In this post, Brandi Mechele debunks 4 commonly-held beliefs about fulfillment and success. Brandi shares that if we can loosen up our grip on these beliefs, we can begin to experience more fulfillment and success in our lives.
Brandi is an intuitive and empowerment coach who spends her time guiding others and facilitating energy healing focusing on building the subconscious capacity. She has extensive experience working with high achieving female entrepreneurs, helping them align with financial success while staying through to their values and purpose. Her clients might initially come to her to scale their business and make more money, but they leave with a deeper sense of fulfillment within their lives on a holistic level.
Myrna: Can you share your backstory, what led you to begin this work? When did you notice a lack of fulfillment in your own life?
Brandi: I was raised as many people are to be very goal oriented. My parents were amazing in helping me to chart my course and set lots of goals, and I was very fortunate to be someone who excelled at many things; so, I had an impactful career in the corporate world. I escalated to being a VP covering the United States and Canada. I was a national caliber athlete in college and tried out for the Olympics and so I realized that I had checked all these boxes. I live in an amazing city, in a home of my dreams with a family. I had always had this idea that if you checked all the boxes, achieved all your goals that happiness would be kind of the outcome and unfortunately that's just not true.
I think many people come to realize that they've had the success that they've dreamed of and not been able to align any of with this inner fulfillment and inner purpose, and so I took a step back and said you know what's missing. I concluded that happiness needs to be its own goal, it needs to be its own purpose in your life, and that when you focus on happiness as a goal versus an outcome, that's really when you align with your purpose and find and find true fulfillment.
That's when I took a pivot in my life and got to the place where I am here today with you.
Myrna: I've heard this story so many times, in fact my very first coaching client when I became a coach was someone with a similar story to yours. She wasn't looking for happiness she was looking for this inner fulfillment and she quit her job and became a coach because most people get more fulfillment when they serve.
I want to circle back to when you said that happiness shouldn't be an outcome of a goal that happiness should your only goal. I can't leave that alone so how do we how does someone listening set the course to have happiness be their goal?
Brandi: I believe fundamentally that when you have high Achievers that it's really easy to make happiness a goal because they're used to aligning to goals and really knocking it out of the park. So through my own work with myself which took place over many years prior to becoming a coach, developed a four-step process that I call B.A.S.E and I think it's foundational to everyone's life.
B – is about beliefs. What beliefs do you have? Especially the ones that are limiting in nature and how have you gotten to that place as it pertains to happiness. The reason I use happiness versus fulfillment is because I think that you have to be happy to be fulfilled. If you're not happy, if you're fulfilled you'll always be happy and if you're unhappy you'll never be fulfilled.
So happiness is oftentimes easier for people to align to than fulfillment because fulfillment feels so big like what is my purpose, what am I meant to do. But if we think of life as these moments and every single moment we're seeking happiness and ultimately we'll live this really full life that has a sense of purpose, has the service that you mentioned.
So the B really is about like what are those beliefs that are precluding that from happening.
Are in alignment for happiness
A – is alignment, vibrational alignment. What does happiness look like to you like oftentimes you ask people that question and they just don't know, they're like I don't know what makes me happy. They might think you know if I get married I'll be happy, if I have a big house I'll be happy, it's usually types of goals.
What does it take for you to be aligned? So we spend some time around that and then self-awareness really because ultimately we are co-creating our reality in every single moment. I think oftentimes we talk about manifestation as this idea of like I'll manifest a husband, a house, weight loss. I'll manifest all of these things, but when you take a step back from that and realize that your entire life is a manifestation not just the good things and then you really take back your own power.
S – Self- awareness because we create situations that pulls us out of homeostasis. We return to that same place over and over again and so that's really what the self-awareness allows us to do, because once we create awareness we can move out of searching to really having kind of this path to our our destiny.
E – is about, emotional regulation, and that really is the biggest of them all, any moment of unhappiness is really correlated to this origin story that we have. Emotional regulation, is a term generally used to describe a person's ability to effectively manage and respond to an emotional experience. There are times in our lives when we were probably really little where we were given these ideas about who we were. Our identity and how we showed up in the world and oftentimes we're looping around those situations. It can be Big T trauma it can be Little T trauma, but the goal is really to keep the memory of our experiences of our childhood.
So I believe that B.A.S.E is foundational to our lives and once we are able to harness kind of those four pillars we're really going to Skyrocket from there and live a life that's a good path
Myrna: I love it but as I'm listening to you I remember I've done lots of episodes on happiness including the happiness formula. Everybody's end goal in life is to be happy and you're right it's a little different from fulfillment.
Fulfillment vs happiness
Brandi: I was happy, I had the husband of my dreams, I had this beautiful child, I'd won many many awards in my corporate career, I always ran sales teams and I never finished below the top 15. So I had this body of work that was everything I ever dreamed of, I was a little girl from Detroit so I didn't have this idea that my life could be so big and so vast.
I sat there in my happiness and I said but there's still something missing.
Myrna: That happens to so many successful people. You said in your bio that people come looking for money because they believe it will bring them happiness but find fulfillment instead.
