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Understanding Mental Well-Being

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Prioritizing, mental well-being, involves getting enough sleep, practicing slow breathing, and giving oneself mental space.

Dr. Regan Gurung and Joey Florez join the show to discuss, mental well-being, and how to prioritize it in life. Dr. Gurung explains his background in, pedagogical psychology, and how it relates to, mental health, and learning. He emphasizes the importance of taking care of, mental health, and provides practical tips such as getting enough sleep, practicing slow breathing, or breathwork and giving oneself mental space.

Joey Florez discusses the intersection of, digital culture, and, forensic psychology, highlighting the influence of social media and internet cultures on behavior and, mental health. The conversation also explores the benefits of spending time in nature for, mental well-being, and the importance of social support networks.

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Key Takeaways:

  • Mental health exists on a spectrum, and it is important to seek help if feelings of distress persist for two weeks or more.
  • Prioritizing, mental well-being, involves getting enough sleep, practicing slow breathing, and giving oneself mental space.
  • Digital culture has influenced forensic psychology by investigating behavior in cyberspace and assisting law enforcement in keeping digital communities safe.
  • Spending time in nature can improve, positive emotions, cognition, and overall well-being.
  • Social support networks are crucial for mental health and well-being.

About The Guest(s):

  • Dr. Regan Gurung is a social psychologist and award-winning author with a background in social health and psychology. He is an assistant professor of psychology and associate vice provost and executive director at Oregon State University. Dr. Gurung is one of the authors of the book “Everyday Applications of Psychological Science: Hacks to Happiness and Health.”
  • Joey Florez is a psychology scholar and writer on psychology, law, and digital culture. He has a background in applied psychology and forensic psychology. Flores has contributed to publications such as HuffPost and Yahoo News, and his work has been sourced in various media outlets. He has also written about women’s health in publications like Glamour, The Standard, and Readers Digest.

Myrna: So I hope that we’re going to have a really good conversation today. We’re focusing on mental well being and how we can prioritize it in life. So as I start off, I’m going to start with Dr. Regan. You have a background in pedagogical Psychology. This is the first time that I’ve heard that term. Can you explain what that is, please?

Pedagogical health and mental well-being

Dr Gurung: Absolutely. So pedagogical is really all about teaching, and learning is one easy way to think about it. And in my role as both executive director for the center for Teaching and Learning and also as a professor of psychology, I study those factors that help students learn. And that’s a big focus of my recent years, is really looking at what are those factors that really help somebody learn? And that’s why it dovetails very well with mental health, because if you are not happy, if you are stressed, well, you’re not going to learn well. So as a health psychologist, I studied stress and coping.

Absolutely. So pedagogical is really all about teaching, and learning is one easy way to think about it. And in my role as both executive director for the center for Teaching and Learning and also as a professor of psychology, I study those factors that help students learn. And that’s a big focus of my recent years, is really looking at what are those factors that really help somebody learn? And that’s why it dovetails very well with mental health, because if you are not happy, if you are stressed, well, you’re not going to learn well. So as a, health psychologist, I studied stress and coping.

Also as a teacher, as somebody who teaches 400 students a term, mental health is important. And I’ve now started thinking about how can we make sure that that environment that the student is in, that people are in in general, is also a happy one so that they’ll be in a better position to learn.

Myrna: Well, that’s good. You’re right, because if your mind is cluttered with all kinds of things, nothing is going to come through it. So how do you help them with this word? Say the word. Yeah. You said the word again, right? Yeah. Explain how, if you’re in school, how you would help someone learn better with focusing on this kind of psychology, right?

We need mental well-being to learn

Dr Gurung: So the pedagogical notion really is all about teaching, learning. And this is how does a student study? How does a teacher instruct? Do you use outlines? Well, do you have them practice things in a certain way? And one of my main interest and Folk Eye, is beyond looking at content, because I think so often in school, there’s so much emphasis on content. You’ve got to memorize or you’ve got to understand or you’ve got to know this book, right?

And I think so often when we focus in on a book or on content, we forget about the other factors that influence attention. And I think you put your finger on it, you can’t pay attention if you’re stressed, you can’t concentrate if there are lots of things going on in your life. And when I look out at my classes and if I’ll see a student sitting there with a frown on their face, well, I may think, oh, they’re not understanding this material.

But sometimes it’s not just they can’t understand the material or it’s difficult material. Sometimes there are things going on in my life that don’t allow me to focus. So that’s why I love the topic of this show, because I think if we don’t really pay attention to how we feel, how we’re doing, whether it’s school or work or even our close relationships, they are not going to go as well. We’ve got to take care of those mental health issues.

Myrna: Mr. Florez. So one of the questions I want to ask you is your work is on, digital culture, and, forensic psychology. So how does, digital culture, influence, forensic psychology, and what exactly is a, digital culture?

What is a digital culture?

Joey: So, forensic psychology, has become affected by, digital culture, in recent years, mainly due to the rise of social media and, internet cultures. Forensic psychologists, they now delve into investigating behavior in cyberspace and also assisting law enforcement agencies with keeping our digital landscapes and communities safe. It’s an interesting part of the role of, forensic psychologists, and it continues to be the subject of rigorous academic research.

Numerous health conditions that affect well being, such as Internet addictions, they’ve actually been discovered as a result of investigating pro social and antisocial behaviors and digital cultures. So a digital culture can be defined as it can be defined as a community, or it could be defined as a group within an online domain. For example, it could be a group within a social networking site like Facebook, or it can be a community board, for example, Reddit or Fortune.

Examples of online communities or digital cultures.

Myrna: Okay, yes, I got that now. Right? Yeah, that is definitely a culture. All right, so what is forensic psychology? When I’m hearing forensic, I’m thinking of deceased or debt. So how does marriage it so digital culture like Facebook or Instagram, did I marry them correctly? Why am I lumping them together?

Forensic psychology, is the intersection with the legal system and psychology. And there is a type of psychology called cyberpsychology, and there is also one called, cyber forensic psychology, which is basically investigating behavior in digital cultures.

Myrna: Okay, does mental well being fit into that at all?

How does mental well-being affect digital cultures

Joey: Well, mental well being is investigated within digital cultures, within digital landscapes, but that’s not primarily the type of work that forensic psychologists do. I’ve written about mental well being. I’ve written about woman’s health. I’ve written about mindfulness meditation. I’ve written a lot about that before I began studying forensic psychology.

Myrna: All right, sounds excellent. All right, so, Dr. Gurung, let me go back to you. So you do a lot of work with mental well being. Can you give us a few tips on how to take care of one’s mental well being? I know we talked in the beginning regarding taking care of your parasympathetic nervous system and with the vagus nerve or anything. Is there anything else you can do to help with your mental well being?

Dr Gurung: So in addition to slow breathing, I think, and in addition to the very important caution to go get help if you’ve not been feeling well for a time. In addition to that, I think one of the biggest things that really stresses us out is when we don’t plan well. And I think one of the best things we can do is examine our day to day lives, our weekly lives, and look at are you somebody who often plans things and ends up doing it at the last moment?

All those kind of things really can influence our stress levels. So there are a couple of different domains that I like to think about it as. And in answering your question, we can look at the different areas of our life, our work lives, our relationships, and family lives. And in each of those, I think very often you will see the importance of planning. Do you have a good plan for when to get work done?

Prioritizing mental well-being

Have you explicitly planned to spend time with those you really care about? Some of us focus so much on the work side that we don’t give our friends and family enough time.

My priority is my family, my wife and my kids. They’re my top priority. But my students come soon after that. Right after my friends there’s family and kids and friends and then my students. I care a lot about what I do and them. But because of that very clear priority, even though I work to get papers graded on time or feedback given on time, because of that very clear, explicit priority, if my wife or my kids need something, I am okay with delaying feedback, with giving papers back a little bit later.

Myrna: So, Dr. Grung, let’s expand on mindfulness. You mentioned a while back about one of the ways that we can prioritize well being in our life is by mindfulness. So do you think that mindfulness is really effective?

Dr Gurung: Oh, absolutely. And it’s not just do I think the research also and that’s always nice when the data backs up what a person thinks, but yeah, absolutely. There are a range of, mindfulness strategies and techniques, and mind you, when I say there’s a range you’re probably familiar with, whether it’s guided imagery or a slow muscle relaxation, there are just so many ways you can practice mindfulness. And there is strong data on pretty much every technique of mindfulness relating to positive health outcomes.

And when I say positive health outcomes, it gets even better than that. We’re talking about productivity increases. We’re talking about quality of life. We’re talking about ability to focus, ability to concentrate. Mindfulness, whichever flavor of it that you practice goes a long way, and I think you mentioned this, but there are so many types of mindfulness, even when you think about prayer, for example, when you talk about prayer, when you take a walk and just listen to music, when you focus on nature, right. There’s a wonderful term that comes from work in Japan on forest bathing, where the idea is you’re literally bathing in nature.

Spending time in nature affects mental well-being

Myrna: So how can spending time in nature be beneficial for one’s mental health well being? Now, Dr. Gruin also talked a minute ago about a nature bath, so maybe you can expand on that, or maybe you have something else.

