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Tantric Sex: How to Use Tantra Energy during Sex

Sexologist and, Tantra Facilitator, Ms Lorae Lauridge, teaches us the difference between, biological sex and, Tantric sex.  Lorae shares how to use, Tantra, energy to have multiple orgasms and full body orgasms.

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Before we get into out topic, I want to share this story I came across while researching this topic.

Tree of Life, and the, tree of knowledge, as found in the book of Genesis is our first introduction to, sex.

When God placed Adam in the, Garden of Eden, he made him in his own image and that is both male and female because God is both the Alpha and the Omega.

God decided to separate the male and the female so that they could evolve separately, so he took the rib out of the man and he called her Woman; but he made it so that neither the man or the Woman can be complete without the union of the two Souls through, sex,  and spiritual energy,   So that's where this energy comes into play, the only way for two souls, a man and a woman to create is by coming together with the force of the universal sexual energy, sex.

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Sex and Sexual Energy

Let's go back to instructions God give Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden.  He told them that everything in the, Garden of Eden,  could be consumed except the, tree of knowledge also called  The tree of Life, is a symbol for the knowledge of, sex,  and spiritual energy,  So when Satan tempted Eve with the knowledge that she surely would not die if she partook with the, tree of knowledge, or from the, tree of life, he was telling the truth.

You see she wouldn't die physically; but she did die spiritually. We all did because by partaking of the tree of knowledge without the guidance of God, Eve brought pain and suffering into the world.  There's nothing more beautiful and creative than, sex, and spiritual energy, with your spouse, that is how God intended it.  This joining together is the most powerful energy and vibration in the universe and that's why it destroys.  It is often the tool that Satan uses to steal kill and destroy.

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What is, Tantric Sex?

Lorae is a sacred sexuality educator, she coaches men, women, and couples to be enlightened lovers.  Her method is to blend  ancient holistic practices like, Tantra, with the latest Western medical and scientific discoveries in psychology health and, sex. Lorae says mastering sexuality is like mastering a sport, you need to learn from experts and have a certain amount of passion and dedication and create an environment of fun.

Tantric Sex, teaches men and women how to relax and feel at ease with their bodies and how to communicate authentically and develop mastery over their own sexual responses.  In order to be able to map, enjoy and navigate the exotic and foreign landscape of their partner's bodies.

A popular form of tantric sex practice for women is called yoni massage which you can read about on SchoolofSquirt.com.

Sex, Spiritual Energy, and Sexual Transmutation

Sexual Transmutation is energy that is transmuted to create. Most of the CEOs who have achieved greatness in this world is because they transmuted the, sexual energy, either from their spouse or the other woman and they've learned to transmute that, sex, and, sexual energy, into creating something big.

Spiritual Energy Exchange: SEX

Spiritual Energy Exchange, is not the act of, sex, it's not the biology of the act, it's the force that is created when two people come together in the act of, sex, or procreation,  and it's one of the most powerful forces in the Universe. Actually it is the most powerful force in the Universe.

Understanding that, SEX, is more than the biology of the act, but the energy, Spirited Energy Exchange, and it is the way to connect with the divine and get back into the Garden of Eden.

Sacred Sexuality, is different from biological, sex.  Regular, sex, is just functioning on one Level.  I'll explain this quickly.  Think of the Android commercial where you see this gentleman playing a piano and it's a big huge intense, you know concerto singing and he's using all the keys and it's very powerful; but he turns around and you see he's playing on the piano that has only one note. That is what biological, sex, is like.  You are only playing one note, or one dimension. Tantric Sex on the other hand is playing all the notes!

While, sex,  spiritual energy, and sacred sexuality has many nuances and variances and subtleties and you have choices as to its expression.  It can be physical, it can be emotional,  it can be the psychological, it can be spiritual or it can be a combination of all of these or any kind of blend of these pieces.

In this higher level of engaging with yourself you can do, self pleasuring, or can be used in relationships to deepen your connection with your partner on that mind-body-spirit level.

 Sex, Sexual Orgasm, multiple orgasms,  Full-body Orgasm,

Orgasm, is referred when the body has an orgasmic releases.  Sexual, orgasm, for most people is completed in a matter of seconds.

Tantric sex, and, orgasm, facilitates multiple orgasms.   Tantric Sex, is the ability to tap into the orgasmic energy and have it move through the physical body and link up to those other longer extended orgasmic states.  The standard sexual, orgasm, called biological, orgasm, which for some people is no longer than ten seconds.  Some women and men can have, multiple orgasms, which is this a buildup of neurologically through the genital genitalia moving through the nervous system.

The, full-body orgasm, is like a wave. It's not genitally focused. You feel pulsations and this explosion from head to toe!  Wow a lot of people haven't had either of those two, multiple orgasms, or full body orgasm.

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Keys to Making Long Term Relationships Work

Long term relationships, whether romantic, familial, or platonic, require effort, understanding, and commitment to thrive. While challenges are inevitable, there are key principles and strategies that can help build and sustain these meaninful relationships. In this blog post, Figs O'Sullivan, couples therapist, explores essential insights on how to make, long term relationships, work.
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Figs O'Sullivan is a licensed marriage and family therapist, certified in emotionally focused therapy and the founder of Empathi. He is passionate about helping couples create happy and healthy relationships and has spent years working with couples at crossroads in their relationships. Figs combines his background in attachment theory, improvisational dance and theater, and experimental psychotherapy to provide effective and simple solutions for couples.

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Summary Keys to Making Long-Term Relationships Work:

In this episode, Figs O'Sullivan, a licensed marriage and family therapist, shares his expertise on how to make long-term relationships work. He explains that the key to a successful relationship is to shift from a perspective of blame and criticism to one of empathy and understanding. Figs emphasizes the importance of recognizing that both partners are hurting and that their actions are a result of their own pain.

He also discusses the three common patterns of conflict in relationships and how to break free from them. Figs provides practical advice on how to create a connection vacuum and foster a deeper emotional bond with your partner. He concludes by highlighting the transformative power of empathy and the importance of experiencing it in order to create lasting change in a relationship.

Key Takeaways:

  1. Shift from blame and criticism to empathy and understanding in your relationship.
  2. Recognize that both partners are hurting and their actions are a result of their own pain.
  3. Break free from the three common patterns of conflict in relationships: protest polka, mutual criticism, and silent suffering.
  4. Create a connection vacuum by sharing your feelings and needs with your partner in a vulnerable and non-blaming way.
  5. Foster a deeper, emotional bonding,  with your partner by experiencing empathy and understanding for each other's pain.
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Shifting your perspective in long-term relationships

Myrna: Enjoying being together and actually liking each other again because yeah, so it's very rewarding. It's almost like me when I help clients. As far as coaching, one of my biggest things in coaching is change the way you think of a thing and the thing you think of will change or look at the thing. So in coaching is all about changing your perception of something. And I love it when I'm able to do that for clients.

Figs: Huge. Absolutely. By the way. Exact same. The first hurdle is shifting people's perspective on what's happening between the two of them. And this is at the most basic level, right. When a couple comes to see me. They have two different perspectives of what's happening. And most of the time, not always, those two perspectives could be summed up as one person's perspective is the other person is messing up and they need to change some stuff to make things better. And then, of course, the other person is like, their partner spouse is like, thank you very much for that opinion because actually, funnily enough, I think you're the one messing up and you need to change a few things.

Yeah. And so some of them say that very politely, and others throw lethal weapons at each other right from across the room. And then my job is to actually craft seed the perspective of the entire system of both of them together and share that perspective with them in a way that helps them see the truth of, oh, would you look at this is who we are together as a system and that we both actually make sense. Both of us are right.

Both of us are getting hurt, and both of us act in ways that actually really do hurt the other person. And when they can then live deeply inside of that perspective, then their limbic systems, their nervous systems calm down. Right? They're not actually living with, like, a crocodile and a stone. They're actually two little kittens or two little puppies that are just herding and then we can start snuggling.

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Why couples have the same fight over and over again

Myrna: Yes, I love that. Like I said, I can see it. And a lot of times they don't even want to go to therapy because the relationship is that bad, or saying, hey, now, exactly, we're just going to chuck this thing. But it's a good thing to do therapy. At least it means that you're willing to change. You're willing to see someone else's opinion. You're willing to see it from the other person's perspective.

And you start off by saying that your childhood was in a relationship where your dad was an alcoholic and your mom was heartbroken because of it, and then you were hurt because you're in this whatever. So what was that experience like for you? Did you see your parents fight? Because one of the things that you talk about is you help couples to not have the same fight over and over again. So how can you bring that into your personal experience?

Figs: Yeah, well, look, I witness my parents being together and fighting. I witnessed them being apart, right. And just fighting. Silence and just pain and sadness in the distance, the silence, not naming what's going on. You could think there's three ways people do the waltz of pain. The walls of pain is when two people that love each other are disconnected from each other and they both see each other as the withholder of love.