Brandi: Success doesn't equal happiness.
Myrna: I'm reading a book now by Eckhart Tolle called The Power of Now and Then in there he talks about goals. Goals in clock time and psychological goals. Clock goals is just saying by the time I'm 30 I'm going to be married. That means that your happiness or fulfillment is tied to this goal. A, psychological goal, is always moving. The target is always moving so that's that's one way to put it, but you hit the nail right on the head. Happiness is fleeting.
Beliefs and self worth
Myrna: How do you teach your clients to find this happiness end goal?
Brandi: B.A.S.E is the foundational practice around beliefs. Two of the beliefs you have to have is that you are worthy of having the life that you're seeking, and so say to people all the time that if you show me your life, I'll show you what you think you're worthy of having. So self-worth is like really pretty straightforward.
Myrna: So let's circle back to a couple of things, you're correct self-worth and self-love they're two big things that we package them together here for Simplicity; but self-worth and self-love is what the what has been communicated to them and it's usually in childhood or early adulthood. Somebody looked at you and and called you ugly and you carry around this beliefs that you are ugly all your life.
Those are great practices to build your happiness capacity as well as you know building your your self-worth and your self-love so so that's awesome all right so let's focus a little bit now on um some of the, limiting beliefs, that, black women, have that stops them from feeling fulfilled?
Brandi: Specifically in communities where black or brown communities you'll find that you have three generations that are in the same Financial circumstances. Nobody breaks out and I believe one of the reasons to show us about mindset is because in order for you to break out you have to have a different mindset, you have to have a different set of beliefs.
Having the right mindset for success
You have to have the mindset of I want to be successful. It's all about mindset and when you get the mindset right then you start challenging the beliefs. You're challenging beliefs that says women can never do this.
Myrna: I was born poor and I know what a, poverty mindset, is. If you have a, poverty mindset, you really can never be wealthy because even if you have the money you'll still be rich with a, poverty mindset. My whole work, my whole philosophy is about changing your mindset because once you change your mindset, you can have your dreams become a reality. The Bible teaches do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.
Conclusion
Tell us about your B.A.S.E coaching program and your framework. How can listeners get in touch with you talk about your website your social media handles.
Brandi: I appreciate that Myrna, I publish a free journal on the first and 15th every month and you can find that on my website www.brandimechele.com I am just on the precipice of launching a group coaching program and you can also go to my website and sign up there to be informed about that group coaching. If you were interested in working with me one-on-one or with the membership coaching and then if you were interested in working with me one-on-one or in the group you can also find that on my website so and all my handles are @Brandi Mechele on Instagram as well as on Facebook so I'd love to connect with your listeners and hear from them.
Please sign up for Brandi's 4-week program & her container program here:”
In the episode of 5 Min Fridays with Coach Myrna, I share 4 secrets to improving yourself as taught by Jim Rohn. Every book you read, every podcast you listen to, every seminar you attend, starts changing your philosophy. Now if you're excited, and you're ready to change your lifestyle and improve yourself, here are the steps to improve yourself. Improving yourself will one day show up in your bank account and in your lifestyle.
You don't have to change what's outside, all you got to change is what's inside. To have more you simply have to become more. Don't wish it was easier wish, you were better. Don't wish for less problems, wish for more skills. Start working on improving yourself by making these personal changes and it'll all change for you.
Jim Rohn, says here's the secret, learn to work harder on yourself than you do on your job. Once I got that it turned my life around. He said if you work hard on your job, you'll make a living. If you work hard on yourself, you can make a fortune. He said If you would have known me at age 25 you would have said, Jim Rohn's, a hard worker you didn't know me you would have said that. I'm the guy that don’t mind coming in a little bit early, and staying a little bit late. But If you'll start working harder on yourself than you do on your job, work hard on yourself and develop the skills, work hard on yourself and develop the graces all of the stuff necessary to become more valuable to the marketplace. Your whole life can explode into change.
When you improve yourself Life is no problem
Promotions – no problem
Becoming more valuable to the company – no problem
Money – no problem
Economics – no problem
Future – no problem.
You just go to work on the right thing. Don't try to change the seed, don't change the soil, don't change the sunshine, don't change the rain, don't change the mix of seasons.
Let the miracle of everything that's available work for you and start working on the inside.
Work on your philosophy.
Work on your attitude.
Work on your personality,
Work on your language,
Work on the gift of communication,
Work on all of your abilities.
If you'll start making those personal changes, I'm telling you, everything will change for you.
Success is not something you pursue
Success, is something you attract by the person you become. Success, is not something you pursue. So, the whole key to unlock all the treasures, whether it's economic treasures or spiritual treasures, financial, social personal every way you can possibly think of is by your own, personal development.
Then he added one more which is so important, and it's probably worth its weight in gold. Here it is. What you become is much more valuable than who you are today. You become by the books you read, you become by the thoughts you have. If you want the things on the higher shelf, you got to stand on the books you read. Every book you read; you get to stand a little higher, so you can get the things on the higher shelf.
Every book you read, every podcast you listen to, every seminar you attend, starts changing your philosophy. Now if you're excited, and you're ready to change your lifestyle and, improve yourself.
