Today on Mindset Transformation Radio and podcast, we are continuing with our series on the The Alchemy of Desire Episode 5- The Long Term Relationship Dance.
My co -host for this series is my girl pal the fabulous Ms Margo Blake. Margo is a One Taste Intimacy Coach and, I am a Mindset Coach. Together we want to share our knowledge on this Topic “The Alchemy of Desire and Intimacy”
What is Desire – Desire can be called the feminine face of God! Desire is what God places in your spirit to lead you to your purpose. It is the key that unlocks what God placed you on this earth to do.
We all Desire to be in loving fulfilling relationships with our Partners, our children, our friends and co-workers. We desire to have successful careers, some of us desire to procreate and have children, we desire to be emotionally and physically healthy, we desire to be wealthy, and today we are going to touch on the desire for flow in our relationships and not ebb.
The Dance of Intimacy
Anyone in a long-term relationship knows the relationship dance well. It took me a while to understand this dance. I walked out of my first marriage at age 21 declaring boldly “I am no longer in love with my husband and I refuse to live in a loveless marriage at age 21.” After 4 marriages I now know that relationships EBB and FLOW. Erotic love turns into Agape love. Passion and desire EBB and FLOW.
In all my relationships fighting and then having make up sex was usually the shock than rejuvenated the relationship.
In the beginning of anything there is more energy just as electrify is more powerful at the source, feelings are more powerful when they are new.
As feelings change and familiarity sets in, the intimacy dance begins. Just as you have to practice the waltz on the dance floor, in a similar way you must practice your dance in the bedroom.
It is important to understand why you and your partner connected in the first place and why you disconnected.
Since all relationships begin within, the scenery out there is the scenery in here.
You can’t give away what you don’t have. So the first step when you become aware of the EBB in your relationship is to take an inventory of the self. Meditation can help.
In our first episode I introduced the book “The Alchemy of Desire.” In this book the lovers were passionate and couldn’t keep their hands off each other, then life happened and intimacy veined.
Every relationship faces this junction. Once relationships become more established, the individuals in the union begin to turn their attention outward again. To the other parts of their lives that matter, such as work, family, and friendships. This is natural and healthy but; if a long-term relationship is to last, turning towards one another recurrently, with the same curiosity, attention, and nurturance of earlier times, is essential.
In a busy and demanding world full of obligations and opportunities, we sometimes lose track of our primary relationships, thinking they will tend to themselves. We may have the best intentions when we think about how nice it would be to surprise our partner with a gift or establish a weekly date night. Yet somehow, life gets in the way. We may think that our love is strong enough to survive without attention. Yet even mature trees need water and sunlight if they are to thrive.
We water our relationships by showing interest in our partners. We shine light on our relationships by smiling and being genuinely happy to see our partners.
I was at a stand-up comedy show with >Mike Epps a few years back and he made a joke about how his wife would meet him at the door with a beer and loving embrace when they were first married, and now she shrugs and says oh it’s you!
I am genuinely happy to see my husband walk through the door and when he calls me during the day. I let him know this
The marriage dance relationship
Question 1: Margo what is your take on the relationship dance? Personally you have mentioned several times that your relationships end after 10 years. What does the dance look like to you?
Question 2: Looking back can you see the point when the relationship ebb resulted in a break? How can anyone listening turn that ebb into a flow?
Question 3: What are some tips to keep Desire flowing instead of ebbing?
Question 4: If our listeners find themselves in an Ebb should they panic or understand that is the flow of life that what goes up must come down.
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