She had just turned 21 and the accident happened just 10 days after her 21st birthday.

Myrna: Oh my gosh, it's still fresh because you said 2018 so five years ago. Wow my heart bleeds for you.  I was just watching the biography of Anna Nicole and her son and almost the same thing happened to them.  Mixing drugs these days is pretty dangerous.

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A mother daughter bond in the afterlife

Myrna:  I can't say enough how sorry I am for your pain.  So tell us what happened after her death that transcended into her communicating with you?

Susan: Well I always had visits from family members through my dreams and at the beginning, I thought they're just dreams but it turned out they started giving me messages.  My uncle came to tell me to stop smoking,  he had died from lung cancer.  A cousin that had taken his life came to me in a dream and told me I'm okay now, please tell the family that I'm okay.

I was very open to communicating with my daughter.  Of course the weeks that followed her death were traumatic, we were in shock and disbelief.  This was beyond any pain that I have ever experienced in my life. I mean I've never felt such pain before and I think anybody that's a parent could definitely understand.  I couldn't believe she left so young at the age of just turning 21 she was barely legal.

So soon after my daughter's death, I started smelling very strong scent of roses.  At first I thought this has got to be an air freshener, but there's no air freshener plugged in.   It didn't matter where I went, I was visiting my sister down in Florida and it happened there.  It happened when I was driving my car to meet friends and I'm like at that point I said no no this is real this is really happening.

Myrna: Let me jump for a minute.  Why roses was that one of her favorite flowers?

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Scent of roses: communication from the afterlife

Susan: Roses were her favorite flowers and she would keep the roses in her room even after they died, so I I knew right away that's what she was doing for me.  Then I started having the dream visits from her and she was showing me herself and how she looked. It was amazing,  she told me that she was okay.  Even my husband who never ever had any dream visits from anyone before, got one from her and I was just amazed that she got through to him.

I asked him what did what did she look like and he said she's wearing one of those plaid shirts that she always wore and she was with a friend and she said Dad I'm okay and he said to her I've been looking for you lamb.  He used to call her lamb and and she said I'm okay now.  My husband never believed in the afterlife at all,  he didn't have any kind of beliefs but he does now.

Myrna:  Did you ever talk to Brittany other than in dreams?  Did you ever go to a medium?

Susan: Yes I have,  many came through with validations of things that happened to me when I was a child, things that she could not possibly know.  The medium said to me she's telling me that when you were a little girl your father almost drowned in the pool.

Myrna: For those of you listening, I'll link out to it this past episode, it  just gives collaboration to this story. In a past episode called http://blog.myhelps.us/is-there-life-after-death-mothers-story/ A mother and her son again was having some issues,  he was 28. and he went to a party and a friend gave him heroin and even though she said he was six foot six or something a big guy that one dose was fatal.  She was devastated, she had some Clairvoyant ability in her from the past and she kept feeling her son around her.

She it was like a bird fluttering and then she decided to go to a medium and they started communicating and she became a Shaman and and now she helps other spirits communicate with loved ones.  So why do you think that Brittany started showing up with the the, Scent of Roses?  Do you think she came back because of the, mother daughter bond, transcended into the afterlife?

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A mother daughter bond in the afterlife

Susan: the bond between a mother and daughter that transcends debt do you think that she came back um because of that Bond she came back because she had a message for you what why do you think it happened we were very close as mother and daughter we went beyond the usual mother-daughter relationship we would travel all the time just the two of us we would do everything together you know as she got older into adulthood you know she was my best friend.

I mean that's what we were and she was the type of young adult that would share with me things that other parents probably didn't want to hear but she felt comfortable enough, so I feel that she wanted to let me know that bond has not been broken.

It was okay for me to get  communication from the afterlife because I've had it before.  She was able to come to me a lot easier.

Myrna: Brittany must have been a very powerful spirit because one of the things that I've learned from having several conversations about, life after death, is that the reason that we don't see Spirit all the time even though they're all over, is because they're at a different frequency.  In order for them to come into our experience, they either have to know how to lower their frequency or we have to know how to raise ours.

Susan: That's exactly what I was told.  Brittany was able to lower her vibration and because I am an empath too and I'm a sensitive, if I really concentrate I can make mine higher as well.

Myrna: Tell us  why was it important for you to write about your daughter's story in the book Scent of Roses?

Susan: I wanted to share her story and I shared a little bit of my story, I wanted to bring to the light the, mental illness, problem that we do have here and I also wanted to share my experiences with the afterlife to give people a little bit of hope.  I know I have helped some people, I'm not saying everyone, but people have told me they're not afraid of death anymore.

I joined a group called Helping Parents Heal and parents are communicating with their kids in the afterlife.

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Mental Illness causes families a lot of pain

Brittany did not get any help to relieve the symptoms of her mental illness.   I really don't think the drugs they gave her were helping. I have nothing but bad experiences from them, her mental illness was real but there's kind of be a better way to treat it than just loading them up on drugs that didn't work.

Myrna:  It's great that you're helping someone that's grieving about a loss of a child or a spouse or a loved one to know that the afterlife is there.  You're also highlighting the issue with, mental illness drugs, they're not doing anything to help manage the illness.

Tell us about your book why should someone go ahead and get the book

Susan:  I think a lot of people can relate to the mental health issue because there are a lot of people out there. I also talked about bullying people not being nice to one another and all things that Britney stood for.  Also the healing comes from knowing that you're going to hear from them, you're going to see them again at some point.   In the beginning after her death she practically threw herself in front of me to say Mom I'm here.