But there's basically three patterns in, long term relationships. One is one person's feeling abandoned, not prioritized. And they blame and criticize even they may not think they're blaming and criticizing. They may think they're just giving amazing advice to their partner that will really help them, but that's not how it lands. And of course, it makes their partner or spouse feel really bad about themselves, feel like they're unacceptable, they're never good enough. And so they pull away or withdraw or they defend themselves, right? And that's technically called an emotionally focused, couples therapy.

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What happens when couples are both criticizing each other

That is called a protest polka. One person is protesting, Why aren't you here for me? And the other person's pulling away. The other way people do it is both of them are saying, Why aren't you here for me? They're both criticizing each other, right? Fireworks. I need a helmet and a shield when I'm sitting with them and they're going at it. Right. And then, of course, the third way, which a lot of people think at first this is actually healthy or good, is they're both hurting, feeling unloved, but they just don't talk about it.

But in the long run, it ends up in the same painful place that they've lost each other and they're in agony inside, but they just avoid ever. And inside, no matter which one of those three things and you might do all three in a day, or you may have one preferred, one that you do in your own relationship, right. But left unattended to that kind of system that is happening in a relationship and it doesn't get resolved. Right. It creates a connection vacuum that bad things can happen.

Right. So we just want to minimize the amount of time there is a connection vacuum in, long term relationships, so that we limit the chances of affairs or turning to work for your needs to be met so that you actually end up being able to turn to each other and be there for each other.

What to do if you are feeling unloved in a long-term relationship

Myrna: All right. I got tons of circle back on that one. So, yes, I can identify with all three of what basically you're saying, but not necessarily the middle one, but women are. And I've been in, long term relationships, where, yeah, you're saying, hey, I feel unloved. You're not showing me love. I don't feel love. I don't feel special. You're always working. You're always doing that or whatever. And then when you are correct, when you say it, the person goes into defense, but then you're saying the third one is that you don't say it. So in your experience, which one of those patterns leads to success down the road?

Figs: None of them. Right? That's the point. So here's the thing. So each one of those patterns, from the subjective experience, it makes sense from your individual experience inside a relationship, when I'm hurting, it makes sense to protest you're not loving me. Or let's say that's one. When I'm hurting, it makes sense to say nothing or defend myself. It makes sense from your individual perspective. When I'm hurting, I say nothing.

They all make rational sense to do for an individual member of a, long term  relationship. But in the long run, even though it makes logical sense, it's going to make things worse for you, definitely. Right? Do you think you have a can of water in your hand and you're about to throw this can of water on the fire of the disconnection between the two of you? But the can was mislabeled. There is gasoline inside the can.

Because just think about it. Despite what you think, if you are in a, long term relationship, your spouse or partner loves you. They love you. You are the most important person in the world to them right now. When you're hurting and feeling unloved and you tell them you're not loving me, here's what they hear, right? Even if you think they look like they don't care, they just change the channel. They change the channel. They look like they don't care because that's how they survive. Feeling.

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We all need to feel we are enough

I am devastated inside to be not enough again. The person I most want to be enough for is telling me once again I am a disappointment. I'm not good enough. I'm a failure. And it hurts so much. They have to avoid feeling it or defend themselves, whatever they do, like, change the channel. That's how they survive. But then, of course, you hear their defense or their channel changing, or they're like shutting down completely as evidence. See, I was right.

They don't love me. And so now, your own subjective experience, you're going to go, I'm going to reach for a second can of water and tell them even more how unloving they are, which will devastate them even more. And so they'll reach for their second can of water. I'll defend myself even more. It'll devastate you. And now you're both throwing cans of gasoline at each other, and you both feel totally justified in doing it. Now, here's the way out.

Figs: So just imagine for a moment your spouse, they're just really little. They're just a little kid inside, no matter how big and tough they look to you, right? They're just little, which they are when it comes to love. And they're heard they want more than anything to be good enough for you. And you tell them, you go, hey, you just did your homework. You got five out of ten. This is not good enough. I need you to do better at your homework. I told you yesterday, I told you the day before that.

When are you going to get better at homework? When I have pretty understandable expectations that you would be getting eight out of tens. And until you're getting eight out of tens, you go to your room, young man. Now, listen, I don't know about you, and listen, if that's your gig. That's how you think you motivate people, not just you, right. But listeners. Right. You go for it. But I don't think it works with most people.

They will defend themselves. They will collapse. They will give. I ain't doing no homework anymore. That's the end of me doing homework for you. I'm off to watch American football every Sunday on the couch. What's the point in trying to do homework for that one? No way. So, no, I don't ask them to meet the needs of their partner. I help them both understand.

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Why couples should never tell each other what they are not doing

Listen, to be on the receiving end of what you do when you're hurting is devastating now. But by the way, I will help him in this example, right? I will help him see how devastating it is for you, right? Lord of woman, in this example, to be on the receiving end of how you survive when you feel there's no way to be good enough, when you don't try and show up, when you defend yourself, when they're genuinely validly hurting inside, it is devastating to be on the receiving end of that strategy to survive again, punchline.

Myrna: Wow. I love it. I learned so much from there. I will, definitely, because I'm one of those ones that tell my husband what he's not doing.

Yeah. And you call your company Empathi. So you're teaching your clients to have empathy for each other. I think that's what you say, how you help couples in, couples therapy, to get to a place of empathy. So is the place of empathy what we're talking now, or does it go deeper?

Figs: Yeah, so empathy is like the pivotal. Like, let's say empathy, let's call it on the journey. The hardest place to get to is where empathy is possible. Right? There's this threshold of revelation, right? And the threshold of revelation is, let's say we go from the two separate stories. You're the troublemaker in the relationship. Oh, yeah. No, you are. To, hey, it's both of us, and it's only happening because we love each other. And then it changes our physiology, it helps our nervous system and limbic system relax. And then we see, wow, we're both hurting.

Now we're having not only one way empathy. I'm empathizing with you or you're empathizing with me. We have what I call these days empathy squared. We're both feeling empathy for ourselves and each other at the same moment. So we want to have an empathy squared experience. It literally up levels a human being. Like, it literally is like going from being a two dimensional being to a three dimensional being.

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Long-term relationships need empathy to survive

I'm hurting, you're hurting. And we both care about the way we're both hurting. And we both see the way we both hurt each other all at the same time. That's the experience. That's an empathy squared experience. We got to have that. If we have that now, like I was saying, now we can do all the deep repairs of the hurts in the past. We can love each other, we can work on our sex life, we can work on, like, so what are we going to do about the way we both spend money differently?

But that empathy squared experience is the pivotal. That's the pivotal first big transformational moment in the journey. And I always say it sucks that if couples are to fail, we fail to get to that empathy squared moment, because one or both people are like, yeah, whatever. They're still not there for me. They just can't get out of their own way. Not because they're bad, because they got hurt so much in the past that it's too scary to become unguarded undefended for a moment and have that present moment transformational experience.

Conclusion

Myrna: I love that. Tell us about your coaching programs. How can the listeners connect with you? Because yeah, this is good stuff.

Figs: Great. Yeah. So, look, all we do is try and help people love themselves and each other. Right. Any different way we can do it? We do counseling, coaching all over the world. And we have courses, we have a podcast, we write articles. Because your listeners are obviously into podcasts, you might want to check out our Come Here to Me podcast. And in that podcast, my wife and I actually share our own journey as people, couples, therapists that are being a couple and talking about their own emotional journey together as a couple.

So, as we say, relationship experts walk the talk. I just love sharing about the wisdom. And then the website is just www.empathi.com.

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How to Deal With Rejection: Believing You Are The One

In this post coach Myrna shares 4 tips on, how to deal with rejection, and why you have to believe, you are the one. Rejection is a powerful and universal human experience that can shape the course of our lives. Even figures of historical and religious significance, such as Jesus and David, were not immune to the sting of rejection.
Jesus was rejected in his home town because the people said he is just a carpenter, the son of Mary.  We know his brothers and sisters and we’re deeply offended that he claimed to be the son of God
David was the least in his household. His father did not even call him when the prophet came to the house, he told the prophet those were all his sons until the prophet said the oil is not flowing for any of these men, so there must be another son, then the father said yes they’d is David but he is just a nobody.
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Introduction:

Rejection is a powerful and universal human experience that can shape the course of our lives. Even figures of great historical and religious significance, such as Jesus and David, were not immune to the sting of rejection. In this solo coaching session, I want to look at lessons on, how to deal with rejection, and lessons we can learn from rejection.  Also why you must believe that, you are the one. Remember Neo in the matrix? Once he believed he was the One he was invincible.
In examining the story of both Jesus and David’s rejection we gain insights into the nature of doubt, the complexities of identity, and the resilience required on, how to overcome rejection.

Jesus: Rejected in His Hometown

The story of Jesus' rejection in his hometown of Nazareth is a poignant reminder that familiarity does not always breed acceptance. Despite performing miracles and teaching with authority, Jesus faced skepticism and disbelief from those who had known him as a child. The people said He is just a carpenter, I know his mom and his brothers and sisters. Jesus commented “A prophet is not without honor except in his own town” captures the essence of, how to deal with rejection. Jesus' experience teaches us that our friends and even family members can reject you and not give you respect even when you are doing something extraordinary.