Joey: So to understand whether spending time in nature can be beneficial to one’s well being, an evolutionary perspective may be the most useful to consider. We humans are worse social animals and have always maintained connectedness to nature that strongly reinforces our psychological and social health. Given our strong, long standing connection to the natural environment, which stems from an innate need to associate with other forms of life.

It is widely believed that walking in nature, even if it’s just for about ten minutes, it could improve positive effect and cognition. Edward Wilson, which introduced a theory of innate nature connectedness, he called it biophilia hypothesis in a 19th century book he published, presumably as social animals, proximity to nature implies greater access to food and fresh water, which is an evolutionary trait that continues to define human behavior as part of a primitive institutional desire.

So, in a sense, the interdependence between humans in a natural environment is essential. Without it, psychological health would suffer similar to how our respiratory health would suffer from, like, a lack of exposure to perennial plants like trees. There is a lot of studies that were published on this subject, and it basically concludes that spending time in nature is beneficial to well being. There are numerous ways in which a connection to nature can transform the mind.

Positive emotions and mental well-being

It can help foster, positive emotions. It could help with life satisfaction, self acceptance, self esteem, self awareness, subjective well being can all be enhanced by practicing mindfulness in a natural environment. So spending time in nature does not need to require walking, jogging, or hiking through expansive green spaces, simply purchasing organic foods, becoming vegan, or installing office windows with, like, a nice view of nature.

Myrna: All right, guys, so we’ve had a great conversation. Thank you so much for being on the show. Before we go, so, Dr. Reagan, you’ve got two books. You can mention them again and tell people how they can get a copy of them. And if you’re on social media, what are your social media handles?

Dr Gurung: Yeah, actually, the one I started off talking about was Study Like a Champ.  And the other one is Psychological Hacks to Happiness and Health. And the easiest way is just search by my last name, Gurung, first name Regan. You can just search for that on Amazon. You’ll bring up all my recent stuff and the easiest for a whole list. My social media handle is https://www.instagram.com/rargurung/

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Conclusion

Myrna: Awesome, thank you. All right, Mr. Florez, so tell us about how listeners can connect with you. I know you’ve got a book coming out in the fall, so you want to talk about that?

Joey: Yeah, so I have a book that’s going to be released in the fall of this year. It’s called A short Introduction to Psychology.

Instagram and Twitter and Twitter at It’s joseflora and also I have a website. Joeyflorez.com .

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Building Trust: Why Jesus Asked Simon for a Push

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Building trust, is essential to building relationships. The Bible teaches us that after Jesus was baptized, he was filled with the Holy Spirit and performed miracles and healed the sick with one touch. So why did Jesus ask Simon for a push when he clearly could do it himself? In the episode of 5 min Fridays with Coach Myrna I want to look at how we can establish trust by, asking for help.

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The Familiar bible Story:

This biblical account in the New Testament, found in the Gospel of Luke (Luke 5:1-11), narrates how Jesus met Simon, a fisherman, by the Sea of Galilee. Simon had been out fishing all night without success. Jesus approached, stepped into Simon’s boat, and asked him to push out a little from the shore so that He could teach the crowd gathered there. Simon agreed, and Jesus taught from the boat.

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The Unexpected Request: Another way of building trust

It’s essential to grasp the significance of this seemingly mundane request. By, Jesus asking Simon for a push, Jesus established a connection of trust with him. He didn’t immediately launch into a sermon or a call to discipleship. Instead, he met Simon’s immediate need, displaying empathy and practicality. In a similar way Pastors know they need to feed the body of their sheep before they feed the soul. We can’t pay attention to the word if our bellies are hungry.

The Metaphor of the Push:

This request for a push can be seen as a metaphor for the way Jesus interacts with all of us. Before inviting us to follow Him, He often first meets us at our point of need, offering assistance, understanding, and guidance. This approach signifies Jesus’ concern for our well-being and His willingness to meet us where we are and teaches us, how to ask for help.

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After building trust: The Call to Discipleship:

After teaching from the boat, Jesus astonished Simon by instructing him to let down the nets for a catch. Despite Simon’s initial doubts, he followed Jesus’ guidance and witnessed an incredible catch of fish. Building trust, allows others to obey your instructions. It was at this moment of abundance that Jesus formally called Simon, James, and John to be His disciples, saying, “Don’t be afraid; from now on, you will fish for people.”

Conclusion:

Check out how the master operates. First, he establishes or, builds trust, by, asking for help, then he performs a, miracle of abundance, and when we are in disbelief, he says follow me if you want more.

The story of, Jesus asking Simon for a push, before calling him to be a disciple holds a powerful lesson for all believers. It reminds us that Jesus meets us in our everyday lives, cares for our immediate needs, and only then extends His invitation to follow Him. This approach embodies the compassion and wisdom of Jesus’ ministry, showing that His call is founded on a deep understanding of our human experience.

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Exploring Consciousness: Transform Your Life with Yoga

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Exploring the link between consciousness and yoga and how to, transform your life with yoga.  In this post, Kim Tang, a yoga master,  shares her personal journey of discovering yoga and how it helped her forgive and, release past traumas. She explains that yoga is not just about physical postures, but also about cultivating, self-control, determination, patience, faith, and concentration.

Kim also discusses the role of chakras in our energy system and how they can provide messages about our consciousness. She emphasizes the importance of creating a field of trust and non-judgment to facilitate transformation in others. Kim’s work includes teaching, how to transform your life with yoga, intuitive spiritual counsel, leading breathwork sessions, and facilitating, alchemy meditation.

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Key Takeaways:

  • Yoga is a journey through the self to the self and a spiritual practice. You can, transform your life with yoga, transform our minds, bodies, and relationships.
  • Chakras are energy centers in the body that hold different qualities of being and can provide messages about our consciousness.
  • Creating a field of trust and non-judgment is essential for facilitating transformation in others.
  • Alchemy is the process of transmuting energy and perceiving situations from a higher perspective to facilitate healing.

Bio and introduction to Yoga

When Kim Tang first discovered yoga, a fire was lit within her that has inspired her to inspire others, empowered her to empower others in their ability to expand and transform their minds, their bodies, their relationships with themselves, and the consciousness with which they conduct not only their practice, but their lives.

As an international reputed master, yoga teacher, and head coach of international yoga schools, means yoga, sports Federation, public speaker, intuitive, spiritual counselor, and breath work facilitator. Kim teaches, how to transform your life with yoga, leads trainings and seminars, teacher trainings, and holds private sessions, spiritual consults, retreats, and worldwide e learning online courses. She is here to equip you, empower you, and to support you in your expansion.

Myrna: Now, one of the other things that you mentioned is that in your bio is that our body sends us messages through yoga. So how do we decode these messages? We must in order to, transform your life with yoga.

Kim: We are at least what I’m going to call three layers of being. So if we are vibrational beings in a vibrational plane, what presents as our density is a compilation of thought identification on the causal plane. I know it’s a lot to unpack, but let’s just say that who you are, in truth is someone who, I’m going to say a spirit who has a precognitive agreement, something you’ve chosen to learn through, and that’s overlaid with limiting beliefs and agreements made in fear.

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The body send us messages through emotions

And so we have these thoughts and beliefs, and they exist on a plane or a field called the causal field. And then you have another body or field called the astral field. And those are your, feelings and emotions. And your, feelings and emotions, are always in response to your thoughts and beliefs. And the body that houses your being and presents as your form is the reconciliation of the two. So any presentation of disease, injury, illness, diagnosis, and I am going to say even habitual tone and accidents can be interpreted as a message as to where your spiritual work lies in your life.

It’s a little bit like a Louise Hay concept of you can heal your life, except a little like leveled up a little, a little more decipherable. So something that I could speak into, I think I already kind of did make a quick mention. And that is, for example, your hips. Structurally, your hips are your center of gravity and your seat of mobility. So you have this torso and it’s suspended upon this pelvis. And the legs just animate the torso and the pelvis and hips represent spiritually your ability to move forward with major decisions in your life.

Right side with respect to masculine and left side with respect to feminine. And so there are messages that are decipherable. When you have problems with your hips, you’re looking at like, where’s the problem in my life with my ability to move forward? Knees typically determine which direction to go, and ankles are frequently representing, like, where are you hesitant? Where are you not allowing some claim you’ve made? Where do you feel tripped up, stuck and stopped?

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How to interpret messages from the body

Shoulders represent your relationship with responsibility and your ability to trust the universe to take care of your needs. So, for example, do you carry the weight of the world on your shoulders, or can you delegate? Can you trust yourself to carry your own load? There are a lot of messages that are decipherable. And I’ve been working so in this way that yoga’s consciousness, when I teach, I teach what I call on every level of being. Otherwise, it’s just gymnastics. Right. There’s similarities in the postures.