Here's the steps to improve yourself:
Find out how things work. The first key to doing better and improving yourself is find out how things work.
Then you need, ideas. The books you read can give you, ideas. Become a good reader. All of the successful people I know, they're all good readers. Curiosity drives them to read. You need, ideas, on a new business, you need ideas to start something new. You may think you need, money; no the problem is lack of, ideas on creating wealth. It isn't lack of, money. It's a, lack of ideas. So, if you get the idea so you can change anything. When you find out something that works, put the information in your journal. Don't use your head for a filing cabinet. Put it in your journal so that you can do the next best thing, Repetition, repetition, go over it. And if you repeat it, go over it. Sure enough, someday, some mysterious day. The idea takes root and shows up in your bank account and your lifestyle.
Study success, it leaves clues. If you wish to be successful, study success. If you wish to be happy study happiness. If you wish to be wealthy study wealth, don't leave it to chance. Make it a study. Some people just go through the day with their fingers crossed. You've got to study the things that can change your economic, social, spiritual personal life.
Finally, learn, study, grow, change. It's what, how to improve yourself, is all about. Human development, takes time, incredible amounts of time. It does take time for personal development, it does take time for, spiritual development, physical development and, mental development. So, it is important to keep feeding the mind, nourishing the mind.
Conclusion
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of, 5 min Fridays with coach Myrna. I hoped you were encouraged to keep improving yourself daily by reading and looking for new ideas because whenever you seek, you will find.
We are, spiritual, beings having a human experience. Spirituality, is being willing to lower the volume on your, skepticism, and connect to the source. Tracy Litt, author of the Worthy Human shares how we can embrace our, spirituality, and release our emotions to achieve, success.
Tracy Litt is a sought-after success mentor for visionary women leaders that are navigating huge paradigm shifts and elevating into the next level of themselves, so they can seamlessly generate the next level of their impact, wealth, and holistic success. Tracy is a certified mindset coach, spiritual advisor, rapid transformational hypnotherapist, best-selling author, and TEDx speaker.
She is the Founder of The Litt Factor, and creator of Mind Magic ®, a proven methodology that marries metacognition and spirituality, neuroscience and quantum law to expand and elevate more quickly. Her work has served thousands of women across the globe and has been featured in Entrepreneur, Fast Company, Thrive Global, and Inc.com. Her book Worthy Human is a #1 best seller in Spiritual Growth and Mindset.
Myrna: Tell us about how you became a certified mindful mindset coach, or why you became a certified mindset coach.
Tracy: For me I went through a lot of triumph in life, right as all of us have. And I was consistently met with this calling that I'm here to do something deeper. I'm here to work with people on a more transformational level. I was born for impact and positive influence to make a beautiful dent in the progress of our world.
And in order to do that, it really comes down to each one of us doing the work of ourselves on ourselves, to make the ripple effect that actually creates change for the world. And energetic frequency for our generations, our children's children, all of those beautiful things. So, it was a calling for me to step up into what my capacity was. Yet I wasn't scratching the surface, because I was living beneath my worth. I'm not enough and I'm not smart enough which we all have in this world.
Myrna: Not being enough always shows up.
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Emotional Suppression comes from feeling not enough
Tracy: It is impossible to be a living, breathing adult and not have an enoughness wound somewhere. Unless you worked on it already, because the nature of the way our psyche works and how we know things happen in our upbringing. And the way we ingest things and make it mean something when we're little, we always make it mean something about us, and then we carry that story in that belief structure. When we get older and something happens, usually catalytic, we're hoping that we don't get smacked over the head by a circumstance.
So, all of those things are really why I showed up to do what I do in the world. And you know, I was a single mother with an eight-month-old daughter. That was my first wake up call that called me to show up differently by letting go of the victim hood that I was living in powerlessness. I was subscribing into creating a whole new version of myself and a life for my daughter who is now 18 years old so that's gives you some frame of reference.
And then I was called to climb the corporate ladder and landed as a Vice President of Human Resources and still was like, I'm not happy. I did all the things. Why am I not happy? Here I am like, I’ve got a six figure job, working from home. Isn't that supposed to be joyful? And it wasn't. So, I answered that deeper calling and went back to school an adult learner at 39 years old, and launched the Lift Factor and we're in our fifth year. So yes, I'm about to be 45 this year.
Myrna: Wow! I'm sure you've heard it before. You look great.
Tracy: Teenage daughters, they keep me very young.
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Emotional suppression leads to unhappiness
Myrna: That's great. You know, it's interesting that is a story that we hear so often, that people are successful. They've got the house; they've got the job, they've got the cars, they've got the white picket fence, and yet they're still seeking. They're still seeking that happiness.
Tracy: So, here's what's going on with that Myrna. We were all raised in a conditional happiness model. Okay, which I'll break down for us. We were all raised that the outside dictates the inside. belief structure, which then reports how we all show up. So it's very much I'll be happy when I have a million dollar business. I'll be happy when I find love in my life. I'll be happy when or I'll be sexy when I lose 10 pounds, right?