David: The Overlooked Anointed One

The story of David's anointing as king provides another example of the complexities of rejection and, how to deal with rejection.  When the prophet Samuel visited Jesse's household to anoint the future king of Israel, David's own father did not initially consider him a candidate. Instead, Jesse presented his older, seemingly more qualified sons. This oversight illustrates the limitations of human perception and the tendency to judge based on appearances rather than character or potential.

4 Lessons Learned from rejection

1. **The Power of Perseverance:** Both Jesus and David demonstrated remarkable perseverance in the face of rejection.  This is the first tip on, how to deal with rejection. They did not allow doubt or skepticism to deter them from their missions. Their stories remind us that setbacks can be stepping stones to greatness when met with determination.
2. **The Importance of Self-Belief:** Jesus and David both held strong convictions about their identities and callings.  This is tip #2 on, how to handle rejection, you have to believe that, you are the one.  Their unwavering self-belief allowed them to rise above the opinions of others and fulfill their destinies. They believed that they were the One. This underscores the significance of self-awareness and confidence in navigating challenges.
3. **Have an Open Mind:** The reactions of those around Jesus and David serve as a reminder of the, dangers of closed-mindedness. Rejection can stem from biases, limited perspectives, and societal norms. Embracing open-mindedness and being willing to see beyond the surface can lead to greater understanding and acceptance. Never judge the book by its cover.
4. **The Unpredictability of Purpose:** Both stories highlight the unpredictability of, divine purpose. The rejected stone can become the cornerstone, and the overlooked shepherd boy can become a mighty king. These narratives encourage us to remain open to the unexpected directions that our lives may take.

Conclusion:

The stories of Jesus' rejection in his hometown and David's overlooked anointing remind us that even the most revered figures faced doubt and rejection. These accounts offer valuable lessons about perseverance, self-belief, open-mindedness, and the unpredictable nature of purpose. By examining these narratives, we can draw inspiration to overcome our own challenges, embrace our identities, and navigate the complexities of rejection with grace and resilience.
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Decoding the Communication of the Universe: Signs and Symbols

Have you ever experienced a moment when you felt the universe was trying to communicate with, signs and symbols? Many people believe that the universe communicates with us through signs. In this blog post  SIMRAN author of Signs: Everyday Encounters With Pathways, Turning Points, and Divine Guideposts teaches us how to trust signs, interpret signs, the difference between a sign, symbol and synchronicity and why the universe speaks to us through, signs and symbols

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Introduction

As a Christian, I follow the rules of, signs and symbols. Deepak Chopra introduced me to the word synchronicity and my very first book Becoming Conscious my Awakening, I talk about synchronicities. In this post and podcast  we're gonna to talk about, signs and symbols, communication, and synchronicities

Simran is the author of the book Signs Everyday Encounters with Pathways Turning Points and Divine Guide Posts.  A book in the common sentience book series.  She's a love Catalyst, Rebel humanitarian and sacred Soul activists.  As the number one rated host of 11: 11 talk radio and publisher of the Nautilus award-winning 11:11 magazine Simran creates Art, online courses, books and media to bridge Humanities experience.

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Simran speaks about the beauty of our Humanity in all of its expressions and the radiance of our Divinity as an external experience.  Simran is the author of The Gold award-winning books:  Conversations with The Universe, Your Journey to Enlightenment and your journey To Love.  She's also released the new Trilogy on self-realization: the first one is called LIVING: the Seven blessings of Human Experience,  second one is called BEING: the seven illusions that derail personal power purpose and peace and the third one at KNOWING:  The Seven Human Expressions of Grace. SIMRAN resides  in Charleston South Carolina and is devoted to the, journey of the Soul.

The 11:11 sign

I was in a place of  losing myself and really being in a state of confusion and not understanding why the world felt so hard and uncomfortable, painful and challenging and stressful.  I went into my prayer room,  and I prayed and said just send me a sign.  Let me know I'm not alone, I just really need to know that there is something bigger than me out there, and the next thing I knew, I started receiving these experiences with the numbers 11 11.

I would see the numbers dozens of times a day up to 30, 40, 50 times a week they would appear on any and everything imaginable from Billboards to license plates to mailboxes, to store receipts they just would show up and it was undeniable.  So either I was losing my mind and really going crazy or number two the universe really was speaking to me.

What I'm talking about is that which is bigger than all of us and yet unites all of us in some way that we are interconnected with that aspect of life was letting me know that I was not alone and was about to open the doorway to a whole world of signs and symbols that I never even imagined possible.

Myrna: Did you researched what 11: 11 means?  I know numbers mean something.

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What is synchronicity

Simran:  So often these numbers 11 or 11: 11 would appear and they'd make me pause. I'd go oh there's that number again.  That's how the signs start. You may be seeing something else, maybe it's a cardinal, maybe it is a feather.  There's something in your world that is appearing to you.  Signs and symbols, communication, usually shows up in those moments that either you have a question that you're really struggling with or it comes along in the exact moment that you're dreaming about the life that you really want to live.

The numbers and the prompts or the, signs and symbols, communication, they show up as comfort you and to let you know that the Universe really does have your back.  They will show up as confirmation.

Myrna:  when you started seeing this 11-11 what was what was your next move after you figure it out there was a sign or a symbol?

Simran: I'm not sure which one it falls under yes so you know the signs showed up for probably four or five weeks before I got frustrated enough at not knowing what they meant that I again spoke out loud and that is a key point that I talk about in the new book signs.  A lot of what has come to me is because I allowed myself to speak out loud and I think that our voices and our words have a lot of power.

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The Four Pillars of mastery

I kind of frustrated yelled out either tell me what these numbers mean or make them stop and in the moment I got this knowing of what the 11 11 signified and that specifically signified a Gateway. A Gateway of, four pillars of mastery, that we are each to walk through to create Mastery in our lives and those four pillars are:

  • physical
  • mental
  • emotional and
  • spiritual

Every experience that comes in our way is part of that Mastery that we are here to allow ourselves to engage those, four pillars, to grow us in our spiritual maturity. Once I understood that and then I got downloaded with this visions of 11 11 magazine and 11 11 talk radio and books that I would write and things like that.

I began to discover that the Universe speaks to us in all kinds of ways every single day multiple times using everything around us.

Myrna: That is awesome. What is the difference between, signs and symbols, and  synchronicity?

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Signs symbols and synchronicity

Signs and symbols, as those types of things that appear as the  mirror reflection, the momentary Guidance, the inkling to act or move or be inspired to make a shift or a change. That's why the subtitle of the book has to do with Pathways turning points and, divine guide posts, because signs will initiate one of those three things for you. Each of those has their own purpose.

Symbols to me are already full of meaning, they have a specific meaning, they stand for something, they are an emblem, they are a mascot, they are something that you use as a totem. So symbols would be something entirely different that you would embody the energy of. For example you may receive a cardinal as a sign at one time to be more colorful in Life or to be using your voice a little bit more.

Synchronicity to me is when we are completely aligned, when we are aligned in time in space in dimension, when higher self and lower self have come into Union. You will have moments of synchronicity when we really do master all four of those pillars and we become completely aligned in our masculine and our feminine.  What you will discover is that synchronicity is all of the time, it is only when we are misaligned to synchronicity happen as these momentary instances where we all of a sudden go oh my goodness I had synchronicity.

Myrna: If you were to tell someone that's just getting started with  signs should they should they get your first book Conversations with the Universe, or should they get your current book you are going to start from the top and go to the end?

Conversations with the Universe through signs

Simran:  Start at either book The the new book Signs is a very comprehensive way to have an understanding of what signs are and the middle section is many other people and their stories about signs.  So that you realize it's not just me saying it we're all seeing something we're all having this interaction and the third section of the book actually gives you practices to develop your own, conversation with the universe.

Once you've read this book that has just come out called Signs, if you want to go deeper and really understand some different examples and a lot of the other ways that the universe is speaking to you, then I would definitely go back and and order my first book Conversations with The Universe.  It's a three-time Gold Award winner nationally and internationally and it has a tremendous expanse of how signs appear and how to incorporate that information in your daily life.

Myrna:  We spent a lot of time talking about, signs and symbols, but as you said  we're in synchronicity every day, but we only recognize it when we are out of synchronicity. For instance when I think about synchronicities I think about  coincidences, there are no coincidences in life, every moment is as it should be. So um talk about that for a minute again, how we're always in synchronicity?

Simran: I have a section on synchronicity in the book. I do talk about things like deja vu, I talk about dreaming, I talk about some of those aspects of synchronicity.  I think the best way that I can explain it is you're driving down the highway and all of a sudden there's an exit and you take that exit and you go off on this scenic route, but then you end up back on the highway. The moment you end up back on the highway there's that exact Fruit Stand that you were looking for, that is synchronicity.

When we go off on our Scenic routes, oftentimes we're out of the direction or out of alignment, out of time with exactly the things that we're supposed to line up with, synchronicity tends to happen when we get back on track and we actually are in the right place at the right time.