I truly believe that if people knew the truth about the afterlife that they wouldn't be so fearful.

Myrna:  Where can our listeners pick up a copy of your book, if you're on social media what are your social media handles. What do you want them to walk away with after reading the book?

Susan:  I want them to walk away with a sense of peace and calmness. I also want them to know they're not alone with all the struggles that we go through in life and I want to give them hope that life's gonna continue on.   My book is on Amazon it's also um on my website www.thescentofroses.com

and my Instagram account is @Brittanyscentofroses

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Understanding Mental Illness: My Bipolar Life

How to Create Positive Core Beliefs


Do you know that your, core beliefs, affect everything you do in life? Well it’s true.  What you believe is how you show up in every circumstance in your life.

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For example: Do you consistently find yourself in situations where men are trying to bully you or treat you less than you are worth? It may because of a, core belief, that started with how your father treated your mother or even you.

Introduction Core Beliefs 

Your, core belief, could be that you are a victim and that belief keeps you trapped in that story.

The thing about a, core belief, is that it cannot be easily changed.

Here is a quote from Tony Robbins that explains the power of, core beliefs,:

“All personal breakthroughs begin with a change in, core beliefs. So how do we change? The most effective way is to get your brain to associate massive pain to the old belief. You must feel deep in your gut that not only has this, core belief cost you pain in the past, but it's costing you in the present and, ultimately, can only bring you pain in the future. Then you must associate tremendous pleasure to the idea of adopting a new, empowering belief.”

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We all have existing, core beliefs, in four areas:

  • How we feel love,
  • our self-worth,
  • how we feel security, and
  • fulfillment.
  • Life after death. 

Your, core beliefs, can't be changed simply by throwing out an old one and adopting a new one, like changing your wardrobe. The change must come at the level of self-awareness to help you achieve any goal. 

Examples of, Positive Core Beliefs 

A, positive core belief, is pure and direct. It gives you a clear sense of who you are. It isn’t confused, conflicted, or compromised. Let’s take steps to make this the kind of, core belief, you are activating. Step one is to bring your, core beliefs, into awareness. The four key beliefs you want to activate are:

  • I am loving and lovable.
  • I am worthy.
  • I am safe and trusting.
  • I am fulfilled and whole.

The bible teaches that for God to answer prayer you must first believe and have faith that God is first able and willing to give you the desires of your heart; but there are ways to improve the chances that God will answer your prayer. A prayer is a special kind of intention or, core belief.  Therefore, the rules that apply to the,  Power of intentions, which are rules about consciousness, apply.

Your prayer will be answered, or not, depending on events happening out of sight – but not out of mind. The mind furnishes the mechanics of making any intention come true. An intention or prayer request, sent to God needs faith to rocket it to the heavens. An intention to graduate at the top of your class or to marry the man of your dreams takes focus, diligence and action. The bible also teaches “Faith  Without Works Is Dead”.

Are you rejecting love because of your, core belief? 

If you have not found love even after several tries, then you have to look deeply at what you are doing to push love away.  Do you have a, core belief, that you are unlovable? How much pain is that belief causing you? It will take a lot of work; but you have to believe that God’s light shines in you and that you deserving of love and happiness.

Do you feel empty inside all the time even though you have all the outward symbols of success like a nice home, a loving husband, a good job, 2 kids and a dog? Then your, core belief, could be that you need to make a contribution to the world like Mother Theresa or like Nelson Mandela to feel fulfilled. You have to change that, core belief, that maybe your purpose is to support your children and help them to fulfill their purpose in the world.  Sometimes our role in God’s kingdom is not to change the world but to change one person!

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Here is A Self-Awareness Exercise to help you understand Your, Core Beliefs,

Look upon what's happening now in your life as a reflection of your, core beliefs.

Are there any patterns you see? For example:

  • Do all your relationships fail?
  • Are you in constant debt?
  • Do you find it hard to keep friends?

Listen to yourself. Once you figure it out, then turn it around. Ask yourself:

  • What do I want?
  • What would I have to believe in order to have this?

Next, you're going to re-program yourself.

You may need the help of a coach like, Myrna Young, or mentor but; self-awareness is the key to changing your, core beliefs,

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As Tony Robbins says, you must associate tremendous pleasure to your new, core belief,  For example. See yourself in a loving and fulfilling relationship, going on dream vacations and having a wonderful life together and believe that you are a woman any man can love!

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Our Cognitive Bias: Construction Of The Self-Concept

Self-concept refers to how one perceives themselves, their past experiences, their abilities, their prospects for the future, and any other aspect of the self. Aaron Beck’s cognitive triad, discussed below, deals with self-concept and the construction of the self. The basic idea of how our self-concepts and cognitive biases affect our lives has to do with automatic thoughts.

For example, someone with a negative “self-referential schema” is more likely to take things personally, leading to automatic thoughts like “People are not talking to me because I am an unlikable person”, rather than exploring other possibilities (Disner et al., 2017). A negative self-referential schema can also lead to increased severity of depression symptoms. Most importantly, a negative self-concept can lead to an unending cycle of negative thoughts.

This is because people with negative self-referential schemas exhibit an attentional bias. For example, when asked to decide whether an adjective is self-referential or not, people with depression are more likely to endorse negative adjectives than healthy controls, and they show an attentional bias by being quicker to endorse negative adjectives and quicker to reject positive adjectives than healthy controls (Disner et al., 2017). In turn, being likelier to endorse negative adjectives is correlated with longer “retrospectively reported” depressive episodes, demonstrating the cycle of negativity.