So what part of the call to work on ourselves and really recognize that as our core purpose is to completely shift out of these paradigms that we've been subscribing to all of this time and realize, oh, wait a minute. The reason why I could chase the carrot, get the carrot and chase the next carrot. Get the next pair to chase the next carrot, get the next until you die and still might actually feel joy in your body and your soul because joy and happiness is an inside job.
It's about recognizing where you are holding on to when I'll feel happy. And do the reverse of that and start to cultivate and get your body familiar with that emotion of joy and happiness. Not because something cool just happened outside of you; but because that is the state of being that you choose.
Myrna: Yeah, when we do visualization work, they tell you to feel the joy of having something that you want before you actually have it. But I'm sure that's not what you're talking about. We're talking about finding ourselves, loving yourself and finding happiness right now. With your current body, with your current job, with your current circumstances.
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So that when you get the things that you want, you will know what joy looks like. I like what you said about chasing the carrot. We all know as coaches, that whenever you achieve one goal, you set the next goal. Yeah, we are always chasing that carrot. So all right. So that's great now your expertise is in you know, spirituality.
So I want to start off by asking you a question that I talk about all the time because I've heard it from Deepak Chopra. And I've heard it from a lot of the luminaries and a lot of, spirituality, leaders. And it says that we are, spiritual beings, having a human experience. So how can we embrace this, spirituality? You know, a spirit having a human experience to create our success.
Tracy: Spirituality, is the foundation of all my work. Spirituality, first be willing to lower the volume on your, skepticism, because, skepticism, is really like a sabotage tactic that your ego uses. So you can just keep disconnected and still hustle and make it hard and kind of continue to affirm who you've been.
So when you demote the, skepticism, let's say that you allow yourself to believe what I'm saying to you, that you are a spiritual energetic being having a human experience because scientifically, it’s not Tracy's ideas on life, scientifically, we are all, energy.
Myrna: I've heard that so many times before, but let's let's do this. Just break it down.
Tracy: Right and that's one of my superpowers, breaking down, spirituality, so it makes sense. So we are, energy, scientific fact, not a spiritual fact. So when we realize that we are spiritual energetic beings, but we're existing in physical form as human beings, we get to leverage both parts of those truths and understand our, spirituality.
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In our humanness we're feeling fear and lack and scarcity and concern about inclusion and belonging and are we good enough etc. Problems from a, consciousness, perspective. Our, higher consciousness, in the dimensions of, consciousness, and, energy, is going higher.
Myrna: Yep. Okay. So that's great. Yes, because one of the ways I normally go with that when we're talking about, spirituality, is you're connecting to the source and with source, everything is possible. You become limitless, right? Do you ever teach on that one?
Tracy: 100% Because ultimately, your, highest self, operates in the highest, consciousness, available right to their dimensions of, consciousness, your, Higher Self, exists in your fifth dimension of, consciousness. Consciousness, by the conscious awareness, quantum field, all of that space. So when you are in your, highest self, and you're trusting, you are the most open, you are the most connected to source, you're also in your highest residence.
You're also in your most enjoyable states of emotion. You're not yet when you're in worry and guilt and not enoughness and resentment and anger. You're in your humaneness, you're in love and radiance and trust and bliss and detachment from, spirituality.
Myrna: So that's true. I noticed from your bio, you also talk about, quantum law. When you're connecting with your, spirituality, and your, higher self, you're tapping into, quantum energy, in the, quantum field. Which means that things happen immediately.
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Connecting to the quantum field
Tracy: Essentially, quantum energy, quantum physics, quantum law, it all means the same thing. It is proven that everything is actually all connected all at the same time and completely available to us. When your energetic, resonance and frequency is lower, and you are in a lower level of emotional states like the ones I was saying before frustration, unworthiness, resentment, anger, overwhelm, you are not at your highest resonance, which is what allows you to connect to the, quantum field.
Myrna: So that's just a very expanded explanation, we're all spiritual beings having a human experience.
Tracy: Your emotional state becomes your energetic resonance. Emotional suppression, is when you consciously say Nope, I don't want to feel that and just shut down. Emotional repression, is unconscious repression, which means you've been repressed, you don't even know you've been repressed and that you've been denying yourself the opportunity to feel your emotions and feel your feelings.
What's ultimately our biggest goal for everyone everywhere is to be the fullest expression of who you are, right? So being expressed not only means to express yourself verbally and in personality, but also to allow your emotions and your feelings to express themselves. Whether that is through beautiful crying or screaming or punching all these beautiful ways to release emotion from your body.
Emotional suppression leaves you emotionally congested
When you're emotionally congested, you're also very reactive. Like the anger comes faster and the resentment comes. So you're a little like when my kids were little we used to call it being prickly. You're unable to feel much trust and bliss that we were just talking about and your higher levels of, consciousness.
Myrna: So the question I have here for you is what makes it so hard to change and to up level.
Tracy: Well, because it's unfamiliar, that's the real answer. So the art of change and why does it feel so hard to change this because you actually have to become different. And when we're in the, human growth, potential space, it's not discussed enough that if you're really going to become different you're going to really have to get uncomfortable. And that is, it feels physical, an up level where you actually stretch out of your zone of familiarity into the next ring or two or three of what's available to you.
