Are you feeling like a victim? Are you always feeling like you’re not good enough? In this blog post, Andrew Daniel is going to show you how to use Cinesomatics to transform your life and overcome, victim mentality. Cinesomatics is a powerful tool that can help you change the way you think and feel about yourself. After listening to this podcast, you’ll be able to overcome your, victim mentality, and live a life full of confidence and self-love.
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Andrew and I are going to be talking on the topic how to get out of, victim mentality, and awaken to your true self. How many of you know that victims have no power, so you have to get out of, victim mentality, and we’re gonna pair it with understanding your, true self.
In my book Out of the Snares, I talk about the, victim mentality, versus being a player. Being a player means that you’re controlling the game.
Andrew Daniel he is an award-winning and best-selling author and director at the center of cinematic development. His cinematics workshops led the field and video movement diagnosis and advanced intuition development integrating approaches from embodiment shadow work therapy and spirituality. His book Awakened to your True Self is a gold Nautilus book awards recipient. His first teaching work holistic sex at MindValley provided the world with a new paradigm that bridge The divide between sexuality, spirituality, and the sexes. ws bio so very first thing that I want to touch on Andrew
Myrna: is it you said you started your career teaching holistic sex at MindValley which is one of the top personal development companies and one of the companies that I follow. tell us about that experience and what exactly was your course on, holistic sex, about.
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What is Holistic Sex
Andrew: The whole premise of, holistic sex, is a paradigm of sexuality that wasn’t about men versus women, it wasn’t about choosing spirituality or pleasure and sex, it wasn’t about going into perversions and cockiness and guilt and shame and all this stuff. It also wasn’t about only ascending the body and not having any pleasure and being acidic, it was how do we bridge this together.
How do we get men and women and our own masculine and feminine into relationship to heal this stuff and then also learn how to approach sexuality in a way where we’re not ran by guilt and shame and fear and judgment and past trauma.
I suffered low self-esteem, lack of confidence, lack of social skills all of this stuff came from being bullied as a child. I took it personally and I became a victim. Later on I found out that was really the start of my, victim mentality, and so I just spent the next 10 to 15 years of my life really struggling. I was at certain points of contemplating suicide and revenge, it was a very dark time for me.
The other piece about, holistic sex, is you can have this really ascended conscious beautiful thing, but then they abandoned and rejected multiple orgasms. There was also a separation between actually knowing how to pleasure and understanding these masculine and feminine polarities with healing. So I realized all of it’s connected, there’s a tremendous amount of healing both men and women.
So I kind of wanted to bring it all together into one place and unify that rather than have these separate discorded ways of approaching it so that was, holistic sex.
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The intellectual types that struggle with victimhood
Myrna: You married sexuality and victimhood from the experiences you went through in childhood and you also married what you talk about in your book Awaken to your True Self from your experiences as a child and teenager being bullied and being you know the victim; but you also said something that’s interesting that I had never heard before. Intellect slows us down and that there’s certain intellectual types that struggle with you know with Awakening to their true self and and victimhood.
I found that for many very successful people a lot of them were trapped in their intellect, they developed this really powerful computer in their head but they didn’t know how to tap into their gut. Some of these intellectual types that struggle because there’s some sort of trauma, there’s some sort of emotional pain. They were rejected, they were neglected, they were abandoned, they were hurt, they opened up to somebody and they were let down.
Myrna: Some become like a robot is because someone hurt them and which is basically the, victim mentality, that we’re talking about. The theme of our conversation is that, victim mentality, makes us shut down and put on this armor. Nothing would get in, but also what happens is because nothing is getting in, then they’re not connected to the universe. They become closed off.
I was listening to a podcast this morning and a guy was talking about happiness, that you’ve got to believe that the universe is friendly, if you don’t believe that the universe is friendly, then you’re never going to be happy. If you’ve got the, victim mentality, then you’re not feeling because you’ve shut that off. If you’re in this, victim mentality, life happens to you.
Using Cinesomatic to remove victim mentality
Myrna: So you’re using cinesomatics to deal with the, victim mentality, and to help people awaken to their, true self. So what is it and what makes it so powerful?
Andrew: So the, victim mentality, and Awakening you to your truth, that’s just one aspect of cinematics and the work that I do. In my book that’s just one chapter of 18. If you’re a victim you have no power. It’s the entire premise of victimhood as they feel powerless and so they try to gain power through a, victim strategy, which doesn’t work.