So what I’m talking about is addressing this on the level of the mind, the causal field, the, feelings and emotions, the astral field, and the body, which is the reconciliation. So what happens most commonly is people have great imbalances in the body. Right sided, left sided, whatever it is. And yeah, I’ve become kind of masterful at the individual. I’m going to call it that very much of like a guru relationship with writing a specific prescription based on a specific body, with its specific presentation and all of those things.

Myrna: That’s beautiful, right? And I’ve heard that I’ve had some guests on the show tell me that. I think I was talking about a marathon runner. Oh, no. I was talking the other day about the basketball game where Tatum hurt his ankle. And who I was speaking to is saying, if it’s the right side, if the right ankle, then it means something. And I’ve heard people tell me that if I have pain in my tissues and my back, then it means something. So I understand what you’re saying about our body sends us messages through the part of the body that are hurting or the messages that we’re hurting.

So that’s great. Now, I also want to circle back to something you said when you were telling us what happened, how you were able to forgive your mom. And that is like when you did the back bend and you opened up your, heart chakra. I know you mentioned the heart, right? Your, solar plexus chakra, and you use the breathwork that allowed you to free all the unforgiveness that you had for your mom. Now, let’s talk about the chakras for a minute. First of all, what is a chakra? And I also see that you also do something that’s called a chakra diagnosis.

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What is a chakra diagnosis

Chakras are, energy centers, in the body and these, energy centers, hold different I’m going to call it qualities of being. And I’m not just going to say human being because the higher chakras represent our connection to ourselves as divine beings. So the chakras are, energy centers, that possess or characterize our qualities of being and they are decipherable and discernible in the ways that we live our lives through, again, habits, behaviors, relationships. You can really tell where someone is open and free flowing and fully expressed and where someone is maybe sometimes they call it blocked, sometimes they call it underactive or overactive, but it’s actually decipherable.

So that’s the first thing. And if I were to say how was it that the breath played the key to opening the or turned the key to opening the chakras in that moment of forgiveness, the magic ingredient was the willingness and the readiness. I was ready and willing to let go. I understood that I wanted to, that I needed to, that I was intending to, I just didn’t know how. And then I found it magically in a backbend with some deep breaths and it was able to release, frankly, because I let it.

And that actually becomes another important talking point that we might be able to get to. Oh, as a matter of fact it’s now in the third question would be another good way to bring it in. I’m going to tell you that how do I do that for other people? I don’t want to say it’s funny, but now when people say to me, what do you do? That question, what do you do? I can’t just say like, I’m a yoga teacher or all the other things I do. I facilitate alchemy meditation, alchemy of breath quantum healing, hypnosis technique, collaborative with yoga, sport, world global certification and teaching how to, transform your life with yoga.

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How Yoga transforms life through consciousness

Myrna: So tell us about your work as a master yogurt teacher. What do you help your clients with? How do you help people, transform your life with yoga. Do you have course or anything that you do?

Kim: There are many things I do. I think I want to do some myth busting real quick. And that is that if people were to look at my website and look at my postures, they would immediately go, oh no, I’m not advanced enough. And that could be farther from the truth. Kind of the master teacher can take kind of like everyone the most scared, broken, stiff, calcified maybe with prosthetics 70 year old who’s never done yoga before. I teach, yoga for beginners.

And then the 20 year old natural flexible bindi girl that wants to be a champion of the Asana Championships and have that broad range to be able to speak to everyone from the extremes. And I’m going to say and on every level of being. So first and foremost, I serve everyone, I teach, yoga for beginners. I serve in many different types of yoga. So I think the answer to your question is this a Venn diagram. Let me describe that for the listeners. Let’s say, for example, that you have two circles and they’re side by side and they’re the same size and they come together so closely that they start to overlap and form an almond shape. Overlap in between.

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The spiritual path and yoga

One side of that circle is all things yoga. One side of that circle is all things spirit. And not everyone who practices yoga knows that they’re on a spiritual path and not everyone on a spiritual path actually does yoga. But there’s this vast overlap where people are starting to understand that yoga is in fact the journey through the self to the self. That’s how we, transform our life with yoga. It is the spiritual work, the spiritual reorganization of the five modifications of the mind, as well as just, self love, self acceptance, so that you have more love for humanity, more acceptance of humanity, and so on and so on.

So what I do in the way of yoga, if it’s learning postures, I have an entire massive video platform on my website. I also do private sessions and those are for anything and everything. It’s listed on my website. I also have three day in person events at our event center in Yucca Valley, which is the Joshua Tree area, the high desert of Southern California. So we have a private event center here for this healing arts and spiritual sciences. And I frequently have three day in person events.

And finally, I am a part of a global collaboration called Yoga Sport World. It’s a teacher certification course that has satellites in Prague, Australia, Mexico City and Berkeley. And I’m a collaborator with some of the senior, most international teachers in the world. On the spirit side of that Venn diagram, I do intuitive spiritual counsel. I do, alchemy meditation, alchemy of breath, breath work, facilitation, quantum healing, hypnosis therapy. I lead an outsource spiritual study group and I do the podcast. And frankly, Myrna I consider these podcasts what I’m going to call Satsong.

And what that means is these are high level conversations with a high level agreement of a high level conversation. So I really resonate with the platforms that I accept the invitations. And so thank you for being that. Yeah. And all roads lead to the website. Kimtangyoga.com all right, that’s easy.

Conclusion

Know, one of the people that I follow is two people, I should say SadhGuru and Deepak Chopra. And they all keep saying that yoga is not all about poses and stretches like the Western people call yoga. But yoga is a mind body consciousness connection, and it’s our higher self. That’s why we, transform our life with yoga. So that’s basically what Kim was saying, that yoga leads you into consciousness and however you come into yoga, that’s the same way I think that’s what you said. That’s the same way that you lead your life. So it’s a consciousness that leads your life.

And then we talked about how the chakras are our energy system, and they send us messages regarding consciousness. This was a deep conversation. Then we end up talking about alchemy and, transmuting energy. Yeah. So each one of those little touches we could spend an entire hour talking on, right, kim because they’re all so deep. So you guys are going to need more. So that’s why you got to follow her and also go on our website so that you can get more. We just basically touched on it.

Thank you guys for tuning in to The Transforming Mind to Transform your life  radio podcast and television show. If you’re listening to this on itunes, would love for you to rate and review. If you’re watching on YouTube, I would love for you to subscribe, go over and support Kim on her work, know how to elevate your consciousness.

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The Stone the Builder Rejected, Now Cornerstone

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The stone the builder rejected now cornerstone. This metaphor mirrors the human experience. Throughout history, visionaries, innovators, and creators have often encountered resistance when introducing novel ideas, unorthodox methods, or unconventional paths.
Jesus told the disciples a story of a man planting a vineyard, building a wall around it with a lookout tower and then leased it to tenants. During harvest he sent one of his servants to collect his share of thd crop but they beat him and send him back empty handed. He kept sending more servants and they beat them up too. He decided to send his only son and they beat him and killed him as well. Then Jesus said “the stone that the builders rejected has now become the cornerstone.
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Rejected children beome the cornerstone

I grew up hearing my grandmother quote this scripture and I seen it play out in families. Parents favoring one child and rejecting another and that child they rejected became the cornerstone who looked after them when they get sick or old and feeble but today I want to focus on this scripture as a, personal development tool.
This simple yet powerful saying is a reminder that what may be initially overlooked or dismissed can later prove to be essential, transformative, and foundational.
This metaphor mirrors the human experience. Throughout history, visionaries, innovators, and creators are often rejected when introducing novel ideas, unorthodox methods, or unconventional paths, then these rejected ideas become the main cornerstone.

Some rejected stones who later became the cornerstone

Consider the pioneering minds who introduced revolutionary technologies, art forms, or philosophies. Many faced skepticism and dismissal, only to have their, rejected “stones,” later become the bedrock of progress. From the Wright brothers‘ ridiculed dream of flight to the skepticism surrounding the early internet, countless examples remind us that the seeds of innovation can initially be met with doubt.
In personal journeys, too, the metaphor holds weight. People who defy societal norms or follow their passions in defiance of conventional wisdom often face rejection or misunderstanding. Yet, history has shown that those who stay true to their convictions, despite the initial rejection they encounter, can eventually shape new paradigms and redefine success.

Overlooked stones into cornerstones

The phrase’s universality extends to relationships and personal growth. People who have felt rejected or marginalized can harness the, power of resilience, transforming their perceived weaknesses into sources of strength. Through determination and self-belief, individuals can evolve from, overlooked “stones” into cornerstones, of their own narratives, becoming inspirations to others who walk a similar path.
As we navigate a world of rapid change and evolving norms, the wisdom behind, “The stone the builder rejected, now become the cornerstone,” remains as relevant as ever. It encourages us to embrace the unconventional, to view rejection as an opportunity for growth, and to recognize that what society may initially dismiss can ultimately redefine and reshape the very foundation of our lives.