It feels like a physical stretch. And to be able to successfully change and transform we have to have a profound understanding of our connection to our bodies and what it means to create safety in our system. Because change means different means unknown means uncertain, and your mind body goes Oh, hell no, I'm not allowing that human to do that. I'm going to keep her safe and the same done right. So to recognize what's happening in the mind, because that's what the mind does. It says this is unfamiliar, this is not safe.
You must also understand that if you're not working with the body, you're not really working with the, mind. Also it seems counterproductive or counter intuitive to what we're taught, but it's the truth and even the mindset of the teacher. But I don't do any, mindset, work without the body. Because you feel how you think, and you think how you feel. Your feelings are in your body and your thoughts are in your, mind.
So the, mind, drives feelings because that's where our amygdala is. Our fear response gets ignited there, but it's our body, our nervous system that keeps the score and tells all and does or doesn't allow you to change. So once you understand that you go okay, I can learn how to create safety in my body. Now, all of a sudden, you can move outside of the zone of familiarity, you can change, because you know that where you're going is amazing.
Myrna: So why does the body tell you that it's unsafe?
Tracy: Because it's different from what you have known. Your, mind and body, even though it is consciously what you desire and say you want your, mind and body, are active 24/7, 365 days per year. It’s trying to keep you the same, hell or high water at all costs. Mastering of the, mind and body, is part and parcel to your ability to, transform.
Tracy: The Litt Factor that's my company, very excited and proud of it. My dad gave me that last name so it's all him and it just happened to be a really cool last name. because we didn't live. So the Litt Factor we are human growth and potential company and we specialize in working with visionary women leaders and entrepreneurs. To do the inner work necessary to become the next level versions of themselves, so that they can easily generate impact and wealth and holistic, success, and feel joy and presence along the way.
That's what we do and, mind magic, is really our flagship framework. So it is a gorgeous container for visionary women leaders and entrepreneurs. You come in who you are, and you leave the next version of yourself in the most incredible way. It marries neuroscience, quantum law, meta-cognition, healing and, spirituality, in community. And that's the kicker, that's the key. You don't grow in isolation.
You are really learning how to receive unconditional love, learning how to be rallied around, learning how to accept. Being in a sphere and a vortex of other women who are letting go of the status quo, who are breaking free of old paradigms, who are being the fullest expression of themselves. It's like the wind beneath your wings. And it's extraordinary.
So that's what, mind magic, does. And it's been so profound. It's so proven we now have a 0% fail rate of anyone who comes to the program and does the work. We actually have a certification process as well. I certified other service providers, healers, coaches, financial experts, strategists on the, mind magic, framework, so that they can take it out in the world and affect change.
Myrna: Tell us your website, your social handles and also you can talk about your book. Yeah, tell us about your book. It's a beautiful title. Worthy Human.
Tracy: Please go get the book. It is an incredible read. It is not just theory to the point of our conversation. It is both theory, story and work. So there are sections in the book called The work where you literally pause and do the work. I've had people simply invest in the book and transform with nothing else. So if you're willing to show up for yourself and do the work, it's a great place to start. And you can get that on Amazon. And if you're an audio book kind of person, I read the audio so it's like me loving you and yelling at you for six hours.
Book Worthy Human
Myrna: I am definitely an audio person. I'll get it myself.
Tracy: If you go to www.littfactor.com it has absolutely everything, but if you go to www.whatwouldshedo.net there is a free gift that I have. It's a three part audio training course, all about connecting to the next level version of you and what it means to let her lead in every area of your life personally and professionally.
Are you an, Entrepreneur, or thinking of becoming an, Entrepreneur? Can you guess your, startup IQ? Would you like to know if you are naturally gifted with Entrepreneurship Intelligence or you will have to work harder than most? Silicon Valley have the answer for you. They have a test to find out your, startup IQ.
Owning your own business gives you a sense of freedom and empowerment. You can build things and watch them grow.
Entrepreneurs, make decisions for themselves, realize their creative visions, and develop lasting relationships with other entrepreneurs, customers, and vendors.
It’s a great way to live. But your need an entrepreneur's, IQ, to be good at starting and running a successful business.
Here are a few natural traits that predict Startup IQ.
• Openness – A high openness score means you are open minded. You listen to the ideas of others and are willing to learn from them. Sam Walton built the Walmart Empire by learning from his competitors. This is your first, IQ test.
• Conscientiousness – Doing what is right. Integrity and honesty fit into this natural ability and, IQ, as well. Conscientious Entrepreneurs, run their companies diligently, solving their customers problems. This is your second, IQ, test.
• Extroversion – We have heard a lot about extroversion as it relates to successful CEO’s and startup, IQ. True in order to sell, you must like people and be comfortable around them; but as an, Entrepreneur, you shouldn't go it alone. You should create a team. If you are not a natural extrovert, hire a front line sales person. Bill Gates is an introvert so you could be wildly successful even if you don't have this natural ability.