Self-realization comes with alignment through synchronicity

In my own personal growth and self-realization, after seven books is that synchronicity is everywhere.  Our ego wants to look at only the good things, the things that we want as the synchronicity, but sometimes synchronicity is also that moment that you get fired from your job.  That can be a synchronicity because that was a pivotal moment to get you back on track.  So synchronicity can show up a lot of different ways, and in the end what the signs are attempting to do is to help you really become neutral and span out so you see life from this Grand perspective.

When you zoom out you see that all of the light and the shadow and the Darkness that shows up in your life, creates a really beautiful picture.  When you're down in it or you're focused too narrow on the situation that you're in it either looks like dark or light or something in between that you can't quite figure out and so we stay muddled in that kind of confused state.  But as we grow in our spirituality and we can really zoom out and look at the big picture of everything, we realize that every moment, every step through the light, every slip into the dark, every stumbling of confusion created a beautiful painting known as you.

Myrna:  Tell us about your book Signs: Every day Encounters with Pathways Turning Points and Divine Guideposts. Why did you write it and what do you want readers to walk away after reading.

Using signs as a divine guidepost

Simran: I wrote Signs because after 10 years, I had learned so much more from writing the first book Conversations with the Universe, I wanted individuals of today to understand that despite what is appearing in life, that life may be hard at times, but we don't have to make it as challenging.  We can utilize what life gave us as places to find reflection as moments, to Pivot and go down a different pathway.

We can use, signs and symbols, as a turning point to create a new life or a Divine guidepost to be that confirmation of a choice that we have made. I wanted individuals to understand how to trust more, how to expand on their intuition and that the Universe really does have their back. That they are in a partnership with Spirit whether they want to acknowledge that partnership or not, that spirit is always reaching out, whether it is numbers or songs or animal or books or experiences that are happening to them.

They simply need to look at each one and pause for a second and ask themselves where is that in me, what is that here to show me about me ,what is that inspiring within me?   As you start to understand these things, as you start to grow your connection with the practices and the protocols that I placed in the third section, you start to balance out your masculine and feminine energies.

You start to see that your life is not one moment to the next moment, but entirely a Threading of golden experiences that are leading you back to the truth of your soul and your expression on this planet as a beautiful human being and it as a Divine expression of God.

The trilogy of being: signs symbols and synchronicities

Myrna:  That's great, did you want to touch on your Trilogy of self-realization the living, being and knowing.  Do you want to talk about those books?

Simran: Sure I would love to thank you Myrna, that's wonderful. I also published this year a Trilogy that really is the multi-dimensional experience of being human.  If you had been given a set of instructions upon birth to come in with that you would be able to encounter any and every experience of Life the seven blessings start off with the blessing of life and in each blessing is a certain gift that we receive in that particular blessing. We actually have the gift of, signs and symbols, and synchronicities.

It's hard to see that this cycle of seven that you live through is going to be a cycle that you repeat over and over again because your growth as a human being and as a soul is not linear it is not circular.

Myrna: Simran how can our listeners get a copy of your books tell us your website, tell us if you're on social media what are your handles.

Conclusion

Simran:  Thank you Myrna my website is iamsimran.com  you can go there and actually get discounted prices on the bundles of the trilogy or of conversations with the universe and signs and if you want all of my books, there's actually a special price bundle for that.  As well the books are available anywhere books are sold.   I invite you to partake of any of my free offerings. I give a lot away through 11 11 magazine and 11 11 Talk Radio in terms of content and on any of my social media.  I'm on Facebook LinkedIn Instagram you can look up Simran Singh 11 or you can look up I am simran 1111 all of which are accessible at my website.

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The Dangers of Holding Grudges: Lessons from Herodias and John

In the intricate tapestry of human relationships, grudges can often emerge as toxic threads that poison the bonds we share with others. Holding grudges can distort our perceptions, obstruct our ability to make sound decisions, and tether us to feelings of helplessness.

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Introduction

The Bible tells us in Mark chapter 6 that Herodias, Herod’s wife, bore a grudge against John and wanted to kill him; but without Herod’s approval she was powerless. So she waited like a serpent for her time and it came when her daughter pleased the king with her dance and he promised her anything she wanted. Her mother told her to ask for John’s head.

This plays out every day in the modern world. You say something quite innocently and someone takes offense and secretly plots to harm you.

Nobody is cutting off anyone’s head today, but a well placed word in the right ears and you don’t get the promotion or your best friend spreads something you told her in confidence to shame you.

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The Story of Herodias grudge against John:

Mark chapter 6 introduces us to the complex dynamic between Herod Antipas, the ruler of Galilee, and, John the Baptist, a fearless preacher and prophet. Herod had married Herodias, his brother's wife, which was against Jewish law and morality. John fearlessly denounced this union, prompting Herodias to harbor a deep-seated grudge against him.

Herodias' Grudge and Its Consequences:

Herodias' grudge against John festered in her heart, eventually leading to a chilling decision. The accumulation of her anger and resentment compelled her to hatch a sinister plot to kill John. However, her nefarious intentions were thwarted by a crucial factor—Herod's reluctance to give his approval for John's execution.

The Helplessness of Resentment:

Herodias' desire to harm John reveals a stark reality about grudges: they have the potential to blind individuals to reason and lead them down treacherous paths. And sometimes not always the weapon they formed against you boomerangs right back at them.

Holding grudges can distort our perceptions, obstruct our ability to make sound decisions, and tether us to feelings of helplessness. It is a useless emotion. You have heard the saying that unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Herodias was given a gift when Herod asked her daughter what she wanted if not she would have sat with her grudge and suffered because she was powerless to anything about it.

I said that to say the person you hold a grudge against is going on with their lives and probably having a better one than yours. Just as Herodias' resentment rendered her powerless without Herod's consent, our own animosities can leave you trapped in a, cycle of negativity,  and inaction.

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Forgiveness as a Path to Healing grudges:

Forgiveness is the way out. Nobody ever does anything they believe is wrong. Chances are whatever they did was not personal. By choosing to let go of grudges, we free ourselves from the shackles of bitterness and open the door to personal growth and reconciliation. Forgiveness is not a sign of weakness, but a courageous step towards breaking the, cycle of resentment.

Conclusion:

The tale of Herodias and John serves as a potent reminder of the dangers inherent in holding onto grudges. It urges us to reflect on the impact of resentment on our lives and relationships, and encourages us to choose forgiveness as a powerful means of transcending negativity. Just as Herodias' grudge proved to be her downfall, our own capacity for forgiveness can lead us towards greater understanding, empathy, and a more harmonious existence.

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Conquer Victim Mentality through Cinesomatics

Are you feeling like a victim? Are you always feeling like you're not good enough? In this blog post, Andrew Daniel is going to show you how to use Cinesomatics to transform your life and overcome, victim mentality. Cinesomatics is a powerful tool that can help you change the way you think and feel about yourself. After listening to this podcast, you'll be able to overcome your, victim mentality, and live a life full of confidence and self-love.

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Introduction

Andrew and I are going to be talking on the topic how to get out of, victim mentality, and awaken to your true self.  How many of you know that victims have no power, so you have to get out of, victim mentality, and we're gonna pair it with understanding your, true self.

In my book Out of the Snares, I talk about the, victim mentality, versus being a player.  Being a player means that you're controlling the game.

Andrew Daniel he is an award-winning and best-selling author and director at the center of cinematic development. His cinematics workshops led the field and video movement diagnosis and advanced intuition development integrating approaches from embodiment shadow work therapy and spirituality.  His book Awakened to your True Self is a gold Nautilus book awards recipient.  His first teaching work holistic sex at MindValley provided the world with a new paradigm that bridge The divide between sexuality, spirituality, and the sexes. ws bio so very first thing that I want to touch on Andrew

Myrna: is it you said you started your career teaching holistic sex at MindValley which is one of the top personal development companies and one of the companies that I follow.  tell us about that experience and what exactly was your course on, holistic sex, about.

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What is Holistic Sex

Andrew:  The whole premise of,  holistic sex,  is a paradigm of sexuality that wasn't about men versus women, it wasn't about choosing spirituality or pleasure and sex, it wasn't about going into perversions and cockiness and guilt and shame and all this stuff.  It also wasn't about only ascending the body and not having any pleasure and being acidic, it was how do we bridge this together.

How do we get men and women and our own masculine and feminine into relationship to heal this stuff and then also learn how to approach sexuality in a way where we're not ran by guilt and shame and fear and judgment and past trauma.

I suffered low self-esteem, lack of confidence, lack of social skills all of this stuff came from being bullied as a child.  I took it personally and I became a victim.  Later on I found out that was really the start of my, victim mentality, and so I just spent the next 10 to 15 years of my life really struggling. I was at certain points of contemplating suicide and revenge, it was a very dark time for me.

The other piece about, holistic sex,  is you can have this really ascended conscious beautiful thing, but then they abandoned and rejected multiple orgasms.  There was also a separation between actually knowing how to  pleasure and understanding these masculine and feminine polarities with healing.  So I realized all of it's connected, there's a tremendous amount of healing both men and women.