Conclusion

In essence, the Stone the Builder Rejected, Now the Cornerstone,  challenges us to value the overlooked, honor the unconventional, and find strength in our resilience. Just as the cornerstone provides stability and support, so too can our, rejected stones, lead us toward the solid ground on which we build our futures.
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Long term relationships, whether romantic, familial, or platonic, require effort, understanding, and commitment to thrive. While challenges are inevitable, there are key principles and strategies that can help build and sustain these meaninful relationships. In this blog post, Figs O’Sullivan, couples therapist, explores essential insights on how to make, long term relationships, work.
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Figs O’Sullivan is a licensed marriage and family therapist, certified in emotionally focused therapy and the founder of Empathi. He is passionate about helping couples create happy and healthy relationships and has spent years working with couples at crossroads in their relationships. Figs combines his background in attachment theory, improvisational dance and theater, and experimental psychotherapy to provide effective and simple solutions for couples.

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Summary Keys to Making Long-Term Relationships Work:

In this episode, Figs O’Sullivan, a licensed marriage and family therapist, shares his expertise on how to make long-term relationships work. He explains that the key to a successful relationship is to shift from a perspective of blame and criticism to one of empathy and understanding. Figs emphasizes the importance of recognizing that both partners are hurting and that their actions are a result of their own pain.

He also discusses the three common patterns of conflict in relationships and how to break free from them. Figs provides practical advice on how to create a connection vacuum and foster a deeper emotional bond with your partner. He concludes by highlighting the transformative power of empathy and the importance of experiencing it in order to create lasting change in a relationship.

Key Takeaways:

  1. Shift from blame and criticism to empathy and understanding in your relationship.
  2. Recognize that both partners are hurting and their actions are a result of their own pain.
  3. Break free from the three common patterns of conflict in relationships: protest polka, mutual criticism, and silent suffering.
  4. Create a connection vacuum by sharing your feelings and needs with your partner in a vulnerable and non-blaming way.
  5. Foster a deeper, emotional bonding,  with your partner by experiencing empathy and understanding for each other’s pain.
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Shifting your perspective in long-term relationships

Myrna: Enjoying being together and actually liking each other again because yeah, so it’s very rewarding. It’s almost like me when I help clients. As far as coaching, one of my biggest things in coaching is change the way you think of a thing and the thing you think of will change or look at the thing. So in coaching is all about changing your perception of something. And I love it when I’m able to do that for clients.

Figs: Huge. Absolutely. By the way. Exact same. The first hurdle is shifting people’s perspective on what’s happening between the two of them. And this is at the most basic level, right. When a couple comes to see me. They have two different perspectives of what’s happening. And most of the time, not always, those two perspectives could be summed up as one person’s perspective is the other person is messing up and they need to change some stuff to make things better. And then, of course, the other person is like, their partner spouse is like, thank you very much for that opinion because actually, funnily enough, I think you’re the one messing up and you need to change a few things.

Yeah. And so some of them say that very politely, and others throw lethal weapons at each other right from across the room. And then my job is to actually craft seed the perspective of the entire system of both of them together and share that perspective with them in a way that helps them see the truth of, oh, would you look at this is who we are together as a system and that we both actually make sense. Both of us are right.

Both of us are getting hurt, and both of us act in ways that actually really do hurt the other person. And when they can then live deeply inside of that perspective, then their limbic systems, their nervous systems calm down. Right? They’re not actually living with, like, a crocodile and a stone. They’re actually two little kittens or two little puppies that are just herding and then we can start snuggling.

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Why couples have the same fight over and over again

Myrna: Yes, I love that. Like I said, I can see it. And a lot of times they don’t even want to go to therapy because the relationship is that bad, or saying, hey, now, exactly, we’re just going to chuck this thing. But it’s a good thing to do therapy. At least it means that you’re willing to change. You’re willing to see someone else’s opinion. You’re willing to see it from the other person’s perspective.

And you start off by saying that your childhood was in a relationship where your dad was an alcoholic and your mom was heartbroken because of it, and then you were hurt because you’re in this whatever. So what was that experience like for you? Did you see your parents fight? Because one of the things that you talk about is you help couples to not have the same fight over and over again. So how can you bring that into your personal experience?

Figs: Yeah, well, look, I witness my parents being together and fighting. I witnessed them being apart, right. And just fighting. Silence and just pain and sadness in the distance, the silence, not naming what’s going on. You could think there’s three ways people do the waltz of pain. The walls of pain is when two people that love each other are disconnected from each other and they both see each other as the withholder of love.

But there’s basically three patterns in, long term relationships. One is one person’s feeling abandoned, not prioritized. And they blame and criticize even they may not think they’re blaming and criticizing. They may think they’re just giving amazing advice to their partner that will really help them, but that’s not how it lands. And of course, it makes their partner or spouse feel really bad about themselves, feel like they’re unacceptable, they’re never good enough. And so they pull away or withdraw or they defend themselves, right? And that’s technically called an emotionally focused, couples therapy.

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What happens when couples are both criticizing each other

That is called a protest polka. One person is protesting, Why aren’t you here for me? And the other person’s pulling away. The other way people do it is both of them are saying, Why aren’t you here for me? They’re both criticizing each other, right? Fireworks. I need a helmet and a shield when I’m sitting with them and they’re going at it. Right. And then, of course, the third way, which a lot of people think at first this is actually healthy or good, is they’re both hurting, feeling unloved, but they just don’t talk about it.

But in the long run, it ends up in the same painful place that they’ve lost each other and they’re in agony inside, but they just avoid ever. And inside, no matter which one of those three things and you might do all three in a day, or you may have one preferred, one that you do in your own relationship, right. But left unattended to that kind of system that is happening in a relationship and it doesn’t get resolved. Right. It creates a connection vacuum that bad things can happen.

Right. So we just want to minimize the amount of time there is a connection vacuum in, long term relationships, so that we limit the chances of affairs or turning to work for your needs to be met so that you actually end up being able to turn to each other and be there for each other.

What to do if you are feeling unloved in a long-term relationship

Myrna: All right. I got tons of circle back on that one. So, yes, I can identify with all three of what basically you’re saying, but not necessarily the middle one, but women are. And I’ve been in, long term relationships, where, yeah, you’re saying, hey, I feel unloved. You’re not showing me love. I don’t feel love. I don’t feel special. You’re always working. You’re always doing that or whatever. And then when you are correct, when you say it, the person goes into defense, but then you’re saying the third one is that you don’t say it. So in your experience, which one of those patterns leads to success down the road?

Figs: None of them. Right? That’s the point. So here’s the thing. So each one of those patterns, from the subjective experience, it makes sense from your individual experience inside a relationship, when I’m hurting, it makes sense to protest you’re not loving me. Or let’s say that’s one. When I’m hurting, it makes sense to say nothing or defend myself. It makes sense from your individual perspective. When I’m hurting, I say nothing.

They all make rational sense to do for an individual member of a, long term  relationship. But in the long run, even though it makes logical sense, it’s going to make things worse for you, definitely. Right? Do you think you have a can of water in your hand and you’re about to throw this can of water on the fire of the disconnection between the two of you? But the can was mislabeled. There is gasoline inside the can.

Because just think about it. Despite what you think, if you are in a, long term relationship, your spouse or partner loves you. They love you. You are the most important person in the world to them right now. When you’re hurting and feeling unloved and you tell them you’re not loving me, here’s what they hear, right? Even if you think they look like they don’t care, they just change the channel. They change the channel. They look like they don’t care because that’s how they survive. Feeling.

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We all need to feel we are enough

I am devastated inside to be not enough again. The person I most want to be enough for is telling me once again I am a disappointment. I’m not good enough. I’m a failure. And it hurts so much. They have to avoid feeling it or defend themselves, whatever they do, like, change the channel. That’s how they survive. But then, of course, you hear their defense or their channel changing, or they’re like shutting down completely as evidence. See, I was right.

They don’t love me. And so now, your own subjective experience, you’re going to go, I’m going to reach for a second can of water and tell them even more how unloving they are, which will devastate them even more. And so they’ll reach for their second can of water. I’ll defend myself even more. It’ll devastate you. And now you’re both throwing cans of gasoline at each other, and you both feel totally justified in doing it. Now, here’s the way out.

Figs: So just imagine for a moment your spouse, they’re just really little. They’re just a little kid inside, no matter how big and tough they look to you, right? They’re just little, which they are when it comes to love. And they’re heard they want more than anything to be good enough for you. And you tell them, you go, hey, you just did your homework. You got five out of ten. This is not good enough. I need you to do better at your homework. I told you yesterday, I told you the day before that.

When are you going to get better at homework? When I have pretty understandable expectations that you would be getting eight out of tens. And until you’re getting eight out of tens, you go to your room, young man. Now, listen, I don’t know about you, and listen, if that’s your gig. That’s how you think you motivate people, not just you, right. But listeners. Right. You go for it. But I don’t think it works with most people.

They will defend themselves. They will collapse. They will give. I ain’t doing no homework anymore. That’s the end of me doing homework for you. I’m off to watch American football every Sunday on the couch. What’s the point in trying to do homework for that one? No way. So, no, I don’t ask them to meet the needs of their partner. I help them both understand.