The only thing that works is responsibility, which is the antidote to the, victim mentality. It’s not blame, it’s not self-blame, you’re not blaming yourself, you’re taking responsibility and ownership. The more responsibility you take for your life and yourself and your actions and even the circumstances around you, the better your life works. If you give your power away to other people they’re going to run you.
The House Always Wins when you’re a victim. So back to cinematics, let’s just speak to the name cinesomatics. Cena comes from Cinema it’s using video and then somatics is of the body and movement. So what cinematics is rather than a heady intellectual kind of coaching or therapy it’s an embodied feeling based transformational approach, where we use video to record people’s movements in their body.
Cinesomatics coaching therapy
Then we play that video back and I show them the subconscious patterns, hidden blocks, blind spots, archetypes, mythological patterns that define and run their life. They get to see that for themselves on video, so I’m not just some Guru that they have to blindly believe. This is not a belief-based process, it’s right there in front of you. You get to see all of your shadow, your blocks your manipulations, your light. All your wonderful qualities and your rejection of them.
The fundamental principle that this work is based off, is how you do one thing is how you do anything, it’s how you do everything. So understanding that literally the way that you show up in your body shows, you show up in the world. The way you move in your body is the way you move through your life. So this video and feedback and movement feeling process really helps people break through when nothing else does.
Myrna: That sounds great, but I’m trying to figure out how do we does a video give you feedback?
Andrew: So we use very high-end Cinema equipment the kind that’s used in Hollywood movies and then we just have people move. They can dance, they can shake their hands, we have all these different movement diagnostics. So you literally just stand there and you do the movement whether by yourself or with a partner.
Then I give feedback and then all of their stuff comes up and then we do the whole process when you see yourself on video and you’re being told hey you’re actually being narcissistic, you’re manipulating, you think what you’re doing is making you money but in fact you’re dumping the money because you don’t feel like you deserve making that much money. All of that gets revealed through this process.
Cinesomatics can reveal narcissisms
Myrna: Now one of the things that you talk about is that cinesomatics helps reveal narcissism, so take us through a movement that would help reveal narcissistic behavior.
Andrew: A narcissist basically does not love himself or herself. A narcissist is in love with their image. So imagine the myth of narcissist in the seeing himself reflected in the pond that’s not himself that’s a reflection that’s an image and so narcissists are focused on their what’s called narcissistic image. For us normal kind of people, it’s our mask, it’s the persona, it’s the going out and showing up in the world and putting on a face that we think the world wants us to have in order to be lovable, successful whatever.
So that’s the one element of narcissism, where if you understand it’s not actually loving themselves, it’s in love with an image and then everyone around them gets objectified as supply to reinforce and build that image of themselves.
There’s a whole chapter in my book to help people identify the narcissists in their life, but it’s usually to identify the narcissistic patterns in ourselves, like how are we unknowingly unwittingly being narcissistic. Does it mean you have narcissists as a personality disorder?
Book: Awaken to Your True Self
Myrna: That’s amazing all right so let’s talk about your book, we’ve talked about the, victim mentality, and we’ve talked about the narcissist. Can tell us why you wrote it?
Andrew: I wrote this book for these reasons and specifically because I had spent 15 years of my life doing oh my God hours of EFT, NLP, hypnotherapy, regular therapy, alternative medicine, holistic health. I’ve done psychedelic plant medicines, I mean everything besides pharmaceutical drugs. I’ve pretty much done it, tried it. I was willing to do whatever it took and some of it helped a lot, but nothing really broke me through and so it was this embodiment piece this feeling piece, this video feedback piece that worked when nothing else did.
I wrote this book because there was nothing else like it out there. Here are some of the other chapters:
- The first one is about our stories that bind us to the past the things we just keep telling ourselves about why things just don’t work
- The next one is about vulnerability and change people want to create change at Behavioral or attitude or mindset levels. What I teach it’s not about becoming something you’re not, it’s about subtracting all of the things that you’re not, to get you closer to who you really are.
- All of the beliefs we’ve picked up, all the traumas, all of the limiting beliefs, all of the stories about how we are and how people should treat us.
- The next one’s called an equation for suffering. So this one’s more like, it’s like a math equation where I go over how we actually stay suffering.
- The next chapter is all about narcissism and our image
- The next one’s called the spiritual path is failing. Which is really interesting because it’s a very spiritual book, but there’s something about trying to ascend our Humanity that doesn’t work. This is kind of a foundation of cinematics it’s in our literal flesh.
- The victim trap which talks about victimhood avoidance. How we avoid the very things that would move us forward
- The last one of part one is stop fixing and start living.
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