So I kind of wanted to bring it all together into one place and unify that rather than have these separate discorded ways of approaching it so that was, holistic sex.

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The intellectual types that struggle with victimhood

Myrna: You married sexuality and victimhood from the experiences you went through in childhood and you also married what you talk about in your book Awaken to your True Self from your experiences as a child and teenager being bullied and being you know the victim; but you also said something that's interesting that I had never heard before.   Intellect slows us down and that there's certain intellectual types that struggle with you know with Awakening to their true self and and victimhood.

I found that for many very successful people a lot of them were trapped in their intellect, they developed this really powerful computer in their head but they didn't know how to tap into their gut.  Some of these intellectual types that struggle because  there's some sort of trauma, there's some sort of emotional pain.  They were rejected, they were neglected, they were abandoned, they were hurt, they opened up to somebody and they were let down.

Myrna: Some become like a robot is because someone hurt them and which is basically the, victim mentality, that we're talking about.  The theme of our conversation is that, victim mentality,  makes us shut down and put on this armor.  Nothing would get in, but also what happens is because nothing is getting in, then they're not connected to the universe. They become closed off.

I was listening to a podcast this morning and a guy was talking about happiness, that you've got to believe that the universe is friendly,  if you don't believe that the universe is friendly, then you're never going to be happy.  If you've got the, victim mentality, then you're not feeling because you've shut that off.  If you're in this, victim mentality, life happens to you.

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Using Cinesomatic to remove victim mentality

Myrna: So you're using cinesomatics to deal with the, victim mentality, and to help people awaken to their, true self.  So what is it and what makes it so powerful?

Andrew: So the, victim mentality, and  Awakening you to your truth, that's just one aspect of cinematics and the work that I do.  In my book that's just one chapter of 18.  If you're a victim you have no power.  It's the entire premise of victimhood as they feel powerless and so they try to gain power through a, victim strategy, which doesn't work.

The only thing that works is responsibility, which  is the antidote to the, victim mentality.  It's not blame, it's not self-blame, you're not blaming yourself, you're taking responsibility and ownership.  The more responsibility you take for your life and yourself and your actions and even the circumstances around you, the better your life works.   If you give your power away to other people they're going to run you.

The House Always Wins when you're a victim.  So back to cinematics,  let's just speak to the name cinesomatics. Cena comes from Cinema it's using video and then somatics is of the body and movement.  So what cinematics is  rather than a heady intellectual kind of coaching or therapy it's an embodied feeling based transformational approach, where we use video to record people's movements in their body.

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Cinesomatics coaching therapy

Then we play that video back and I show them the subconscious patterns, hidden blocks, blind spots, archetypes, mythological patterns that define and run their life.  They get to see that for themselves on video, so I'm not just some Guru that they have to blindly believe.  This is not a belief-based process, it's right there in front of you.  You get to see all of your shadow, your blocks your manipulations, your light.  All your wonderful qualities and your rejection of them.

The fundamental principle that this work is based off, is how you do one thing is how you do anything, it's how you do everything.  So understanding that literally the way that you show up in your body shows, you show up in the world.  The way you move in your body is the way you move through your life.  So this video and feedback and movement feeling process really helps people break through when nothing else does.

Myrna: That sounds great, but I'm trying to figure out how do we does a video give you feedback?

Andrew: So we use very high-end Cinema equipment the kind that's used in Hollywood movies and then we just have people move. They can dance, they can shake their hands, we have all these different movement diagnostics.  So you literally just stand there and you do the movement whether by yourself or with a  partner.

Then I give feedback and then all of their stuff comes up and then we do the whole process when you see yourself on video and you're being told hey you're actually being narcissistic, you're manipulating, you think what you're doing is making you money but in fact you're dumping the money because you don't feel like you deserve making that much money.  All of that gets revealed through this process.

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Cinesomatics can reveal narcissisms

Myrna: Now one of the things that you talk about is that cinesomatics  helps reveal narcissism, so take us through a movement that would help reveal narcissistic behavior.

Andrew: A narcissist basically does not love himself or herself.  A narcissist is in love with their image.  So imagine the myth of narcissist in the seeing himself reflected in the pond that's not himself that's a reflection that's an image and so narcissists are focused on their what's called narcissistic image.  For us normal kind of people,  it's our mask, it's the persona, it's the going out and showing up in the world and putting on a face that we think the world wants us to have in order to be lovable, successful whatever.

So that's the one element of narcissism, where if you understand it's not actually loving themselves, it's in love with an image and then everyone around them gets objectified as supply to reinforce and build that image of themselves.

There's a whole chapter in my book to help people identify the narcissists in their life, but it's usually to identify the narcissistic patterns in ourselves, like how are we unknowingly unwittingly being narcissistic. Does it mean you have narcissists as a personality disorder?

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Book: Awaken to Your True Self

Myrna: That's amazing all right so let's talk about your book,  we've talked about the, victim mentality, and we've talked about the narcissist.  Can tell us why you wrote it?

Andrew:   I wrote this book for these reasons and specifically because I had spent 15 years of my life doing oh my God hours of EFT, NLP, hypnotherapy,  regular therapy, alternative medicine, holistic health.  I've done psychedelic plant medicines, I mean everything besides pharmaceutical drugs. I've pretty much done it, tried it.  I was willing to do whatever it took and some of it helped a lot,  but nothing really broke me through and so it was this embodiment piece this feeling piece, this video feedback piece that worked when nothing else did.

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I wrote this book because there was nothing else like it out there. Here are some of the other chapters:

  • The first one is about our stories that bind us to the past the things we just keep telling ourselves about why things just don't work
  • The next one is about vulnerability and change people want to create change at Behavioral or attitude or mindset levels.  What I teach it's not about becoming something you're not, it's about subtracting all of the things that you're not, to get you closer to who you really are.
  • All of the beliefs we've picked up, all the traumas, all of the limiting beliefs, all of the stories about how we are and how people should treat us.
  • The next one's called an equation for suffering.  So this one's more like, it's like a math equation where I  go over how we actually stay suffering.
  • The next chapter is all about narcissism and our image
  • The next one's called the spiritual path is failing. Which is really interesting because it's a very spiritual book, but there's something about trying to ascend  our Humanity that doesn't work.  This is kind of a foundation of cinematics it's in our literal flesh.
  • The victim trap which talks about victimhood avoidance.  How we avoid the very things that would move us forward
  • The last one of part one is stop fixing and start living.

 

Conclusion

Pick up a copy of Andrew's book on Amazon or on his website andrewdaniel.org and Youtube channel

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A Journey to Self-Love: Connecting with Self Care

Healing Trauma Through The Power of Self-Empathy

Krystal Boothe author of Deep Inner Soul – Healing with self empathy shares tips from her book on how to heal childhood trauma. In the depths of trauma's impact, the journey to healing often begins with, self-empathy. Krystal's book delves into the profound role, self-empathy, plays in the healing process, guiding individuals towards transformative recovery.  Krystal introduces concepts from her book that unravels the layers of trauma, while providing practical tools and exercises for self-nurturing and healing.

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Introduction

Krystal Boothe is a licensed clinical social worker and owner of Wings of The Future. Krystal  grew up in Detroit Michigan from an underprivileged family in an abusive home. Her father had two wives (didn't know that was legal in America) the abusive environment made a major impact on her schooling she had a special education classes.

As a result, she found herself repeating the cycle of abuse and became a victim (always happens).  After leaving her abuser she married her current husband in 1999, but after 14 years of marriage they divorced only to reunite three years later.  Together they founded Wings of The Future shortly afterwards. Krystal work now focuses on the, complex trauma, in the adult population.  she works with a diverse population of adults adolescents and children with anxiety, depression, bipolar, PTSD, ADHD and a host of other diagnosis.

Myrna: Krystal I want to start off by asking you in your work as a clinical social worker what did you personally learn or discover in life that led you to this point to write books about, healing trauma?

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Childhood trauma leads to toxic relationships

Krystal: It kind of started all out when I was in Los Angeles County working for the county at a facility for teenagers who are involved in the legal system.  I noticed that all of the clients they would give me, all of them had childhood trauma.  During the Discovery process and assessments all of them had trauma.

I just started to see the repeating underlining causes of why they were incarcerated and why they were having problems in school. Including learning, focused concentration, memory problems, and the  inability to have healthy relationships resulting in a  lot of toxic relationships.  That discovery led me on this path as well as my own struggles with focused concentration and memory.

I was not able to do well in school myself and so I started to connect the dots and that's when I started to realize that trauma was the underlying cause of these problems.  It wasn't just Mental Health, it's been proven. Science shows that whenever you see someone with trauma, the psychologist can go back and pinpoint a certain point in your childhood, not even maybe as a teenager it started.

Trauma can starts very early and it impacts the way you see the world and how you see yourself.

Myrna: I've had several people on the show that confirmed this. And you are correct a lot of times those behaviors or those traumas, leads to incarceration and problems with the justice system.