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Why couples should never tell each other what they are not doing

Listen, to be on the receiving end of what you do when you’re hurting is devastating now. But by the way, I will help him in this example, right? I will help him see how devastating it is for you, right? Lord of woman, in this example, to be on the receiving end of how you survive when you feel there’s no way to be good enough, when you don’t try and show up, when you defend yourself, when they’re genuinely validly hurting inside, it is devastating to be on the receiving end of that strategy to survive again, punchline.

Myrna: Wow. I love it. I learned so much from there. I will, definitely, because I’m one of those ones that tell my husband what he’s not doing.

Yeah. And you call your company Empathi. So you’re teaching your clients to have empathy for each other. I think that’s what you say, how you help couples in, couples therapy, to get to a place of empathy. So is the place of empathy what we’re talking now, or does it go deeper?

Figs: Yeah, so empathy is like the pivotal. Like, let’s say empathy, let’s call it on the journey. The hardest place to get to is where empathy is possible. Right? There’s this threshold of revelation, right? And the threshold of revelation is, let’s say we go from the two separate stories. You’re the troublemaker in the relationship. Oh, yeah. No, you are. To, hey, it’s both of us, and it’s only happening because we love each other. And then it changes our physiology, it helps our nervous system and limbic system relax. And then we see, wow, we’re both hurting.

Now we’re having not only one way empathy. I’m empathizing with you or you’re empathizing with me. We have what I call these days empathy squared. We’re both feeling empathy for ourselves and each other at the same moment. So we want to have an empathy squared experience. It literally up levels a human being. Like, it literally is like going from being a two dimensional being to a three dimensional being.

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Long-term relationships need empathy to survive

I’m hurting, you’re hurting. And we both care about the way we’re both hurting. And we both see the way we both hurt each other all at the same time. That’s the experience. That’s an empathy squared experience. We got to have that. If we have that now, like I was saying, now we can do all the deep repairs of the hurts in the past. We can love each other, we can work on our sex life, we can work on, like, so what are we going to do about the way we both spend money differently?

But that empathy squared experience is the pivotal. That’s the pivotal first big transformational moment in the journey. And I always say it sucks that if couples are to fail, we fail to get to that empathy squared moment, because one or both people are like, yeah, whatever. They’re still not there for me. They just can’t get out of their own way. Not because they’re bad, because they got hurt so much in the past that it’s too scary to become unguarded undefended for a moment and have that present moment transformational experience.

Conclusion

Myrna: I love that. Tell us about your coaching programs. How can the listeners connect with you? Because yeah, this is good stuff.

Figs: Great. Yeah. So, look, all we do is try and help people love themselves and each other. Right. Any different way we can do it? We do counseling, coaching all over the world. And we have courses, we have a podcast, we write articles. Because your listeners are obviously into podcasts, you might want to check out our Come Here to Me podcast. And in that podcast, my wife and I actually share our own journey as people, couples, therapists that are being a couple and talking about their own emotional journey together as a couple.

So, as we say, relationship experts walk the talk. I just love sharing about the wisdom. And then the website is just www.empathi.com.

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How to Deal With Rejection: Believing You Are The One

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In this post coach Myrna shares 4 tips on, how to deal with rejection, and why you have to believe, you are the one. Rejection is a powerful and universal human experience that can shape the course of our lives. Even figures of historical and religious significance, such as Jesus and David, were not immune to the sting of rejection.
Jesus was rejected in his home town because the people said he is just a carpenter, the son of Mary.  We know his brothers and sisters and we’re deeply offended that he claimed to be the son of God
David was the least in his household. His father did not even call him when the prophet came to the house, he told the prophet those were all his sons until the prophet said the oil is not flowing for any of these men, so there must be another son, then the father said yes they’d is David but he is just a nobody.
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Introduction:

Rejection is a powerful and universal human experience that can shape the course of our lives. Even figures of great historical and religious significance, such as Jesus and David, were not immune to the sting of rejection. In this solo coaching session, I want to look at lessons on, how to deal with rejection, and lessons we can learn from rejection.  Also why you must believe that, you are the one. Remember Neo in the matrix? Once he believed he was the One he was invincible.
In examining the story of both Jesus and David’s rejection we gain insights into the nature of doubt, the complexities of identity, and the resilience required on, how to overcome rejection.

Jesus: Rejected in His Hometown

The story of Jesus’ rejection in his hometown of Nazareth is a poignant reminder that familiarity does not always breed acceptance. Despite performing miracles and teaching with authority, Jesus faced skepticism and disbelief from those who had known him as a child. The people said He is just a carpenter, I know his mom and his brothers and sisters. Jesus commented “A prophet is not without honor except in his own town” captures the essence of, how to deal with rejection. Jesus’ experience teaches us that our friends and even family members can reject you and not give you respect even when you are doing something extraordinary.

David: The Overlooked Anointed One

The story of David’s anointing as king provides another example of the complexities of rejection and, how to deal with rejection.  When the prophet Samuel visited Jesse’s household to anoint the future king of Israel, David’s own father did not initially consider him a candidate. Instead, Jesse presented his older, seemingly more qualified sons. This oversight illustrates the limitations of human perception and the tendency to judge based on appearances rather than character or potential.

4 Lessons Learned from rejection

1. **The Power of Perseverance:** Both Jesus and David demonstrated remarkable perseverance in the face of rejection.  This is the first tip on, how to deal with rejection. They did not allow doubt or skepticism to deter them from their missions. Their stories remind us that setbacks can be stepping stones to greatness when met with determination.
2. **The Importance of Self-Belief:** Jesus and David both held strong convictions about their identities and callings.  This is tip #2 on, how to handle rejection, you have to believe that, you are the one.  Their unwavering self-belief allowed them to rise above the opinions of others and fulfill their destinies. They believed that they were the One. This underscores the significance of self-awareness and confidence in navigating challenges.
3. **Have an Open Mind:** The reactions of those around Jesus and David serve as a reminder of the, dangers of closed-mindedness. Rejection can stem from biases, limited perspectives, and societal norms. Embracing open-mindedness and being willing to see beyond the surface can lead to greater understanding and acceptance. Never judge the book by its cover.
4. **The Unpredictability of Purpose:** Both stories highlight the unpredictability of, divine purpose. The rejected stone can become the cornerstone, and the overlooked shepherd boy can become a mighty king. These narratives encourage us to remain open to the unexpected directions that our lives may take.

Conclusion:

The stories of Jesus’ rejection in his hometown and David’s overlooked anointing remind us that even the most revered figures faced doubt and rejection. These accounts offer valuable lessons about perseverance, self-belief, open-mindedness, and the unpredictable nature of purpose. By examining these narratives, we can draw inspiration to overcome our own challenges, embrace our identities, and navigate the complexities of rejection with grace and resilience.
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Decoding the Communication of the Universe: Signs and Symbols

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Have you ever experienced a moment when you felt the universe was trying to communicate with, signs and symbols? Many people believe that the universe communicates with us through signs. In this blog post  SIMRAN author of Signs: Everyday Encounters With Pathways, Turning Points, and Divine Guideposts teaches us how to trust signs, interpret signs, the difference between a sign, symbol and synchronicity and why the universe speaks to us through, signs and symbols

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Introduction

As a Christian, I follow the rules of, signs and symbols. Deepak Chopra introduced me to the word synchronicity and my very first book Becoming Conscious my Awakening, I talk about synchronicities. In this post and podcast  we’re gonna to talk about, signs and symbols, communication, and synchronicities

Simran is the author of the book Signs Everyday Encounters with Pathways Turning Points and Divine Guide Posts.  A book in the common sentience book series.  She’s a love Catalyst, Rebel humanitarian and sacred Soul activists.  As the number one rated host of 11: 11 talk radio and publisher of the Nautilus award-winning 11:11 magazine Simran creates Art, online courses, books and media to bridge Humanities experience.

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Simran speaks about the beauty of our Humanity in all of its expressions and the radiance of our Divinity as an external experience.  Simran is the author of The Gold award-winning books:  Conversations with The Universe, Your Journey to Enlightenment and your journey To Love.  She’s also released the new Trilogy on self-realization: the first one is called LIVING: the Seven blessings of Human Experience,  second one is called BEING: the seven illusions that derail personal power purpose and peace and the third one at KNOWING:  The Seven Human Expressions of Grace. SIMRAN resides  in Charleston South Carolina and is devoted to the, journey of the Soul.

The 11:11 sign

I was in a place of  losing myself and really being in a state of confusion and not understanding why the world felt so hard and uncomfortable, painful and challenging and stressful.  I went into my prayer room,  and I prayed and said just send me a sign.  Let me know I’m not alone, I just really need to know that there is something bigger than me out there, and the next thing I knew, I started receiving these experiences with the numbers 11 11.

I would see the numbers dozens of times a day up to 30, 40, 50 times a week they would appear on any and everything imaginable from Billboards to license plates to mailboxes, to store receipts they just would show up and it was undeniable.  So either I was losing my mind and really going crazy or number two the universe really was speaking to me.