• Agreeableness – Are you compassionate, warm and considerate? This is a necessary, IQ test. People do business with people they like. Agreeableness does not mean you must be nice all the time. As a business owner you must be able to also be straightforward with customers and employees and to replace the ones who do not conform to your mission.
• Neuroticism – A good indication of Entrepreneurial, startup IQ, success is to score low on the neuroticism test. Neuroticism is defined as the tendency of an individual to experience negative emotions such as anxiety, hostility, depression, impulsiveness and vulnerability. Entrepreneurs, Managers and Leaders must be emotionally stable, self-confident, calm in the presence of chaos, even tempered and relaxed.
• Fluid Intelligence – This refers to the ability to rapidly learn and apply a rule. Entrepreneurs, deal with different issues all day. As a start-up, entrepreneur, they wear many different hats. The ability to switch from one issue to another is very important and is a skill that cannot be learned. Fluid Intelligence, is considered the most revealing test for, success. If you get stuck and can’t switch roles, you cannot lead and become an Enterprise.
The startup IQ test
As an, Entrepreneur, I agree with this predictive startup, IQ test.
As your Success and Entrepreneurial Coach, the foundation of my coaching practice is creating self-awareness and, business consciousness. I have seen passion override natural ability; so go for it.
As an, entrepreneur, you’ll be inundated with your, business, needing to take care of it all the time. So when you have some leisure time, you might be tempted to read fiction or books for entertainment.
Instead, I encourage you to read case studies. Read biographies of successful, entrepreneurs, who had a high startup, IQ. Read everything you can get your hands on about those who have already been successful.
There’s always something to learn from those who have already done it.
I especially think it’s important to learn from the mistakes of others. If you learn from their mistakes, you won’t have to make those mistakes yourself.
And if you do make mistakes yourself, definitely learn from those.
Building a successful entrepreneurial business can seem daunting, and that’s OK. Building a business from the ground up is a massive undertaking.
Here is a foolproof tactic: Break it down.
Any problem that seems insurmountable, break it down into baby steps.
Once you’ve broken it down into baby steps, take them one at a time. Before you know it, just by placing one foot in front of the other, you’ll be halfway up the mountain.
With grit and perseverance, baby steps will get you far toward becoming a successful, entrepreneur.
The life of a successful, entrepreneur, can feel scattered and disjointed, but it’s important to limit your time spent multitasking.
Research has shown time and time again that multitasking doesn’t work. Humans aren’t capable of it.
And yes, multitasking includes being distracted by your phone and email tabs. Close them and put them away.
Learn to focus and take time to do just one task. Giving one task your full attention will mean that you’re more likely to get it done and do it well.
It’s also important to know that too many tasks on your to-do list can make you ineffective and distracted.
Learn to focus your to-do list on the tasks that you’re capable of finishing in the amount of time you’ve allotted for them.
For example, each night, set the three tasks that you’ll complete the following day. And each month, set the overarching goal for your company that you want to achieve in the next 30 days.
These techniques can help you to learn how to focus and more effectively manage your business, building your, business IQ.
We have been in a, pandemic,situation for over 15 months now. Many of you who are reading this blog, have experienced some, personal finance,problems.We know thatAmazon, Walmart, Googleand all those big brands actually mademillions of dollars and were very profitable during this, pandemic.
But, it is a fact that ordinary people like you and me had somestruggles. Financial planner, Michelle Arpin Begina is going to share with us how to change our, money mindset, by paying attention to your, money story. Your, moneystory,shows up in good times and bad times. So, keep reading tounderstandhow your, money mindset, affectedwhether you thrived in this, pandemic, or just survived.
Listen to the full interview:
Your Money Story
This is the time to really getcurious and ask yourself, What is my, money story? Go back and tracethe roots of your, money story,and experiences?
Similarly, ask yourself asan adult, What didI hear growing up about, money? What did I take away from the big financial moments ofmy life? What were some of thebehaviors that I observed from otherpeople or my parents, that influence my, personal finance, now?
Did you become a consumer or did youbecome a miser?
Did your parents tell you all the time ” Money does not grow on trees”
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Michelle:I remember growing up watchingmy parents and saying tomyself two things:
If only they could gettheir, personal finance, act together, becausethey had all the ingredients to haveeverything they wanted. We all have it within us.
The second thing I saidwas: this is not going to be me. But, as it turned out. When I firstgot started out,I started following their footsteps.
Myrna: Oh!You became a, consumer, too?
Michelle: I did! I boughtthe new car when I was 19,while I was paying my own tuition andrent. So,I lived with that feeling of financial insecurity.I kept it going with, personal finance, problems well intomy 30sand then I turned it around.
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Myrna: What is the, personal finance, lesson that you wantto share with us, that can help the people who are barely surviving?
Michelle: I can say thatit's not just about the, consumers, and the savers, but there'sprobably more depth to thriving than that. We have to go into some biology.
Myrna: So, let's take a deep dive into biology of the, money mindset.
