Call me an Addict: Child Abuse Statistics P3

Child Abuse Statistics, show a connection between, child abuse, Mental Health Disorders, and Addictions.
Today we discuss Kreta’s story from the book “Call me an addict, war on Women” By Dr Tra Ahia. Kreta’s, child sexual abuse, started with her biological mother. I think this is very rare. Kreta said her mother was a sick person. She used to make her kids do sexual acts on her boyfriend and her. Her mother and boyfriend also had sex in front of her and her brothers and sisters. This started when she was about 4 years old.

Then she was raped by an older boy around the age of 7.

She was only 8 or 9 years old when she started smoking weed, crack and sniffing blow. As she got older when she didn’t have money she would perform sexual acts for coke.

Even though she was a good student in school she started ditching school to sleep with older men and eventually dropped out of school.

She started working for a pimp who beat her all the time and had other men rape her and pie on her. After a string of abusive relationships She got pregnant several times while still doing drugs. She had two abortions; but decided to keep her third pregnancy a baby girl.

She went in and out of rehab several times trying to stay clean but always relapsed.

Kreta’s story ended the saddest of all 3 stories from the book “Call me an Addict, war  She got so high one night that she stabbed her baby to death. She got life in prison

Kreta’s has so many of the, Child Abuse Statistics, in her story

  • Risk for intimate partner violence
  • Alcoholism and alcohol abuse
  • Illicit drug abuse
  • Smoking & drinking at an early age
  • Depression
  • Suicide attempts
Child Sexual Abuse
Child Sexual Abuse

I want to say that Kreta’s mother surprised me; but I have heard stories like this one before. I had a coaching client who told me that her mother stopped having sex with her husband and when she was 4 years old gave her to her husband to have sex with. Tyler Perry tried to bring attention to this, child abuse statistic,  in his movie The family that preys.

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Here are 5, Child Sex Abuse Statistics, about offenders

  1. Ages 12 to 14 are the peak ages for child offenders.
  2. 70 percent of perpetrators have between 1 and 9 victims.
  3. Child abuse statistics, show as many as 40 percent of children who are sexually abused are abused by older or more powerful children.
  4. Sex offenses are the crimes least likely to involve strangers as perpetrators. Although a smaller percentage of sex offenders are women, the majority are male. Sex offenders are generally NOT “dirty old men” or strangers lurking in alleys. They are typically not obviously mentally ill or retarded. In fact, sex offenders are usually well known and trusted by the children they victimize, and frequently are members of the family, including fathers and stepfathers, brothers, aunts and uncles, grandparents, and cousins. There is no clear cut description or profile of a sex offender. Thus there is no way to recognize a potential abuser; and it’s often hard to believe that a trusted individual would be capable of abusing children.
  5. Children who disclose their abuse within one month are at a reduced risk for depression or substance abuse. Believe them when they talk to you and LISTEN.

 

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Dr Tra what  takeaways did you want your readers to learn , Child abuse statistics,  from Kreta’s story? What made her story stand out from the other 98 interviews?

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Arifah as a mental health counselor working with the justice system.  What do you think makes an addict become violent?

Although any type of addiction can trigger violence, those most likely to impair judgment, like drug and alcohol addictions, are most often linked to addiction-related violence. Drug and alcohol use can weaken self-control, it’s not uncommon to see people who are under the influence engaging in behavior they usually wouldn’t if they were sober.

 People living with addictions that commit violent crimes, is usually as a result of intoxication or as a means of obtaining money to finance their habits. According to an article published in Journal of Substance Abuse Treatment, more than 75 percent of people who seek treatment for drug addiction report having performed acts of violence, including mugging, physical assault and using a weapon to attack another person. People who suppress negative feelings like anger or frustration are more likely to drink to the point of intoxication and exhibit violent behaviors. If you have Pent-up rage and you are using drugs, you are more likely to act violently because loss of self-control can increase your chances to act on your anger.

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Dr Tra Ahia How does CBT help a, child sexual abuse, survivor to love themselves? What is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy?

Evidence is growing that cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is an effective treatment for, child sexual abuse, including those who have experienced physical, child abuse, and other traumatic events.

Most of the studies that have evaluated Trauma focused-CBT have been well designed. This treatment model represents a synthesis of trauma-sensitive interventions and well-established CBT principles  treatment-outcome studies for, child sexual abuse, and otherwise traumatized children. The therapy was developed to resolve post traumatic stress disorder, and depressive and anxiety symptoms, as well as to address underlying distortions about self-blame, safety, the trustworthiness of others, and the world. The treatment also fits, child sexual abuse, and other traumatic experiences into a broader context of children’s lives so that their primary identity is not that of a victim.

Child sexual abuse statistics, show that CBT therapy allows, child sexual abuse, victims to learn self love.

 

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Arifah What does, Child abuse statistics, show about self love?

It shows that if, child sexual abuse, victims do the following, They begin to heal.

  • Take your time
  • Recognize that your needs matter
  • Forgive yourself and knowledge of self through therapy
  • Find a support group
  • Learn to practice self-compassion, to rid yourself of shame-based beliefs, such as you are worthless, defective, bad, or unlovable
  • Find time for self care activities (journaling, exercise, mediation, art, hanging out with people that care about you).
  • Gain new experiences (i.e. get involved in the community)
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Dr Tra I am curious after listening to 100 stories like the ones you told in your book and from all the data you have collected over your 30 years in this space.  Why do you think fathers and stepfathers, brothers, uncles, grandfathers, and cousins abuse little girls?

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I want to comment on one of the, child abuse  statistics,   the one that says 70% of perpetrators have between 1 to 9 victims.  I remember my,  child sexual abuse, It was from a man  who I called grandfather, even though he was no relation.  He used to tell me to bring my friends, and he would do the same thing to them as he did me. In fact he had a reputation of liking little girls.  My dad heard about it and asked me if he ever touched me, and I lied and said No.

That’s another thing, child sexual abuse statistics, show, child sexual abuse,  victims never tell.

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Dr Tra why do you think that, child sexual abuse, victims never tell?

 

Here are 5 tips for loving yourself after, child sexual abuse, 

  1. Read Positive affirmations
  2. Heal the mind through the body (ie. Boxing, Running, Martial Arts)
  3. Mindful breathing exercises and meditation (stop, breathe and think app)
  4. Channel your pain into creativity ( i.e.journaling)
  5. Ask for help when you need it

 

Dr Tra, Do you support the, child abuse statistic,  that says that if kids who are experiencing trauma of any kind tells someone who offers support, it has a direct and positive effect on the, sexual abuse and addiction connection?

 

Additional Resources on,  Child Sexual Abuse

Drug and Alcohol Treatment for Women with Trauma

What’s Your Story, #BreakTheSilence

10 Ways, Childhood Trauma, Impact Adults in Life and Love

https://www.masterproblems.com/2017/02/what-can-be-done-about-child-abuse.html

When Your Child Can’t Speak

https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubPDFs/subabuse_childmal.pdf