What I’m talking about is that which is bigger than all of us and yet unites all of us in some way that we are interconnected with that aspect of life was letting me know that I was not alone and was about to open the doorway to a whole world of signs and symbols that I never even imagined possible.

Myrna: Did you researched what 11: 11 means?  I know numbers mean something.

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What is synchronicity

Simran:  So often these numbers 11 or 11: 11 would appear and they’d make me pause. I’d go oh there’s that number again.  That’s how the signs start. You may be seeing something else, maybe it’s a cardinal, maybe it is a feather.  There’s something in your world that is appearing to you.  Signs and symbols, communication, usually shows up in those moments that either you have a question that you’re really struggling with or it comes along in the exact moment that you’re dreaming about the life that you really want to live.

The numbers and the prompts or the, signs and symbols, communication, they show up as comfort you and to let you know that the Universe really does have your back.  They will show up as confirmation.

Myrna:  when you started seeing this 11-11 what was what was your next move after you figure it out there was a sign or a symbol?

Simran: I’m not sure which one it falls under yes so you know the signs showed up for probably four or five weeks before I got frustrated enough at not knowing what they meant that I again spoke out loud and that is a key point that I talk about in the new book signs.  A lot of what has come to me is because I allowed myself to speak out loud and I think that our voices and our words have a lot of power.

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The Four Pillars of mastery

I kind of frustrated yelled out either tell me what these numbers mean or make them stop and in the moment I got this knowing of what the 11 11 signified and that specifically signified a Gateway. A Gateway of, four pillars of mastery, that we are each to walk through to create Mastery in our lives and those four pillars are:

  • physical
  • mental
  • emotional and
  • spiritual

Every experience that comes in our way is part of that Mastery that we are here to allow ourselves to engage those, four pillars, to grow us in our spiritual maturity. Once I understood that and then I got downloaded with this visions of 11 11 magazine and 11 11 talk radio and books that I would write and things like that.

I began to discover that the Universe speaks to us in all kinds of ways every single day multiple times using everything around us.

Myrna: That is awesome. What is the difference between, signs and symbols, and  synchronicity?

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Signs symbols and synchronicity

Signs and symbols, as those types of things that appear as the  mirror reflection, the momentary Guidance, the inkling to act or move or be inspired to make a shift or a change. That’s why the subtitle of the book has to do with Pathways turning points and, divine guide posts, because signs will initiate one of those three things for you. Each of those has their own purpose.

Symbols to me are already full of meaning, they have a specific meaning, they stand for something, they are an emblem, they are a mascot, they are something that you use as a totem. So symbols would be something entirely different that you would embody the energy of. For example you may receive a cardinal as a sign at one time to be more colorful in Life or to be using your voice a little bit more.

Synchronicity to me is when we are completely aligned, when we are aligned in time in space in dimension, when higher self and lower self have come into Union. You will have moments of synchronicity when we really do master all four of those pillars and we become completely aligned in our masculine and our feminine.  What you will discover is that synchronicity is all of the time, it is only when we are misaligned to synchronicity happen as these momentary instances where we all of a sudden go oh my goodness I had synchronicity.

Myrna: If you were to tell someone that’s just getting started with  signs should they should they get your first book Conversations with the Universe, or should they get your current book you are going to start from the top and go to the end?

Conversations with the Universe through signs

Simran:  Start at either book The the new book Signs is a very comprehensive way to have an understanding of what signs are and the middle section is many other people and their stories about signs.  So that you realize it’s not just me saying it we’re all seeing something we’re all having this interaction and the third section of the book actually gives you practices to develop your own, conversation with the universe.

Once you’ve read this book that has just come out called Signs, if you want to go deeper and really understand some different examples and a lot of the other ways that the universe is speaking to you, then I would definitely go back and and order my first book Conversations with The Universe.  It’s a three-time Gold Award winner nationally and internationally and it has a tremendous expanse of how signs appear and how to incorporate that information in your daily life.

Myrna:  We spent a lot of time talking about, signs and symbols, but as you said  we’re in synchronicity every day, but we only recognize it when we are out of synchronicity. For instance when I think about synchronicities I think about  coincidences, there are no coincidences in life, every moment is as it should be. So um talk about that for a minute again, how we’re always in synchronicity?

Simran: I have a section on synchronicity in the book. I do talk about things like deja vu, I talk about dreaming, I talk about some of those aspects of synchronicity.  I think the best way that I can explain it is you’re driving down the highway and all of a sudden there’s an exit and you take that exit and you go off on this scenic route, but then you end up back on the highway. The moment you end up back on the highway there’s that exact Fruit Stand that you were looking for, that is synchronicity.

When we go off on our Scenic routes, oftentimes we’re out of the direction or out of alignment, out of time with exactly the things that we’re supposed to line up with, synchronicity tends to happen when we get back on track and we actually are in the right place at the right time.

Self-realization comes with alignment through synchronicity

In my own personal growth and self-realization, after seven books is that synchronicity is everywhere.  Our ego wants to look at only the good things, the things that we want as the synchronicity, but sometimes synchronicity is also that moment that you get fired from your job.  That can be a synchronicity because that was a pivotal moment to get you back on track.  So synchronicity can show up a lot of different ways, and in the end what the signs are attempting to do is to help you really become neutral and span out so you see life from this Grand perspective.

When you zoom out you see that all of the light and the shadow and the Darkness that shows up in your life, creates a really beautiful picture.  When you’re down in it or you’re focused too narrow on the situation that you’re in it either looks like dark or light or something in between that you can’t quite figure out and so we stay muddled in that kind of confused state.  But as we grow in our spirituality and we can really zoom out and look at the big picture of everything, we realize that every moment, every step through the light, every slip into the dark, every stumbling of confusion created a beautiful painting known as you.

Myrna:  Tell us about your book Signs: Every day Encounters with Pathways Turning Points and Divine Guideposts. Why did you write it and what do you want readers to walk away after reading.

Using signs as a divine guidepost

Simran: I wrote Signs because after 10 years, I had learned so much more from writing the first book Conversations with the Universe, I wanted individuals of today to understand that despite what is appearing in life, that life may be hard at times, but we don’t have to make it as challenging.  We can utilize what life gave us as places to find reflection as moments, to Pivot and go down a different pathway.

We can use, signs and symbols, as a turning point to create a new life or a Divine guidepost to be that confirmation of a choice that we have made. I wanted individuals to understand how to trust more, how to expand on their intuition and that the Universe really does have their back. That they are in a partnership with Spirit whether they want to acknowledge that partnership or not, that spirit is always reaching out, whether it is numbers or songs or animal or books or experiences that are happening to them.

They simply need to look at each one and pause for a second and ask themselves where is that in me, what is that here to show me about me ,what is that inspiring within me?   As you start to understand these things, as you start to grow your connection with the practices and the protocols that I placed in the third section, you start to balance out your masculine and feminine energies.

You start to see that your life is not one moment to the next moment, but entirely a Threading of golden experiences that are leading you back to the truth of your soul and your expression on this planet as a beautiful human being and it as a Divine expression of God.

The trilogy of being: signs symbols and synchronicities

Myrna:  That’s great, did you want to touch on your Trilogy of self-realization the living, being and knowing.  Do you want to talk about those books?

Simran: Sure I would love to thank you Myrna, that’s wonderful. I also published this year a Trilogy that really is the multi-dimensional experience of being human.  If you had been given a set of instructions upon birth to come in with that you would be able to encounter any and every experience of Life the seven blessings start off with the blessing of life and in each blessing is a certain gift that we receive in that particular blessing. We actually have the gift of, signs and symbols, and synchronicities.

It’s hard to see that this cycle of seven that you live through is going to be a cycle that you repeat over and over again because your growth as a human being and as a soul is not linear it is not circular.

Myrna: Simran how can our listeners get a copy of your books tell us your website, tell us if you’re on social media what are your handles.

Conclusion

Simran:  Thank you Myrna my website is iamsimran.com  you can go there and actually get discounted prices on the bundles of the trilogy or of conversations with the universe and signs and if you want all of my books, there’s actually a special price bundle for that.  As well the books are available anywhere books are sold.   I invite you to partake of any of my free offerings. I give a lot away through 11 11 magazine and 11 11 Talk Radio in terms of content and on any of my social media.  I’m on Facebook LinkedIn Instagram you can look up Simran Singh 11 or you can look up I am simran 1111 all of which are accessible at my website.

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The Dangers of Holding Grudges: Lessons from Herodias and John

Coach Myrna holding grudges

In the intricate tapestry of human relationships, grudges can often emerge as toxic threads that poison the bonds we share with others. Holding grudges can distort our perceptions, obstruct our ability to make sound decisions, and tether us to feelings of helplessness.

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Introduction

The Bible tells us in Mark chapter 6 that Herodias, Herod’s wife, bore a grudge against John and wanted to kill him; but without Herod’s approval she was powerless. So she waited like a serpent for her time and it came when her daughter pleased the king with her dance and he promised her anything she wanted. Her mother told her to ask for John’s head.