Michelle:Alright!We've got to cut slack for the, consumers, and the savers. Putting away money for a rainy day, could turn someone into a tight wad, where they are not enjoying their,money. There are so many differenttranslations that can happen from whatwe take in as a child and that forms our, money story.
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Let's talk about flourishing for a second.We are hardwiredto live in the moment,because we are psychologically distantfrom Michelle 10.0.
We are not friends with our future self. Michelle 10.0 or Myrna 10.0, is not our relative. We don'tfeel this connection with her today, so we can'thelp it. This is who we areas people, this is our biology. It's very difficult to handle, money,outside of what our needs or wishesor even impulses are in the moment.
What we need to do is recognize this. When the 401K rep comes in, when youdon't have two dimes to rubtogether and say if you putaway the maximum amount in this account,you'll be a billionaire by the timeyou're 65.When you were 22, it'sgoing to go in one ear and out the other. You tell the 401K rep, I can't even afford lunch! A 22 year old has no relationship with her 65 year old self.
Myrna: You hit the nail right in the head. I was just saying that people can't save because they have no extras to save.
Most of us have more month than, money!
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Michelle: What we can do to helpourselves and transform our, money story, is to literally create a relationshipwith your future self.The closer we feel to that person,as if they were really alive today and isour friend,the more that we're going to act intheir best interests.
There are so manynew little things that we have toaccomplish in the day-to-daydetails to get us to that overarchinggoal. So, when we're in the momentof the impulses or justchoosing between two different things,and we want to maintain, self-control. What actually helpsis to create distance in the moment.Whenwe talk to ourselvesin the third person, it actually helps us to control ourbehavior in the moment.
Myrna: I get it like saying
“Myrna would never do that, Myrna is going todo is make the choicethat is going to really help her in thefuture.”
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Myrna: Let's get back to the, pandemic. What has the, global pandemic, taught us about, money?
Maybe you're going to be a little differentbecause, money, is your work, and youstudy it. Did you learn anything newabout yourself and your, money beliefs,during the, pandemic,what do you think the global lesson was for us?
Michelle:I‘m a little afraid to answer thisquestion.
Myrna: Let's talk. It's just your opinion.
Michelle: What I‘ve learned during this, pandemic, is a littleembarrassing to say out loudis “I learned a whole lot more about oursystemsand just how differently everybodyis impacted, was the biggest thing that I witnessed.
Heartbreaking really in manyways and I‘ve discovered is that our systems were not designedto take care of people.Our systems were designed for theefficient managementof accounts to obey the laws, rules andregulations.Many people had no, money,in the Bankbecause they didn't see the need to saveor to put something away for the rainyday. This, pandemic, exposed that flaw.
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Myrna: Do you think that our values havechanged, now that the, pandemic,highlighted our, money mindset?
Michelle: That's basicallywhat I was trying to get to as far as, money mindset, andthe fallout from our, money story. Maybe their, money mindset, was that “you get it”,“you spend it” that kind of thinking.I like to think – I mean it's hardtoknow on a such a broad levelwhetherit has or hasn't,but I think for someonewho was probablyscared to their core, there will be a change to their, money mindset.
If they lost jobs or clients,
Were not able tocontinue to work or couldn't pay their rent or mortgage. Their, money mindset, will shift to saving for a rainy day.
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We've heard so many different things happened.The income that I was relying on to make my monthis evaporated or it's down etc., but to me, it really is that, fight orflight,or life or death kind of an experience.On the other hand, we may want tototally push that out of our mindbecause it was such an awful experience.
I think for a lot ofpeople whomaybe saw, for the first time,at their own hand, how perilous theirsituation could become.I think those people have probablychanged their, money mindset.
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What's your success formula to change money mindset
Myrna: Great!!! You're a financial planner.Do you want to share your, successformula, or howyou help your clients to develop a relationship with their future self and change their, money mindset?
Michelle: What a, financial planner,doesis to help you with, personal finance such as:
Plan for therainy day,
Put away for retirement,
Save to buy a house,
You plan forvacations.
Myrna: That's what you guys do,right?I understand you have a,success formula, can you share that?Like thinking aboutwhat resources did you bring to thetable not just with, personal finance, butwho did you know, what did you know etc..
Michelle: The, success formula, can be called your superpowers. Weuse the word “superpower” so much,but what part of you is special andunique? What do you bring tothe table in every single oneof your successes? We use that information to develop hope, optimism and resiliency.
What superpowers did you use to pull those things in when timeswhen facing difficulty or you faced a challenge. How did you react when there was anupside surprise?
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All of those traits that I justdescribed, in whateverway someone uses them, it'sso cool.I mean we've all gota special factor that's so differentfrom one another.If you just look at your own and youstart picking it apart, you can see how I can pull on thisthreadwhen it comes to my money.
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It'sabout figuring out what's effective sothat's like thepart of the expandedversion of, personal finance. Financial Literacy, is what I would call it which is really kind of recognizing that we have apsychology and biologyaround in our brains and bodyaround our, money. It's notjust understanding markets or investingor good sound, financial planning, or,risk management, or all of those thingswhich are important,but it's about your strengths.