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Key elements to healing trauma: Self-empathy

Myrna: Can you describe the process of, healing trauma, and what are some key elements for people to learn how to heal from trauma?

Krystal: One of the key elements that I  mentioned in the book, is the inability to be vulnerable and authentic with yourself. A lot of times trauma brings a lot of shame and so people typically will not want to open up anymore. They'll shut down and that's just one of the byproducts of trauma, and so the ability to be vulnerable and honest with others and themselves.

Deep Inner Soul Healing with self-empathy addresses how to  get back to that place before you were damaged.  The book teaches you how to do that through the, empathy exercises.

Myrna:  I know you've got personal experience  from being a child in an abusive home, then you were able to start your career and see it in others.  What inspired you to write this book and what message do you hope readers will take away from the book?

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Deep Inner Soul Healing with self-empathy

Krystal: What I realized is that the key component to help trigger the brain to get back to that place of vulnerability and authenticity honesty was that the person was waiting to be cared for.  They were  waiting for someone to say something kind to them,  someone to validate them.  That led me on a scientific Journey with my clients up creating these empathy exercises.

Before I even wrote the book,  I decided to just go through these, empathy exercises, with the client pinpointing the specific traumas and see what happened to the brain,  and what happened to the heart.  These exercises allowed my clients to hear for themselves what they were expecting other people to tell them.

As they began to receive what they needed to heal, it was almost like an antidote, they started to let naturally.  Let go of the pain that was causing them to be unable to forgive or being unable to let something go or be unable to move forward and think of anything else other than what had happened to them.

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Healing with self-empathy allows us to move forward

Trauma has devastating  effects on the brain and on the body and in so many other areas. God gave me the word, I heard it in my spirit, empathy exercises, and I thought to myself, empathy exercises, okay.  I know what an exercise is it's something that you do over and over again and I know what empathy is but then I said he's meaning, self-empathy.

So then I started to say, self-empathy,  what does it look like, what would it sound like, what would it feel like?   I started writing out some things that were empathy because I have a very high emotional intelligence so I was able to discern what people needed to hear.   I'm going to trigger the same emotional reaction in their physiological body and in their brain and thereby get them where they want to go.

Myrna: Are these exercises affirmations? A lot of times affirmations don't work because your brain is saying oh that's bull crap.  Give me an example of a of a, self-empathy exercise, that someone will do and that their brain will believe it.

Krystal:  I teach people how to reconnect in their body and in their hearts and when they go into their heart that's where this work takes place this work does not take place in the brain.  It affects the brain, it helps rewire the brain, it helps the brain to let things go; but everything that they do they is from the heart not the brain.

Self empathy reconnects with the heart and body

I teach them to how to reconnect with their bodies and a lot of times people do not want to reconnect with their bodies because that's exactly where the pain is. So I teach them how to slowly but surely isolate various incidents that have happened to them.  We go through and unpack all that stuff, get it clear what we're going in for and then we go into the heart, we don't go into the brain. The brain only believes with the heart.

Once you  shift over into to true empathy for yourself, you realize that oh someone cares for me. That someone is you.

Myrna: That's actually pretty good work. What do you want people to walk away with after reading your book?

Krystal: One of the biggest message I want people to walk away with is that I  can heal.  People lose hope because they have tried everything,  they've done everything.   I want to reinstall in people that there's hope, that they can actually heal.  Because once a person hope is activated, they are willing to do the work.

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Conclusion

Myrna: so how can someone pick up a copy of your book and also get a hold of you for therapy? Your company is called Wings of the future.

I am on social media I'm on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/wingsofthefuturepp/.  I'm going to be starting a little small group where I'm going to be allowing people to kind of meet with the author of the book where they're going to get actually meet with me.  I'm going to go through the book with people and it's just going to be for a very small nominal monthly fee.  They're going to be able to meet with me if they can't go to therapy, because not everybody has money for therapy.

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Building trust in Personal and Parental Relationships

In the intricate tapestry of personal and parental relationships, building trust, is the cornerstone upon which strong bonds are formed. This blog delves into the delicate art of building and nurturing trust with benevolence and integrity. Join us on this exploration of trust's transformative power, and uncover the keys to forging lasting connections that stand the test of time.

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Introduction

Daryl stickle is one of the world's leading experts in trust with over 20 years experience his PhD building trust in hostile environments. Duke University established him as a global leader for governments and businesses.  His  unpractical approaches to, building trust, that has worked for McKinsey and Company  in their Toronto office as well as advise the Canadian military on, building trust, in Afghanistan. He has served as faculty for the Luxembourg School of Business and the Center for Effective organized organizations at the University of Southern California and recently completed his book Building Trust Exceptional Leadership in an Uncertain world.

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Myrna:  maybe we can lay some foundations of how that can happen for anybody that's listening, but I know that you help leaders and organizations.  I understand you have a  structured and systematic approach that helps leaders to build trust.

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Darryl: I and I also do work with families trying to help them understand, how to build stronger relationships.  For me trust is a willingness to make ourselves vulnerable, when we can't completely predict how someone else is going to behave.

If I'm a leader, how do I know if people trust me?  I'll ask these questions.  One of the challenges we face is just a lack of awareness about who we trust and how much.  If I asked you, do you trust me?  You'd feel awkward right? It's awkward to say no, because that would be rude and it might trigger an inappropriate response.

Our head goes to this place where we either trust people or we don't, it's a dichotomous variable, like an old-time light switch.  The reality is we trust some people more than others and so when I ask people who do you trust, I get these close tight personal relationships.  Best friends, siblings, spouse parents.

When I flip the question and I say who trusts you?  I get this sort of long pause and then people say, how do I know if someone trusts me or not?   I'm a leader my subordinates can make themselves vulnerable by telling me what their real development needs are?  By taking risks, making mistakes by pushing back against things that they don't think are going to work and coming up with Innovative Creative Solutions.

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Definition of trust

I believe that trust is a combination of uncertainty and vulnerability and in fact it's uncertainty times vulnerability. It gives us a level of perceived risk, we each have a threshold of risk that we're willing to tolerate. NFR perception of the risk goes beyond that threshold.  We don't trust if it's beneath it then we do and so, building trust, actually becomes a fairly simple matter of understanding where does uncertainty come from.  Where does vulnerability come from and how do I take steps to help people manage those.

Myrna:  How do I build trust,  or how do I trust someone?  I believe that trust is earned.  For instance, let's say we're starting off in a, business relationship, I am going to trust you until you burn me. I am going to trust you until I realize that you're stabbing me in the back. How does vulnerability comes into play?

Darryl:  We start off in the world with a high level of trust and in most situations our parents go out of their way to make sure that we don't experience levels of vulnerability that are too high.  They try to prevent us from being injured, they try to keep people from us  who they don't think are safe and they keep an eye on situations where we might get burned.

So we learn over time about how much risk we're willing to tolerate and part of that's cultural and part of that's historic.  The example you give of we we start with a new boss or a new team or a new set of co-workers yes there's a certain level of trust there and it's partly because we have these expectations that we're all sort of pulling in the same direction.  We're all kind of on the same side and we dip our toe,  we don't make ourselves incredibly vulnerable right away.

We accept a little bit of vulnerability as we come to understand them and  I'm going to frame this in terms of relationships. Early in relationships we have high levels of uncertainty, which means we can only tolerate a small range of vulnerability and still fit beneath that threshold we're comfortable with. As we gain more experience that uncertainty starts to go down which means the range of vulnerability we can tolerate starts to grow.

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Building trust with benevolence

There are three levers we can pull from the individual perspective, there's benevolence, integrity and ability.

  • Benevolence –  is the belief you have my best interest at heart and then she'll actually work in my best interest.
  • Integrity –  is do I follow through on my promises and do  my actions line up with my values and abilities. Do I have the confidence to do what I say I'm going to do?  So that boss has to have shown us at some point that their response is going to be supportive and helpful rather than angry and frustrated and that that they're going to tolerate mistakes.
  • Ability – As you learn and grow, I want to position you to succeed and I'm going to ask you to do something that's slightly outside your comfort zone and you come back to me and say, I may not get it perfect but I am goin to try.

Myrna: You also have a system that helps parents, build trust, with their children.  One of the things that I know as a parent is that your kids are always watching.  How do you teach parents to, build trust, with their children?

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How can parents build trust with their children

Darryl: I've actually written an article on this that's on my website at trustunlimited.com it's free if people want to go look for it it's in the blog section.  It's on trust and parenting, but again it goes back to those levers.  We explain the context so there are four levers within uncertainty. I believe that there are ten altogether that we can pull, and the four within uncertainty are benevolence, integrity, ability and context is the fourth lever.

So to the extent that our kids understand how we're constrained and what we can and can't do, and what the rules are for our family. Then they understand how we're going to behave, but we also need to be able to convince them that we have their best interests at heart.  I talk about benevolence quite a bit and when I'm working with families, I'll ask them, who here has their kids best interest at heart and all the hands go up.