This plays out every day in the modern world. You say something quite innocently and someone takes offense and secretly plots to harm you.

Nobody is cutting off anyone’s head today, but a well placed word in the right ears and you don’t get the promotion or your best friend spreads something you told her in confidence to shame you.

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The Story of Herodias grudge against John:

Mark chapter 6 introduces us to the complex dynamic between Herod Antipas, the ruler of Galilee, and, John the Baptist, a fearless preacher and prophet. Herod had married Herodias, his brother’s wife, which was against Jewish law and morality. John fearlessly denounced this union, prompting Herodias to harbor a deep-seated grudge against him.

Herodias’ Grudge and Its Consequences:

Herodias’ grudge against John festered in her heart, eventually leading to a chilling decision. The accumulation of her anger and resentment compelled her to hatch a sinister plot to kill John. However, her nefarious intentions were thwarted by a crucial factor—Herod’s reluctance to give his approval for John’s execution.

The Helplessness of Resentment:

Herodias’ desire to harm John reveals a stark reality about grudges: they have the potential to blind individuals to reason and lead them down treacherous paths. And sometimes not always the weapon they formed against you boomerangs right back at them.

Holding grudges can distort our perceptions, obstruct our ability to make sound decisions, and tether us to feelings of helplessness. It is a useless emotion. You have heard the saying that unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Herodias was given a gift when Herod asked her daughter what she wanted if not she would have sat with her grudge and suffered because she was powerless to anything about it.

I said that to say the person you hold a grudge against is going on with their lives and probably having a better one than yours. Just as Herodias’ resentment rendered her powerless without Herod’s consent, our own animosities can leave you trapped in a, cycle of negativity,  and inaction.

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Forgiveness as a Path to Healing grudges:

Forgiveness is the way out. Nobody ever does anything they believe is wrong. Chances are whatever they did was not personal. By choosing to let go of grudges, we free ourselves from the shackles of bitterness and open the door to personal growth and reconciliation. Forgiveness is not a sign of weakness, but a courageous step towards breaking the, cycle of resentment.

Conclusion:

The tale of Herodias and John serves as a potent reminder of the dangers inherent in holding onto grudges. It urges us to reflect on the impact of resentment on our lives and relationships, and encourages us to choose forgiveness as a powerful means of transcending negativity. Just as Herodias’ grudge proved to be her downfall, our own capacity for forgiveness can lead us towards greater understanding, empathy, and a more harmonious existence.

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Conquer Victim Mentality through Cinesomatics

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Are you feeling like a victim? Are you always feeling like you’re not good enough? In this blog post, Andrew Daniel is going to show you how to use Cinesomatics to transform your life and overcome, victim mentality. Cinesomatics is a powerful tool that can help you change the way you think and feel about yourself. After listening to this podcast, you’ll be able to overcome your, victim mentality, and live a life full of confidence and self-love.

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Introduction

Andrew and I are going to be talking on the topic how to get out of, victim mentality, and awaken to your true self.  How many of you know that victims have no power, so you have to get out of, victim mentality, and we’re gonna pair it with understanding your, true self.

In my book Out of the Snares, I talk about the, victim mentality, versus being a player.  Being a player means that you’re controlling the game.

Andrew Daniel he is an award-winning and best-selling author and director at the center of cinematic development. His cinematics workshops led the field and video movement diagnosis and advanced intuition development integrating approaches from embodiment shadow work therapy and spirituality.  His book Awakened to your True Self is a gold Nautilus book awards recipient.  His first teaching work holistic sex at MindValley provided the world with a new paradigm that bridge The divide between sexuality, spirituality, and the sexes. ws bio so very first thing that I want to touch on Andrew

Myrna: is it you said you started your career teaching holistic sex at MindValley which is one of the top personal development companies and one of the companies that I follow.  tell us about that experience and what exactly was your course on, holistic sex, about.

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What is Holistic Sex

Andrew:  The whole premise of,  holistic sex,  is a paradigm of sexuality that wasn’t about men versus women, it wasn’t about choosing spirituality or pleasure and sex, it wasn’t about going into perversions and cockiness and guilt and shame and all this stuff.  It also wasn’t about only ascending the body and not having any pleasure and being acidic, it was how do we bridge this together.

How do we get men and women and our own masculine and feminine into relationship to heal this stuff and then also learn how to approach sexuality in a way where we’re not ran by guilt and shame and fear and judgment and past trauma.

I suffered low self-esteem, lack of confidence, lack of social skills all of this stuff came from being bullied as a child.  I took it personally and I became a victim.  Later on I found out that was really the start of my, victim mentality, and so I just spent the next 10 to 15 years of my life really struggling. I was at certain points of contemplating suicide and revenge, it was a very dark time for me.

The other piece about, holistic sex,  is you can have this really ascended conscious beautiful thing, but then they abandoned and rejected multiple orgasms.  There was also a separation between actually knowing how to  pleasure and understanding these masculine and feminine polarities with healing.  So I realized all of it’s connected, there’s a tremendous amount of healing both men and women.

So I kind of wanted to bring it all together into one place and unify that rather than have these separate discorded ways of approaching it so that was, holistic sex.

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The intellectual types that struggle with victimhood

Myrna: You married sexuality and victimhood from the experiences you went through in childhood and you also married what you talk about in your book Awaken to your True Self from your experiences as a child and teenager being bullied and being you know the victim; but you also said something that’s interesting that I had never heard before.   Intellect slows us down and that there’s certain intellectual types that struggle with you know with Awakening to their true self and and victimhood.

I found that for many very successful people a lot of them were trapped in their intellect, they developed this really powerful computer in their head but they didn’t know how to tap into their gut.  Some of these intellectual types that struggle because  there’s some sort of trauma, there’s some sort of emotional pain.  They were rejected, they were neglected, they were abandoned, they were hurt, they opened up to somebody and they were let down.

Myrna: Some become like a robot is because someone hurt them and which is basically the, victim mentality, that we’re talking about.  The theme of our conversation is that, victim mentality,  makes us shut down and put on this armor.  Nothing would get in, but also what happens is because nothing is getting in, then they’re not connected to the universe. They become closed off.

I was listening to a podcast this morning and a guy was talking about happiness, that you’ve got to believe that the universe is friendly,  if you don’t believe that the universe is friendly, then you’re never going to be happy.  If you’ve got the, victim mentality, then you’re not feeling because you’ve shut that off.  If you’re in this, victim mentality, life happens to you.

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Using Cinesomatic to remove victim mentality

Myrna: So you’re using cinesomatics to deal with the, victim mentality, and to help people awaken to their, true self.  So what is it and what makes it so powerful?

Andrew: So the, victim mentality, and  Awakening you to your truth, that’s just one aspect of cinematics and the work that I do.  In my book that’s just one chapter of 18.  If you’re a victim you have no power.  It’s the entire premise of victimhood as they feel powerless and so they try to gain power through a, victim strategy, which doesn’t work.

The only thing that works is responsibility, which  is the antidote to the, victim mentality.  It’s not blame, it’s not self-blame, you’re not blaming yourself, you’re taking responsibility and ownership.  The more responsibility you take for your life and yourself and your actions and even the circumstances around you, the better your life works.   If you give your power away to other people they’re going to run you.

The House Always Wins when you’re a victim.  So back to cinematics,  let’s just speak to the name cinesomatics. Cena comes from Cinema it’s using video and then somatics is of the body and movement.  So what cinematics is  rather than a heady intellectual kind of coaching or therapy it’s an embodied feeling based transformational approach, where we use video to record people’s movements in their body.

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Cinesomatics coaching therapy

Then we play that video back and I show them the subconscious patterns, hidden blocks, blind spots, archetypes, mythological patterns that define and run their life.  They get to see that for themselves on video, so I’m not just some Guru that they have to blindly believe.  This is not a belief-based process, it’s right there in front of you.  You get to see all of your shadow, your blocks your manipulations, your light.  All your wonderful qualities and your rejection of them.

The fundamental principle that this work is based off, is how you do one thing is how you do anything, it’s how you do everything.  So understanding that literally the way that you show up in your body shows, you show up in the world.  The way you move in your body is the way you move through your life.  So this video and feedback and movement feeling process really helps people break through when nothing else does.

Myrna: That sounds great, but I’m trying to figure out how do we does a video give you feedback?

Andrew: So we use very high-end Cinema equipment the kind that’s used in Hollywood movies and then we just have people move. They can dance, they can shake their hands, we have all these different movement diagnostics.  So you literally just stand there and you do the movement whether by yourself or with a  partner.

Then I give feedback and then all of their stuff comes up and then we do the whole process when you see yourself on video and you’re being told hey you’re actually being narcissistic, you’re manipulating, you think what you’re doing is making you money but in fact you’re dumping the money because you don’t feel like you deserve making that much money.  All of that gets revealed through this process.

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Cinesomatics can reveal narcissisms

Myrna: Now one of the things that you talk about is that cinesomatics  helps reveal narcissism, so take us through a movement that would help reveal narcissistic behavior.

