In order to transform your life, you must first transform your, mindset, by getting, back to basics. The principle here is that there’s a, mindset connection, that we need to make for these seven elements to become our, core values.
The reason that people are not activating the, basics, in their life is because there isn’t a personal, connection. The, mindset, happens before any strategy or tactic can form our, core values.
My guest today is T.J Loeffler is a transformational coach and author.
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T.J realized the right path is actually a change in, mindset, so he wrote the book “Back To Basics: How To Get More Out Of Your Life by Doing Less Than You Think” T.J’s seminar called “Welcome to Yourself” was inspiration from God about establishing our, core values.
Our identity “who am I” as the first step in “Welcome to Yourself. Our identity does shape our decisions which then shapes our legacy, our day-to-day priorities and our, core values.
Your past equals your present, if you keep stumbling and hitting your foot on the same thing, until you clarify it and see it, you’re going to continue doing that.
How do we go from “Welcome To Yourself” to “back to basics”?
T.J – Success is really about progress not perfection. Getting, back to basics, started because I was burned out. I was exhausted, and I needed to heal. I realized that until I went through the process of actually healing, changing and growing myself, there would be no way I’d be able help somebody else. I needed to reflect on my, core values.
That’s how, back to basics, came about, it’s like put on your mask first. You’ve got to heal yourself. You’ve got to be able to become whole again by focusing on your, core values.
The seven Core Value System
I teach about the seven, core values, elements or the, core pillar, system.
These are the key elements in the, back-to-basics, model.
- Active rest
How do we define FUN
Fun, is an interesting one, somebody who’s reading this might say okay that sounds kind of cheesy; but let me tell you exactly what I mean. People who grew up in homes where there was extreme anxiety or anxiousness, guess what goes first, fun.
So, people who don’t know how to return to joy in their life, might have grown up in an environment that was not necessarily healthy, and they learned how to cope with that by doing things that are no longer working for them, like over working. So when you use that, fun, tool of, back to basics, it puts the, fun, back into your life.
Connection and Back to Basics
The principle here is that there’s a, mindset connection, that we need to make to these seven elements our, core values.
The reason that people are not activating the, basics, and, core values, in their life is because there isn’t a personal, connection. The, mindset, happens before any strategy or tactic.
So, when you’re asking how do people get, back to basics? The first thing you need to do is to recognize the need to prioritize your, core values.
I would prioritize my day, when I didn’t know what I was doing. I was trying to figure out how do you grow a business; how to get more clients? I prioritized learning how to eat right, and eat on time and have enough energy in my own life.
A Healthy Diet is a Core Value
Diet – If you don’t eat right, you have no energy.
- Adults ages 19-50: 1,000 milligrams per day
- Women age 51 and older: 1,200 milligrams per day
- Men age 51 – 70: 1,000 milligrams per day
- Men 71 and older: 1,200 milligrams per day
What it does: Needed for bone growth and strength, blood clotting, muscle contraction, and more
Don’t get more than this a day: 2,500 milligrams per day for adults age 50 and younger, 2,000 mg per day for those 51 and older
Foods that have it: Milk, liver, eggs, peanuts
How much you need:
- Men: 550 milligrams per day
- Women: 425 milligrams per day
- Pregnant women: 450 milligrams per day
- Breastfeeding women: 550 milligrams per day
Sleep is important to reduce Stress and is a core value
Sleep – If you don’t, sleep, then you can’t function. Movement and exercise that’s obviously very important to, fun.
Highly successful people can have all the money in the bank and still can’t have, fun.
What’s the difference between active rest and sleep?
When you’re actually sleeping, there’s a fluid that washes over our brain and actually, helps us detoxify or take out some of the toxic thoughts that are built up as proteins in our brain. So, if we’re chronically under-slept, we’re allowing this protein not to do its job.
I don’t know if this is a scientific parallel equivalent, but you could think about this protein as kind of plaque buildup in your brain. If we are not sleeping well enough, if we’re not sleeping long enough, we’re not getting the cleansing that needs to happen in our brain, so we end up with what negative thinking.
If we continue over to, active rest, a lot of people that we’re working with are hyperactive. Hyperactive is the opposite of hypoactive, so when you think about hypoactive that’s more like reclusive or lazy.
People who are wired to be hyperactive or have taught themselves that this is how I get through hard situations that’s not a bad thing, however your body is not meant to be in a state of fight flight or freeze. So unless we can move from sympathetic tone towards parasympathetic tone or from fight flight to rest and digest state, our body is not going to be able to process things the right way.
Fight Flight or Freeze prevents digestion
For example, your nutrients from your food. You can eat all the kale and salmon you want, but if your body is in, fight flight, or freeze state you’re not going to be digesting that food properly.
So, active rest, helps you down regulate, it helps you go from that state of, fight flight or freeze, where you might be anxious or you might be shallow mouth breathing to a state where you’re more rested while awake.
Body meditation is now a trend, because people are over stimulated and they need a way to effectively down regulate. Here’s the key it’s like you’re hijacking your body your mind and your body have a, connection, that you need to make and many people have lost that, connection.
Active Rest is not Meditation
Active rest, helps you kind of re-establish that as does movement and other things.
The, mind-body connection, is what yoga does.
We’re coming through a, pandemic, it’s going on now for over a year. Many people might be feeling the consequences of that. You can feel isolated and alone in a city of 8 million people.
The key for, connection, is not quantity it is quality. The problem is people try and find, connection, through others before finding, connection, with God. It’s not that you can’t have, connection, with God through others, but it’s that there’s an intimate personal encounter that God wants to have with us.
Connection to God should be a core value
We host the presence of God, you’re connected to him wherever you go, but there’s really a development and cultivation that needs to happen to learn how to host the presence of God.
A lot of people do not understand the authority they have over the atmosphere in their home for example. They do not understand the awareness, or they don’t have the awareness to understand the environments that they’re entering into every single day.
I think research has shown that we do need people, it’s nice to have a relationship with God, but we actually do need people.
What is your research on loneliness?
Even though you might be spiritually connected to God, you still need people.
Tell our listeners how they can connect with you. You said that your book is delayed, but tell us about your first book and your website, coaching and your podcast.
If anybody listening or reading, first I hope first and foremost you receive what was shared today from Myrna and me as seeds. That’s my encouragement to you that when you receive seeds, you can let those seeds grow to trees and over time you know that is really something that you look at in your life. Let those seeds become your, core values.
If you want more seeds, you can go to my site is tjloeffler.com and there you’ll find not only the podcast, but you’ll also find access to everything else that Myrna mentioned, and the podcast is just a great way to start. The podcast is a great way to continue working on your mindset. My podcast is called Mindset with T.J Loefler.
You can listen to the podcast or you can purchase the book from my website corepillars.com. It’s called “Back to basics how to get more out of life by doing less than you think” teaching you the, core pillar, system.
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My team and I were referencing this scripture and I would like to leave this with you. I believe this will be encouraging to somebody who’s reading this blog.
1 Timothy 6:6, NIV: “But godliness with contentment is great gain.” … 1 Timothy 6:6, NLT: “Yet true godliness with contentment is itself great wealth.”
When we find contentment with what we have and no need for more, we know that we can truly rest in God’s presence, however I would also say if you’re reading this and you do have a desire for more, that’s a healthy desire.
So, godliness with contentment is great, but you don’t have to be satisfied, there’s more out there so keep going.