When I flipped that question and say how many of your kids would say that you have their best interest at heart? it's about a third and it's somewhat hesitant and so how do we make it obvious, how do we make it land?  It doesn't mean always being nice.  Benevolence is truly about having their best interest at heart.

Myrna: I'm loving this.  We've talked about the office, we've talked about parents. Let's talk now about, building trust is personal relationships.

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Building trust in personal relationships

Darryl: How does trust evolve in, personal  relationships?  From the start it's going throughout that blend of uncertainty and vulnerability.  In our relationships as uncertainty gets more and more compressed, as we become more and more convinced that we know the other person and how they're going to act, the range of vulnerability we can tolerate starts to really grow.  In our deepest relationships, we've got very small levels of uncertainty which means we can be incredibly vulnerable with one another.

There can be things that happen to cause the uncertainty to rise for us  which makes us uncomfortable.  When I work with people around, how to, build trust, I focus in on the 10 levers that I talk about.  Four of them are within uncertainty, two of them are within vulnerability, there's two within perceived outcomes because we interpret the world through stories.

I was working with a student in Luxembourg and I said, I want you to tell me a relationship that's really important to you and he said my girlfriend.  I said great when you go home tonight you're going to say to your girlfriend, I was talking with Daryl today and he said that benevolence is really important to, building Trust, and that means having someone else's best interest at heart.  He asked me about a relationship that really mattered to me and I said you.

 

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Book: Building Trust Exceptional Leadership in an uncertain world

Myrna:  Tell us about your book it's called Building Trust Exceptional Leadership in an Uncertain world why did you write it?

Darryl: It especially a leadership book, there's some personal stuff as well.  I find the model holds. I had to pick somewhere to start.  If I were to write another book, which I may, it would be around parenting and family.   I wrote the book I put everything in there, there's no hidden messages that I've kept secret. I've put the whole model on, building trust, in the book. I've also talked through all 10 levers.

I've talked about how to pull those levers effectively,  I've given examples and case studies of situations where those levers have been pulled and what we've done. So the intent of the book is to really scale things.  I've also got a master class, it's about three hours in length. It's five minute segments that really walks people through trust and uses role plays and exercises to help people actually apply the skills.

Conclusion

Myrna:  tell us about your website tell us about your course your social media handles

Darryl: You can reach out to me at Darryl@trustunlimited.com  you can go to the website trustunlimited.com and there's a Blog section there with articles and some podcasts. There's a course, there the master class that's available and you can order the book anywhere online.  People can reach out to me on LinkedIn.

I've got a YouTube channel it's just in its very early stages it's trust unlimited podcasts

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The Power of Positive Thinking: Letting your Mind Heal your body

I want to make sure everyone knows of the power of, positive thinking, that the mind can heal the body. In a world where holistic health practices and alternative healing methods are gaining popularity, the idea of healing through thought alone has captured the imagination of many.

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Introduction: The Mind body connection

I want to use as my foundation, the biblical story of the woman with the issue of blood who believed that touching the hem of Jesus' garment would lead to her healing.

I want to share this message today because I've been kind of soaked in the, mind body connection, recently after reading Dr Joe's Dispenza's book “Becoming Supernatural” I know that I myself has healed my body by focusing on where the pain is and sending energy to it and we can all do that. People can heal themselves of cancer; they can heal themselves of a lot of illnesses, including muscular dystrophy,  Parkinson's disease and any and all illnesses.

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Christopher Reeves healed his spine using the mind

I read Christopher Reeves autobiography years ago, he shared that he would sit outside every single day and tell his body to heal and it did. Just recently, I was listening to this new movie called Unsinkable and even though I have followed Dr Joe Dispenza for years now, I never heard his origin story. He shared in the movie that a truck ran into him while he was riding a bicycle and broke all the vertebrate's in his back and he laid in his hospital bed and told his body to heal.

This is why I wrote this article, I want to make sure everyone knows of the power of positive thinking, that the mind can heal the body. The bible teaches us this in Matthew 21. Jesus teaches, I tell you if you have faith and do not doubt not only can you do what was done to the fig tree, but also you can say to this mountain go lower yourself into the sea and it will be done.

You know that's some Supernatural stuff because you can't even push a mountain, much as tell it to pick itself up and go into the sea, but what Jesus was trying to say is that you can create the impossible with your mind.  Which is why the mindset is so important to me. Why, transforming your mind, is so important.

The woman with the issue of blood, also believed that all she had to do to be healed was to touch the hem of Jesus garment and her belief made her whole.

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Science confirms that we can indeed heal our bodies with our minds

Science now affirms that we can indeed heal cancer, autoimmune disease, diabetes, and many other conditions with our minds.

Our subconscious minds create these diseases and our conscious mind can heal them.

In the book Becoming supernatural, in the first chapter Dr Joe Dispenza shared a story of a woman healing herself through meditation of cancer, paralysis, ulcerated colitis, sores in her mouth, vagina, and anus. She was a mess. Her body created these conditions because her husband committed suicide and left her broke. All she had to do to heal herself is to leave that old personality behind and create a new one.

So, what is the body mind connection?

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The Mind-Body Connection:

The concept of the, mind-body connection, has been studied extensively in both scientific and philosophical circles. Research indicates that mental states, emotions, and beliefs can indeed have an impact on physical health. Stress, for example, has been linked to various health conditions, including heart disease and immune system dysfunction. This suggests that maintaining a positive outlook and managing stress could potentially contribute to better overall well-being.

Complementary Approaches:

Positive thinking, can certainly complement medical treatments and aid in the recovery process. Many individuals find comfort and strength in their beliefs, which can contribute to a more positive outlook during times of illness. Practices such as meditation, mindfulness, and visualization may also help reduce stress and promote relaxation, which can support the body's natural healing mechanisms.

Conclusion:

The idea of healing through thought alone is a fascinating concept that highlights the intricate connection between mind and body. While, positive thinking, and belief can positively influence health outcomes, they should not replace evidence-based medical interventions. The story of the woman with the issue of blood serves as a reminder of the power of faith and hope, today we have many many stories of, thought-based healing. Ultimately, a holistic approach that combines, positive thinking, with appropriate medical care offers the best path to overall well-being.

My suggestion is not to wait until you get the diagnosis to start practicing meditation and, positive thinking, start now. You do not want to learn to swim when you are drowning!

Thanks for listening to this week’s episode of 5 min Fridays with coach Myrna.

Until next time Namaste

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A Journey to Self-Love: Connecting with Self Care

In this podcast episode, we're diving into the topic of self care. This is a topic that can be challenging for many of us, but it's essential if we want to feel at home in our bodies. We're going to discuss different ways to develop a strong connection with our body, and learn how to accept and love ourselves without perfection. This isn't a easy journey, but it's one that is worth taking if we want to feel happy and fulfilled in our bodies and practice, self love.  

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Bio

Taylor Elise Morrison turned bad at self care and being firmly convinced of every human's potential into a career. She is the founder of the media company Inner Workout and the author of a book by the same name. Recently, named one of Fortune's 10 innovators, Shipping the Future of Health. Taylor is tired of aspirational wellness. Instead, she builds businesses, content, and experiences that make well-being and personal development more accessible.

You're just as likely to see Taylor facilitating a workshop at a Fortune 100 company as you are to see her talking about TikTok and body image with a high school class. Wherever she goes, Taylor is sure to use her coaching, mindfulness, and movement training to meet people where they're at and offer actionable steps towards creating a world without burnout. Yes, that's awesome. When you practice self care, then you should be creating your inner world without burnout.

Myrna: So Taylor, it's an interesting niche. Can you tell me how you got on the self care path? I am in your bio. You started off by saying that you were once bad with self care. How did you go from that to be an author of the book, The Inner Workout?

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The inner workout to self care

Taylor: Yeah, and I would still say doing, self care, practicing, self care, isn't something that comes naturally to me. I always like to be upfront about that because I think it's really easy to see someone who's written a book or talks about a topic and be like, well, they're so far ahead. It could never possibly be me. And I really came into this work because I needed it. I was in a place where I was working full time. I had a business on the side. I was volunteering with multiple nonprofits. I was planning a wedding. I was trying to have a social life. And I kept feeling overwhelmed and burned out.

And I was approaching, self care, the way that I had seen it approached in a lot of spaces in the mainstream. But I wasn't necessarily feeling cared for in my daily life. In fact, I kept going back to this place of feeling burned out and overwhelmed. And so really through my own journey of figuring out what it looked like to actually feel cared for, that led me to this work of Inner Workout. And now I feel like it keeps me honest. I'm not perfect at it, but I have tools I can continue to use.

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Definition of Self Care

Myrna: So how are we using the word, self care? What is your definition of it? And when you use that label, what are you meaning?

Taylor: Yeah, the definition that we use both in the book and in the company and our workout is that self care is listening within and responding in the most loving way possible. So it really shifts self care from an item on your to do list to a continuous conversation that you're having with yourself.