Looking at the big picture and understanding someone's background,who they are and are notwith their, money, what their wishes are,what their values are, of course what the,money, isand then really digging into some oftheir, money mindset, about whatmakes them.
Myrna: So, that's the, success formula.
Michelle: Yes, we use what makes you successful in otherareas of your lifeand use the common thread to help you tobe successful with your, money.
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Myrna: I understand that you have a websiteor a challenge to help the readers and thosewatching on TV. That would help them develop their, success formula. You want to talk about that?
Michelle:The best place for people to findme is my website, which is www.michelleab.com. Right on the home page is my, successformula, guidewhich anyone can download.Other channels that people can as well reachme or connect with me are on LinkedIn,
You can watch the full interview on the Transform Your Mind Podcast YouTube channel.
Also you can tune in at six o'clock Est every Sunday for our Preach the Word Network Television broadcast and of course you can listen in theradio WDJY 99.1 FMWednesdays at 5p.m.
Myrna: Thanks again Michelle. Thanks everyonefor tuning inand until next time, blessings.
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You can, find your purpose, in life by paying attention to your passions. Your master, purpose in life, is to spread happiness. You will always see the optimism in life no matter how dark it may seem.
Are you lifted by your purpose? This week on Mindset Transformation Radio and Podcast, I interview Ms Arifah Yusuf who is not only lifted by her, purpose, but founded a company called Lifted By Purpose where she helps youths in Toronto, Canada to become lifted by their purpose.
As Arifah was working with the youth she noticed their tattoos and decided to have a spin off company called Tattoo Stories. She used the tattoos stories to help her clients share their stories through the images they permanently put on their bodies.
How to Find Your Purpose in Life
How we perceive images can help us, find your purpose.
How you react to an image can tell you a lot about you, including your, life’s purpose.
Art speaks to us because it’s about us. It’s about our collective and individual journeys in this wondrous, immeasurable universe.
As Chuck Klosterman said, “Art and love are the same thing: It’s the process of seeing yourself in things that are not you.” Images stir up numerous emotions in the beholder: awe, shock, sorrow, rage, and even repulsion. You may feel an intense, nameable emotion within seconds of seeing an image, or it could take several minutes of staring at the image before you can decide what it means to you. And as art is as diverse as the people who create and perceive it, the responses to it naturally vary. Art can play a crucial role in self-discovery and an individual’s, purpose in life.
Image test to find your purpose
Click the link below to take your image, purpose, test and see what it shows is your, purpose.
I took this test and my test revealed that my purpose was to spread Happiness. So True.
“Your master, purpose in life, is to spread happiness. You will always see the optimism in life no matter how dark it may seem. You can distinguish the lightness from the darkness and this is what takes you to another level. With happiness, everything can be cured and your purpose is to spread this feeling in times most needed.”
Bio
Arifah Yusuf, is a registered social worker from Ryerson University. She has 12 years experience engaging and developing programs for youth, facilitating workshops and providing counseling services. Ms. Yusuf was nominated and awarded the Community Health Champion Award for her dedication working with youth. In 2015 she received the leadership award from Canadian Alliance of Black Educators and in 2016, the Ontario Leading Women in Community Award.
She is trained and certified by the National Organization for Victims Assistance, Traumatology institute, and is a Mental Health First Aid Instructor. In her role at Lifted By purpose, she is the Founder and Executive Director.
How did you find your purpose?
Can you tell us your journey as a social worker and how it transitioned into founding Lifted by Purpose?
I grew up a a rough neighborhood in Toronto. As a youth, I had a family member who died from Homicide and that affected me profoundly; but I did not have an outlet to grieve so I became very depressed. As I got older, I wanted to become a social worker so I can help other youths who experienced trauma to have a space to talk and get help. This is how I found my, purpose.
Today “Lifted by purpose” helps youths, find their purpose, and provides services to help the youth with coping skills and prepare for a purposeful future.
Using tattoo stories to find the meaning of life
You have an offspring from Lifted by purpose called Tattoo stories. Can you tell our audience what that is about and how tattoo helps youths find their, purpose.
During counselling I started asking my clients to tell me their stories about the permanent tattoos on their bodies. I found that these tattoos were connected to their, purpose in life. Most life events are marked with a tattoo.
Services offered to help find your purpose
What are some projects and services provided by Lifted by purpose.
At Lifted by Purpose we focus on the arts.
Some of our services are:
Music stress program 10 to 20 weeks
Playlist therapy that identifies tracks that speak to grief or loss
How to have healthy Relationships
How to identify triggers that move them into making bad choices
Identify coping skills
Tattoo stories and what they mean
I see from the information you provided me for the interview that your target audience is young people between the ages of 16 to 29 years who are at risk or already in the justice system. How does your program help these young people, find your purpose.
Our program helps our youth to harness their story
Understand how to utilize their stories to understand themselves.
Reflect on how their stories has influenced their choices in life
How to flip a negative story into something positive
Action steps. Are they ready to make a change
How does their story affect their purpose and lift them up.
How does Tattoo stories tie into meaning of life
Tattoo stories Helps the youth understand their, purpose and have a voice that can help others on their journey.