Andrew: A narcissist basically does not love himself or herself.  A narcissist is in love with their image.  So imagine the myth of narcissist in the seeing himself reflected in the pond that’s not himself that’s a reflection that’s an image and so narcissists are focused on their what’s called narcissistic image.  For us normal kind of people,  it’s our mask, it’s the persona, it’s the going out and showing up in the world and putting on a face that we think the world wants us to have in order to be lovable, successful whatever.

So that’s the one element of narcissism, where if you understand it’s not actually loving themselves, it’s in love with an image and then everyone around them gets objectified as supply to reinforce and build that image of themselves.

There’s a whole chapter in my book to help people identify the narcissists in their life, but it’s usually to identify the narcissistic patterns in ourselves, like how are we unknowingly unwittingly being narcissistic. Does it mean you have narcissists as a personality disorder?

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Book: Awaken to Your True Self

Myrna: That’s amazing all right so let’s talk about your book,  we’ve talked about the, victim mentality, and we’ve talked about the narcissist.  Can tell us why you wrote it?

Andrew:   I wrote this book for these reasons and specifically because I had spent 15 years of my life doing oh my God hours of EFT, NLP, hypnotherapy,  regular therapy, alternative medicine, holistic health.  I’ve done psychedelic plant medicines, I mean everything besides pharmaceutical drugs. I’ve pretty much done it, tried it.  I was willing to do whatever it took and some of it helped a lot,  but nothing really broke me through and so it was this embodiment piece this feeling piece, this video feedback piece that worked when nothing else did.

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book Awaken to your true self

I wrote this book because there was nothing else like it out there. Here are some of the other chapters:

  • The first one is about our stories that bind us to the past the things we just keep telling ourselves about why things just don’t work
  • The next one is about vulnerability and change people want to create change at Behavioral or attitude or mindset levels.  What I teach it’s not about becoming something you’re not, it’s about subtracting all of the things that you’re not, to get you closer to who you really are.
  • All of the beliefs we’ve picked up, all the traumas, all of the limiting beliefs, all of the stories about how we are and how people should treat us.
  • The next one’s called an equation for suffering.  So this one’s more like, it’s like a math equation where I  go over how we actually stay suffering.
  • The next chapter is all about narcissism and our image
  • The next one’s called the spiritual path is failing. Which is really interesting because it’s a very spiritual book, but there’s something about trying to ascend  our Humanity that doesn’t work.  This is kind of a foundation of cinematics it’s in our literal flesh.
  • The victim trap which talks about victimhood avoidance.  How we avoid the very things that would move us forward
  • The last one of part one is stop fixing and start living.

 

Conclusion

Pick up a copy of Andrew’s book on Amazon or on his website andrewdaniel.org and Youtube channel

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Healing Trauma Through The Power of Self-Empathy

Krystal Boothe Healing trauma with self-empathy

Krystal Boothe author of Deep Inner Soul – Healing with self empathy shares tips from her book on how to heal childhood trauma. In the depths of trauma’s impact, the journey to healing often begins with, self-empathy. Krystal’s book delves into the profound role, self-empathy, plays in the healing process, guiding individuals towards transformative recovery.  Krystal introduces concepts from her book that unravels the layers of trauma, while providing practical tools and exercises for self-nurturing and healing.

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Introduction

Krystal Boothe is a licensed clinical social worker and owner of Wings of The Future. Krystal  grew up in Detroit Michigan from an underprivileged family in an abusive home. Her father had two wives (didn’t know that was legal in America) the abusive environment made a major impact on her schooling she had a special education classes.

As a result, she found herself repeating the cycle of abuse and became a victim (always happens).  After leaving her abuser she married her current husband in 1999, but after 14 years of marriage they divorced only to reunite three years later.  Together they founded Wings of The Future shortly afterwards. Krystal work now focuses on the, complex trauma, in the adult population.  she works with a diverse population of adults adolescents and children with anxiety, depression, bipolar, PTSD, ADHD and a host of other diagnosis.

Myrna: Krystal I want to start off by asking you in your work as a clinical social worker what did you personally learn or discover in life that led you to this point to write books about, healing trauma?

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Childhood trauma leads to toxic relationships

Krystal: It kind of started all out when I was in Los Angeles County working for the county at a facility for teenagers who are involved in the legal system.  I noticed that all of the clients they would give me, all of them had childhood trauma.  During the Discovery process and assessments all of them had trauma.

I just started to see the repeating underlining causes of why they were incarcerated and why they were having problems in school. Including learning, focused concentration, memory problems, and the  inability to have healthy relationships resulting in a  lot of toxic relationships.  That discovery led me on this path as well as my own struggles with focused concentration and memory.

I was not able to do well in school myself and so I started to connect the dots and that’s when I started to realize that trauma was the underlying cause of these problems.  It wasn’t just Mental Health, it’s been proven. Science shows that whenever you see someone with trauma, the psychologist can go back and pinpoint a certain point in your childhood, not even maybe as a teenager it started.

Trauma can starts very early and it impacts the way you see the world and how you see yourself.

Myrna: I’ve had several people on the show that confirmed this. And you are correct a lot of times those behaviors or those traumas, leads to incarceration and problems with the justice system.

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Key elements to healing trauma: Self-empathy

Myrna: Can you describe the process of, healing trauma, and what are some key elements for people to learn how to heal from trauma?

Krystal: One of the key elements that I  mentioned in the book, is the inability to be vulnerable and authentic with yourself. A lot of times trauma brings a lot of shame and so people typically will not want to open up anymore. They’ll shut down and that’s just one of the byproducts of trauma, and so the ability to be vulnerable and honest with others and themselves.

Deep Inner Soul Healing with self-empathy addresses how to  get back to that place before you were damaged.  The book teaches you how to do that through the, empathy exercises.

Myrna:  I know you’ve got personal experience  from being a child in an abusive home, then you were able to start your career and see it in others.  What inspired you to write this book and what message do you hope readers will take away from the book?

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Deep Inner Soul Healing with self-empathy

Krystal: What I realized is that the key component to help trigger the brain to get back to that place of vulnerability and authenticity honesty was that the person was waiting to be cared for.  They were  waiting for someone to say something kind to them,  someone to validate them.  That led me on a scientific Journey with my clients up creating these empathy exercises.

Before I even wrote the book,  I decided to just go through these, empathy exercises, with the client pinpointing the specific traumas and see what happened to the brain,  and what happened to the heart.  These exercises allowed my clients to hear for themselves what they were expecting other people to tell them.

As they began to receive what they needed to heal, it was almost like an antidote, they started to let naturally.  Let go of the pain that was causing them to be unable to forgive or being unable to let something go or be unable to move forward and think of anything else other than what had happened to them.

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Healing with self-empathy allows us to move forward

Trauma has devastating  effects on the brain and on the body and in so many other areas. God gave me the word, I heard it in my spirit, empathy exercises, and I thought to myself, empathy exercises, okay.  I know what an exercise is it’s something that you do over and over again and I know what empathy is but then I said he’s meaning, self-empathy.

So then I started to say, self-empathy,  what does it look like, what would it sound like, what would it feel like?   I started writing out some things that were empathy because I have a very high emotional intelligence so I was able to discern what people needed to hear.   I’m going to trigger the same emotional reaction in their physiological body and in their brain and thereby get them where they want to go.

Myrna: Are these exercises affirmations? A lot of times affirmations don’t work because your brain is saying oh that’s bull crap.  Give me an example of a of a, self-empathy exercise, that someone will do and that their brain will believe it.

Krystal:  I teach people how to reconnect in their body and in their hearts and when they go into their heart that’s where this work takes place this work does not take place in the brain.  It affects the brain, it helps rewire the brain, it helps the brain to let things go; but everything that they do they is from the heart not the brain.

Self empathy reconnects with the heart and body

I teach them to how to reconnect with their bodies and a lot of times people do not want to reconnect with their bodies because that’s exactly where the pain is. So I teach them how to slowly but surely isolate various incidents that have happened to them.  We go through and unpack all that stuff, get it clear what we’re going in for and then we go into the heart, we don’t go into the brain. The brain only believes with the heart.

Once you  shift over into to true empathy for yourself, you realize that oh someone cares for me. That someone is you.

Myrna: That’s actually pretty good work. What do you want people to walk away with after reading your book?

Krystal: One of the biggest message I want people to walk away with is that I  can heal.  People lose hope because they have tried everything,  they’ve done everything.   I want to reinstall in people that there’s hope, that they can actually heal.  Because once a person hope is activated, they are willing to do the work.

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Book: Deep Inner Soul Healing with Self-Empathy
Conclusion

Myrna: so how can someone pick up a copy of your book and also get a hold of you for therapy? Your company is called Wings of the future.

I am on social media I’m on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/wingsofthefuturepp/.  I’m going to be starting a little small group where I’m going to be allowing people to kind of meet with the author of the book where they’re going to get actually meet with me.  I’m going to go through the book with people and it’s just going to be for a very small nominal monthly fee.  They’re going to be able to meet with me if they can’t go to therapy, because not everybody has money for therapy.

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