Myrna: Okay, I get it. So what were you bad at? You said that you were pretty bad with self care and you still struggle with it. So are you bad with the conversation with yourself? Or are you bad with scheduling it? Are you bad with a list or give us an example of someone that's listening so that they can identify with what we're talking about.

Taylor: Yeah, well, if we bring it back to that, definition of self care, as listening within and responding in the most loving way possible, I've struggled with both pieces of that equation and the people that I work with tend to struggle with one or both of those pieces. So in the beginning, a lot of it was the listening within understanding what's going on for me beneath the surface, not what people are telling me to care about, not what is the trendy topic, but listening to me being connected to my own inner voice, my own inner wisdom. So that's one part of the equation.

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Start self care by listening within

The other piece is responding with love. So it's one thing to understand I'm feeling overwhelmed or I feel anxious in these situations or I'm doing this thing that I no longer feel aligned or connected to. It's quite another to respond by having a conversation or by reprioritizing how you're spending your time or by making an adjustment. So a lot of people need to start their journey with learning how to listen within. But then it gets into the, okay, loving response. How can I use the time, the resources available to me to give myself whatever it is that I need?

Myrna: Okay. All right. Okay. So I'm glad I dug a little deeper because yeah, we need to put the, you know, the proper label on what we're talking because, you know, anybody that's listening with when they say self care, you might think, okay, all right. So I'm going to schedule time to maybe go to the gym or for meditation or for, you know, going and get my nails and my pedicure. And instead of caring for others, you're caring for yourself.

You're scheduling time to care for yourself. But what your work seems to be focused on, and that's basically why you wrote the book and then you have the company, the inner workout. You're talking about the inner self care where if, let's say, you know, I always like to dig deep so people can actually grab it. So let's say that, like you just talked about, you were, you were working, let's say, nine to five, doesn't mean nine to five, but let's say you're working nine to five.

Let's say that you got a side hustle, a business on the side. You're volunteering at, you know, non-profit so that maybe you can help your business on the side or your career because that's your focus. And then you're saying you're planning a wedding. So you are burning out and you have to care for yourself to say, hey, maybe I need to cut out some things out of this or so that's where we're going with this conversation.

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The 5 dimensions of of self love and well-being

Taylor: That was part of it. And I think so one of the themes that we talk about is these, five dimensions of well-being, physical, energetic, mental and emotional wisdom and bliss. So when I'm talking about, self care, and doing the inner work, some of that, yes, is having conversations with yourself, doing more, doing less things that are really internal that no one else notices. But then some of those are external things.

Like for me, every morning it's a non-negotiable for me that I move my body, but I'm not overly prescriptive of what that looks like. So this morning I had a late night last night, I had to take a family member to the emergency room. And so this morning when I checked in and said, okay, what do I need in terms of movement? This morning it was to walk for 20 minutes on my treadmill. Tomorrow I might ask myself that same question and it might be that I do yoga or I do cardio boxing.

So what my work around, self care, is really trying to do is to get you to the point where you were stepping in to your own self expertise. You're really understanding what you need and you're willing and able to give it to yourself to the best of your abilities using the resources that you have. A lot of times when I see people approaching self care, it's very, I read a study or I read an article that said meditation is good and you should meditate for 20 minutes.

So I'm going to meditate for 20 minutes and I have to do it that way instead of viewing it as, okay, I got some new information. Meditation might be something that's good for me. Let me try it out. Let me understand what feels good, what feels difficult, what are different types of meditation that I can try. So again, it's less about I need to do this thing. I need to schedule this thing a lot of times at a very surface level and more about being in conversation with yourself and acknowledging that you are a human who is a part of nature who is going to shift and change. So as you continue to have that conversation with yourself, the ways that you care for yourself may shift and change over time, will shift and change.

Myrna:  I love that. I love that. Yes. I love when I dig deep. It's the coaching me. All right. Well, you just said a couple of things just now. So since it's been introduced, let's go there. Let's talk about each of the 5 dimensions of, self love.

The dimensions of self care

Taylor:  So there's five dimensions of, self love,  that are really fundamental to the work of, inner workout, as a company and fundamental to the book. That's a lot of the structure of the book is reviewing these five dimensions and then there's 14 sub dimensions. So I was first introduced to the concept that inspired the five dimensions of wellbeing. First there is the, physical dimension.

When I was going through my yoga teacher training and I was introduced to this yoga concept of the Koshas that eventually inspired the five dimensions of wellbeing. So when we're talking about these dimensions, it really gives language and reminds us that there are multiple pieces and facets of us.

Another thing that I see really regularly when people are talking about self-care in the mainstream is that it tends to be pretty surface level and it tends to primarily focus on our physical body.

  • Then there's the, energetic dimension, that looks at your ability to support yourself through and support your wellbeing through your breath. And then also looks at the way that energy moves throughout your daily life. The example I often give is we have all had the experience where we have a conversation and we're so energized after that conversation. It like gave us energy. We've also had the experience, I'm guessing, I've definitely had this experience where I leave a conversation afterwards and I'm just feeling so drained.

Myrna: That's happening all the time. Negative energy from the other person. Very few of us get the positive energy

Mental and emotional dimension of self care and self love

Taylor:  Then there's the mental and emotional sub-dimension, which looks at the way that we are using our brains, the way that we're able to process and express our emotions. And that's supported by the foundation of sleep, because sleep doesn't just affect our physical bodies. It also literally affects our ability to think and to process and to verbalize.

  • Then there's the, wisdom dimension, which is about connecting to our inner wisdom in the present moment and taking aligned action on those insights. Similar to what I was saying when I was talking about the definition of self-care is listening within and responding with love. Sometimes we can hear from our inner voice, we have that gut feeling or we have that feeling in our heart. And we're like, we have a sense of what we should do or what we shouldn't do.
  •  And then the final dimension of wellbeing is about bliss, which is a seat of connection to the truest, the fullest expression of yourself, connection to community, and connection to something bigger than you, however you define that connection. So those are the five dimensions of wellbeing. And I touched briefly on some of the sub-dimensions. And so when we're looking at care, this model really helps you holistically pinpoint what part of me might be needing care right now.

Myrna:  Awesome. All right. So yeah, you're also an entrepreneur. We talked about your side hustle and you're,  the founder of, the inner workout.  So let's talk about self-care now when you're an entrepreneur. Because when you're an entrepreneur, it is hard. I started my entrepreneurial journey as a limousine operator, years ago in Canada. And, and it was like a 24 hour job. People will call you at four in the morning, they want to go to the airport and stuff like that. So a lot of entrepreneurs don't have time for the physical self-care, much less the mental and emotional self-care. So how do you teach your, your inner workout community?

How entrepreneurs can practice self care

Taylor: And I would actually push back on that, that entrepreneurs don't have time for, self-care, because what I find often is that when people say they don't have time for self-care, that's not true.  We can find those pockets of time for self care. It may be a minute in between calls, or it may be you're in the car on the way to your next client meeting and you take some time to check in.

But what I would really encourage for entrepreneurs is to start noticing the pockets of time that you have, using them to do something, even if it's just like, what do I need? I need three deep breaths. I need to say three things that I'm grateful for. I need to just stand up and stretch really quick because I've been sitting. So noticing those pockets of time, using them, and then celebrating whatever care you're able to give to yourself.

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Myrna: Tell us about your book Inner Work-out, why did you write it?

Taylor:  I wrote the book because not everyone can afford coaching, not everyone can afford to go through a course or a workshop. But the book is in libraries. The book is only $20. And that's a lot more affordable way to begin this work for yourself than some of the other offerings. So it's also a way to make my work more accessible to more people.

What I want people to get out of it is, I keep going back to the feedback that I love.  It lights me up when people are like, oh, I never thought of, self care, this way. I felt like Taylor was talking to me and I felt like I could actually do this.

So if people see themselves in this book and feel like there is at least one thing, and I promise that will be way more than one thing that they can get out of it, then I've done my job. You have 14 sub dimensions. Yeah, there's a lot in there and the book really expands on this resource that is free and will remain free, called the Take Care Assessment that measures our wellbeing across the five dimensions and the 14 sub dimensions.

And then it gives you this PDF report based on your results and gives you sample practices to get started. So the book really encourages you to take the assessment to start. And then you can read it like a choose your own adventure and be like, oh, I need some work on the embodiment sub dimension of the physical dimension.

Conclusion

Tell our readers how they can get a copy of your book, your website, your social media handles so they can follow you.

Taylor: So if you head to innerworkout.co, there's a button right there that will show you all the places you can get the book. There's also a button right below it that links you to the self care assessment. So if you go to our website, top two resources are right there. And I'm not super active on social media. But I'm on Instagram as Taylor Elyse Morrison. But honestly, the best way to stay connected with us is through our self care Sundays newsletter and by listening to the Inner warm up podcast.

Well, listen, guys, thank you for tuning into the Transform Your Mind to Transform Your Life radio podcast and television show. If you're listening on iTunes, we'd love for you to rate and review. If you're watching this on YouTube, I would love for you to subscribe.  Until next time, Namaste.

Additional Resources

How to Love Yourself and Heal The Body